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[luxiomahariel]

i hate how much shit women get for "fake" boobs

shoutout to big unnaturals, in this house we care about and support women with big unnaturals !

[elfchewtoy]

the nonbinary person who doesn't respect binary trans people's genders and/or pressures them into being nonbinary instead and/or sees themselves as more enlightened than binary trans people is a strawman in basically every instance barring edge cases, but you can find a dozen or so binary trans people who feel that way about nonbinary people without even trying very hard

[elfchewtoy]

one of the things that tips me off to a lot of the self-proclaimed map involvement in youth liberation not being genuine is the inability not to make the movement about themselves. this does not happen in good faith with any other movement.

transfeminism does not carve out a space for chaser apologia. antiracism is not secretly for white people who have very complicated feelings about people of color. why are we letting the children's rights movement be about adults who are sexually attracted to children, instead of the children themselves?

these types of people will talk about the specter of the pedophile, as if the pedophile is a boogeyman that does not even exist. but it can't be a boogeyman, because they themselves are out in the open, saying they are pedophiles and that they are oppressed for being pedophiles and that they should be allowed to be proud of being pedophiles and that their plight is just like that of trans women and gay people - oh and they don't actually hurt children, that's a very harmful stereotype - and that they actually care about child liberation the most out of everyone, which is why they are the only people you can consistently find advocating for the abolition of age of consent laws.*

i do believe in the ability of people attracted to children, minor-attracted people, pedophiles, etc. to be non-offending, to be clear, but the behavior of these people in the tag and further on their blogs is very disheartening. child liberation is not about you, and it shouldn't be. you are not a child anymore. making youth liberation about your rights as a pedophile is not only egocentric and derailing, it is itself an act of ageism by an adult over children.

*i will argue here that age of consent laws are not a restriction on the child, they are a restriction on the adult. (this is why romeo and juliet laws exist, at least here in the US, to complement statutory rape laws - minor teenagers having consensual sex with adult teenagers is developmentally normal.) pedophiles looking for social permission to have sexual contact with children know this and are lying about these laws being an attack on children's sexual liberation, or else are very naive and extremely useful to the pedophiles who are lying.

[lonelydesolate]

hi can you name one transmasc congressman 👍

[hellofmychoice]

This is wild because restricting HRT for trans women, but keeping access for trans men has NEVER been a stated goal of people who advocate for trans men. However, multiple transphobic trans women have specifically advocated for more gatekeeping of HRT for trans men and mascs.

[crabussy]

the term “feminine hygiene” being used so universally in stores makes me incredibly sad and it shocks me that more people don’t find it frustrating. why can’t we just say menstrual products??? it’s more straightforward! what does “feminine hygiene” even mean??? “menstrual products” doesn’t imply that menstruation is “unhygienic”, it doesn’t imply that you have to be “feminine” to need them… it’s a better term in every way. so WHY is “feminine hygiene” the one companies are obsessed with using!! fuck!

[crabussy]

the term “feminine hygiene” stems from a time when menstrual products and similar were classed as illegal, “obscene” products in the US. why are we still using a term invented in 1873. I should not be seeing this term in every supermarket I enter. I’m going to turn evil

[crabussy]

this post is for transgender people. I don’t want anyone nasty about people like me touching this post please. if you’re trans exclusionary you can block me and go on with your life. if you’re trans I’m giving you a juicy piece of fruit and I love you

[resdayn]

commenting on art about trans mlm and saying "this would be better if they were women" is actually extremely fucking bigoted and transphobic. fuck all the way off.

[resdayn]

"this would be better if it was yuri" no. transmasculinity is divine actually. all masculinity is valuable and beautiful and worthwhile.

and misgendering is transphobic especially when you devalue one gender for another. die mad about it. Especially if you're cis.

[windwardstar]

"Cis women aren't the only ones who can get pregnant/have a uterus/need pap smears trans men exist"

So do nonbinary people. Not everyone is a man or a woman.

Also intersex people can have said body parts and be cis men or trans women. And still need care.

[elfchewtoy]

at this point "transmascs need to shut up more lol" doesn't really mean anything, if it ever did. it's a meme (in the original sense) you can repeat ad nauseam to project an aura of Epic Transfeminism without actually doing or saying anything transfeminist. it's nothing more than lazy, transphobic virtue signalling.

[isuggestforcemasc]

I will continue posting in favour of there being fewer people like that

[godfrey-the-chaos-duck]

god my heart is fucking breaking for all these people THERE IS STILL TIME DO YOU HEAR ME

IT ISN'T TOO LATE AS LONG AS YOU'RE ALIVE

[boyslit]

hi everybody i started HRT at 35 so like don't even despair

being in ur twenties makes u feel like 30 is a brick wall u either fly over or crash into but i promise u it's a door and it opens up into the rest of ur life like getting past the prologue of an open world game

[boyslit]

very important addition from @thatsladyfaggottoyou ty <3

[doberbutts]

I started HRT at approximately 30 and top surgery at 32 just 4.5 months prior to this photo. It's never too late.

[beemovieerotica]

i came out at 21, got pushed back in the closet, came out again 10 years later to start T at 31. there is always time

[elfchewtoy]

i feel like it should be fairly obvious to anyone who's seen a lot of transphobic rhetoric that trans people across the board are insulted and demonized for their perceived adjacency to femininity, masculinity, and androgyny. what gendered aspect the transphobe targets changes depending on what's most convenient to them. when trans men express frustration at people who say that they are rewarded for their masculinity, this is what is being talked about. an out and/or visibly trans person cannot escape from being punished for any performance of gender (or from no performance at all) because the goalpost is constantly moving

[shamebats]

Great response by a cis man to being baited to speak over a trans man's lived experiences.

This is how you act like a real ally to trans people. It's that easy.

[shamebats]

[shamebats]

Peer-reviewed tags.

[puppyudderly-dreamy]

wanting to keep the bunny tail plug in while she breeds you should be a valid reason to get all three letters for vaginoplasty for free

[puppyudderly-dreamy]

the conservative idea that trans women want to transition for sexual pleasure and that they're evil for it being reacted to by the liberal idea that trans women are devoid of sexual desire and any of them that have desires must be sick or aberrant really ruins so many people's transitions. like... holy shit... please transition if it will bring you sexual pleasure. if you feel more comfortable having sex as a woman you can do that, if you want boobs cuz they're hot or a higher voice to moan like you want to pleasee you can do that, if you want to have a vagina so you can have the kind of sex you want please please please i love you you can do it, you can want things for your transition that are sexual you are not a monster or a fetishist for it, cis people get most of these forms of sexual euphoria for free just because we work for it doesn't mean we are evil for it

[elfchewtoy]

by the way "there's no such thing as a binary trans person" is an extremely transphobic sentiment and i cannot believe it has gained any traction as a genuine argument or that this is what passes as progressive queer theory nowadays

[avocatts]

It is probably incorrect to say that there is flat out no such thing as a binary trans person. Speaking from the perspective of a u.s. american trans person, performing gender in a way that can assimilate into the Binary gender-power structure often is more difficult as a trans person. It requires many of us to put in more work than our cis peers to accomplish, if that is even our goal to begin with ofc, and that extra effort is only made possible if one has the time and resources necessary in the first place.

In other words, binary trans people can exist, but to be granted the power that comes from being in the binary structure is intentionally inaccessible to many if not most.

[elfchewtoy]

you're thinking of the distinction between gender-conforming and gender non-conforming (or maybe passing and not-passing?), not binary gender and nonbinary gender. i'm not talking about gender presentation here. binary trans people (that is, trans people whose gender identities are solely female or solely male) can be passing or non-passing, gender-conforming or gender non-conforming.

i agree that binary trans people receive negligible privilege from passing and being gender-conforming (if they do pass and conform to gender norms) (aka, they receive little, conditional ""cis"" privilege or none at all). but the idea you're putting forth that "binary" and "non-binary" are not gender identities that are experienced but rather power dynamics that describe how one relates to cis gender norms (of which the gender binary is a part) is exactly what i was criticizing and what leads to the sentiment that binary trans people "don't exist." we already have words to describe whether a person does not deviate from and is rewarded by cis gender and sex norms or deviates from and is not rewarded by them - cisgender and transgender. this redefinition of what the word "non-binary" means contributes to the erasure of people with actually non-binary gender identities and the misgendering of trans people who are solely women or solely men.

[elfchewtoy]

by the way "there's no such thing as a binary trans person" is an extremely transphobic sentiment and i cannot believe it has gained any traction as a genuine argument or that this is what passes as progressive queer theory nowadays

[klapollo]

hello trans woman reading this. do not listen to those pro ana geeks

[klapollo]

trans woman reading this do NOT skip that meal

[hemipenal-system]

yeah yeah new bottoming book yeah yeah theduchy.com but i actually need you to read about ethical subjectivism before you engage in kink discourse

[hemipenal-system]

i wanna be clear im saying this as someone who is repulsed by ageplay and blocks basically every ageplay-focused blog that interacts with me:

there’s no such thing as an inherently immoral kink

the fact that im grossed out by that shit does not assign morality to it and frankly it’s embarrassing that there are queer people out there saying it does

[hemipenal-system]

im gonna be honest i think if you’re reading this post and thinking “well kinks are different than paraphilias, acting on paraphilias is bad” then you’re still overcorrecting into “dangerous pervert” rhetoric a little bit

i don’t think we should be promoting the medicalization of kinks on my post. start considering material harms as your metric instead it’ll heal you

[dragon-in-a-fez]

y'all know that whole left-brained/right-brained thing is fake right? and the "brain fully develops at age 25" thing? and the "we only use 10% of our brains" thing? yeah they're all complete horseshit please yell at anyone who says them

[dragon-in-a-fez]

okay people are doing nuance in the notes about the kernels of truth in neuroscience myths but I really really need you to understand that that is not important here. people don't believe there are "right-brained" and "left-brained" people because they've misunderstood lateralisation of the central nervous system, they believe it because that binary framework was deliberately pushed by people who wanted to define who was logical enough to lead, and surprise surprise, white adult heterosexual men are left-brained. people don't believe the brain "finishes developing at 25" because they've misunderstood life stage differences in neuroplasticity, they believe it because the idea that children, teens, and young adults have inferior brains is a convenient rationalisation for a society that marginalises them. people don't believe you "only use 10% of your brain" because they misread an fMRI study, they believe it because it's useful bullshit for everyone from hyperindividualist historical revisionists pushing the great genius concept of scientific progress to hucksters recruiting for cults that will teach you to unlock your latent telekinesis for just $5000 a month. that's why it's fucking important to know that many popular science ideas are false and to push back on them loudly and frequently, because they're not just mildly incorrect, they are often active components of systems of violence.

[roach-pizza]

It's not that kids don't have inferior brains. Their brains aren't finished growing and mess key components of understanding.

Kids under 10 need short bursts of information or they will just take in none of it.

Teenagers aren't tiny adults, they are grown toddlers who can make adult decisions.

As a nearly 33 year old, I look at some of Gen Z and I'm like "Is this truly important?".

[dragon-in-a-fez]

tag on this one said "OP I would absolutely love to know your age lol" so okay, sure. I'm 38. special bonus facts: I have a PhD in childhood studies and I've spent 8 years working for children's rights and youth work charities.

I believe the above fully qualifies me to tell you to fuck off, fuck off again, and keep fucking off until you're as off as you can fuck.

"grown toddlers". jesus.

listen. the only conversation worth having about that concept/phrase is one you're definitely not ready for, which is "toddlers also deserve a fuckton more respect and dignity as whole ass human beings than they currently get".