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[quotemadness]

“I am going to make everything around me beautiful - that will be my life.”

— Elsie de Wolf

[cnnxt]

"When we speak of the self from the perspective of Western psychology, we are most often taken with the beauty of inflection, with the self's whistle as it appears. But when we look at the self from the perspective of the Buddhist psychologies, we emphasize the beauty of the self's innuendo, of the space around the self.

So perhaps my juggling breakthrough was the equivalent of hearing the blackbird's whistle "just after". I did not need to leave my ego behind, merely to see around its edges. My shoulder tension and my reliance on my thinking mind were symptoms of a defensive reliance on only one aspect of my nature: a holding on to the self "as it appears". While I was juggling, as sometimes happens in meditation, my perspective had been broadened. I had permitted a loosening that was neither transcendent nor regressive but that had allowed me to see in three dimensions instead of in two. I had glimpsed my ego's inherent unreality, or rather, I had permitted myself to smply be, without worrying about keeping myself together." - Going to Pieces without Falling Apart, Mark Epstein

[hara-kiri]

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

“The mere act of searching is proof that I refuse to get lost in my loss.”

— Mahmoud Darwish, tr. by Ibrahim Muhawi, from “Journal of an Ordinary Grief,”

[lasmaracuyas]

Language of Appeasement by Dr. Dafina-Lazarus Stewart

[cnnxt]

hello

[exai]

[frankocean]

[petalya]

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

[cnnxt]

OoooOoooOoo

[luxuriousvulgarity]

Lemonade was not made for me, either. As a Singaporean Chinese woman, I would be lying if I said I was familiar with the complex, myriad ways Beyoncé explores black female personhood, sexuality, and spirituality in the film. But as a non-American, non-white woman, what I am familiar with is appreciating art that is not and will never be made with me in mind. This is a process that white people are now struggling with more publicly than ever. It seems to me that much of the pain in this process comes from entitlement, which often stems from ignorance. I wonder: Do white people in the Western world understand just how much of global popular culture is tailored to their tastes and their histories? Do white people in the Western world know that, for non-white people who wish to participate in and discuss global popular culture, being well-versed in white cultural and musical history is almost compulsory? Do white people in the Western world know how laughable it is that they feel excluded just because a popular work of art dares to be less culturally legible to them?

Beyoncé’s Lemonade: A Lesson on Appreciating Art That Wasn’t Made for You | Consequence of Sound (via luxuriousvulgarity)

[urparty]

This isnt a hot take but feminism which centers around periods/vaginas/boobs as Things Which Unite All Women is an untrustworthy brand of feminism

[hollow-anchors]

[kushandwizdom]

Every level in your life will require a different version of you.

- Meggan Roxanne

[lafemmenuit]

I’m tired of girls trying to invalidate their own feelings during times of pain, especially to their friends. Your break up meant something. That friendship you lost was a hard blow. I understand why you feel tired this semester. Sometimes this “modern woman” stereotype is patriarchy’s last attempt; patriarchy disguised as feminism. You don’t have to be “wise beyond your years”; your pain and crying does not mean you are not intelligent. If you feel your friends demand justification for your pain and ordeals, they’re not friends. You’re strong but human. Remind yourself emotional space is part of liberation.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.

Maya Angelou (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[universalequalityisinevitable]

[universalequalityisinevitable]

Peter Joseph on structural violence, from this video.

[ebonykalokoh]

Brilliant

[unapologeticexistence]

Spot on. Like Coretta Scott King said, I must remind you that starving a child is violence. Neglecting school children is violence. Punishing a mother and her family is violence. Discrimination against a working man is violence. Ghetto housing is violence. Ignoring medical need is violence. Contempt for poverty is violence.

[ethiopienne]

Not queer like gay. Queer like, escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like…and pursue it.

Brandon Wint  (via finalrepose)