Embers Still Burn

Personal blog - I go by Dusk or Twyella online, I'm aroace. I'm agender and prefer they/them pronouns but if we don't know each other he/him pronouns are also acceptable.

[the-aro-agenda]

the thing is that i actually do enjoy romance in fiction but i also believe that romance-repulsed aros have the right to complain that NOTHING is made for them except maybe kids media. once you start to realize how pervasive romance is in every sector of society it's impossible to ignore. like you remember when there were barely any gay shows on television and straight people expected us to be grateful for the one gay side character on a network show? that's exactly how it feels with romance all the time. i want to see media created by adults for adults that doesn't involve romance anywhere in the plot. i want to see characters (main characters!!!) not want romance and not be treated as broken or crazy. i want a world where my romance-repulsed friends aren't confined to kids media (and even then, to only a limited selection)

[thereisselfpreservation]

I'm seeing warnings about scammers trying to commission artists but the "reference sheet" for their character they want commissioned isn't an image but a .vbs file ("visual basic script"), and will run a script when you open it, probably to yoink your account(s), but I haven't seen this from anyone who's actually clicked it yet. Just be careful and never open a file like that, 'cause people suck.

[thereisselfpreservation]

For reference (heh)

At a glance, file name checks out. But!! Do not open a .vbs file!!!

[mx-macintosh]

y'all need to relearn the word erratic and stop using schizophrenic/bipolar/psychotic as a replacement

[mx-macintosh]

y'all need to relearn the word particular and stop using ocd as a replacement

[weresoul]

People need to relearn the word "egocentric" and stop using narcissist/narc as a replacement.

[thatpreciousthing]

People need to relearn the word "impulse" and stop using "intrusive thought" as a replacement

[txttletale]

if they go through with this--and i can't remember a single time tumblr dot com course corrected in recent memory--i will genuinely be really really sad. one of my absolute favorite parts of this site was being able to look at the notes of a post and see the conversations it had sparked, see if someone had already raised a point i was planning to raise, see if the op had responded to a response i found interesting. this will massively hinder this from happening, while also making it much harder to use the notes of posts as blocklists (a basic proactive safety precaution to be a trans woman with any kind of following on here) and much easier to direct harassment at whomever one pleases

[slimegargoyle]

invented a game called “I throw dice at the cat”

[drakkonyan]

hey your cat kinda lowkey was giving god of probability and gambling and chaos so i drew her. yeah.

[gallusrostromegalus]

Divine Being: Schrodinger's Cat

[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

[foxbirdy]

[hands-of-lazarus]

Everybody out here talking about ships and such, I figured I'd hop on this train too since I can't sleep

Favorite ship at the moment. Can't wait to see if it goes anywhere(i dont think it will).

[kazoosandfannypacks]

Okay bestie, you've been here long enough that it's high time to teach you about tumblr's own very special brand of spellcasting! Watch this:

Posts that have 10k notes

[kalgalen]

sometimes you reblog something because you personally want it on your blog. and some other times you reblog something as if you were scattering bird feed on ur porch and hiding behind the window to look out for the beautiful bird (beloved mutual) who will no doubt come peck at it

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

did laundry and showered today you knowwwww i'm hitting that clean sheets clean jammies clean me trifecta tonight

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

bro im bedcelled. im comfypilled. im literally cozymaxxing.

[probablysomethingtm]

​honkpilled shoomaxxer

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

straight up "snorkin' it". and by "it" haha, well. let's just say. mimimi

[magicratfingers]

many such pillowcases

[parakavka]

同じ力で相殺し合いながらおもちゃを取り合ってるハスキー見て

[adulthoodisokay]

for the love of god, unmute this

[amnesiaguy]

so ummm welcome to my jar:) lemme show you around! theres some holes poked in the top so i can breathe, theres some leaves to munch on, and ive even got a twig! #mytwig

[amnesiaguy]

happy one year of this post. and from the bottom of my heart. i did not know what i wrought

[doveywovy]

kind hilarious that marvel movie Captain America 2: The Winter Soldier is somehow also a real prime example of a "dont invent the torment nexus" sci-fi were the torment nexus got invented soooo hard.

and i know its bc it was written based on real life political issues but also still pretty funny its 2 for 3 ("what if the us government is like 80% nazis secretly planning to ruin society as soon as enough of them have power" + "surveillance state as a method of protection will ultimately and almost immediately turn into fascist extremism") like maybe we all need to keep an eye out for brainwashed assassins.

[mosfetransgender-deactivated202]

NEVER LET YOURSELF BE STOPPED BY WHAT IT WOULD HAVE BEEN LIKE IF YOU STARTED EARLIER!!!!! THE ONLY TIME WE HAVE IS NOW

[thisiswhereikeepdcthings]

This song has single-handedly taken over my life and it’s only been like a week

[thisiswhereikeepdcthings]

This song has single-handedly taken over my life and it’s only been like a week

[waxsuyaaa]

hey click that keep reading button ↙️

here is a list with everything australia is banning for minors under the age of 16.

Australia’s under 16s social media ban could extend to Reddit, Twitch, Roblox and even dating apps

Lego Play and Steam among the unexpected additions to the list that includes Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and X

some kids won’t be able to contact their parents with the loss of whatsapp. they are banning basically all socials for kids. strict parents? you will only be able to stay at home and do nothing because there’s no way you’ll go outside. there’s no way you’ll talk to your friends /dir

they are banning LEGO PLAY. that is unnecessary.

if you are an australian citizen PLEASE SIGN THIS PETITION

e-petitions

e-petitions

social media apps are rolling out ai age detection. do you think they want to go through the hassle of getting everyone to sign in with their correct ages? NO. they want you to upload photos of your face, and photos of your passport.

you know social media apps have the ability to send your data to third party companies, why would they not do it for this?

a world where kids’ information is easily accessible on the internet, even just the statement that they are under a certain age DOES NOT PROTECT THEM AT ALL.

they will have filtered access to recent news only. they will have no variety in their opinions. whatever the australian government provides them will be their only information to rely on.

if you are NOT an australian citizen, reblogs will help. thank you.

[waxsuyaaa]

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^ 38 MORE SIGNATURES AAAHHHHHHHHHHH IM SO HAPPY PLEASE CONTINUE!!

THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR REBLOGGING! if you are an australian citizen then please sign it.

[waxsuyaaa]

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34 MORE SIGNATURES!!!!!! HELL YEAHH

i hope this post remains more reblogs than likes! please keep going!

[ahato-m1zuta]

SIGN IT IF YOU ARE AN AUSTRALIAN CITIZEN

[karvina]

the really crazy thing about cooking is that once you practice it enough (for all the gamers reading this: "grind enough exp") your threshold for wuat counts as a low effort / depression / I Dont Really Want To Cook meal rises steadily and you can feel yourself becoming the kind of person whose "chill dinner" takes 1h45 and involves three pans

[broghini]

ok but how do I get there from "assembling a sandwich is too much work"

[silverjirachi]

As someone who went through this and struggles with chronic pain and fatigue, add 1 thing semi regularly. And I do mean just 1 thing.

When I first moved out most my meals were instant ramen. Then I started adding 1 egg to that ramen to get a little protein in. In a couple months, 1 egg became two. Then it was 2 eggs and 1 chopped green onion. Then a couple months later I was adding carrots and other vegetables. In about two years I was able to skip the instant ramen part altogether and now use chicken broth and noodles and I’m basically making a ramenesque soup from scratch when I’m craving ramen. It took 2+ years total of just gradually, one at a time, adding one ingredient. Over a period of months/weeks.

Start with where you’re able. If a sandwich is too much, maybe try just a piece of bread and some meat or cheese. Focus on where you can be gradually introducing more nutrients into your body. 1 slice of deli meat. A couple weeks later, that plus 1 slice of cheese. Then 1 vegetable. Maybe they don’t all make it into sandwich form and that’s ok. But if you keep what’s the most basic and simple for yourself and slowly add 1 thing that’s not too much of a hassle, over a couple months you might start toasting the bread before putting cheese and meat on it. Then one day there’s more vegetables. Years down the line you might find yourself owning a panini press or slicing your own bread.

Most of us will never be gourmet chefs and that shouldn’t be the goal. You might not ever get to the point where you own a panini press. But the more important thing is that you’re finding ways that work, for you, gradually, in order to make your meals more nutritious. The expectation to cook a full, unique meal every night for dinner is a relatively new phenomenon and completely unrealistic for most people. Having the same 3 things you can make consistently and keep on rotation is plenty fine, especially if you get to the point where you can mix it up a little bit by adding ingredients in the method stated above. Feeding yourself should be the #1 goal, getting more nutrients in #2, and stepping it up to the next level #3 when you have the capacity to. Like with a lot of things, it’s really just about consistency. Start with where you can be consistent. If that’s 1 meal a week you cook yourself and the rest is hot pockets, but you can do that 1 meal consistently, then that’s where you start. Then when you have that down, maybe try two (of the same) meals a week, or ask what you can add to your hot pocket to make it a little better for you. (Some vegetables on the side for instance).

Don’t try to jump in from 0 to full course meal all at once or you’ll overwhelm yourself. Building a meal outward from bread and butter over a period of weeks is incredibly possible. No two peoples’ timelines will be the same, but it is entirely possible and that success will look different for everyone, and that’s also ok. As long as you’re feeding yourself, that’s what’s most important.

[broghini]

this is so helpful. too many times when I ask how to do something, people tell me to "just do it" like I'm supposed to already know what steps to take. and I almost never know what steps to take. someone actually telling me is so refreshing