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Ryland Grace x Eva Stratt from Project Hail Mary

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#zero romance/sex/attraction between them on either side but he IS her dead wife

kdinjenzen

This is your pleasant and kindly reminder from your kindly older trans gal that tucking is not good and also bad for you and your body and should not be done.

Seriously. Don't tuck. It's so bad for you and your body.

kdinjenzen

I know some folks, eventually, will tag or add comments like "HELL YEAH GIRL! SLANG THAT THANG!" and yes, that's cool and fine and slang that thang etc etc...

But also, imagine I am your trans mom for a moment. I am gently grabbing your face, telling you I care about you and your body and your health, and that tucking can be very dangerous and hurt you and that I care very much if you get hurt and I do not want you to be hurt.

So please do not tuck. Don't do it. Okay? Good girl.

kdinjenzen

People are saying “wait I never heard it was bad, what!?” and asking “what can happen?”

So here’s just a small (non-comprehensive) rundown:

Testicular Torsion which can cause even more complications and health risks and requires immediate medical attention/surgery to fix. If not fixed quickly it can cause tissue death/necrosis and do even worse damage to the entire area surrounding it.

Permanent skin irritation and tearing that can lead to infection which can, again, if left untreated turn into way worse things that will quickly turn life threatening.

It can also cause inguinal hernias, which increases additional risks, and must -again- be handled with surgery. And if you’re looking to get bottom surgery down the line you -cannot- get bottom surgery until all the inguinal hernias are handled and you recover from them. AND once you get a hernia you are now predisposition to get more at an increased rate afterward even IF you’re careful from then on.

Tucking can also cause urinary tract infections, which can lead to a kidney infection if left unchecked or improperly handled. Which, even if it doesn’t lead to kidney infection, will greatly increase your risks of bladder and prostate cancer.

… and again, these are just the tip of the iceberg, there’s lots of lower risk issues and other things and depending on preexisting conditions AND even if you’re even able to see a doctor, you have no guarantee that they’ll know how to or even care to examine you properly due to their own biases.

As for the final question I got, “What about safe alternatives for those of us with major dysphoria?”, I don’t really have a good answer… the best I can say is get breathable but slightly tighter underwear or light compression shorts… but even THEN wearing those for extended periods (even just a couple hours, 4 or less) can lead to risk of heath issues or problems. There really isn’t a “good solution or alternative” that is actually fully safe-safe.

Again, please, take care of yourselves and your body.

snowwings-are-canon

Happy Pride everyone. Animorphs has always been super important to me, and after reconnecting it more this past year, I figured why not celebrate pride with my favorite totally straight and normal bird boy, Tobias. I have the PSD file saved so I can make additional down the line for flags I didn't include in the first batch, but I hope you all enjoy this silliness all the same. I hope everyone can learn to fly free as their truest selves.

Artist credit goes to Chris Grine who did the Animorphs Graphic Novel, and of course credit to K.A. Applegate and Michael Grant for the animorphs.

fforsythiaaa

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

finnglas

I dunno maybe I’m hopemaxxed or solutionpilled or something but in general I think looking at an overall neutral thing that has problems and saying “abolish it” is about the least helpful thing.

featherquillpen

What are Bolaire's alternatives?

A lot of people are talking about the horrific implications of what Bolaire does to survive, but I haven't seen anyone talk about what other choices are available to him. I wanted to bring this up because Bolaire has clearly thought about these alternatives, since he brought up to Hal before The Stab that he could choose not to put Bolaire on a new body, so long as Hal didn't leave him in the sewer to be found.

The choices that Bolaire has available to him, other than body snatching, are:

Find a way to destroy himself permanently.

Find a way to have himself sealed away in a dormant state.

Allow himself to be used as a weapon again.

Option 2 is, for Bolaire, pretty much the same as option 1, since he has no consciousness or life when he's not being worn. The main difference is that option 2 could be reversed, which would land him back in option 3, or body snatching again.

I think it's pretty clear that Option 3 for Bolaire would be a fate worse than death. The life he led before he ran off with Castep's body, if it can be called a life, was nothing more than slavery in service of mass death. And if anything, he got off lightly compared to how bad Option 3 could get for him. Can you imagine what someone like Primus Tachonis or Yanessa Halovar would do with Bolaire? It'd be a lot worse than simply being wielded by a soldier to slaughter the enemy.

So let's return to options 1 and 2, because there's a strong argument you can make that these are Bolaire's only ethical choices, and furthermore, Bolaire himself has intense body dysmorphia and doesn't actually enjoy snatching bodies, so he's surely contemplated these options.

Option 1: suicide. We don't actually know if Bolaire can be destroyed outright, and Bolaire himself may not know either. There are high level spells like Disjunction that can destroy magical items but with legendary artifacts and such, even a ninth level spell like that is not a guarantee. But let's suppose Bolaire wants to give it a try: how would he achieve this?

Well, to even have a shot at his assisted suicide actually working, he would have to recruit the assistance of a high-level sorcerer or wizard. So his options would be the Sundered Houses or the Penteveral. But these options are both very risky. Bolaire fought in the Falconer's Rebellion against the Sundered Houses, so he would distrust them, and rightly so. He would have to explain his nature to anyone who was going to help in the assisted suicide, and once they knew that, well, who knows what a Sundered Houses sorcerer might choose to do with that information? And until he became friends with Murray, which was very recent, Bolaire didn't have anyone at the Penteveral either who he could trust to definitely just aim to destroy him instead of turning him into a magical experiment or a weapon. And even now that he has Murray, she's a third-level wizard and definitely doesn't have the juice to have any chance of destroying him permanently.

Now let's consider Option 2. The benefit of option 2 is that you don't have to be a super high powered wizard or sorcerer to be able to seal Bolaire up in a box or something. The problem with option 2 is that if your Bolaire storage solution isn't absolutely airtight, someone could find him and get him back in the situation of being a slave / weapon / magical experiment. Once again, we run into this problem: who could Bolaire trust to know his secret and do a proper job of putting him away forever? Up until two days ago when Bolaire confessed his nature to the other Schemers, he had no one he could trust with that. It's notable that, as soon as he did have people he could trust to do that, he told Hal before The Stab in episode 22 that he trusted Hal to put him away somewhere safe if he didn't want to put Bolaire on the Crow Keeper. So Bolaire became open to this option as soon as it was viable. Could Bolaire end the campaign by surrendering himself up to Hal to seal him away somewhere secure forever? Very possibly.

I wanted to lay all of this out because it makes it clear that while Bolaire's choice to murder people to survive is, uhhh, troubling to say the least, his other choices have all been absolutely dogshit until about two days ago.

featherquillpen

I'm reblogging this because there are a lot of people in this fandom who believe that Bolaire has a huge wealth of great options before him and chooses murder just because it's fun, funky, and comfortable. Those three options above are the only ones he has! You could argue that there's a fourth option, which is for Bolaire to find hosts who are willing to have him drain their life force and steal their bodily autonomy until they die from the strain, but exploiting suicidal people so he can have "willing bodies" is just as morally repugnant as murdering people, if not more so.

purronronner

Could there be a variant of the fourth option where he gets passed between a whole bunch of people to split the burden? A Bolaire timeshare, if you will? A timesholaire?

purronronner

what if they played a game of Musical Bolaires

succulentul

a comic about nothing in particular. happy pride. if you are trans i love you ❣️❣️❣️

stuckinapril

when James Baldwin said I can’t be a pessimist because I’m alive

stuckinapril

when James Baldwin said to be a pessimist means that you have agreed that human life is an academic matter. So I am forced to be an optimist. I am forced to believe that we can survive whatever we must survive.

icantspellthings

Top 3 things people love insisting they don't have despite it being impossible

Pronouns

An accent

Bias

thatscarletflycatcher

theprofessional-amateur

Gloves are for jazz hands, not paper.

Signed, an Archivist 💜

conservethis

shredsandpatches

Currently driving myself nuts trying to figure out what manuscript he's looking at. I thought Federico da Montefeltro Bible (BAV MSS Urb. lat. 1-2) at first but I don't think it has that much border decoration...

thatscarletflycatcher

The Borso D'Este Bible!

blackdykegirlblogger

ik pride is all ppl think of when june hits but i also wanna say HAPPY CARIBBEAN AMERICAN HERITAGE MONTH BITCHES ‼️‼️‼️

jbk405

I'm thinking about the episode "Deathwalker" from Babylon 5, and the vote on whether or not to hold Jha'dur at B5 for a trial.

The vote is called for by the League of Non-Aligned Worlds, who view Jha'dur as a war criminal for her actions during the Dilgar War thirty years prior to the series. Many of the members of the LONAW were direct victims of the Dilgar, and even Jha'dur herself. Currently Jha'dur is in the custody of Earth Alliance forces who want to deliver her to Earth for scientific research purposes, and the LONAW wants a trial held first.

The Babylon 5 Advisory Council hears the petition of the LONAW, and holds a vote: the Earth Alliance votes "yes" to hold the trial, the Vorlons abstain (as they do for almost all votes), and the Minbari, Centauri, and Narn all vote "no". The petition is defeated.

What I find fascinating are the verbal reasons that the Minbari and Centauri give in the council room for why they're voting "no": That they have no right to judge Jha'dur since they were not victims of the Dilgar.

I find this fascinating because that's not what's being asked for now. This isn't the trial. This vote is not a ruling on her guilt or innocence. This vote is on whether or not a trial should be allowed to happen at all. And they both dodge the issue by claiming to not be in any position to judge her.

We know from other information in the episode that the real reason both governments vote 'no' is because they actually assisted the Dilgar and don't want to admit that. The Centauri engaged in trade and territorial exchanges with them during the Dilgar War, and a Minbari clan sheltered Jha'dur after the war in exchange for scientific research. Since they can't admit this publicly without exposing the secrets anyway, they make sure to have the trial quashed before it can begin.

But it's such a transparent lie when they hold the vote. Absolutely nobody believes it. The members of the LONAW actually storm out of the council room in rage and threaten to leave the organization as a whole. Military forces arrive in the area almost immediately. Jeffrey Sinclair only heads off a full-blown disaster by making a backroom deal to provide the LONAW with the results of Jha'dur's research, and promising to return her for trial after she completes her work.

Everybody knows the Centauri and Minbari are lying, and they know exactly what they're lying about, but they still lie. Because that's how The Game is played.

openmindpsych

shoutout to people who are rejected from neurodivergent communities.

medium and high support needs autistic people who often get left out of the conversation or spoken over.

people with "just" anxiety and/or depression who are treated as if their problems are lesser.

people with OCD who have intrusive thoughts about really taboo subjects (yes, even that one). people with OCD who don't hate themselves for every intrusive thought, or who have learned to be okay with their thoughts. people with OCD who genuinely worry they might be xyz type of bad person (yes, even that type). people with OCD who don't know if they violate people's DNIs because of their intrusive thoughts.

people with psychosis or any schizophrenia spectrum disorder. people who are left out of the conversation, stigmatized, shunned away as too scary to talk about or include. people whose conditions are frequently misunderstood and demonized.

people with DID, OSDD, or any other complex dissociative disorder. people whose mental illness is glamorized and idealized and misunderstood. people whose condition is deemed fake or performative, made up for attention. people whose condition is heavily debated even among the scientific community.

people with cluster B personality disorders who are treated as evil. people whose conditions are often the "exception" to others' neurodivergent positivity posts. people who can't google their condition without seeing posts about abusers, toxic people, people labeled as evil or crazy or attention seeking or manipulative, and any other demonizing language.

people with non-cluster B personality disorders who are often forgotten and left out of the conversation. people whose conditions are widely unknown or underdiscussed. people who struggle to find a community for their experiences.

anybody who is "a stereotype." people who actually do look like the image that everyone in their community tries to insist is just a stereotype. people who are not responsible for the ableism their community faces and are tired of being treated like they are.

anybody who has done things they regret because of their mental illness. people who were abusive, who were harmful, who were toxic. people who developed addictions, made mistakes, ruined their lives. people who want to do better and wish they could be treated with compassion as they try.

anybody who was wronged by the system. people who were given a stigmatizing label that marks them for the rest of their life. people who are shamed out of communities, rejected or fired from jobs, turned away from even mental health professionals who are supposed to be helpful.

anybody who is "too disabled". people whose experiences are left out of conversations where more abled people are trying to frantically prove their validity to neurotypicals. people who can't do things, people who need help, people who will never be independent.

anybody who is left out for who they are. BIPOC, physically disabled people, intersex people, religious people, and more. people who are excluded from mainstream conversations, and whose discussions about intersectionality are ignored or talked over. people who struggle to find others who are like them.

and so many more.

neurodivergence is supposed to be a welcoming community for everybody. and we have a long way to go before that will be the case. but we're working towards it, one step at a time.

theresidenteccentric-deactivate

Obligatory reblog as someone who has never felt welcomed by the neurodivergent community

seymour-butz-stuff

Time to feed unprofessional managers what they’ve been dishing out for far too long.

beaniebaneenie

Couple things here, for when you do this to people:

1. if you get the “answer my call” text, NEVER ANSWER THE CALL.

They are calling you because they want to have the conversation verbally, and be able to lie later about what they said or didn’t say. Force them to continue via text or email- force them to continue the conversation in writing or not at all.

2. “Lack of 2 weeks notice is unprofessional!” or the other version, “Not providing notice is illegal!”

No it isn’t. Neither is true.

And in the US, all states except Montana are “at will” employment (though you may hear an employer refer to it as “right to work” to make it sound better, it’s the same thing). Sure, at-will employment means they can fire you without cause, BUT! It also means that you are not legally required to give a reason for quitting, or to give notice of any kind.

Is it polite to give notice when you can? Sure. Do bosses expect it? Absolutely. But that does not make you legally required to provide it.

3. The only thing I would change in the worker’s interaction here was their response when initially asked to come in.

Employee: “Hey Mark. Sorry I’m unable to cover the shift tonight because I’m studying for my exam tomorrow.”

Don’t give a reason for your lack of availability. It may be tempting to. You may feel rude if you don’t.

DON’T DO IT.

You do not owe your boss any information about what you do off the clock, and any reason you give will only ever be used against you.

Boss: “Hey I need you to cover Jasper’s shift tonight.”

Employee: “Sorry, I’m not available.”

And leave it at that.

Do not elaborate.

Do not offer additional information.

When you boss asks you to elaborate, because they will, be polite but firm. “With respect, that’s personal. I’m sorry, but I’m unavailable to cover this shift/work late/come in early/etc.”

Be a broken record- you’re unavailable. That’s the only information they need to know, and it’s the only information they have a LEGAL RIGHT to know.

Please stop giving your bosses information they don’t need to know and don’t get to have, because they’re only going to try and use it to fuck you over later.