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brazilian | cluster b + whatever else is wrong with me idefk anymore | aroaceage

[actually-aspd-culture]

Have you ever been called an empath?

Yes

No

Voting ended onApr 20

I thought it would be funny to ask if any of you were ever called an "empath" because I was. Goofiest shit I ever heard.

[actually-aspd-culture]

Reblogging this to garner some more votes in before the poll ends.

[dollbloodydoll]

I was, because I'm good at giving advice relating to emotions lol

Also funny thing: I cry when others cry, but only if I care about them, but even then it's literally just my body's reaction because I sure as hell still don't understand/feel the emotional stuff they're going through. (There's tears in my eyes yet I'm like "my dear friend stop crying this is annoying get over it"

[dollbloodydoll]

I. Fucking. Hate. The stupid. Diagnostic. Criteria. For. As. Pd.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd + aspd culture is getting exhausted of constantly having people tell you they can "handle you being unmasked" and then having them throw back any actual traits in your face when you are truly unwell & treat you like you're a monster.

(little reminder/sorta rant below about dating pw cluster b disorders, but specifically touching on npd + aspd)

just a reminder, if you want to be in a relationship with someone with aspd or npd (really any cluster b disorder) you need to be willing to understand the less pretty parts of the disorders. don't say "i can handle that" without being willing to truly be patient & understand them.

if they lack empathy, don't try to force them to empathize with you. if they struggle with lying, try to be patient when they do so. if they aren't good with affection, don't push them to be affectionate.

if you want to be in a relationship with someone who's mentally ill you need to be willing to go the extra mile. you need to be able to understand they don't work the same way as you. they may struggle with things you don't. that is okay, just be understanding with them. if you can't handle it, be upfront. don't lie to them & act like you can be something for them when you can't. it will just cause more issues in the end if you do.

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[dollbloodydoll]

Reblogging this again because of the tags

[rose-chateau]

Those "how to defeat a narcissist" articles are so stupid because if people didn't have a general conscious of narcissists being Bad People, these articles would just be abuse tactics.

"How to destroy your partner." "How to break down your girlfriend's self esteem." "How to collapse your boyfriend's ego." "How to break your partner so they stop being so disrespectful, know their place, and know their own worth in comparison to yours, as an alpha gamer."

Literally sigma male podcast shit.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd culture is doing one (1) very simple household chore without being asked and wondering why your roommates aren't treating you like a hero

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[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd + aspd culture is getting exhausted of constantly having people tell you they can "handle you being unmasked" and then having them throw back any actual traits in your face when you are truly unwell & treat you like you're a monster.

(little reminder/sorta rant below about dating pw cluster b disorders, but specifically touching on npd + aspd)

just a reminder, if you want to be in a relationship with someone with aspd or npd (really any cluster b disorder) you need to be willing to understand the less pretty parts of the disorders. don't say "i can handle that" without being willing to truly be patient & understand them.

if they lack empathy, don't try to force them to empathize with you. if they struggle with lying, try to be patient when they do so. if they aren't good with affection, don't push them to be affectionate.

if you want to be in a relationship with someone who's mentally ill you need to be willing to go the extra mile. you need to be able to understand they don't work the same way as you. they may struggle with things you don't. that is okay, just be understanding with them. if you can't handle it, be upfront. don't lie to them & act like you can be something for them when you can't. it will just cause more issues in the end if you do.

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[sociopathcanid]

The only thing stopping me from most of what I want to do is consequence

[cluster-b-culture-is]

ASPD culture is, how the fuck am I nicer and more considerate than you (general you) fuckers? aren't I supposed to have the 'rude dickhead with zero consideration of how something may affect other people' disorder??? how am I able to think 'this could offend someone, I should steer clear of it' when prosocials put no effort into doing the same thing? bruh??

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[impunkster-syndrome]

I think more "covert" (i.e. masking, comorbidity complexity with presentation, presentations that are not the stereotypical "No emotions who doesn't care about other people for any reason whatsoever") forms of ASPD are not talked about enough.

I just had someone say to me that a character cares about another character, therefore they can't even have ASPD traits. That tells me that this person sees me as someone with ASPD that because I have a moirail and do have some social connections with some people, I am suddenly cured of my ASPD or am faking my condition.

How I care about people (Usually very selectively) is just different than how prosocials do, but that difference doesn't mean not existing at all. I keep people for company, and if I had a problem with them, they would know immediately. My ASPD is intertwined with my BPD. Even when I feel no emotions like apathy swings, I rationalize being around others for various reasons. My moirail is useful for getting me to calm down and build better coping skills. I do not need an emotional connection to have a reason to give a shit about someone or care about them. Sometimes it is literally just "This person makes me laugh."

This does not mean it is 100% true for all people with ASPD. It's still pretty unfair to have a blanket assumption that all antisocials are incapable of relationships due to their ASPD. For those who have ASPD play a part in an inability to have relationships (Not just romantic, but any kind), that's something to clarify for their own experiences and it's a just fine experience with its own struggles like mine is.

[velvetvexations]

NPD abuse advocates: Narcs are evil. They're fucked up. They want to destroy you and turn you into a soulless puppet to fuel their infinite hunger.

Me, a narc: Awhile ago I got the impression I may have possibly mildly irritated a really close friend and it haunts me periodically, popping up in the back of my head to remind me that in that moment I ruined my life forever by dragging their perception of me down a percent of a percent for the three seconds it continued to live in their head before they most certainly forgot about it. I could ask for reassurance but it was so minor and the paranoid fantasy I've constructed so convoluted that it would just be even more mortifying to have to bother them with it.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd culture is my head hurts but I'm being very brave about it and I should get praised for being so cool

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[narcissisticpdcultureis]

(Npd traits culture is) it's not a fucking delusion of greatness, I am, in fact, superior

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[narcissisticpdcultureis]

(Aspd, deitykin, npd traits culture is) I'm so superior to all these beings in so many ways, they should be grateful for my existence and worship me

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[dollbloodydoll]

It's already hard having an alcohol phobia as a non-pd person but as someone with aspd, therefore prone to addictions and self-destructive behaviors, it's even worse cus not only am I terrified of alcohol for reasons I don't even understand but I'm utterly aware I feel the pull to self-harm myself by getting myself addicted

[dollbloodydoll]

The funny thing about me is that I don't remember. What? Anything. Do I have trauma? All the symptoms point to yes but I don't remember. Do I have a personality disorder? All the symptoms point to yes but I don't remember anything to help confirm it. No memory no memory no memory

[tritiyum]

wanting so bad for someone to comfort and take care of me but also that would mean being vulnerable and admitting that i struggle with some things and i would actually rather die

[narcissus-son]

What is the difference between a “chosen person” and an “equal person”?

The terms chosen person and equal person refer to the special people a pwNPD have in their life. People with Cluster B disorders may have a “special person” in their life that can mark a difference in the way they have relationships with others. So, much like how pwBPD have their favorite person (FP, for short), pwNPD can have an equal person (EP) or a chosen person (CHP).

But what is the difference?

From what I have seen from other people with NPD, as well as my own experiences, both terms can be chalked up to as this:

Equal person is the person that is equally as important to the narcissist. The EP may be on the same level or close to as the narcissist, hence the name. This is a person that the narcissist cares for, who’s emotions and feelings are acknowledged.

Chosen person is the person that the narcissist values above everybody else. In other words, they are someone worthy of the narcissist’s time. Chosen people may be chosen because they hold a trait or have charcteristics that may interest the narcissist.

Why are these special bonds formed for pwNPD?

Simply put, the traits of our personality disorder may cause us to have rocky relationships with other people. It causes us not to care about other people, see them as inferior/useless, and become distant from some.

Empathy is a struggle for pwNPD, we don’t really have much of it. That is why EPs are special—they are a person the narcissist cares about, and sees close to or on their level.

Some pwNPD may not be all about socialization or having close friends. That is why CHPs are special—the narcissist likes this person a lot, and considers them worthy.

A chosen person can be an equal person, and vice versa. But they are not the same thing.

An equal person can just be an equal person. The narcissist may not have any relationship with them, or consider them a CHP. They are just a person the narcissist sees on their or close to their level.

A chosen person can just be a chosen person. The narcissist may not see their CHP as an equal—they are just someone the narcissist picked.

However, from what I’ve heard and my own personal experience, some pwNPD have CHPs or EPs that are also EPs or CHPs! Whatever they decide to use to describe their person, depends on the narcissist. Some use equal person, others chosen person.

I haven’t seen any posts about the topic, so I decided to make a post to spread the word. I hope this might help clear some things up for non-NPD and for my fellow narcissists!