wrap me in the breeze, lay me to peace in the zephyrs

chiya like the tea, 18, they

[asexual-amanita]

As summer is approaching, I’d like to remind everyone that you are not entitled to ask someone to cover up their scars, self inflicted or not. I don’t care if they’re big, I don’t care if they’re noticeable, or purple, or all over their body, or what. You can’t police people’s bodies.

[asexual-amanita]

This also goes for my friends with feeding tubes, ostomy bags, central lines and urinary catheters. People are allowed exist in bodies that stray from the expected norm.

[legionforweare-many]

btw "having an angry friend is better than a dead one" (when used as an argument on why you should force your suicidal friend into psychiatric treatment) is not only bullshit but it's an incredibly dangerous thing to say. like i cannot overstate this enough if you're suicidal & you already know you can't trust virtually anyone with that information because of the threat of being nonconsensually treated/incarcerated and you tell one of the only people you think you actually can trust. and they fucking IMMEDIATELY go and tell someone else. what do you think that feels like? you thought could trust maybe one person with some truth about you, and it turns out you could actually trust nobody and now you're facing the consequences for that!

i'm not sure how to fully articulate the feeling that at least gave me (there are so many feelings honestly. there are so so many ways having that happen to you fucks you up. this post is really only about one of them but there are so many more) but it sure as hell does not make people less suicidal. there are better ways to support your friends i promise

anyway idk where this is going thank you for coming to my ted talk. don't fucking do this ever please please i'm begging you.

[zmpl]

the notion of saving lives at all costs prevents suicidal people from speaking about their experiences in a candid way, knowing they will be decentered (e.g. “your family/friends will be devastated if you die”), subject to moral arguments (e.g. “suicide is a selfish act”), referred to someone else, often someone who has a hefty paywall behind their listening ear (e.g. “are you seeing a therapist about this?”), or incarcerated against their will. because of this, voices of suicidal people are left out from conversations about suicide, even paradoxically in campaigns encouraging suicidal people to reach out for support.

in order to break the stigma around suicidality, we have to break away from the prevention-no-matter-what script and honor suicidal people’s autonomy, allowing them to speak freely about their lived experience even in the face of personal discomfort for nonsuicidal people. in our current society, nonsuicidal people wield power/privilege over suicidal people. if your immediate reaction to hearing about a marginalized person’s pain is to shut them down in some way, you need to evaluate why you are centering your own comfort above another person who is confiding in you.

[zmpl]

okay i hope this doesnt come across as a bad faith question because im genuinely curious, and as a person who still deals with suicidal ideation, whats the problem with "preventionism"? its just not something ive ever put much thought into, or a discussion ive ever seen before. thank you!

i appreciate the question! as someone who has been chronically suicidal since childhood, i consider my suicidality to be part of my identity as a disabled/neurodivergent person. not everyone who is suicidal is disabled or considers it part of a disability, but for me that is the case.

preventionist framework views suicidality as a problem to be cured. medical models of suicidality view it as a medical emergency that requires immediate intervention (a whole other can of worms, as the “intervention” more often than not prioritizes compliance and order rather than actually helping someone suffer less). social models of suicidality view it as a gauge in which our society is succeeding or failing - if there are people in this world who want to die, surely there is something wrong with how the world operates. therefore, if we fix the problems with our society, there will no longer be people who want to die.

with both the medical and social models, the end goal is to eliminate suicidality, not honor that suicidal ideation can simply be a part of someone’s lived experience. this is problematic when we consider the long history of attempts to eliminate disability as a whole rather than accommodate and include disabled persons.

in addition, a lot of preventionist scripts on even a one-to-one conversational level aim to shut down the suicidal person instead of really listen to them. i go more in depth about this in this post, but there are a few common types of ways people respond to hearing a loved one is suicidal:

- decentering (e.g. “i / your family / your friends / etc. would be devastated if you died”)

- moral arguments (e.g. “suicide is selfish”)

- guilt trips, even if they’re unintentional (e.g. “who will take care of your pets if you die?”)

- deferring to someone perceived as more equipped (e.g. “are you seeing a therapist about this?”)

- involuntary hospitalization (e.g. calling or threatening to call 911)

a world without obligatory preventionism would allow suicidal people to be able to candidly speak about their lived experience without the fear of getting invalidated at best or placed under arrest with no due process at worst.

that’s all i will say for now to avoid making this post even longer than it already is, but i’m happy to talk more about this if you have further questions!

[carebewear]

I do often think about how the origin of “he would not fucking say that” was in reference to a post which depicted Cartman SouthPark responding politely when asked for his pronouns

[schistcity]

meme phrases are so mobile and versatile and that's really really beautiful but i'm always thinking about the first "she x on my y til i z" being "she ebbin on my neezer til i scrooge" and the first "fork found in kitchen" coming from a tweet about sehun from exo being spotted at a gay bar. like sometimes you just utterly nail it the very first time and no variation of the joke is going to be better.

[schistcity]

EXACTLY.

[schistcity]

a small collection

[iamthetruestrepairman]

women’s bodies weren’t “made” to do anything, nature didn’t “intend” anything, no human action is “unnatural” and there is no inherent “purpose” to a human life

[iamthetruestrepairman]

people weren’t designed to do anything because they weren’t designed at all. Hope this helps 🤩

[achillesinhighheels]

[capacity2]

I feel so bad for the annoying women at work. Like I actually feel sick when we’re interacting and I feel the annoyance occurring in my brain like she really doesn’t mean to be this way and she just doesn’t want to feel alone or rejected. you can tell she’s experienced being an outsider everywhere she goes it’s only a matter of time. And it’s not cool chic or edgy but in the ugliest most desperate and dehumanizing way. They always start hopeful. they want to connect and they go searching for someone receptive to her so she can find her people but everyone turns away from her slowly and u hear it in her voice. It’s happening again. she starts hesitating to speak and when she does you hear a shaky child ending every sentence like it’s a question. Testing the waters to know if she’s wrong for even trying. And then I realize I took her smile for granted now that it’s gone.. I have to make it up to her I can’t let something like this continue. Life is so hard for people everywhere, so building a tolerance for being irritated is nothing in comparison especially if the reward is less pain and loneliness in the world I will always be the bestie you have my word

[cyberbaptism]

People who flinch at this or jump to hating on OP have never been completely honest with themselves and it shows. Like, you know this person. You've met this person. The under socialized outcast who everyone thinks is kinda annoying and weird, including you. People think that acknowledging their own annoyance towards someone who's essentially harmless is the same as killing someone and being ontologically bad. Like, as long as you don't shun that person you're good. Actually, that's exactly what OP is fucking talking about. They acknowledge and see that this woman is the way she is and also express sympathy, but because there's no over the top performative moralizing everyone thinks it's mean when it's just a true assessment of the situation. Like, two things can be true at once—yes, this person is annoying and they make me cringe and yes, I'm not gonna be an asshole about it because I know that's not right. I have a sneaking suspicion that the reason everyone got so fired up about this is because they're scared that they might've been the annoying coworker in someone else's story. And guess what you probably were. Yeah. Sit with that. Did you die? Did the discomfort kill you?

[capacity2]

The hysterics was giving 2015 tumblr fr. We’ve all been that hoe nobody likes before

[pendragyn]

A Glorious 25th of May to everyone! A loving reminder on this day of Emotions;

Remember that your view of the past is skewed by nostalgia and a desire to return to youthful cluelessness. Don't fall for it.

We often don't appreciate what we have while we have it - therefor make time, because there are no guarantees about the future.

Grief can go from being constant to not quite forgotten to rolling over you in a tsunami. Give yourself grace.

Anger and spite can fuel you for a while, but you also need rest and food or you'll burn yourself out.

Hope is necessary for when anger is no longer enough.

Sometimes the only way to keep the bastards from getting you down is to be the bigger bastard.

[minahxrker]

oh my fucking god doechii

[stardust-devi]

SUDHA REDDY attends the 2026 Met Gala celebrating "Costume Art"

[redcarpetconfessions]

Sam Smith in Christian Cowan

[themakeupbrush]

Isha Ambani at the 2026 Met Gala

[fashion-runways]

Rachel Sennott attends the 2026 Met Gala celebrating "Costume Art" at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 04, 2026 in New York City. (Photo by John Shearer/WireImage) pls help me get out of debt donating to: ko-fi.com/fashionrunways or dinahlance-shop.fourthwall.com

[lilililililililililililili]

Bubbles 🫧🫧🫧

[themakeupbrush]

Emma Chamberlain at the 2026 Met Gala

[fashion-runways]

Gracie Abrams attends the 2026 Met Gala celebrating "Costume Art" at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 04, 2026 in New York City. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images) pls help me get out of debt donating to: ko-fi.com/fashionrunways or dinahlance-shop.fourthwall.com