Cyberflight

31| please be gentle - (90% positivity 10% salt) - Get a fresh load of whatever I'm in to atm

[ooppo]

:) <- Long time friend

😃 <- Whatever

😀 <- Predator

[thebookishsblog]

People thinking that only Kishiar is utterly infatuated with Yuder, they later realize (much to their horror) that Yuder matches Kishiar's freak by the letter

[littlefingies]

I don't know how to make this not sound mean but I'm not trying to be mean, so please know that going in.

Listening to a podcast about bodies and eating disorders and the body positivity movement of the last decade ish and hearing someone say (paraphrasing from memory here) "body positivity was all capitalism, there were no legislative changes, just new brands of jeans"

Legislative changes are super important but I cannot emphasize enough that jeans coming in bigger sizes and fat-friendly cuts is actually a really big deal! With meaningful impacts on people's lives (including mine)! Fat people do need clothes! And you may not realize this, but if you're over a certain size (that's not even that big a size) there's a very good chance you can go to a big box store and *not find anything that fits you*. There are towns in the US where if you're over a size 18 you need to drive an hour away or shop online to get things in your size. And they're expensive! "Just buy used" if they even have your size! Fat people want to look nice too. And we face enough judgement during job interviews (to give one example) without trying to do it in clothes that don't fit or are super uncomfortable.

Actually: If you're fat and you want to look cute/hot/masc/femme/etc I cannot recommend this website enough, you put in your measurements and it lists what brands have your size. You can filter for stuff like sensory friendly, nonbinary, masc, organic, etc. It's not AI just a database.

Phoria

Phoria is a platform to help plus-size and gender-expansive people build a more sustainable and ethical wardrobe they love. We’re a benefit

[myfairynuffstuff]

Erika Toliusis (b.1969) - Pacific Angel. 2022. Oil with palette knife on canvas.

[sunshinetheinspiration]

@teaboot

[teaboot]

Painted with a FUCKING PALETTE KNIFE?

[tigerdrop]

if you dont decouple your drive to create from your desire for attention you will go insane. simple as. you will never feel satisfied b/c you will always want more and you will feel perpetually bitter that you did not get what you are “owed”

[sinsbymanka]

It’s an unpopular opinion but it is absolutely and completely true. I’ve never seen someone who creates for engagement happy with the engagement they get. I posit they can’t ever be happy that way because it will NEVER be enough

[thevikingwoman]

I agree with OP and Manka so very much.

You have to rest in your own desire to create.

But, because I see statements like this turn into a sort of general notion of “it’s bad to want validation or attention or engagement”, and to me, that’s not what this means.

It’s perfectly valid to want people to like and engage with what you create. In a general sense, when you create anything, you do it to share with other human beings. Art, craft, food, anything you create is a way to connect with others through our shared humanity.

And wanting someone to like you fanart or read your fanfic is part of that.

the words used by OP is decouple, and this is important. Nothing wrong wanting engagement. But it cannot be tightly coupled with the drive to create.

[withnailrules]

Eartha Kitt performing in Las Vegas, Nevada, in 1955

[niyarest]

can someone explain what he's talking about i got distracted by his giant jiggling honkers badonkers

[x]

[niyarest]

[bigfatbitchdotcom]

Endlessly diabolical how you can't say words like rape and suicide uncensored without either being criticised by idiots or punished by conglomerates.

[bigfatbitchdotcom]

It's not r*pe, it's rape. It's not su*cide, it's suicide. Not unalive, dead. The backbone needs to be reintroduced en masse because softening the blow of these concepts with advertising language does absolutely nothing but allow people unaffected by them to feel not even a sting of what they can do, prompting inaction.

[bigfatbitchdotcom]

And it's been proven that on certain websites, you don't even face a repercussion for using the words as they are. People just started censoring themselves because they feared the potential lack of views and likes and followers which is so nasty itself.

[its-the-blob]

I attended an anti-suicide seminar in college. One of the big takeaways from it was that stigmatizing suicide increases the rate of suicide, because people who are feeling suicidal feel like they can't ask for help. Every time I see babytalk garbage like 'unalive', I think of that.

[ralfmaximus]

Use the real words. Words have power, and they matter.

[alicentsgf]

no you do not need to hold fictional characters "accountable". they are not real.

[alicentsgf]

[actuallysara]

block people. avoid tags. mute words. follow like-minded people. do not engage with hate. curate your own experience in all the ways you can. that's the only way to survive fandoms my friends.

[cryoverkiltmilk]

You are your own zookeeper. Manage your enclosure.

[wagyubeefs]

“the fandom has decided - ” “everyone agrees that - ” “we all know that this is the only right way to - ”

[valtsv]

we need to bring back the phrase "what business is it of yours" in a big way i'm serious

[valtsv]

i know you can just say "none of your business" but phrasing it as a question with a jarringly formal tone is the ideal way to shoot an overfamiliar unwelcome overture dead in its tracks and force the person making it to confront the boundaries they're taking for granted + it would really piss people off which is funny

[1000-life-hacks]

[soursoppi]

a friendly spar

[soursoppi]

soppi has written some fic: https://archiveofourown.org/works/36800848

do take note of the tags, definitely not for family gatherings hahaha

[soursoppi]

Demon Lord and his two….consorts dressed up all fancy~

[silverjirachi]

i do think a genuine major problem with many fandoms is that unless the genre of thing you are watching is literally a romance the writers more than likely are not going to concern themselves with who ends up with who. it just nine times out of ten is not what the story is about. but i have seen so many people pitch fits about the writing of a finale or ending of things or even go so far as to say "queerbaiting" when really it's that they have their yaoi goggles on so hard they black out and forget the thing they are engaging with is a *checks notes* kids cartoon about silly animals running around really fast