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[pathobbang]

i have always associate japan with him because it felt like it was his happy place in this chaotic world. we broke up many many years ago but i never seem to get over him for some reason because it burnt too bright too fast and there were many what ifs.

like i mentioned, it was very hard getting over this person but i saw his stories lately and it was kind of a wake up call because there were so many changes and the person that have been in my memories all these while isnt there anymore.

so here's to me finally realising that it was all in my head. the person that i knew was long gone and i should finally move on as well. here's to everyone trying to get over someone, the person that you think they are is actually just in your head cause most probably that person dont exist anymore.

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

Boundaries for ED recoverers can look like this:

"Please don't talk to me about your diet, diet culture is not good for me."

"If you continue to make comments about my body, I'm going to walk away."

"I know you're trying to be helpful, but hearing about your diet tips is not good for me. I am stating a boundary."

"I know you meant it as a compliment, but please don't focus on my body so much. It makes me feel self-conscious."

"Please don't make comments about what I eat. It makes me feel extremely self-conscious. If you continue to do this, I will not have meals with you in the future."

"You're not my therapist/doctor/nutritionist, so your advice is not relevant or helpful to me."

I might post more as they come to me. Feel free to use these freely and don't worry about offending others. Your health is your priority!

[spidervee]

Hi love, I'm sorry to bother but I'm quite honestly vexed with the news so:

There are no words to describe how utterly disgusted I am by the Supreme Court's decision to outrun Roe v Wade. As a woman the fact that women as a whole don't have the right to their bodies anymore is purely terrifying. In the past there were so many women (and some men) that fought till their dying breath for women's rights, for abortion rights and got it and now? Now the US has taken so many bloody steps back, they've undone what those people worked so hard to get and it's truly gut wrenching. I am utterly revolted by the lack of understanding and respect for the need of an abortion. I feel sick to my stomach and I don't even live in the US.

It's made me so mad I just can't even explain it in proper words or without repeating myself </3

Never a bother, love. All I can say is that I agree. It’s fundamentally wrong to control and restrict access to medical procedures that can save lives. And hell, even if you are an anti-choice person, I just can’t comprehend your need to take away another person’s bodily autonomy. If you hate abortion, don’t get one. But how on earth does it affect you if your neighbour does? Like, I’m not going around saying WOW your decision to have a child OFFENDS me. That rhetoric is bull. That’s why it’s not about the “life” of the cells that become a fetus. It’s about controlling and oppressing women and maintaining a pseudo-religious state. Gross. I know it’s impossible to express. Stay well. Stay safe 🌻

[davidsfincher]

DYLAN O'BRIEN as RICHIE BOYLE in THE OUTFIT

[obiwan]

#Steven Grant:

[everyonehasamnesia]

As someone recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, one thing that’s been helping me grapple with the intense shame I have over all my “wasted potential” is accepting that potential doesn’t exist and never did.

This sounds so harsh, but please bare with me.

I procrastinated a lot growing up. I still procrastinate today, but less so. And yet, I got good grades. I could write an A+ paper that “knocked [my professor]’s socks off” in the hour before class and print it with sweat running down my face.

I was so used to hearing from teachers and family that if I just didn’t procrastinate and worked all the time, I could do anything! I had all this potential I wasn’t living up to!

And that’s true, as far as it goes, but that’s like saying if Usain Bolt just kept going he could be the fastest marathon runner in the world. Why does he stop at the end of the race??

If ANYONE could make their top speed/most productive setting the one they used all the time, anyone could do anything. But you can’t. Your top speed is not a speed you’re able to sustain.

Now, I’ve found that I do need to work on not procrastinating. Not because the product is better, even, but because it’s better for my mental health and physical health to not have a full, sweating, panicked breakdown over every task even if the task itself turns out excellently. It’s a shitty way to live! You feel bad ALL the time! And I don’t deserve to live like that anymore.

So all of this to say, I’m not wasting a ton of potential. I don’t have an ocean of productivity and accomplishments inside of me that I could easily, effortlessly access if I just sat down 8 hours a day and worked. There’s no fucking way. That’s not real. It’s an illusion. It’s fine not to live up to an illusion.

And if you have ADHD, I mean this from the bottom of my heart: you do not have limitless potential confounded by your laziness. You have the good potential of a good person, and you can access it with practice and work, but do not accept the story that you are choosing not to be all that you are or can be. You are just a human person.

[autumnyte-old]

When I was younger, I wish someone had told me straight-up that not all adults experience “a calling”. That many of them never find particular purpose in a career. That sometimes, their job is just what pays the bills and they have to seek satisfaction and fulfillment elsewhere. 

Because as an adult, this pervasive notion that there exists a perfect path for everyone, that people should love what they do, and that work is meant to function as a vehicle for fulfilling a person’s grand life destiny is not only inaccurate for many of us, it can be toxic.

The ideal is so ingrained that I have to remind myself constantly I’m not a failure because I don’t adore my job, and because I’m not rocking the world with my work. That is okay. 

Sometimes, work is just work. There isn’t always a perfect career path, magically waiting to be discovered. There might not be this THING you were born to do. Sometimes, you discover that what you really want to be when you grow up is “paid”.

[stayingmachine-moved]

and something else: your career doesn’t have to be your calling. you can do what you love (writing, music, drawing, knitting) as a hobby. it doesn’t have to pay the bills. it’s okay to do an office job and then go home to your hobby. there are different paths to passion.

[coffineds]

Robert Pattinson | GQ Magazine (2022)

photographed by Jack Bridgland

[imdatingurdad]

Wtf is hook up culture? write me poems then die in a war

[aliciavikander]

MATT MURDOCK + text posts

[bugmistake]

i need y'all to join me in the splendor of looking at these guys

EDIT: these are called palm pals! here's the link!

[dont-give-a-fuck-club]

Im too young to be turning the age im turning this year

[supermegahijabi]

Matt Murdock exposed himself to save the one person that would’ve caught the brick. I know he was screaming in his head lmao.

[nowadayz]

The Amazing Spider-Man 2012 | dir. Marc Webb

[laurens-german]

“I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car, I hate it when you stare. I hate your big, dumb combat boots and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick, it even makes me rhyme. I hate the way you’re always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh, even worse when you make me cry. I hate it when you’re not around. And the fact that you didn’t call. But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you. Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.”

10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU (1999) dir. Gil Junger

[constellatedlove]

thinking abt when someone rests their head on your shoulder and suddenly you’re barely breathing because you don’t want to disrupt their comfort by moving. will never get over how there can be so much love held in silent gestures.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

do you have any good general tips for communication, especially in a new relationship?

Don't expect people to know something you haven't actually communicated and don't rely on hints and passive aggressive behavior. You gotta tell people exactly what you want them to know directly to their face, even if it's scary or awkward.

Don't worry too much about how to articulate what you want to say. Just say it. Showing up imperfectly is better than not showing up.

Choose one issue you want to discuss and stick to said topic. Don't drag 50 unrelated issues into the conversation. That's not constructive and will likely only escalate the conflict.

Don't make accusations. If you fear abandonment, go with "I'm afraid of losing you" not "you'll just leave me like everyone else." If you need more attention, go with "I would love for us to spend more time together" not "you probably don't even like me anymore" - and so on. Learn to articulate your feelings without accusing anyone of bad intentions.

When you and your partner are discussing an issue, repeat what your partner is telling you back to them in your own words so that they can correct you if you misunderstood something. Have your partner do the same when you speak.

If you want something to change, make your request concrete. What exactly does "help out more" mean to you? What does "give me more attention" mean in practice? You should know that before starting the discussion.

Learn to take and give constructive criticism without anyone taking it as a personal attack. Melting down and going "I'm just a horrible person who doesn't deserve you" every time your partner has a minor issue with something you do will just derail the conversation and remove focus from the original issue. So you shouldn't do that.

Remember that even when you disagree, it's not you VS your partner - it's you and your partner VS the problem!