i had no childhood

trauma/mental illness side blog

[romcommunist]

using “dissociate” when actually meaning “spaced out for a bit” walked so using “gaslighting” when actually meaning “lying” could run

[anxietyproblem]

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

Also instead of “problem behaviour” call it “distressed behaviour” for a more accurate picture of what the person is actually facing

[dreadfaeriejack]

I can’t reblog this enough, I will do it every damn time I see it from now to death.

[themostineptthateverstepped]

When someone frames your mental health issues as attention seeking behavior, problem behavior, or any other negatively-coded context, it creates an environment that makes you feel guilty, wrong, and selfish for struggling with things outside of your control. As a result, serious issues are allowed to arise in the absence of support.

[pathologising]

actually you will not enjoy hearing this but you literally have to abandon your self deprecating humor. besides the fact that it can drive people away you literally are only hurting yourself by constantly making jokes that further cement the idea in your head that you are not good enough. I do not care that you think its a good coping mechanism it is absolutely not and you need to start challenging negative thoughts instead of feeding into them.

[totallyfubar]

get okay with being some level of burden on others, seriously

[totallyfubar]

you know what’s a real burden? a person that is so scared of leaning on other people that they try to be completely self sufficient and you end up either having to help them indirectly to save their ego or they have to break down in order to receive help, both of which are so much more heavy to the person that loves them than just being leaned on casually

[lloras-deactivated20210107]

a tiktoker therapist reminded me that “if you do not address the childhood trauma, your relationships will. your fear of your partner not loving you and needing that constant reassurance can come from emotionally inconsistent parents who were there for you one day and not there for you the next.”

[lloras-deactivated20210107]

“your fear of things going wrong in a relationship so you run away before it gets stressful can come from emotionally unavailable parents who never validated you so you never learned how to regulate emotions.

your fear of being in a relationship at all because you think you’re better off alone can come from you learning at a young age that you can’t trust anybody. not even your parents so you developed independence as coping strategy.” - @/evolvedandbloom on tiktok

[sawasawako-archived]

[text ID: a tweet by @rhododaktulos that reads, ““my child is completely fine” your child’s favourite trope is found family”]

[aseaofquotes]

Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

Submitted by winterswanderlust.

[thexfiles]

Being a daughter is like *apologizes to your mother even though she's never apologized to you*

[fightingthosedemons-deactivated]

[anxietyproblem]

[raintome]

[witch-of-the-wild-xxx]

!!!!!!!!!!!

[spotlessmy-deactivated20210523]

this was a great read. “Laziness Does Not Exist” by Devon Price

[lovecoralei]

Hot take, but if you see your baby struggle through five hours of homework and then you get pissy because they drag their feet about doing chores? You need to reevaluate.

[lovecoralei]

Like I’m not saying kids shouldn’t be taught responsibility and shown how to keep their house clean. I’m just saying maybe children get tired and frustrated too. Like. Your teenager doesn’t have an “attitude”. She’s just had 7 hours of school and then came home to do 5 more hours. Then, her parents implied she was lazy because she hadn’t gotten around to doing the laundry. I’d snap at you too.

[furiousgoldfish]

I wish instead of yelling “You have to get out of abusive situations!!!” people said “We all owe to help you out in situations like this, you are a part of society and we’re all responsible for making sure you’re protected, it’s devastating you’ve been thru this all on your own and burden of dealing with it all alone will no longer be on your shoulders.”

[yo-its-matt]

what is it about me sitting in my little corner of the Internet and saying “I actually don’t hate myself as an adult now and I want to be nice to people and that’s my entire thing” that makes these anons start foaming at the mouth

[yo-its-matt]

I’ll be perfectly honest, I’ve spent the better part of a decade wishing I weren’t fucking alive and beating depression off with a caveman’s wooden club. If I get to a point in my adult life after all that shit where I can finally say “I don’t want to see myself dead anymore, I like who I am” and you have the gall to tell me I have too much self confidence now, I’m gonna take the club I killed my depression with and I’m gonna start beating you with it

[yo-its-matt]

Basically,

[dbtmemes]

[incendavery]

commission for @wolfpaque

[furiousgoldfish]

Abusive parents love to pretend that whatever is going on at home is not “real life”, and you, would have no chance of surviving in “real life”. In fact, you know nothing about “real life” at all, you are an dumb, uninformed slob of ignorance and know nothing about living at all. According to them, you have been living in some kind of “bubble” where no real life events have been happening, and all of your experiences and opinions have nothing to do with reality. They even have the nerve to tell you to “start living in the real life.”

You have been living nothing but real life. You had a real life experience of surviving in abusive environment. You have lived a reality of existing next to an abuser. There is nothing unreal or fake about your experiences, your abusive home is no bubble, it’s a real, definite hell that you went thru. There’s no question of you surviving in real life, you literally were surviving the worst of it already. You proved you are capable of surviving the worst of the worst, being in presence of a predator who was capable of brainwashing and manipulating you to keep you scared and unbelieving in your own senses and experiences. 

Every single thing you lived thru was real life. You took on real life from the second you were born. Your circumstances were hard and cruel, you got all advantages taken away from you, replaced with sabotage and hatred, and you’re still alive now. There isn’t a harsher reality than what you already went thru. Your experiences count in the real world. What happened to you affects the real world. Your parents have done nothing but lie to you. You were living in the real world entire time.