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TME people have no idea the damage that the constant state of living under transmisogyny does to our mental health. Before I show any any amount of strength, physical or emotional, before I ever be assertive or confident, before I ever stand up for myself, before I ever do any of the things that cis women get rightfully praised for by other feminists, I have to wonder if its going to get me violently misgendered and used as proof of my "male socialization" by those around me.
But then if I do the opposite by making myself smaller, meeker, quieter, when I don't stand up for myself, when I be the model form of femininity that's supposedly expected of me, I get accused of "wearing femininity as a costume" or "perpetuating misogynistic standards for women."
We are constantly, every minute of our lives, subject to a catch-22. And being around TME queer people doesn't change any of this.
i get that americans love their cultural imperialism, but it really does piss me off that june is “international” pride month just because something happened in the united states.
in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. marsha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.
But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.
our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1989. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.
anyway, happy pride, americans. i’m truly sorry that most of you don’t see the negative impact your nation’s culture has on the rest of the world. and to the rest of the world reading this, try searching for your own country and culture’s queer history, don’t accept the american narratives as your own. we deserve our own histories divorced from the cultural hegemony of the USA.
this post is closing in on 10k and it’s really quite enlightening reading through the notes.
the most frequent reactions are from people from Not America agreeing that the cultural force of american pride has detracted in some tangible way from their knowledge or recognition of their own history. there’s so many links and references in the notes now, for so many different places. i had a scroll through some of them, that i could find versions of in english. the world has such a rich queer history, and i am inspired by all of the people saying they’re going to go and research more of their own histories. there have been resources shared from all six permanently inhabited continents (none from antartica, yet…), including a lot (relative to the usual zero) from the regions most frequently glossed over in our global queer histories; africa, the middle east, southeast asia, the pacific, and south america. every single person who’s shared a queer historical figure’s name, or a book or other source, or a historical event from their country or culture is doing an important thing by helping to dismantle the US pride hegemony.
the next most frequent reactions are from americans pissing on the poor, and claiming that either it’s not their fault individually because [nebulous reason missing the point] and/or that i’m racist (someone even said fascist lmao?) because the two people i mentioned were Black and latin american… it’s not the fault of those two women nor myself that americans have chosen their faces and names to put at the front of their imperialist pride. cultural imperialism doesn’t have to LOOK racist! you can be unintentionally culturally imperialist and look woke! a lot of the people who do this are queer and liberal or even leftist. the problem is forcing american queer history on the rest of us. shoutout to the Black and latine people in the notes who’ve rightfully pointed out that that’s a bullshit rebuttal. I’ve also noted the autocorrect typo on Marsha’s name, and fixed it, thanks for the heads up.
sort of the point of cultural imperialism is that the people doing it don’t notice it on an individual level. of course you don’t feel like you’re responsible! of course you struggle to see it when the rest of us point it out! that’s by design! if the rest of the world is saying something is a real experience that they’ve had, and you say “well i don’t see it / i’m not responsible for it,” that is blatant denial of a very real issue.
finally, for the love of god, stop using they/them for me, a trans woman who exclusively uses she/her. my pronouns are front and centre on my blog! funny how the people calling me racist and transmisogynistic for Using Examples are also frequently degendering me in the process, huh?
anyway, this vent was never intended to go viral, i posted it on a quiet afternoon after a conversation with a friend about our queer history here. i’m glad it has, though, because glossing over the americans swinging and missing, the breadth of history and knowledge being shared in the notes is a wonderful thing.
The most basic, intractable fact about mental illnesses is that you simply cannot willpower your way out of them. The only exceptions to this rule are the ones I have, which continue to disable me due to lack of determination and other grave personal flaws
I'm not immune to nostalgia for 2010s liberalism a la "this used to be the sjw website" but honestly ...... as much as the overton window has shifted into hell. What with the fascism. It did always kinda suck though didn't it
We Are having such an insane wave of antifeminism in otherwise lefty queer progressive type spaces but it's easy to forget what we used to have was, like. Pussy hats
That being said we did have Black people here before tumblr exploded their blogs. Women, even. And we had sex workers, too. Tumblr's political climate getting Worse can be pretty clearly traced to nuking all the Black women (2016) and sex workers (2018) and trans women (Right Now)
i could never handle being a popular showrunner/writer/creator with a fandom because i know id go read fanfiction about my own characters and have to be physically held back from posting "you guys really think [blorbo] is a top??" on main
Here's what's going to happen: "Transandrophobia" is going to get picked up by and spread among "mainstream" tme "feminism" to become a widely accepted and normalized idea. It's already well on its way. Then in a few years some prominent tme "feminists" are gonna hear about transmisogyny and accuse us of "inventing a word to copy transmascs" and claim that "transmisogyny doesn't exist, that's just transphobia" and that is going to become the mainstream accepted narrative.
I know it, I can see it happening clear as day. And since 99.9999% of tme's don't give two flying fucks about trans women, there's nothing we can do to stop it.
Jarvis, pull up that variable meme.
i’m reminded of the developer of a mapping software who had a variable named ‘legend_handles’ that got refactored into ‘leg_handles,’ ‘leg_hands,’ and finally ‘feet’
This is poetry to me
I'm being serious btw like. There's a really particular transfem horror to this.
It's crazy how you have to convince non trans women the absolute fucking horror, literal gutwrenching horror, that a young girl going through male puberty is.
my boyfriend made this meme and said i can put it here so i did
The pride like button not having the trans flag was almost certainly not an intentional design choice (there's a trans flag option apparently), but it really does show the attitude Tumblr takes to its large trans population. They celebrate gay pride, not trans pride, all the while banning transfems and marking every post they even so much as touch as "mature"
writing is so funny because i could write nonstop for 9hrs and then hit a block where im like "how do i transition between this moment and the next?" and then i just dont touch it for 6 months
Serious advice tho if this happens, it's likely because you already wrote past the end of the scene and wandered too far from the more logical transition point, and you should go back to the last time the writing felt "unforced" and cut everything after.
You can also just skip the transition. Really good writing can span years in a single sentence, like you can just authoritatively state fact and your reader will go with it.
This is GOLD! You just saved me like thousands of therapy costs lmao
When I was writing my fic last few months the strategy I used was "just skip all the scenes I don't want to write" and it worked great in my opinion
i wonder if this is going to work. hello to you, haiku bot!
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Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
"Love" that it has somehow become controversial even among trans men to say that trans men are men. And not in some metaphorical sense or whatever, not in a "gender isn't real" sense, not in a "but they're still female" sense, but in the sense that trans men are real, actual, MEN. And in addition: trans men that medically transition are MALE. That's what medical transition does: it changes your fucking sex! That's the whole point of it! And no, not just when you get grs, HRT alone does that too!
But no, so fucking many of them hate trans women so goddamn much that they've committed to misgendering themselves and spreading TERF ideology about how "they'll always be female" just so they can insist that the inverse is also true: that trans women are actually, and always will be, men and male.
wait, you mean that by spending decades joking about how schools are disease vectors because children are just naturally disgusting, adults were ignoring a structural problem they had created? how surprising and not at all precedented