[saintd0nna]

happy pride to him

[trollrider1111]

Gay broke sober king 🤴

[thekimonogallery]

Puppy sleeping. 1955, Japan

[documentingalifeinstopmotion]

Too bad, still can't sleep. Maybe I'll get lucky one of these days. I'm going fucking Daft over here wishing someone Wanted Me ;_;

[somedaywewillshinetogether]

[giritina]

Pavlov

[gumi-artpoidd]

i be drawing some bullshit always

[genderkoolaid]

thinking about this post. i honestly feel like on all levels of human culture we need to get a little (or a lot) okay with things kind of sucking. like the notion that the worth of experience is entirely dependent on whether or not it is closer or farther from perfect needs to be thrown out. sometimes someone is mid and your local middle school's fall play is kinda lame and the drawing you made has a poor grasp of color theory. good. i desire life for what it is.

[consolecadet]

Your maladaptive behaviors did at one point do something useful for you -- keep you safe(r), make you temporarily feel better in an untenable situation, meet a need you couldn't find a way to fulfill otherwise. If you find it hard to stop doing them now, even though they hurt you in some way, that probably means they were at some point important and useful tactics, even if they were just the least damaging option in an impossible situation.

So if you struggle with perfectionism, perhaps perfectionism did, in fact, protect you from harm or neglect during childhood, to the degree that anything you did could. As children we have very little agency, but we do learn from the way people treat us. If being "good" meant we got our needs met more often, or it partly shielded us from harm, it makes sense that we'd keep trying to behave that way.

Being mistreated or abused by adults is not a child's fault. Trying to be perfect was not going to save us. But it may have been one of the only tools for survival we could build and use at the time, flawed as it was.

We can recognize that our old tools don't work well or indeed hurt us, and we can decide to learn how to do something else instead, but it's not helpful to put down our past selves for doing their best, even if the best they could do seems stupid or ineffective or self-sabotaging with the wisdom of hindsight. (Putting ourselves down was probably also a tactic that felt like it helped at some point.)

[puzzled-artist]

Thank you for the meal

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[samipekoe]

beautiful cat woman save me

[nightmaresyrup]

Iron Golems, J-33VE5 and IVIAR-1A

[depsidase]

[shirohakune]

Dripborne

[cd-crystals]

link to the analysis: https://x.com/Tharizdun03/status/1870085870839074975

[striving-artist]

you know the universal experience of going to search for something online and then realizing as soon as it loads that you massively overlooked a flaw? like searching 'tits' to find out about the birds?

Yeah, so.

I was trying to find what I think is a poem about a guy getting cucked by chatgpt. It went poorly

[toomanystoryideas]

i just saved this poem the other day if you haven’t found it yet here you go!!

[striving-artist]

you are an angel and I love you and thank you for saving me from learning more about the many genai prompt porn generator sites there are

[junglejim4322]

This person wrote a manifesto I ain’t reading all that but this is literally the type of behavior im talking about the idea hobbies all cost money is so removed from reality if you have the time to pick up your phone and write 7 paragraphs on how im victimizing you with my offhanded post you have the time to watch a movie on YouTube with your very same phone instead come on now. How is you freaking out on the internet helping any of these issues

[turbozarky]

things that dont cost money: hiking, walking, birdwatching, identifying plants, drawing (you have a pen, reading (library), collecting rocks, dancing, singing.... etc wtc etc

if you cant find a hobby you can afford, thats a you problem. and if youre posting online, you have a device to do that, get some free games, trawl wikipedia, study something. stop picking fights online and do something else.

[theonceandfutureharpy]

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

if you can write an essay about it on your phone you can write fanfic or poetry or something on your phone also and it will be much nicer for everyone involved, including you

[freshmoviequotes]

I Saw the TV Glow (2024)

[freshmoviequotes]

I Saw the TV Glow (2024)