Anytime someone talks to me about catfishing in trans spaces, about "men pretending to be trans fems" or "women pretending to be trans mascs" it just kinda washes over me.
Like they can pretend if they want, I actually think pretend and play is an integral part of finding your own identity.
Radical acceptance and radical love means I treat the "catfisher" the same as I treat a trans person who doesn't want medical transition. I accept their identity as they present it to me.
It's on them how that makes them feel about themselves.
I feel like a lot of people bringing this up to me just don't like trans people.
They treat being trans as the magical ethereal quality that is ever present and definite.
When being trans is just, like, a thing? It's messy and changing and some people are it because they felt this their whole lives and some people are it because they discovered it in puberty and some people are it because of kink/porn and some people are it because of some stupid meme on reddit/4chan.
Like, I just think of the shen comix about the wolf in sheeps clothing, like maybe the intentions weren't pure, but the feeling of welcome and acceptance kinda break through that.
I dunno I guess I'm saying it doesn't matter if you're faking it. I'll accept and love you anyway, and I feel like a lot of trans people (especially with like bpd, ocd and stuff) need to know that.
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