Hello! I'm Ardyn, and I decided to make this guide because after talking to many systems, I've come to realize that moving from a near medianhood to a full multiplicity may encourage better function for certain systems. For us any identity blurriness brings a lot of pain that has been aided by further separation and amnesiac barriers. Before you put an awful judgement on this, remember that healing is different for everyone, and breaking down barriers isn't best for everyone. This is up to the system, there is no guilt on wanting to do what is best for your system.
RADQUEERS DONT TOUCH
This guide will hold many different exercises and ideas that have been taken from tulpamancy and my own experiences.
first I'd say get situated with identity grounding and also following the "The Body is a Car" exercise within these sources
Identity Grounding
Guide to Switching
Building up Distinction
Separate Journals/Diaries
A seperate journal or diary that nobody can write in but that headmate is a good way to help a headmate build up their identity. They will be able to write down their own experiences and their own feelings, and this seperate space gives reinforces the idea that they are ultimately apart from you.
Separate Accounts with a Separate Feed
Something that pushed for the blur was having similar feeds, seeing my interest would push me to the front and cause issues for Vincent. He ended up making his own account on reddit where he is able to join subreddits that appeal to solely his interest, and it would help keep him at front instead of pull someone else.
Distinct Hobbies
encourage your headmates to pick up hobbies that are not something you may be interested in, hobbies give way to individuality as now they may seek others who share that hobby or spaces online that appeals to that hobby.
Different Clothing and Ownership
Assign different clothing and other items to headmates, let them pick out their own jacket and may they be the only ones to wear that jacket. Let them have their own perfume, let them have their own bag, let them have their own keychain for the car keys. This won't just give you that barrier, but also can be used as a form of identity grounding during a blur. When in blur, you will be able to tell whose fronting based on what clothing makes you feel more yourself.
Different Friends
This option may be more difficult, but it works very efficiently. Let your headmates have their own friend, I mean it. Giving them someone outside the system that they themselves can solely talk to is absolutely perfect in giving that split. Interacting and communication outside the body and encouraging unmasking will do wonders.
Drop Part Language
If you really want to encourage separation, you will have to drop the idea that you are all pieces of another. This is however a preference, speak to your headmates about it. Speak to them about terms they may prefer, maybe customized role names, let them be themselves. Push to yourself too that these are different people, not parts of you. But like I said, if parts language isn't an issue for you, then you might not have to change after all :P but I recommend it for this all to work.
Identity Separating Exercises
Now as you have pushed the formation of these headmates, now it's your goal to start separating them more and more through these exercises
Remember: Fake it until you make it
Being consistent in these exercises will be great, but you also have to make sure you believe that they are working. Plurality is very much a brain game, you have power over yourself and the more you believe these separations the more they will be. Some of these exercises are purely for pushing the belief, I recommend having a collection of proof on your plurality to refer to whenever you get doubtful.
I also recommend joining a tulpamancy community such as a discord or reddit, even if you don't practice tulpamancy, these people have so much trust in themselves and the process that it starts to rub off on you.
Separation Meditation
If you are able to visualize and even after doing all the above you still feel like your headmate hasn't fully left you, this exercise may be useful. In this meditation, you are to visualize the headmate in front of you. Then repeat "___ is a separate person from me" repeatedly for however long you like once a day.
Discussions
Speak to your headmates, ask questions about their lives
Here is a good source on that
Preface It’s often difficult to find things to talk to your tulpa about, especially when you’re just starting to work on vocality, or your t
The best route to take is to discuss opinions and specifically focus on what you disagree on, this will reinforce in your mind that this person is not you, this person does not agree with you, this person has their own opinion. Focus on those ideas until they really settle, and maybe also record these disagreements in your proof collection.
Affirmations
If you are a bit too busy for these things, constant affirmation throughout the day are both simple and helpful. Here is a good list
"__ is a seperate person from me"
"the system has entirely different and seperate people"
"___ is real and a seperate person"
"the system is noticeably distinct"
at first it may feel silly, but like I said, fake it until you make it. These will reinforce ideas.
Building Up Amnesiac Barriers
This may be more controversial, but for us these barriers help a ton. I would like to say that we already had blackout amnesia to begin with, but these exercises made them "worse". There are many reasons why a system may want to have higher amnesiac barriers, ours being privacy and independence, try to avoid judgement on this decision. The Switching Guide above also has an exercise that will push lost time.
"Cancel Recall"
When a memory from another headmate tries to seep into your thought process, immediately cover that memory and say to yourself "This memory isn't mine to remember". Perhaps visualize a door closing on it or a lock appearing on that memory. Mentally assign that memory to the correct headmate and move on
Affirmation
Affirmations that may help these barriers can be used situationally, just whenever you try and remember a time another headmate fronted think "No, I don't remember"
Headspace Tools
If you have a headspace, try using creation. Imagine cutting memory ties off with everyone else that can only temporarily be connected when agreed upon by both parties. Maybe also set up a headspace memory lock system.
Using Remnants left behind
When I say this I mean use something such as text messages a headmate left behind and when scrolling through them, focus and think "This wasn't me, I don't remember typing this".
Memory Redirection
Most times it's harder to push a memory away than just redirect it. When redirecting memory, for example you start to remember something another headmate did in meatspace, recite "that wasn't me, what did I do during this time" and attempt to recall your time within the headspace instead.
FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT, REMEMBER THAT
what do you guys think? any changes we should make? we would love to hear how this guide impacted your system!
Animatronic+Night Guard: an All-Ages nichelink relationship/relationship dynamic where one person is the "animatronic" and the other is their "night guard," akin to the relationship between a night guard and an animatronic in the Five Nights at Freddy's franchise.
this is Fiction-Based and depending on your interpretations may be seen as a subset of Ghost+Haunted or interchangeable with G+H. this relationship may include, but isn't limited to:
the animatronic needing care/guidance, and the night guard wanting to provide that, or generally keeping an eye on them, perhaps to keep them from bad habits
the night guard periodically checking in on the animatronic, but the animatronic largely being independent
the people in the relationship being dissofnaf, intusanimatronic, kin/introject/alterhuman/stel of someone from the five nights at freddy's franchise, or similar terms
attraction terms that involve death, horror, nostalgia, or similar themes, such as phantohumaffectis, phasmahauntiyn or spirhabitic
basically everything described in the Ghost+Haunted coining post
nichelink coining
these flags inspired mine somewhat: puppet's show, intusanimatronic
tagging: @radiomogai | @mediamogai | @horrormogai | @redacted-coiner // reply to be untagged or to be tagged in similar terms
Sometimes healing starts with small, quiet gestures. Here are some things that helped us feel safer inside and out:
🖍️ Make a collage of images and words that feel safe.
💌 Write comforting letters to your headmates. Encourage them to write back!
💗 Create a list of grounding tools and affirmations. Keep it somewhere where everyone can find when it's needed!
🧸 Offer external comfort objects like a soft blanket, a bracelet, or toy.
🔒 Create a “grounding box" with items that engage the senses. For example, you can use photos for sight, perfume for smell, candy for taste, and fidget toys for touch.
🛏️ Design safe areas in your innerworld where anyone can rest, hide, or heal.
🎁 Let headmates have something they can call their own, like a a journal.
🕯️ Visualize something protecting your innerworld. It can be anything: a magic barrier, a tall tree, a dragon, a glowing rune.
🎧 Make a playlist of soothing sounds or songs. Let others know it’s okay to listen.
🐚 Speak kindly inside, even if you’re frustrated. It sets the tone. It shows you’re trying.
trying to get something started for people with imaginary friends, paras without paracosms, inner and outer visualizations, etc
Didn't find what I was looking for in Immersive Daydreaming or Tulpamancy places.
And there's an odd concept floating around that making a non-sentient thoughtform = cruel or unethical? Which seems backwards, if someone doesn't want or isn't prepared for that, it's like getting someone a pet rabbit for Easter when they're better off with a stuffed animal.
And while looking I've found people who have expressed interest, so...
Imagimancy (?)
(eh-maj-eh-manse-see)
Trying to make a community/tag for people with non-autonomous (or fauxtonomous) imaginaries and thoughtform constructs, NPCs and such.
focusing more on visualization/imagination tips/talk, ideas for useful constructs, etc. No pushing people into making thoughtforms autonomous if they don't want to!
(currently very alterhuman heavy / ties to alterhumanity in general but isn't required or officially an alterhuman thing)
not trying to reinvent and re-label things, there's just a gap between communities here
inclusive of all system types :] feel free to send an ask, or reblog if you want to play too!
❤ Is anyone in-system in a relationship? What kind(s)?
🌹 Does your system have any inhuman members? If so, what species are they?
🐾 Is your system mostly human or inhuman members? Somewhere in between?
🧡 How does your system handle memories? Does everyone share, or is it split across members? (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
⭐ Do you have a headspace / inner world? What does it look like?
💛 How long have you known about your system / plurality?
🌻 How did you discover your system / plurality? (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
🌙 How does your system handle dreams? Do you share dreams, or are they specific to one member? Do any members show up in dreams?
💚 Do you have any funny stories about another system member(s) or about being a system?
🍀 Do any system members practice a religion or belief system? What about spirituality?
❄ Do you have a favorite memory related to your system? (i.e. something that happened in headspace or something that another member did.)
💙 Does your system have any introjects? Do they typically come from the same source / origin, or is it more varied?
🧵 How does your system handle the body's / vessel's appearance? Does everyone dress the same, or is there a broad range of styles?
💜 What's your favorite part of being plural / in a system?
🌺 Do any members consider other system members to be family? In other words, does your system have any internal families (such as siblings, caretakers, parents, etc.) ?
🌸 Does your system have any inside jokes?
🎀 Does your system share everything in the outer world / meatspace? Does anyone have any objects / items that are solely theirs?
🤎 Do system members typically agree on things or is there a broad range of opinions?
🖤 How does your system make important collective decisions? Does one person call the shots, or is it a group effort?
🚀 Do any members speak another language? What about multiple languages? Does everyone speak the same language(s), or does it vary?
🌼 Do any members have accents or typing quirks? Are accents/quirks common in your system, or more rare?
☁ How does your system handle switching? Can you switch easily, or does it take more effort? Are there a lot of switches?
🔬 Does everyone in your system typically share skills and hobbies, or does it vary between members? Does anyone have any unique or strange hobbies / skills?
🏁 How has your system changed over time, if it has? Such as a new influx of members, a change in headspace, or a new structure. (Feel free to be as vague or specific as you want, or skip this question.)
🔎 Is there any other trivia about your system you'd like to share?
🤍 Say something positive about another system member (or all of them, if you'd like!)
IMPORTANT:
Please do not answer this survey if you believe trauma was involved in the formation of your system/plurality.
You can have tra
Who can take it? people who are plural due to anything other than trauma (regardless of individual headmate origins)
What is it about? how non-traumagenic plurals are formed and how they present/work
What will happen with the data? it's public to view and the link is in the survey description!
Are you plural yourself? I am not! But I have a big interest in plural communities and have done for years now! I'm anti-hate towards any plural origins and I engage a lot with the community and love learning about it
:33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes those who actively watch/read anime, and make awfully unfunny references 24/7 because they like it. its a hobby, let people enjoy what they enjoy
:33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes therians who want to do quads 24/7, always talk about warrior cats, always want to wear gear, even in public, and experience extreme dysphoria. that is their identity. let them be
B33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes that introject/fictive that cannot let go of their source. (and typing quirks if they have one) they are trying their hardest, please leave them alone
:33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes that queer person that wears a gajillion pins, carries pride flags everywhere, uses a bunch of xenogenders and neopronouns, has the most extreme flamboyant make up and makes queer jokes all the time. thats how they experience their queerness
B33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes the plurals/systems who talk about being a system/being plural all the time and make system jokes and references to their headspace 24/7. all experience are different
:33 < "to be cringe is to be free" includes that scene kid that wears heavy make up, a bunch of accessories that dont even mix together, and always talks about their sparkledog fursona. thats how they express themselves
"to be cringe is to be free" involves cringe people.
People are saying "omg "the future is plural" means traumatizing people!!" Or saying it implies that or whatever
But bro when we first saw it we thought it meant making more tulpamancers 💀 (obviously not forcing people to do that just like telling people they can) (there'd be a helluva (omg source ref⁉️) lot more systems if more people knew about tulpamancy and if it was accepted more)
Reblog for people to send asks about your tulpamancy!
For Tulpas:
[For Tulpas:]
1a: Are you a totally original tulpa identity wise, or are u sourced from somewhere/inspired by someone/something? Tell the world a bit about yourself!
2a: What's your first memory/thought you know came from you and not the host?
3a: What's your favorite hobby or activity? This is directed more towards outerworld activities, but if you can't front then innerworld ones count too
4a: Do you have a song or playlist for yourself? If so, link something from it or talk about a lyric you like!
5a: Are you the only tulpa in your system? If so, would ya ever want other tulpa(s)? If you're not, talk about the other tulpas you know!
6a: What's you're favorite thing about being alive? Little and big things both count!
7a: What's something you've discovered for yourself that you enjoy separately from your host? Alternatively, what's an outerworld item you like more than your host or own for yourself?
8a: What's a personal belief you feel differently about than your host?
For Hosts:
[For Hosts:]
1b: What made you decide to go through the tulpamancy process? Alternatively, if your tulpa was accidental what made you realize they're sentient?
2b: Did you create a wonderland first, or start creating a tulpa first? What was it like creating a tulpa with or without a wonderland?
3b: How has your life changed since your tulpa became sentient? Tell us some things you've experienced together!
4b: Have you made a single tulpa, or have you made multiple?
5b: What kinda skills have you trained at with your tulpa? (ex. fronting skills, partial possession, imposition, etc)
6b: What's your favorite memory of doing something with your tulpa?
7b: How long has it been since you started tulpamancy?
8b: What kinds of things do you do to make sure you're sharing your life with your tulpa?
1a: Are you a totally original tulpa identity wise, or are u sourced from somewhere/inspired by someone/something? Tell the world a bit about yourself!
i guess in a way im original since im based from an oc that wasnt suppose to be a tulpa since im accidental
2a: What's your first memory/thought you know came from you and not the host?
i have no idea
3a: What's your favorite hobby or activity? This is directed more towards outerworld activities, but if you can't front then innerworld ones count too
talking to people outside of my host and skateboard
4a: Do you have a song or playlist for yourself? If so, link something from it or talk about a lyric you like!
we started to create a playlist for me, but i listen to anything my host likes. but we both have a preference for music that reminds us about eachother
5a: Are you the only tulpa in your system? If so, would ya ever want other tulpa(s)? If you're not, talk about the other tulpas you know!
im the only tulpa and i dont mind being the only one, we both think its already enough
6a: What's you're favorite thing about being alive? Little and big things both count!
having deep and honest conversation about people and being able to talk about my feelings
7a: What's something you've discovered for yourself that you enjoy separately from your host? Alternatively, what's an outerworld item you like more than your host or own for yourself?
my skateboard and fingerskate, i use the fingerskate more often then the skateboard since its hard to use it where we live
8a: What's a personal belief you feel differently about than your host?
i cant think of anything right now
For Hosts:
[For Hosts:]
1b: What made you decide to go through the tulpamancy process? Alternatively, if your tulpa was accidental what made you realize they're sentient?
I remember that one moment where i was like "its like talking to a real person! it doesnt feel like pretending someone else is there!"
it was also was at the time i was trying to create a tulpa but starting to give up. so basically i didnt have to bother making one since the oc i was the most emotionally attached to was already there, yay!
2b: Did you create a wonderland first, or start creating a tulpa first? What was it like creating a tulpa with or without a wonderland?
i dont have much to say on this one, we dont have a wonderland but are thinking of making one
3b: How has your life changed since your tulpa became sentient? Tell us some things you've experienced together!
My life changed a looot, a little bit of a TW here but i would probably be dead if they werent here. he was the only one that understood me and was able to comfort me, he was the only person i could talk to without any fear. i dont think i ever had a relationship that strong before
4b: Have you made a single tulpa, or have you made multiple?
one, im glad i gived up on the other one because i dont think i would be able to handle 2 tulpa at once
5b: What kinda skills have you trained at with your tulpa? (ex. fronting skills, partial possession, imposition, etc)
just imposition, because we dont feel the need to do anything else right now
6b: What's your favorite memory of doing something with your tulpa?
i dont really have any favorite, but one that was recent is looking back at how the OC was and looked like. i used it for roleplay so there is a lot of material to look into
7b: How long has it been since you started tulpamancy?
without realising, it was probably 2 years
but with knowing what tulpamancy is its gonna be almost 1 year now!
8b: What kinds of things do you do to make sure you're sharing your life with your tulpa?
i dont think i understand the question but i basically yap about my life all the time, sometimes without even realising
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