Only you know you

But I want to help. I'm a 21 year old Trans male who still struggles with gender confusion. I wanted to make a safe place for other Trans people to talk about their struggles to understand who they are and what they want.

[freakoutgirl]

*feels my body get anxious for no reason* what is it boy, what do you see?

[junkmixart]

Cleopatra and Leo(1) <3 two besties just watching poisons being tested on condemned prisoners X _ X

Always wanted to redraw this painting by Alexandre Cabanel.

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[neulinu]

plant u  u

[transed-deactivated20210424]

i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)

[fruitycherry-deactivated2020102]

TRANSCRIPT:

*rips tape*

“How to tuck for trans Male to Female, or if you’re just really curious.

First, take that fancy-dancy duct tape, that electrical tape, that athletic tape and... 

*throws it into a bin with an audible thud*

throw that shit in the trash!

It kinda works, but for the most part it frickin’ hurts, you gotta shave all the time and it’s really bad for your skin.

Instead, go to Walmart, get yourself a pair of high-waisted tights, and a pair of dr scholl's travel compression socks.

*tears packet for high-waisted tights*

Cut the waistband out of your tights, like so.

*tears sock pack with teeth*

You’re gonna take your socks, and cut to right about... here. Then you get this cool little cuff.

Feed waistband into said cuff.

Step into each loop of the cuff. Your thingy should lay nicely in the cuff. Pull up, put on a pair of cute panties and some shorts, and it’s like you never even had a penis!

[transed-deactivated20210424]

thank you so much for a transcript it completely slipped my mind :]

[crowtoed]

#DO get some soft socks tho if ur sensitive#and like u know#watch for ingredience#i have a friend who straight up got hives cuz she's a dummy and#she forgot that she was allergic to polyester @beetlemancy​ , your tags were so informative and they might save a life or a thigh.

[the-expired-bottle-of-1776-wine]

Saving for personal reasons

[freddiebeg]

Just to add to this, if you’re fat like me, this is not gunna work the same way as it does for skinny bitches. Like technically it would function to facilitate a tuck but the geometry of my own dump truck and possibly yours will make it so that the waist band component cuts into your sidebutt in an uncomfortable and possibly inconspicuous way (not that anyone would guess it’s a homemade gaff). My recommendation is to buy some underwear or compression shorts that are just slightly too small and then wear whatever over the top. You’ll have to purchase new stuff maybe a little more often then you typically would replace underwear because they’ll stretch out and not work as well. But hell if anyone who is also fat has found a method that refutes what I’ve said I think folks would be happy to hear about it

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[liberaljane]

Trans kids deserve access to gender affirming healthcare.

‘Art by Liberal Jane

[belalugosishreds]

[genderqueerpositivity]

(Image description: a white, blue, and pink background with black text that says "Transgender Day of Visibility" in the center and smaller text above that says "March 31st, 2021" and below that says "Celebrating transgender visibility and community".)

[raccooninapartyhat]

enough of telling cis people our genders are just as real as theirs

[raccooninapartyhat]

@cis people your genders are just as fake as ours. if our genders aren’t real then yours aren’t either

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

do cis people not realize that trans people will often go through a period, before we come out to ourselves, where we lean into presenting as our assigned gender? is that not something cis people realize?

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

like we might try to perform as the gender we were assigned by using makeup/facial hair/gendered clothing or whatever to affirm that yes we are very much cisgender like we are expected to be, thank you very much. we might lean into gender stereotypes to convince ourselves & other people that we aren’t trans. and sometimes we present this way for years before transitioning. 

some of us use it to quiet our internal doubts about our identities. some of us use it to feel safe, to fit in, whatever. and some of us are very successful at passing as our assigned gender. and it still always sucks, bc being closeted is an innately terrible experience, no matter how “good” we are at the performance. 

which is why “i never would guessed” and “you don’t seem trans” are, in fact, shitty ways to react when someone tells you they’re thinking about transitioning. 

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

Trans Experiences™

[aaliyahbreaux]

The difference between my summer skin tone and my winter skin tone makes me hesitant to believe any skin bleaching rumors about celebrities tbh

[superbassic-deactivated20140518]

You look better light skinned tbh

[aaliyahbreaux]

Ya know at first I was just gonna reply with a clever retort along the lines of “you would sound a lot smarter with your mouth closed”, and call it a day. But tbh I’m not mad at you for saying that, I pity you. You’re just another black woman thats been brainwashed by the media into having that “lightskin is the rightskin” mentality. Hopefully one day you’ll open your eyes and realize that beauty isn’t just Beyonce and Rihanna but also Naomi Campbell, Gabrielle Union and Lupita Nyong’o.😊😌

[brashgirl1996]

^^^^^

[ssstop-it-sunflowa]

^^^^^

[hypnotic-flow]

^^^^^^ and Kelly Rowland

[pompomspazz]

Idc he looks hella cute both light and tanned. I’d date him if he was cool w it.

[aaliyahbreaux]

Well he’s actually a she now so

[purronronner]

and she’s gorgeous

[thatll-do]

*insert heart eyes emoji*

[cannot-create-username]

She’s so pretty

[aaliyahbreaux]

I saw this moving in my notes again and thought wow this post is where majority of my followers came from, I should update it.

[o-h-1]

eXCUSE ME SHE’S BEAUTIFUL???????????????

[keeperchronicles]

Yes, she is!!!!! And in both skintones!!!!!

[psybuggy]

TRANS RIGHTS PLOT TWIST

[clericofthebalance]

So beautiful…..

[aaliyahbreaux]

Aaliyah Transition Fund organized by Desmond Smith

Just trying to get enough money to get the big snip… Desmond Smith needs your support for Aaliyah Transition Fund

ima go ahead and leave this here for you friendly philanthropist types❣️

[iamsomewhere-iguess]

She started the go fund me in 2018 but she isn’t even at 1/3 soooo yeah. Also she is gorgeous!

[silentlycrazy]

Please help this beautiful woman if you are able

[confusedtransconfessions]

(Previous anon) honestly your (without lack of a better term) a god-send and you really assured me. I feel like you really take the people seeking your advice seriously and are really knowledgeable about the trans experience. Honestly I appreciate you so much thank you man. Much love. ♥️ stay strong in everything, with the tiny interaction I’ve had with you I just feel like you’re truly a caring and tough-skinned person. I hope you find success in everything you do.

Thank you so much for your kind words!

This is a tough road we walk, anon, we have to be there for each other. Someday down the road someone with similar issues may come to you, be there for them. But, again, you can only help others after you've helped yourself so stay strong, stay true to yourself, and above all take care of yourself. If you ever need to talk I'll be here <3

[confusedtransconfessions]

(2/2) I was happy and admittedly still attractive when I was out but what will I do for the rest of my life? Will I be the girl who struggled but shoved it down or the boy who embraced who he was? The rest of my family wouldn’t accept it. Sometimes I think the life I know I was meant to live is just ‘unrealistic’. Things are hard and I fear my fate will always be living through trans men and honestly, maybe that’s just how it’ll be. Maybe I just have to deal with that.

You were happy living as a man, why stop? It doesn't matter if people want to date you it's about being happy. It's not about pleasing your family, please yourself. The only person you're going to live with forever is yourself. Take care of that person first.

If you're having doubts picture your ideal life, in your ideal home with ideal family, who are you? A boy? A girl? Both? Neither? Which one makes you happiest?

Remember, coming out is on your terms and no one needs to know of you're trans besides you. If you feel safer staying in the closet there is no shame in that and it doesn't make you any less trans.

[felixves-deactivated20151116]

I do this thing where if i have to go to a family event where I will be expected to be a girl I pretend I am a SPY and I am IN DISGUISE AS A TEEN GIRL and my mission is to EXTRACT INFORMATION FROM MY GRANDPARENTS without giving away my real identity. works every time.

your dress and makeup is now a DISGUISE

your ‘birth name’ is now an ALIAS

getting told by your parents to be nice and not yell at anyone being racist is MISSION BRIEFING

your entire extended family are now FOREIGN DIGNITARIES and you gotta make it thru the evening without being discovered as a RADICAL SPY

carrying a small water pistol and one of those fake-lipstick pens in your purse helps to get in the zone. the best part of being a spy is the nifty gadgets everyone knows that.

BONUS if you have to bring a friend of another gender with you to pretend to be your boyfriend. you are both PARTNER SPIES and one of you has to be the cranky but soft-hearted veteran and the other has to be the endearingly-assholeish rookie. 

[softcore-revolutionary]

Seems like actually a great way to deal with dysphoria

[autistic-answers]

Shout-out to all the spies who are faced with the world’s most difficult missions.

[untitled50247]

This is the best coping strategy I have ever seen.

[untitled50247]

Bringing this back for pride month.

[powerfulwizard]

Why do trans women always get blamed when formerly “female” products or spaces get turned to gender neutral or whatever, like radfems getting mad at trans women for some reason for the female symbol being removed from menstrural products.... trans women aren’t the ones that is supposed to be for you know...... not saying there is anything wrong with that symbol getting removed because there isnt...... like the people advocating for things advertised towards women to be gender neutral are transmasc people. trans women uh, actively want to be referred to as women. I feel like that should be obvious.

[powerfulwizard]

trans men: can we stop referring to abortion as a womens rights issue because it affects us too and it makes it difficult for us to get abortions when we need it

terfs: why did trans women do this? you cant even say women these days, all because of trans women

[achoquenaao]

[geekandmisandry]

This is incredibly true. I once even made a post that just said "pregnant people" and some Terfs couldn't stop saying that trans women were pushing their ideology on me and I was bowing down to trans women and allowing them to "take away our language" and like... I was trying to be inclusive of transmasc people so what even the actual fuck?

[cactus-spirit-deactivated202211]

I'm trying to understand trans people who don't experience gender dysphoria.

If that's you, I'd love to talk. Publicly or privately. Feel free to reply/ reblog this post or inbox me (anon is on).

I'm very interested in your perspective!

Do not reply to this thread to attack anyone, and/ or call anyone a "trender". You will be blocked immediately.

So here's where I'm coming from:

I'm a trans guy who has gender dysphoria. For a long time, I didn't realize it was something I experienced. This was due to both me repressing a lot of feelings and memories regarding gender, and not understanding what dysphoria actually is. Even after I began questioning my gender identity I thought that because I didn't hate my body or want SRS/ gender confirmation surgery that I didn't have dysphoria. I thought that because I wouldn't necessarily be suicidal if I couldn't transition, that I didn't have dysphoria. I also didn't know that social dysphoria is something that exists!

Now that I've been able to accept and process my own feelings about gender as well as have a much better understsnding of what dysphoria looks like - I realized that it's something I've felt since early childhood.

So here are my questions for non-dysphoric trans people (enby inclusive) to start off with:

1. What made you realize that you're trans?

2. If you've medically transitioned in any way, what motivated you to do so?

3. Do you experience any kind of social dysphoria (e.g. distress from misgendering), or do you consider yourself completely non-dysphoric in any context?

4. Do you think you could be comfortable and happy if you had to live the rest of your life presenting as your birth gender?

5. Above all else, what do you wish other people in the trans (or whole LGBT+) community understood about your gender identity/ presentation?

[silentlycrazy]

As a fellow dysphoric trans dude I have often wondered this stuff myself. I would love to read any answers nondysphoric peeps want to share

[blackness-by-your-side]

Meet 13-year-old transgender girl Trinity. Her family was forced to sacrifice everything for their daughter, who decided to be a girl when she was only 4 years old. 

Her mom DeShanna understood that her child’s anxiety was the result of her not accepting herself as a boy. And she realized that if she didn’t accept her child she would loose her. When Trinity transitioned, her kindergarten rejected her forcing DeShanna to quit her job and to start homeschooling her kids. This decision cost her a lot, it pushed the family into poverty and they still couldn’t climb out of it. This fall Trinity is planning to return to public school but she still has nightmares about teachers who used to call her a boy. 

Today there’s no federal ruling on the issue of transgender bathroom use so kids like Trinity continue to fight for basic civil rights. The society segregates trans people from the general population disrupting the lives of trans children and their families. 

This is so amazing that this mom does for her child, but they still need our support here. Help me raise awareness of this story. 

This is very important!

[thecringeandwincefactory-deacti]

I have a real hard time understanding why so many adults would chose these kids’ suicides over having to simply understand their struggle.

Also, this kid and her parents are clearly decent people.

[blackfully-trying]

#BlacktransKidsMatter