The Queer Space Pirates Writer

Call me Arras, they/them. Yapping about my book that’s like one piece in space and poly and trans and more.

[cvarras]

Ooh we’re doing it

Hi!! I’m an author. I’m in the query trenches. I want writing community and people to yap to about my book but Instagram terrifies me. So now I’m here with my fellow freaks lol.

Call me Arras. I write about queer space pirates discovering magic, forging their own futures, and dancing on capitalism’s corpse.

My book is about a runaway with the power to erase memories who rescues a physics wizard, but when he sacrifices himself to save her from the Speculation Enclave, she has to work with her human-weapon best enemy, a captain with an impossible dream, and his partner, to save him.

This blog will have tidbits about my writing, memes about my characters, and my opinions on various media.

I’ll update this post as needed

[grimeclown]

I don't know which of you needs to hear this but "narc" is not short for "narcissist" when someone calls you a "narc" for snitching they are calling you a "narcotics officer"

[gaesnek]

[monkey-mulch]

technically narc isnt even short for narcotics officer its just cant for Cop, I believe Roma in origin

[red-mercer]

I read years ago in a book that it was derived from nakk, Romani for nose, as in someone who always has their nose in other people's business

[grimeclown]

ITS DERIVED FROM "NARCO" AS IN "NARCOTICS" WHAT FUCKING BOOK

[grimeclown]

Okay you know what pulling back on my derision because i can see how this mistake would be made but narc and nark are etymologically unrelated

[headspace-hotel]

Etymology is always doing some shit like this

[bogleech]

Convergent evolution.

[bisexual-engineer-girl]

Linguistic crab

[backofthebookshelf]

Two entire linguistic traditions have merged to remind you not to be a fuckin narc

[kosmogrl]

[asteroidtroglodyte]

[smouldered]

Hey, so this may not actually be very important, but I’ve been seeing SO many articles and posts about emotional and psychological abuse and manipulation recently, and as someone who’s experienced it REALLY extensively I wanted to point out a few things

-a person who is a master manipulator may not set off a bunch of red flags for like, the first few months, because they know how not to and they know that you may be looking for any signs that would scare you

-a person who knows how to control you emotionally will be able to convince you that the red flags you feel are just really strong emotions, and basically teach you not to trust yourself anymore

-in so doing, they open the doors to second guessing yourself, your situations and not trusting your gut

-this also paves the road to gaslighting (!!!!) because it will be easier for them to convince you that what you remember isn’t true, as your foundation of self is eroded away

-control doesn’t always look like “I DONT WANT YOU TO WEAR THIS” or “YOU CANT HANG OUT WITH THESE PEOPLE” it also looks like someone saying with a sad expression/tearfully “next time you have to discuss with me that you want to change x/y/z” or “including a therapist into your life is not going to be healthy for our relationship”

-they will tell you that you mean the world to them, because you do. They will tell you over and over and over “I’ve never had anyone this close to me before/I’ve never shared this with anyone before/you’re the only person that knows the real me” and they will also tell you “I am the ONLY person that knows the real YOU.” They may follow these things up with “if you’re going to leave me, you had better kill me” and use lots of dramatic, histrionic language; they will say to you “no one can love me like you love me” as well as “no one will love you like I love you” and this is all meant to trap you against saying “NO”

-they will tell you they are not trying to pressure you into anything while simultaneously applying pressure to every situation; if you feel like you’re being pressured, then you are being pressured

-they will pretend to want to empower you, they will say they want to teach you skills and lessons that are good for you, like setting boundaries or saying “no,” but if you try to do these things “against” them, they will turn on you immediately, tell you that you aren’t being fair

-if you are sensitive to big shows of emotion, they will use them when they feel they need; they will blubber and cry and shout and punch things around you to show you that YOU are MAKING them act that way. They will tell you later that what happened was YOUR fault ; outside of this context they will appear to be extremely level headed and tactical thinkers

-they will use people they know against you and as leverage; they will say things like “my family, my friends, etc are all deeply supportive of us, why do you need your friends/family/etc? Isn’t this good enough?” And probably follow up with “my family is disappointed with how you’re acting/you’re hurting their feelings by not doing this thing I want/not entertaining this”

-on that note, they will use people YOU know as leverage, with things like “this person would be so disappointed in you”

-they may be supportive of your seeking help! But the therapist/doctor you see MUST be approved by them. And they must go to sessions with you.

-you will not be allowed to be alone

-if you are alone they will find ways to “check up on” you; they may use other people to accomplish this

-as much as you may hate it, they may be excellent in bed; they do this on purpose. They want to be your dream. They want to be everything they can to keep you roped in. And even though they’re aiming for control, and they may not sexually abuse you, they are going to listen to you in order to find out what you like/don’t like and plan accordingly/ use this as a way to eventually use you and get what they want

This is only a list I was able to put together in one sitting, and I realize it may not be perfect and it’s DEFINITELY not comprehensive. But these are some of my experiences with this form of abuse.

[smouldered]

Also of note!

If you already suffer from mental illness, and especially if this causes memory problems, they will exploit this to the nth degree! They will constantly tell you that you don’t remember conversations/events, because honestly you don’t. You’ve no clue. And the only word you have is theirs when it comes to what happened. This is terrifying. And they know it’s terrifying.

Please, please, please.

I know how hard it is to leave an abuser or get them to leave. But as soon as you start feeling “uh oh” feelings in your tummy or unease with a situation, carefully look at WHY. Reach out to someone if you feel safe to do so. There are hotlines and numbers you can call. Talk to someone. Anyone. Do what you need to do for yourself.

[smouldered]

More things I thought of to add that may be apply to others:

-they will try to turn life into a fairy tale; a fucked up one, but one nonetheless; they may spoil you and buy you things; this is done so that when you leave they can hold anything they got for you over your head; you will hear, “how could you do this to me after I bought xyz? Dont you see how much money/time/energy I spent on you?” They will love to throw out numbers regarding money with things like “I spent several thousand dollars on you, and this is how you repay me?”

-if this person has money or power or influence already, they may try to tell you that you can’t achieve ANYTHING without them; they will tell you that they are your only hope for “getting out of this town/going to school/accomplishing this really important thing” and I fucking promise you it ISNT TRUE. You can do anything!

-when you try to stand up for yourself they will often get scared. This is good, but it can also make situations harder. They will corner you and ask you tough questions, and try to force you to empathize and sympathize with them. They will ask you “how would you feel if I did this to you?” This is especially true if they’re using money/items/people as leverage against you

-if you call them out on being controlling they will turn it around and say “this is a loving relationship, this is how I express love” and if you’ve already been abused prior to this person, they will also tell you that you don’t know what “healthy” is

-they will tell you what you do and do not feel; they will give you a script of what you should be saying if you’re saying something they don’t like

Please feel free to add your own pointers. I’m word vomiting these as I remember them.

[onelittlekingdom]

Good stuff to have in your head while you move about the community and vet your Doms. Thank you Miss Emmy. 🌹

[whisk3yteacup]

@smouldered. Thank you for sharing so much. Such a spot on post. Don’t forget that master manipulators come in all flavors, friends….not just Doms, but subs, mothers, siblings, friends…any kind of relationship. And, yes, it is sometimes hard to see at first. So, there’s never any SHAME in finding yourself in a place that isn’t healthy. Forget the shame because it’s as useless as guilt and use that energy to get yourself out of the relationship. Maybe @smouldered would disagree with me on this but I do believe it’s wisest to cut all ties and leave. Master manipulators can spot any chink in your armor and will aggressively use it to come back into your life….they’ve already done so once and there’s all the proof you need.

[smouldered]

No, I absolutely agree that going no contact is often the best and healthiest option, while being the hardest thing to do!

Especially if you’re abuser is family; there is still a pervading narrative that one should forgive and forget what you endured at the hands of a parent or family member, and I whole heartedly disagree with this logic.

Keep yourself safe and sane!

[sevserez]

Soldier, Poet, King

They’re on their way to Jade’s house btw.

[sevserez]

jade is also the one singing the song youre welcome

"there will come my bffs, o lei o lai o lord"

ps full animatic will be up on youtube/sevserez when its done

[thewuzzy]

i’m obsessed with the mum from ponyo. driving single lane on a cliff edge? drift those turns in your nissan cube. husband has to work an extra shift? tell him to fuck off in morse code. pet fish turned into a child on your driveway? adopt her. town drowned in a tsunami? leave your 5 year old in charge, he’s the man of the house now

[brainrotdotorg]

ideal woman to me and i am not kidding

[asteroidtroglodyte]

She gives the impression of someone who would survive an apocalypse without particular fuss. Mad Max road warriors? Barbarian Queen in 3 months, tops. Space Imperialism? Leader of the Rebel Alliance in 6 episodes. Zombie Apocalypse? Her leitmotif is heavy metal. Her superpower is Competence. She could walk into Mordor.

[asteroidtroglodyte]

Like you gotta understand The Japanese have a particular cultural Mythos around Fishermen And Their Wives and Miyazaki is an old-school Romantic in the sense that he mythologizes Common Folk in all of his works so when I say that the hyper-competent, Wife-of-a-deep-sea-fisherman, Miyazaki-Mom-figure could “walk into Mordor” what I mean is that she is a mountain of iron wrapped in a thin veneer of silk

From a Doylist perspective she is no less powerful than the Mother Of The Sea.

From a Watsonian perspective, she literally outruns a tidal wave, befriends a Goddess, and saves the world from supernatural devastation.

And her name is Lisa, thankyouverymuch

[iwilleatyourenglish]

there are just certain animals whose mere presence instills a deep sense of peace.

the orangutan, the manatee, the sloth, the capybara, the axolotl, the silky anteater.

these are the most evolved of us all. they can reach out and graze heaven.

[iwilleatyourenglish]

he does not yearn. he is in no rush. he can hear god in the rain.

[subcultureblues]

She does not yearn. She is in no rush. She is the god you can hear in the rain.

[triviallytrue]

[dikdikpronouncedxylophone]

[edgebug]

it means so much to me that rocky's lead puppeteer james ortiz got to voice him and got like. full billing right next to ryan gosling in the opening credits. and he's gotten to do interviews and red carpet appearances and talk about puppetry and it's all being taken so seriously just like he's any other type of actor. gonna make me cry fr. like they could have gotten some famous person to be rocky's voice to try and pull more star power but. they went with the guy who acted him. and like of course they did. like there he is. how could they do anything else. he's right there and he's perfect

[what-even-is-thiss]

Why should all citizens get a certain amount of free food from the government to supplement what they can buy on their own? That’s the sort of stupid commie thing they do in *checks notes* the ancient Roman republic.

[thyfleshc0nsumed]

No you don't get it, I'm a Good Person. You don't understand. I'm a Good Person which makes it okay for me to think violently about the Enemy, who is Bad Person. I'm commenting "you should be violently murdered" because I'm Good Person and you're Bad Person. You think saying that to someone is fucked up?? You should be violently murdered, you're probably Bad Person anyway

[lizzienoodles]

guy who's having gauzy idealized wife flashbacks for the whole adventure but it turns out she isn't dead or anything he just really misses her and wants to get home

[hyperfixations-and-hecticness]

As much as I make fun of Percy for being down bad from day one what I really love is that he truly thinks this is regular friend behaviour. He’s unleashing his inner wattpad mafia boss for Annabeth, has her picture on his mirror, promises he’d burn down Olympus for her, seems offended there’s ‘another’ boyfriend and thinks it is purely platonic. And the best part is Percy is such a loverboy in all meanings of the world that that genuinely is understandable because he is simultaneously going to the sea of monsters for Grover, having Grover’s picture on his mirror, telling Grover he looks beautiful in a wedding dress, embracing Grover like the husband he presumed missing at sea and being so soulmated to his best friend that they dream together.

[inkskinned]

before you make fun of a person doing something brave and vulnerable like dancing or singing or reading poetry in front of a lot of people:

don’t.

[baradragon]

christianity being a real facet of peoples lives instead of something you grow out of is killing me what do you mean youre 19 and still believe that mission trips are a positive force in the world

[ghostapop]

i feel like a lot of fandoms pride themselves on being gayer than the source material but have they considered being less racist and less misogynistic than the source material as well . could be revolutionary

[prokopetz]

The real reason your sapient dragon character needs a "rider":

Dragons on the wing are vulnerable to being mobbed by smaller, more agile flyers, particularly in your large rear blind spot, like a bird of prey being mobbed by crows. Having a human armed with a long spear perched on your back helps to dissuade anyone from getting any funny ideas.

Breath weapons are impressive enough on the ground, but in flight they're really only good for strafing stationary targets; trying to use your breath weapon in an aerial dogfight is a good way to get fire up your nose. A real fight calls for sterner measures – and, concomitantly, a crew to aim and reload the cannons.

In today's competitive world, it's not enough to devour a flock of sheep and call it a day if you want to keep your edge. You're accompanied at all times by a qualified personal alchemist tasked with carefully regulating your internal furnace to ensure peak performance, and sometimes you even listen to them.

No dragon of any quality would be caught dead without their valet. It's not as though you can announce your numerous long-winded titles yourself when introductions are called for, can you? You suppose next you'll be expected to pick up the spoils of your conquests yourself, like a common brigand. Perish the thought!

[mikkeneko]