Romance? I hardly know her

B-K, 30+ yo. He/she/they. [pfp id : a broken green heart over the transgender flag./end pfp id.] [Header id: pink letters that read "fuck no" with a broken heart emoticon over a sparkling pink background./end header pfp]

[our-arospec-experience]

Happy disability pride month!!

And an especially big shoutout to all the disabled aros out there :) you are perfectly valid and so valued in our community!!

[dabouse]

happy pride to

male aspecs - your existence isn't sad, and you aren't an incel.

female aspecs - you aren't a prude

non-binary aspecs - you guys are real, seen, and valid

aspecs who are loveless - you aren't any less human

aspecs who are very loving - you aren't faking it

aroallos - you aren't just a whore

alloaces - you aren't just celibate

aplatonics - you're not any less valid than other aspecs

happy pride to all aspecs!

[dabouse]

bringing this back for another pride month

[aro-ace-chaos]

I love aromanticism

[chiierri]

I don’t like reading posts about aromanticism because so many of them end up putting platonic attraction on a pedestal and treating it as a replacement for romantic attraction, as if aromanticism is something that needs to be compensated for through friendships. I don’t experience either, and the absence of relationships of any kind isn't a tragedy

[pleasantpostpeanut]

Because it still bothers me that people use A-spec like it only means asexual, here’s a list of all the identities under the a-spec umbrella. If I missed one, please tell me and I’ll add it.

A-spec stands for:

Aromantic 

Asexual

Alove

Agender

Aplatonic

Afamilial 

Asensual

Aphysical

Analterous

Aemotional

Anaesthetic

Aqueerplatonic

And any combination of the above

[sweetpea67]

Me, baby aroace: Hmmm I don’t know if I feel comfortable saying I’m queer or part of the LGBTQ+ community. I don’t want to speak over others’ oppression…

Me, after reading ten pages’ worth of Tumblr ace discourse, now older and wiser: I love being part of the LGBTQ+ community. Being queer is awesome. What a great day to be queer. Queer queer queer queer queer I’m so queer.

[left-lateral-incisor]

Alloplatonic aros don't treat friendship as the purest form of love and alienate aplatonics from aspec spaces challenge

[dancecalledmemory]

today is a wonderful day to get more normal about aplatonic and aplspec people

[aromanticofficial]

Its so important to me that people understand that being aro and/or ace looks different for so many people

I remember when I first began to use the label of aroace I said like an off hand comment about how i thought someone was attractive

And my friend who was also ace said "are you sure your ace you don't have to pretend to be queer just to fit in" (with our mainly queer friend group)

And it fucked with me for years because of this idea that I can't like someone features without being attracted to them. and it came with so much dysphoria and feeling like I didn't belong in this community and that I wasn't really aroace

And I think it's so important that people understand that theres no such thing as not ace or not aro enough.

And also the idea that you can find people attractive without being attracted to them. It's not the same thing and it sucks that so many people think it is.

exactly like. i have eyes. i can see that they're hot even if i don't want to do anything with them

[normystical]

people have no idea the sheer level of queer aspecs are. "if a cishet but aspec man—" that man is deconstructing the concepts deeply woven into every single aspect of our society by even solely existing you have NO IDEA just how ungodly queer he is my guy

(this does include aplatonics n stuff btw. allorose apl queer asffff)

[noxidae]

Everyone get more aromantic now!!!!!

[noxidae]

You can become more aromantic by

Becoming single

Staying single

Becoming polyamorous

Staying polyamorous

Loving your friends

Caring about your friends

Subvert the structure of friendship

Being a lover

Being a hater

[noxidae]

Listening to the Mountain Goats

[silverirony]

unreliable narrator but it's just an aromantic writing romance

[silverirony]

the author's barely concealed aromanticism

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic post

[angry-loveloose-loveless]

i feel like someones opinion on lovelessness, or aplatonic/afamlial/asensual/other less known aspec identities lets you see how they really think about aspecness as a whole.

Are you really supportive of aromantic & asexual people if the idea of someone being aplatonic is too much? Because it really feels like someone being aromantic and/or asexual is only acceptable if they make up for it somehow.

Being aro and/or ace should not be an identity that has to make up for anything. Not only does it make the identies seem like something that’s negative or makes someone “lesser” because they don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction/love, it harms aplatonic people.

If the idea of someone not loving period doesn’t feel “right” to you, or that sounds impossible, then I’d ask what you really think about aspec people. If you can wrap your head around not feeling romantic or sexual attraction/love, not feeling various other forms or not feeling any period shouldn’t be that much more difficult to understand.

The only thing I can really guess is that you either don’t really thing a lack of attraction is possible, or you view being aromantic & asexual as lesser and needing to make up for the identity with platonic and familial relationships/love. Which isn’t true support. Excluding part of the aspec community makes you aphobic. If you can’t support aplatonic, asensual, afamilial, or any of other lesser known aspec identities while viewing aromantic and asexual ones as the only “valid ones, you are aphobic. And I sincerely doubt how much you actually support aromantic & asexual people to begin with.

[crispwormsoda]

I love you asexual straight men I love you aromantic straight men I love you straight aroace men

[aromantic-aurea]

Happy ASAW, everyone!

We'd like to celebrate the diversity of aromantic orientations, from no romantic attraction to nonnormative romantic attraction or experiences with romance, by sharing a different microlabel each day this week. Do you use microlabels? Which do you think we should feature this week?

1. GREYROMANITC (grey aromantic) ~

"Greyromantic" describes a person who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably, or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances.

It can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum, except for aromantics who don’t experience romantic attraction at all.

[eyobis-andthe-bunnycats]

Cannot wait until the 15th. I love pink, i love hearts, I do not like romance being marketed to me

[arowitharrows]

I fully support Pluto as an aro symbol (x) but as a space scientist I cannot support any arguments that claim it's because Pluto should be a planet. The true reason Pluto is an aro symbol is precisely because people tie the amount of love and care this wonderful celestial body receives to which label it has. Just because a relationship with someone is not labeled as romantic should not mean that this relationship has to be treated as less worthy of time and care and effort. Just because Pluto is not labeled as a planet does not mean it is less worthy of our time and care and effort.

Here is another reason Pluto is aro: Pluto has a heart shaped region called the Tombaugh region:

[ID: an image of Pluto and it's heart shaped Tombaugh region, with the moon Charon in the background. End ID]

Now, Pluto and it's moon Charon are tidally locked, meaning they always face each other with the same hemisphere. Pluto's heart is always facing away from Charon. Some articles have phrased this as being tragically romantic, but I disagree! Here are two celestial objects orbiting each other for billions of years, and they are doing this while Pluto keeps it's heart hidden. Because in this case, love is not part of the equation that makes up their bond, romance does not play a part in their gravitational pull towards each other. That's aro as fuck, in my humble opinion.

[arowitharrows]

In conclusion:

[ID: the dwarf planet Pluto in front of the aromantic flag. End ID]

[arowitharrows]

don't reblog this to insist Pluto should be a planet I will bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you bite you