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[girl-debord]

So I posted these two images that I made in a post together just shy of a year ago, and the post got 10,000+ notes. Today I saw a meme with a text convo of someone sending one of them to a military recruiter (which is extremely funny) and I thought “oh I should find that post again”

but when I went to find it, it had completely vanished. not just the original post, but even reblogs of it. I couldn’t even find screenshots anyone had taken of the original post. it wasn’t brought to my attention as a reported post, tumblr never even contacted me about deleting it, it just… disappeared

really gets the noggin joggin

[teethinstagramcankissmyass]

[quincunx]

so that’s the line huh tumblr. that old post just went too far and you had to poof it.

[fanfleufleu-deactivated20221121]

Reblog to remember the post before it gets deleted again

[junkartie]

Having ur main emotional response be crying is so embarrassing like ill be trying to explain why im mad or ill try having a serious convo abt smthn that upsets me and ill start crying like a baby and i have to like turn around and go “i am not crying 4 pity or to emotionally manipulate u im crying cuz im a little bitch, give me a sec”

[colorlesspoet]

I have this problem. A lot. And it used to suck to have people (my family especially) always use my crying against me in an argument-my dad would say I'm emotionally manipulative or that I'm throwing a tantrum and minimize my genuine arguments. But you know what helped?

Don't acknowledge it.

Just. I know you can't stop yourself from crying and your voice from cracking and your hands from shaking. If you're with someone you trust, I'd suggest asking for a break- tears mean you're reaching a breaking point, it means your body is trying to relieve the immense pressure.

But if you're not just... Don't acknowledge your own crying. Treat it like a sneeze or a cough. Keep talking through your tears, maintain eye contact. If your voice cracks, clear your throat, say "excuse me" and move on. Take deep breaths. Try and consciously relax your muscles one by one.

The worst part of crying during an argument is the feeling of being invalidated because of it and for me, specifically, it has helped so much to just not give the other person the chance to even bring it up. If they say "you're crying" I say "yes. Anyway" and keep talking about my main argument. I don't acknowledge them. We move on.

Ideally you don't have to protect yourself like that (crying shouldn't feel like a mistake, or like it makes you small and worthless), but honestly... Sometimes it's better than the alternative

[wheeloffortune-design]

This is excellent. I need to add something though: If you're crying in front of an autistic person, or any kind of neurodivergent person who can't read social cues, it might help to address it and explain it.

I was arguing with a friend, who got very distressed when I cried. I'm a big cryer, it's nothing for me. It even helps. My friend was feeling very guilty, though, when it was completely unrelated to our argument.

So I told them: "I cry because I am feeling an intense emotion. This is not your fault, this is not something bad, and I will feel better in five minutes. I love you, you're still my friend. You got this?"

And then we got back to the argument.

(We made up, by the way.)

[lacefuneral]

aren’t all rats technically “rat bastards.” i mean they don’t have a concept of marriage

[lacefuneral]

post canceled i forgot that mr. ratburn got gay married. my apologies king

[cowthropologist]

What good is the concept of justice when most people use the word as functionally synonymous with "vengeance"?

[cowthropologist]

How do we divorce justice from punishment? What does that even look like?

[cowthropologist]

I just wonder if maybe healing, safety, fairness, and compassion are more useful goals than justice.

[cowthropologist]

There's this pervasive idea of justice as inherently penal and vindictive. How do we dig ourselves out of this hole?

[cowthropologist]

We gotta stop hurting each other.

[ymirjotunn]

op may already be aware of these, but other people might not be.

https://transformharm.org/ - collection of writing about all kinds of restorative, transformative, and healing justice work and theory

https://rjdtoolkit.impactjustice.org/ - a toolkit for putting RJ/TJ into practice in your community

https://healingjusticeproject.org/ - more about healing justice, focusing especially on people who have been or are incarcerated or impacted by the “criminal justice system”

http://www.brattleborocjc.org/blog/indigenous-roots-of-restorative-justice - restorative justice has been an indigenous practice for millennia. you can start to learn more about some of them here, but please don’t be afraid to read more!

https://www.beam.community/healing-justice - RJ/TJ/HJ is also a powerful tool in Black justice movements; you can read a little more about its use by Black healers and warriors here.

https://batjc.wordpress.com/resources/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/ - lots of great resources on this blog, but this piece is where you can learn about pods - small circles of relationships that turn to each other to respond to violence

http://restorativejustice.org/ - an international RJ organization, tons of resources on this site

https://brownstargirl.org/care-work-dreaming-disability-justice/ - care work: dreaming disability justice by leah lakshmi piepszna-samarasinha. worth getting the book; some essays are available online if you look around, and i can probably get them to you if you’re having trouble.

while you’re at it, check out https://www.sinsinvalid.org/blog/10-principles-of-disability-justice for more about disability justice

https://www.feministes-radicales.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Angela-Davis-Are_Prisons_Obsolete.pdf - pdf of are prisons obsolete? by angela davis

i love you. keep reading, keep learning, keep fighting. this is how we heal our world

[hauntaur]

This is money cat. He only appears every 1,383,986,917,198,001 posts. If you repost this in 30 seconds he will bring u good wealth and fortune.

[comradekatara]

there are only so many world leaders, right? and they’re all beholden to sokka in some major way…

the avatar: will be 35 years old and still have a pavlovian response to sokka saying “all right everyone, time for bed!” 

the firelord: so ride or die it’s honestly concerning

the earth king: owes to sokka his newfound knowledge of basic critical thinking skills

chief of the northern water tribe: his daughter seemed to think he was pretty dope before she turned into the moon

chief of the southern water tribe: thinks her brother is an idiot but has good ideas sometimes, and appreciates the fact that he doesn’t care whether or not he gets credit for them as long as they’re implemented 

not to mention that toph is basically a one-woman weapon of mass destruction who does not listen to anyone—with the crucial exception of one person—and guess who that is!

and he’s basically an honorary member of the white lotus???

basically what I’m saying is sokka secretly rules the world

[ruffboi-mags]

I think what you’re saying is that sokka secretly rules the world and has no fucking idea.

[catgirlcaliphate]

I’m totally on board with this except I think Sokka is an actual, full-fledged member of the White Lotus, and he also doesn’t realize that.

[bisexualbaker]

The White Lotus kept inviting him to meetings, and he showed up and assumed they were just humoring his interest. His initiation was much the same; he’s dead certain that they just gave him a robe and made him part of the ceremony to “feel included”. And he’s super touched by the way they keep inviting him to those meetings and even seem interested in what he has to say! Sometimes (a lot of times, actually, but he doesn’t even notice that) they even use his ideas!

They’re really cool people, those White Lotus guys. Sokka thinks it would be pretty awesome to be a part of their group.

[ajhasmademistakes]

#broke: didnt know they were dating #woke: didnt know they were a secret society member #thought they were just being polite

[rafikecoyote]

[postingmachine9000]

Reminder that Jason Isaacs wore less medals on his chest than Zhukov did IRL because they all thought the audience wouldn’t find it plausible for a man to be wearing that many medals

[coloradoqueen]

For reference.

[salparadisewasright-deactivated]

[fishingisuniversal]

Is…is that what we’re choosing to focus on?

[paxamericana]

[official-kircheis]

As per my last clay tablet,

[notllorstel]

Someone help I’m trying to find the image of a woman in a bikini on a beach with a fish caught in her mouth and it looked something like this

[link-lonk]

This one?

[notllorstel]

yes thank you very much for your time. everyone head home

[notajerusalemcricketd-deactivat]

[guerrillatech]

[deadbeatdaisy]

Someone once told me to just start putting out pineapples to signify to guests that they should maybe leave. Not sure who said that, but I have a collection of different pineapple objects for whenever necessary.

[emergency-broadcast-system]

Now you can understand how it sounds when i hear any siren

[terbo-dreamscape]

art

[ruimtetijd]

tornado sirens normally: 📢⚠️🌪 THERES A TORNADO 📢💥❗️

these tornado sirens: 💫🌸✨ there's a tornado 🥰 🌈🌱

[bunjywunjy]

✨😻💖🎶four tornadoes 🎶💖😻✨

[justlookatthosesausages]

Holy waow @volchise

[guerrillatech]

[raspberrychainsaw]

Note: on most, like 95% of ads you can click the exclamation point icon in the lower corner of the ad and select 'stop seeing this ad' then just report it as whatever (my favorite is inappropriate) to immediately skip both ads. Fuck YouTube premium

[guerrillatech]

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Having to tell people directly what you need and want from them is actually an unavoidable part of healthy adult communication, not a sign that your friends or partner don't genuinely care about you. So stop waiting for people to read your mind and learn to speak up.

[zenzgtandg]

If you strike me down, I shall become more powerful than you can possibly imagine

Reddit

[scifigrl47]

The ways that exist to break this game that simultaneously do absolutely no damage to how this game functions are ASTONISHING.  

[jauntylittlefrillyboy]

Did you weaponize the chickens?

[ampervadasz]

[gypsy-that-i-was]

I want everything made from what this ball is made of.

[synthlet]

[anchovy]

It's Time