just me realising I have been aroace all along

23 ∣∣ EN - they/them ∣∣ AAA battery ∣∣ not sure whether I'm too old or too young to understand how tumblr works

[st-ivangeline-deactivated202501]

it gets really tiring to not have people around you that understand aromantic terminology or aromantic concepts, i just want to have a conversation with my friends without having to pause and teach them

[totallynottamaki-deactivated202]

Aroace culture is realizing that crushes aren’t just thinking a person looks cool and wanting to hang out w/ them

[i-pretendtobe-human]

not me thinking I was bi because women are so fricking pretty and some men (harry styles) are also pretty. i was just very aro hehe

[super-ace]

I feel like figuring out if you’re asexual or aromantic or any combination in between is so difficult because how do you know you don’t feel attraction. You know when you do because BOOM there it is. I also feel like you’re just always in a constant state of questioning & over-analysing. So if I’m staring at you I’m probably thinking ‘I’m still ace right? Yep still ace’

[thingsidonethunked]

The aromantic childhood experience of choosing someone to have crush on because everyone around you has a crush and you think it's just something you need to do like a task so you choose a person sometimes at random and sometimes just because they're nice to you and not realising this is not how crushes work.

[aroacechillzone]

allos: have you ever fallen in love?

aros: bruh i cant even fall asleep

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

support group for aspec people who use the excuse "i'm too busy" to explain why they're not in a relationship

[scarlicbread27]

every friend of mine must repeat and memorise the lines of the wise rooney bach

“Georgia, I am never going to stop being your friend. And I don’t mean that in the boring average meaning of ‘friend’ where we stop talking regularly when we’re twenty-five because we’ve both met nice young men and gone off to have babies, and only get to meet up twice a year. I mean I’m going to pester you to buy a house next door to me when we’re forty-five and have finally saved up enough for our deposits. I mean I’m going to be crashing round yours every night for dinner because you know I can’t fucking cook to save my life, and if I’ve got kids and a spouse, they’ll probably come round with me, because otherwise they’ll be living on chicken nuggets and chips. I mean I’m going to be the one bringing you soup when you text me that you’re sick and can’t get out of bed and ferrying you to the doctor’s even when you don’t want to go because you feel guilty about using the NHS when you just have a stomach bug. I mean we’re gonna knock down the fence between our gardens so we have one big garden, and we can both get a dog and take turns looking after it. I mean I’m going to be here, annoying you, until we’re old ladies, sitting in the same care home, talking about putting on a Shakespeare because we’re all old and bored as shit.”

[aroaceconfessions]

It’s kind of silly but every time i see LGBTQ instead of LGBTQIA+ i get a lil sad. Like i know we are included and it’s longer etc but seeing the lil A makes me feel seen and happy

[aroxis]

I see all these jokes about gay people searching and doing the "are you gay" quiz online and how much this experience is shared. I think my equivalent to this as an aromantic person was searching "how does it feel being romantically attracted to someone" constantly. And still, I didn't question myself at all. I thought searching something like this was a common experience. But I guess not.

[aroace-menace]

I find it so strange when allos are horrified at the concept of being alone forever. I don’t think anyone can be a healthy, fully-functioning adult if their happiness depends entirely on another person. Learning to enjoy time spent alone is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health because, whether or not you’re in a romantic relationship, you will spend a lot of time alone in your life. If you can’t be happy alone, it’s going to be very hard to be happy at all.

[valtzwrites-deactivated20241011]

shoutout to all the aro people that confused "I want to get to know you better, you're so fascinating and I want to be around you a lot" with actual romantic feelings and just now realizing that you only wanted to have a really close friendship with that person.

yes, this happened to me.

[mathematical-cheese]

Not aro as in "I'm still normal because I love my friends" but aro as in "I'm going to burn down the relationship hierarchy and the idea that 'love' or experiening any form of attraction is what makes us human". Aro as in "fuck you, I'm queer"

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

aro as in “fuck you and fuck relationships and fuck amatonormativity” and not aro as in “i’m alone forever being aro is so sad”

[scribefindegil]

Types of brain fog:

Brain is primordial sludge & you are drowning in it

U are a ghost and nothing is real

Mental equivalent of attempting to stream some high-res video game when all you have is dial-up

The thing you want to articulate is *right there* but you're just scrabbling at it like a cat continually failing to catch the bird on the other side of the window

The Void

[holyunholy]

the human brain literally needs the color green (grass, leafs) to like self-calibrate and not go insane i sincerely believe this

[romance-evil-aro]

a heart is something that can be so full of aromanticism