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[darkacademicletters]

"I like depth. I like when I can look at something and feel it in my heart. I like when I can read a sentence with few words and feel like I'm drowning. I'm not a masochist or a sadist, I just enjoy the quiet reminders that my heart does more than pump blood."

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When you're born in a burning house, you think the whole world is on fire. But it's not.

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“My crime was feeling everything too deeply, my punishment was surviving it.”

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Suddenly I don't want anyone to know me as deeply anymore, which is weird because I have always yearned for someone to understand my soul

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The sea you are afraid to cross, on the opposite of it lies immense peace and satisfaction, which you can never find by just standing on the shore.

So cross that sea, not for anyone else, but for your own self!

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It turns out that you can become the person you’ve always envisioned but you’ll still have the person you were before inside of you and you have to treat them with as much forgiveness and love as possible

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Find yourself first, like yourself first, love yourself first, and friendship, companionship, and love will naturally find you.

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march: open windows ⋆ morning coffee ⋆ birds chirping ⋆ longer daylight ⋆ music in your headphones ⋆ sunday resets ⋆ blooming trees ⋆ skincare ⋆ spring cleaning ⋆ new music ❤︎

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Be grateful, for what you take granted, people often pray and struggle to get even a piece of it. Somebody lost their life last night, but you woke up today and you are alive. Some people don't even get one meal per day, but you are blessed with 3 meals per day. Someone broke their leg in an accident, but your body is working. Many people don't even have clothes on their body, but you are blessed with good clothes and comfy warmers too!

When you realise you have much more than what you ever asked for, you learn grace.

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Book that ticket. Post that video. Start your youtube channel. Good to the cafe alone. Good on solo dates. Cook your favourite food. Learn that skill. Do everything you are scared of doing.

Not because you want to prove yourself, but because life is too short to just not take risks and challenges!

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quit brainrot. unfollow trolls. read essays. go down rabbit holes. have a calendar. maintain a todo list. read old books. watch old movies. turn on dnd. walk with intent. eat without youtube. chew more. train without music. plan for 15 mins. execute. organise your desk. take something seriously. read ancient scripts. act fast. find bread. eat clean. journal. save a life. learn to code. read poetry. create art. stay composed. refine your speech. optimise for efficiency. act sincere. help people. be kind. stop doing things that waste your time. follow your intuition. craft reputation. learn persuasion. systemise your day (or don't). write. write. write. write more. iterate violently. leave your phone at home. walk to the grocery store. talk to strangers. feed the dogs. visit bookstores. look for 1800s novels. experience art. then love. sit with a monk and offer them lunch. don't talk shit about people. embody virtue. sit alone. do something with your life. what do you want to create? turn off your mind. play. play a sport. combat sports. notice fonts in trees. fall in love. notice patterns on a table. visualise it. talk to people with respect. don't hate. be loving. be real. become yourself. cherrypick your qualities. discard the useless. rejections aren't permanent. invite what aligns. accept what does not. read great people. be different. choose different. do great work. let it consume you. lose your mind. value your time. experience life.

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magnesium infused baths. silk robes. warm flower tea. a homemade sweet treat. lavender oil massages. honey tallow lip balm. evenings wrapped in a soft blanket with a good book. candlelight at night. sweetness and softness is medicine.

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Confidence comes from putting yourself out there and stepping outside of your comfort zone despite being scared. If you wait for confidence to precede the action, you’ll be waiting for ever. Moving from fear to faith is what is going to carry you through. Realizing that the fears created in your mind are there to protect you and keep you in your comfort zone, is how you change your perspective.

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Sometimes, the biggest act of self care you can accomplish is to cry your eyes out. To a point you can barely breathe and your tissue is soaked in tears. And once you calm down, there is a feeling of exhaustion in the whole body that aches for sleep. When you get up, you may feel numb. But that is just one step of many. Then you can get up again, because you have the privilege to. And move on. Not all that is necessary is comfortable, but nevertheless fundamental.

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the ability to see more beauty in the world is a skill. the more beauty you see, the more comes to you, the more you create yourself. so much of the disempowerment people feel is because they are trained to see the ugly and negative in everything. you have to unpick your mind from the lure of negativity and train yourself to find beauty. if you want a beautiful life, it starts with learning to find the beauty everywhere.

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[theambitiouswoman]

A person who values themself has standards and remains exclusive

They don’t need attention from the masses because they know their worth

They understand that being accessible to everyone lowers their value

They are selective with who they date because they know it’s a reflection of them

They aren’t seeking superficial validation online because they don’t need it and most likely get it in real life

They make career choices that align with their passions and beliefs and don’t comprise their morals for a dollar

They understand that quality friendships are more important than a large circle of acquaintances

They love themselves and take care of their body, they don’t partake in hobbies that are unhealthy

They invest in their personal growth and education because they understand that expanding their knowledge and skills increases their value

They are mindful of how they spend their time and choose environments that nurture their growth rather than drain their energy

They don’t settle for mediocre and always strive for excellence in whatever they do

They avoid toxic relationships and environments

They are intentional with their energy and choose to share it with people that align with their values

They practice self discipline

They like being alone and understand that being alone is a time for reflection and recharging

They have very strong boundaries and demand respect in all interactions because they respect themselves first