The most intimate thing we can do is to allow people we love most see us at our worst. At our lowest. At our weakest. True intimacy happens when nothing is perfect.
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The most intimate thing we can do is to allow people we love most see us at our worst. At our lowest. At our weakest. True intimacy happens when nothing is perfect.
Amy Harmon, The Song of David (via wordsnquotes)
Infatuation vs. Love
Can you tell me, what kind of poly relationships can a person have? I could only describe them I know no technical terminology.
Here’s some basic definitions, but because I’m sure I forgot some anyone who has others can feel free to add on!
CELLULAR FAMILY: A family of three or more adults (and optionally children) who live together or near one another, share responsibility for joint finances and/or domestic responsibilities, and consider themselves to be part of a single family.
DELTA: A triad, relationship, specifically a triad in which each person is sexually and/or emotionally involved with all the other people.
PARALLEL POLYAMORY: A style of polyamory in which the relationships a person has are largely independent of one another, and there may be little or no contact or relationship between a person’s various partners.
POLYCULE: A romantic network, or a particular subset of relationships within a romantic network, whose members are closely connected. Also used to describe a sketch or visualization of a romantic network, as these drawings often resemble the depiction of molecules used in organic chemistry.
QUAD: A polyamorous relationship involving four people, each of whom may or may not be sexually and emotionally involved with all the other members.
TRIAD: 1. A polyamorous relationship composed of three people. 2. A union or group of three. Usage: In the sense of Def. 1, generally, the word triad is most often applied to a relationship in which each of the three people is sexually and emotionally involved with all the other members of the triad
VEE: Colloquial A polyamorous relationship involving three people, in which one person is romantically or sexually involved with two partners who are not romantically or sexually involved with each other.
Had a great time at this show in Seattle!
While there, sitting at the tables in the row in front of us, we saw a throuple having a wonderful time too. 😜
Being a gentleman isn’t easy now days. Common courtesy is looked down upon. To be successful people think that you have to be deceitful, and that is looked upon as a positive. People think that they are entitled to act the way they want without any regard to how it impacts other people. What is really just common decency is looked at as political correctness, and made a joke of. Then there is the suit thing. People think that wearing a nice suit makes you a gentleman.
A gentleman is none of those things. A gentleman doesn’t let popular notions define hm. A gentleman will understand that courtesy isn’t about being weak, or even recognized for it. He will understand that t is just a part of life. You treat everyone with respect no matter if the world is watching, or if it is just you and someone else.
A gentleman understands that their word is gold. You don’t have to scheme to get over someone. You simply put in hard work, and try your best. Sometimes things might not work out the way that you want, but you lay your head down at night with the understanding that you did your best.
A gentleman never feels entitled, no matter his position. You have no right to make anyone feel less than you. As a matter of fact it is your responsibility to help make people feel better. A gentleman will leave a room with the people there feeling like they are better than they were before.
A gentleman doesn’t belittle someone just because they think that it is funny. It isn’t about political correctness, or any other catch phrase that is popular. It is about respect for others, but also respect for yourself. When you disrespect other people, you are also disrespecting yourself, and that is not something a gentleman will ever do.
A gentleman isn’t made by the clothes he wears. Being a gentleman is all about what is inside you. Gentlemen come in blue jeans and work boots, and have dirty hands, as well as nice suits. It is about the code that you live your life by, not the clothes you wear. There is no set code to define what a gentleman is. That code is different for all of us. My code isn’t the only code. The things that are the same are simple.
1 Respect
2 Loyalty
3 Courage
4 Compassion
5 Honor
6 Trust
7 Integrity
How you get to your code is up to you, but always be honest with yourself about your actions, and your character.
Indeed.
Why is it, when you're about to share your wife, that the other guy has to get all macho about it and completely put the two of you off doing it?
Porn. That’s why.
If we could find who we can share our sexual fantasies with in real life with out judging us , we would be on Tumblr.. Thank you Tumblr for giving us that chance .. and thank you those who listen with out judging us ..
Warning: Poly Rant
Since this came up at a poly social let me state this for the record here.
Polyamory is NOT superior to monogamy. Polyamory is NOT inherently more honest or more natural. Polyamory is NOT right for everyone.
Polyamory and Monogamy are just different paths to get to the same goal - happy, loving, transparent, supportive relationship(s).
Just like how misandry is not the answer to misogyny, hating on monogamy is not the way to get polyamory accepted by society.
Do what is right for YOU and for your partner(s) and let other people do the same.
Polyamory Appreciation
Reblog if you’re polyamorous or support healthy polyamorous relationships!
100 TIMES YES!
yes we do
Gross porn blogs:
What is it about my page that entices you? I’m not interested! Get lost!
The bots are using tumblr to scam Google.
Let’s say someone is looking for porn and they put “wife caught her husband cheating,” into Google. There are a lot of porn sites (and some news sites) with that title. So Google has to decide which order to show them in, because most of the time, people pick something off the first few pages of Google.
Google wants to have the very best “wife caught her husband cheating” (or whatever else you search for) sites on the first page of the search. Google has several ways to try and decide which site are the best, but one of them is that it looks at how popular it is by seeing how many other websites link to it. If a lot of other sites are linking to it, it was probably useful to them, so Google will put it on the front page.
So if I’m a sleazy pornsite owner, I could create like a thousand websites and make them all link to my “wife caught her husband cheating” site, and act like a whole bunch of different websites thought it was pretty great. They’d be like “xdfgt .com”, “xdfgy .com”, “xdfgh .com,” just nonsense addresses nobody else was using, or whatever. I’d try to make Google think my site was awesome, because all these other websites are linking to it.
But Google has already caught on to that. Google would know “xdfgt .com” was a crappy fake website, because nobody else is linking to “xdfgt .com”. Any website that is only linked to by crap websites is also crap, as far as Google is concerned. Google won’t put it on the first pages of search results.
So instead let’s imagine the sleazy pornsite owner creates a thousand fake tumblrs instead, like “xdfgt.tumblr .com” and “xdfgy.tumblr .com” and “xdfgh.tumblr .com” and just puts one or two posts on them to add links to the “wife caught her husband cheating” porn site. Google can still tell those tumblrs are crap websites, because nobody else is linking to them. But the difference is … on tumblr, the sleazy pornsite owner can make your website link to him.
Let’s say your tumblr is “mostlyaestheticandfunny.tumblr .com”. If “xdfgt.tumblr .com” likes one of your posts, there’s link on your blog to “xdfgt.tumblr .com.” Somewhere on “mostlyaestheticandfunny.tumblr .com” it will say “xdfgt liked this” with a link from your blog to “xdfgt.tumblr .com.”
Google’s bot looks at “mostlyaestheticandfunny.tumblr .com” and it sees that your blog is a good website. People are linking to it (talking to you or reblogging from you), you write like an actual human being, you have nice pictures, you update sometimes, you aren’t a bot. So Google decides your blog isn’t a crappy scam website. Then it sees the link to “xdfgt.tumblr .com” and it thinks “oh hey, a nice website with good stuff written by a real human linked to this “xdfgt.tumblr .com” I guess maybe “xdfgt.tumblr .com” is a decent website too.”
Then it looks at “xdfgt.tumblr .com” and it sees the link to the porn site with “wife caught her husband cheating”, and it says, “well, I guess that “wife caught her husband cheating” site is a good site. I know that because there’s a good site linking to it here at “xdfgt.tumblr .com.” I know “xdfgt.tumblr .com” is a good site because “mostlyaestheticandfunny.tumblr .com” linked to it, and I know “mostlyaestheticandfunny.tumblr .com” is a good site because it is updated and writes like a real person and people talk to it and link to it.”
So basically the porn bots are using the fact that you have a good blog to make themselves look better and to try and trick Google’s bot into thinking they’re very popular and it should put them at the top of its list when people search Google for porn.
It’s really annoying! It would be really nice if the people running tumblr figured out a way to not be free advertising for every sleazy porn site on the internet
source.
hey wow thats actually really useful! and its written in a way that i (a bird with no knowledge of the wizardly internal workings of a website) can understand!
FINALLY AN EXPLANATION
#block all porn bot blogs because they also steal your selfies and write captions underneath
Awesome Tumblr porn-blog SEO techniques explained
This has become a real scourge on Tumblr, and I’ve seen this a lot on my blog recently. I now block anyone who re-blogs my stuff with empty marketing sentences or advertising linking to any porn sites or sex chats or similar. I’m not against reblogs, mind you, but against bot-blogs that have no soul, no goal other than adding a single sentence under each reblog containing nothing but a link (always the same for a given bot-blog) to an external site. On smartphones and iPads these blogs stop their harassment there. But on PCs, they also modify the Tumblr page to catapult you to the lousy site they are trying to push.
How to block these sites. When you see sites like this in your activity log :
Hover over the account’s icon with your pointer : a summary of that account will appear. Move your arrow to the “human figure” icon and click : a menu will appear. Block is the last option in that menu : go on and click on it !
The browser screen will turn Tumblr blue with a stern message informing you of the horror that’ll ensue if you keep going. This is exactly what you want : click on “block” once again.
You are done… but with only one of those bots. Repeat for each of these pests… and hope that Tumblr soon finds a solution soon !
Tumblr’s new policy on adult-oriented (NSFW) blogs
The e-mail tumblr sent me:
Hello, *************
You’re getting this email because you previously identified your Tumblr as adult-oriented. We wanted to give you a heads-up that we’ve made some changes to our content policies. Starting today, blogs that primarily contain explicit content won’t be visible to minors, people who are using Tumblr in Safe Mode, and people who aren’t logged into Tumblr. (You can learn more about Safe Mode in our help docs.) Everyone else will be able to interact with your posts as usual.
If you don’t think your Tumblr is explicit, you can revisit your blog’s settings under Visibility. You can check out our policies on sensitive content in full over at tumblr.com/policy/community.
Tumblr Trust & Safety
The entire help center is new. And remodeled. Try the link.
What is in the new help center:
(Adult-Oriented posts are now known as “Sensitive Content”):
* Is sensitive content allowed on Tumblr? You can post whatever you want on your Tumblr, as long as it is lawful and follows our Community Guidelines and Terms of Service.
* What is “sensitive content?” Anything that might not be suitable for some members of the Tumblr community. As an example, nudity, including in an artistic, educational, or photo journalistic context, may be considered sensitive.
* I post stuff that might be considered sensitive. What should I do? One way you can help us—and the Tumblr community—is by flagging your sensitive posts. There’s a switch in your post settings (under “More options” in the app, and under the gear icon on the web) to do just that. If a significant portion of your posts are sensitive, and especially if they are sexually explicit in nature, then we’d appreciate you marking your blog as “Explicit,” which will keep it out of search results for people in Safe Mode, and prevent any logged-out users from seeing it on the web. You can do this in your blog settings.
* I marked my blog as explicit. What happens now? Now you can be sure that only suitable audiences are seeing your content. Blogs that are marked explicit are kept out of search results for people in Safe Mode. Also, starting on 7/5/17, anyone viewing your blog on the web will have to be logged in (with safe mode off) to see it.
Community Guidelines
A quick refresher here, along with some new things to keep in mind:
What Tumblr is for: Tumblr celebrates creativity. We want you to express yourself freely and use Tumblr to reflect who you are, and what you love, think, and stand for.
What Tumblr is not for:
(The refreshers: Malicious Speech. Harm to Minors. Promotion or Glorification of Self-Harm. Gore, Mutilation, Bestiality, or Necrophilia. Non-Genuine Social Gesture Schemes. Deceptive or Fraudulent Links. Misattribution or Non-Attribution. Username/URL Abuse or Squatting. Account Dormancy. Confusion or Impersonation. Harassment. Privacy Violations. Disruptions, Exploits, or Resource Abuse. Spam. Mass Registration or Automation. Unauthorized Contests, Sweepstakes, or Giveaways. Themes Distributed by Third Parties.)
Pay attention to the following areas Tumblr is not for:
Unmarked sensitive content. While we attempt to automatically categorize content that might not be suitable for all viewers, you can help us respect the choices of people in the community by pre-emptively marking any sensitive material you post.Marking your posts or your blog won’t prevent you or the people who look at your posts from using any of Tumblr’s features—it just helps other Tumblr users avoid seeing content they might not be comfortable with. NSFW Blogs. Tumblr is home to millions of readers and creators from a variety of locations, cultures, and backgrounds who hold different points of view concerning adult-oriented content. If you regularly post sexual or adult-oriented content, respect the choices of people in our community who would rather not see such content by flagging your blog (which you can do on your blog’s Settings page) as Not Suitable for Work (“NSFW”). This action doesn’t prevent you or your readers from using any of Tumblr’s social features, but rather screens your blog’s content from Tumblr users who would prefer not to see NSFW material. Uploading Sexually Explicit Video. You can embed anything in a Tumblr post as long as it’s lawful and follows our other guidelines, but please don’t use Tumblr’s Upload Video feature to upload sexually explicit video. We’re not in the business of hosting adult-oriented videos (and it’s fucking expensive). Copyright or Trademark Infringement. With regard to repeat copyright infringement, we use a three-strike system to evaluate the standing of a user’s account, where, generally, each valid copyright infringement notice constitutes a strike, and three strikes results in the termination of a user’s account. When a user submits a valid DMCA counter-notification, we remove the associated strike from their record. Unlawful Uses or Content.. Don’t use Tumblr to conduct illegal behavior, like fraud or phishing. That should be pretty obvious to you, a decent human being
Things Tumblr is NOT for are then handled:
If we conclude that you are violating these guidelines, you may receive a notice via email. If you don’t explain or correct your behavior, we may take action against your account. We do our best to ensure fair outcomes, but in all cases we reserve the right to suspend accounts, or remove content, without notice, for any reason, but particularly to protect our services, infrastructure, users, and community. We reserve the right to enforce, or not enforce, these guidelines in our sole discretion, and these guidelines don’t create a duty or contractual obligation for us to act in any particular manner.You can report violations of these guidelines to us directly. You can report violations of these guidelines to us directly. If you have questions or feedback, don’t hesitate to let us know.
I do not work for Tumblr, I’ve taken my time to make this quick note format of the changes as I am tired of good people disappearing. Use the links I’ve provided, check your emails and always stay updated!! The text in blockquote above is copied from each page I’ve linked you to. I cut it up to make it shorter, no I didn’t succeed. The rest is interpreted by me. xoxox
Beware, guys. All of a sudden none of my explicit blogs were marked as such - we don’t want you deleted so please check your blogs visibility!
Polyamory is inclusive* of 👏 all 👏 genders 👏 and 👏 sexualities. 👏 Stop 👏 policing 👏 who 👏 can 👏 and 👏 can’t 👏 be 👏 polyam.
*as long their polyamory includes: fully informed, honest consent, is ethical, and contains communication. (and aren’t fictional characters written to what a polyamorous stereotype would be.)