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don't call what you create "content". regardless of what it is. that's the devil talking. call it art, call it writing, call it music, call it analysis, call it editing, literally just call it what it is

I was going to put other things but oh my god please just don't call yourself a "content creator". you are a person you are making art / writing / music / etc you are an artist an author a musician

you are not an Image Generator For Clicks And Views. please. allow yourself to connect with your work by naming it properly and acknowledging yourself in kind

ramshacklefey

Gonna add on to this, if that's ok, because I think a lot of people don't know how to categorize their work:

Shitposting? You're a comedian, a satirist.

Long posts about other people's art? You're a critic (positive), a scholar.

Long posts exploring ideas, society, and the world around you? You're an essayist, a philosopher.

Can't get enough of sharing information about X topic? You're a scholar, an educator, a columnist.

Just love collecting and sharing other people's stuff on your blog? Archivist, curator, collector.

Just not sure where you fit? Babe, you're a blogger.

You don't have to be a professional (ie get paid) to be any of these things. You can claim the title without making any claims to the quality of your work. It's ok.

t0ast-ghost

So the thing that I think sticks out most to me about obsession (other than the phenomenal acting, sound design, filming and editing of course) is the fact that within the story you can see how it all could’ve been okay. Not the wish, the wish never could’ve been okay, but without the wish. Without Bear’s obsession. The movie makes it so you can see it so clearly. They give you this image in so many ways—they give him these opportunities before and after the wish to choose the right thing, choose the hard thing. But he never does. For example he chose to buy her the one wish willow instead of the citrine necklace. In the movie they’re vague about it but do you know what citrine is good for? Inspiring creativity, giving clarity and motivation. That is exactly what Nikki wants, what she says she wants in the car ride over to her house. It’s what Bear would get her if he actually knew or cared for her instead of the idea of her, if he put more effort in than just the thought. But no, he buys the wish because I don’t think he ever really intended to give it to her because have you ever seen something in a store and really wanted it but you’re there to buy something for a friend so you get it for them and just a small part of you wishes that it won’t end up with them? That it will stay with you instead? You justify it by thinking “well I’m the one who bought it anyway, it’s mine.” Because really it wasn’t for them, it was for you. His gift—his love, it wasn’t for her, it was for him.

ceruleanheaven

nikki begging bear to kill her and all he does is ask whats so bad about being with him. one of the most nauseating scenes ive ever witnessed

soap-bucket-9540

I finally went to see Obsession with my mom, good movie, easy rec

However the entire time there was this old hillbilly guy a few rows behind us occasionally commenting on what was happening which should have been annoying but honestly it really enhanced the experience

When Bear made his wish, I hear the guy quietly go "goddamnit son" like a true disappointed father which is an appropriate reaction

When Nikki started freaking out at the restaurant, he goes "shee-it"

When Bear was thinking about killing himself I swear I heard the guy egging him on like "do it pussy do it" but it was loud so I can't be sure it was him

When Nikki randomly broke the window and starts brutally killing the other girl the guy yelled "golly!" Im not joking

spider-swift

one thing that I keep coming back to about nikki's character is that to me, there's a sense of infantilisation after the wish is made. we know from the get-go that whoever or whatever has overtaken her autonomy is young, fresh, learning as it goes (see: confusing her grief over sandy as sandy being her cat, and then having to correct herself) but additionally, i feel we see nikki regress in a misogynistic manner. wishing she was in work, even though she couldn't wait to get out of the place, so she can be with bear. not wanting him to leave her side at the party. the delivery of 'actually? no!' outside bear's car sounding like a petulant child when she's first under the control of the wish. the frown. the tantrum in the restaurant and the baby-like crying in the middle of night. the needing bear to tell her to shower, to check that she's not ill, to give her permission to make decisions about her own wellbeing without his input. the needing to be scolded when she puts together sandy's memorial before she can recognise the immorality of it. when bear tells her off for making the sandwich and says 'you cannot do that!' like a parent. yes, wish nikki is a brand-new being, but also, wish nikki presents herself as someone more dependant, incapable, and childish, despite nikki being an intelligent, accomplished writer, because it automatically assumes the woman bear wants is someone entirely reliant on him. the ideal woman is a submissive and mouldable one.

spider-swift

adding these tags by @mime-rodeo that i really liked <3

gaycultists

my partner brought up a great point on our way home from seeing obsession: everything that bear has in his life is because of women. the house was his grandmothers, the pills were his grandmothers, it seems that he has his job because sarahs dad owns the music store, at the beginning he says he became close to nikki after his aunt died, and hes even sold the initial one wish by a woman working at the metaphysical shop. every single thing he has in his life is from a woman and he STILL cant respect their autonomy.

thebowieconstrickter

Was thinking about how fitting it is that Bear wants to be a food critic while Nikki wants to be a writer.

He wants to complain about the creations of someone else, adding nothing but despair to their lives, refusing to contribute anything helpful or new.

She wants to create something original but is stuck in an imitation of herself, forced to reenact a plot she hates.

cinemascientist

He also wants a passive job that he hasn't put any thought into. He seems to say it as almost a joke. Free food! Like he doesn't want to put any effort in to even feeding himself. (If he made his own lunch the sandwich scenario wouldn't have gone down.)

zedpostin

only further zest to Bear's sheer characterized laziness that I don't see people commenting on is his pointed use of AI. It only happens like twice to my recollection, but those two times are more than enough to show that he's the type to only focus on the end result of a given outcome, in no world does this shitlord want to put in the effort /or/ feel as though he's to blame for his own actions.

Disrespectfully, fuck Bear.

nessa007

do y’all understand just how insane this is???? 🤯

via filmdreams

griseldagimpel

Not just them! Iron Lung made $50 million on a $3 million budget.

griseldagimpel

And The Amazing Digital Circus: The Last Act has made $37 million on a $1 million budget!

This has been a very good year for indie horror in the theaters.

acefuruya

nikki breaks my heart so bad because in the brief moments we see her before the wish kicks in, she's so cool and funny, clearly kindhearted, very driven about her future (telling bear about how she was going to quit her job to focus on her writing), and also very sure of herself as a person. ive seen people describe this movie as "mean-spirited" and I think thats so apt because it was a 2 hour long tragedy of the torture of this innocent girl, taking away everything she's ever had, including her own sense of self, putting her through unimaginable horrors, and leaving her with nothing except the three dead bodies of her friends, with the one who she trusted most being the one who did this to her. nothing for her to look for hope in, because she has nothing before her except a lifetime in prison or in an institution. it would be one thing if the movie ended on a note like weapons, where everything was over and there would hopefully be recovery somewhere down the line, but here, not only was the evil not committed by a random stranger but her closest friend, but she doesn't get any chance at recovery either. so goddamn tragic. on that note, if anyone can come up with some sort of fix-it for nikki please link it to me because I will be crying about this girl forever.

vict1mthree

LITERALLY BRO AND PPL STILL SYMPATHIZE WITH BEAR?!?!??????? AUGHHHH

svperluminous

People who sympathize with Bear are my enemy.

summerbrook

it is terrifying that bear only sought to "alter" his wish rather than cancelling it but what is even more terrifying is that he wouldn't even have called the number had nikki not inconvenienced him. if she did not act in such extreme ways bear wouldn't even have a problem. which is sooooo sooooo terrifying because he was completely fine living and being "loved" by nikki who he knew wasn't the real her. he claimed to love her, but even when she started acting like a totally different person it was water off a duck's back for him. he DIDN'T CARE whether it was the real nikki or an entirely different person.

even when she begs him to kill her, he does not feel even a shred of pity for her; he only worries "is being with me that bad".

the only reason he tries to change anything is because her behavior started to scare him FREAK him out. had she acted in a meeker way, bear would've lived with her HIS WHOLE LIFE knowing she ISN'T the real nikki NOT GIVING A FUCK about what she would've wanted. PERIOD.

the more i sit with it the more i realise that the title of the movie did not refer to nikki's obsession with bear but rather his obsession with her. because i know fs that what he felt for her definitely wasn't love.

smilesbag

i feel like people are overlooking the moment at the beginning of obsession where nikki straight up asks "do you like me?" and once bear lies and says no she replies "ok, good." for starters, it was a chilling moment to me because this is such a classic experience of having a close guy friend, only to realize that he wants more from you. girls aren't dumb! nikki isn't dumb! of course she knows that bear is into her, she has eyes! she can see his stuttering and sheepishness and she's just dreading the moment she has to turn him down, to tell him that he's like a brother to her. just before she had told him that she doesn't feel real love in her life, and i don't think it would be a leap to attribute a small part of that feeling to her fear that her friendship with bear isn't as simple as she wants it to be.

it's also a chilling question from nikki because once she walks away bear knows that she doesn't feel the same way about him, and he makes the wish anyway. he is incapable or unwilling to take a hint and see that she doesn't feel the same way. and that question is the last thing she says to him before he ruins her life forever. it's unfair.

starvariety

oh and another thing that devastates me about Obsession is how much nikki is judged and blamed by those around her. sarah and ian repeatedly telling bear that he shouldn’t have to deal with her, that she’s not his responsibility, that they’re worried she’s taking advantage of him. as if they aren’t also her friends, as if they shouldn’t know her well enough to notice something is off. there’s no concern for why nikki is behaving the way she is, there’s just distain towards it. she starts acting out of character and so it must all be intentional. but bear doesn’t get questioned. bear isn’t gossiped about. nikki loses all her agency and autonomy, and all she gets for it is judgment

officialdietcoke

on my second viewing of obsession, i had the realization that nikki’s story at the party wasn’t the movie using incest as an easy shorthand for making the audience uncomfortable or creating a general “things are off” vibe but was another way the real nikki was crying out—a metaphor for the fact that nikki, like gretel, is being made to fuck her “little brother” (bear) under duress, at the behest of an external magic (the witch’s spell in her story; obviously, bear’s wish)

modernmusess

there’s something so gutwrenching about the fact that the female characters in obsession have real dreams and wishes but never get the chance to see them realized, while both male characters waste their wishes on short-term selfish satisfaction. they were complex, free-spirited young women who just wanted to create art, and they were destroyed by a man determined to confine them to his superficial perception of them. nikki wanted to be a writer, sarah wanted to be an tattoo artist and now neither of them will get to be anything at all