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âIf I must dieâ by Refaat Alareer
3 Advantages to Writing Every Day
There are things that we don't pay attention to that may be more important than we think. Chances are, you are writing every day, maybe without even realizing it. This post is either a reminder of all the advantages of writing every day or a signal to start doing it if you weren't already.
1ď¸âŁ Practice Makes Perfect
Personally, I struggle to express myself a lot of the time, which hinders many of my day-to-day conversations and interactions. I have to be really careful to make sure that the other person understands what I'm talking about, and that used to take a lot of energy. But after I started writing regularly, talking and expressing myself have become a lot easier.
I still struggle sometimes, and Iâm sure it is not an easy thing to get rid of anyway, but it's still one of the ways writing regularly helped me.
2ď¸âŁ It Builds Momentum
If writing isnât your 9-to-5 or you have other commitments that can take over your day, it's very easy to lose momentum. So often, I have struggled with this same problem because I didnât have the time, because of exams, or just life gets in the way, so I get stuck on one chapter for weeks. And when I do have momentum, I can finish a chapter every three days, including editing and revisions (yes, I edit as I write).
Finding the time, no matter how small it is, can really help tackle this problem. No matter how stuck you may feel, just finding the time and writing a little bit at a time will feel good nonetheless, and with time, you will get over your writer's block.
3ď¸âŁ It Fosters CreativityÂ
If you write every day, you canât expect to get the same quality of work every time, but it certainly makes it easier to let yourself write without judgment. As you push through the perfectionism, your ideas flow more freely because that's how little of a problem perfectionism becomes. Although it still isn't something we will suddenly stop struggling with. There are days when it's easier to write and days that are worse, but with time, you will learn how to manage them.
A Few Extra Things to Note
When you do something every day, itâs a given you will suffer from burnout eventually, so follow these steps:
Take regular breaks
Focus on quantity over quality
Start small and gradually increase your writing time
Be flexible with your schedule
And if you didnât have the energy to write one day, forgive yourself and try again the next day.
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If there is any advice I would give writers, it has to be this:
Ignore other writing advice and just do whatever feels right for me.
For example, one very popular writing advice is to never edit while writing because it slows you down. While that is true, personally, I prefer being slowed down rather than writing something I hate.
My advice is to experiment. Find what works for you and stick with it. It doesnât matter that itâs the âwrongâ choice.
Remember that writing is a creative process so there is nothing wrong with your approach as long as it makes you happy.
Ordinary Person Vs a Magic-User
If you are writing a fantasy book, this is probably one of the first plot holes that rears its ugly head: how to write a fight scene between a magic user and an ordinary person?
Here are a few practical tips:
1ď¸âŁ Take Advantage of Magic Limitations
To go against a magic user, your character must first understand how that magic is cast, how it is initiated, and whether there are items needed for the spell, like a wand. When your characters understand how magic works, they can pretty easily brainstorm ways to defeat it.
For example, your character can:
attack when they canât talk, like if there is a gag in their mouth or even a mouthful of food (that one would be funny), if magic is cast verbally.
use earplugs if magic needs to be heard to work. tie up the magic user if magic is cast by hands.
distract them, if magic needs focus.
break or steal their wand, if magic needs physical items.
attack after their energy is depleted, if magic relies on âstaminaâ or âmanaâ.
blind them or take advantage of thick fog, if magic depends on sight.
2ď¸âŁ Use Technology and Environment
Let your ordinary character take advantage of the world you created, like using long-range weapons, reflective surfaces (if magic relies on light), water bodies (for grounding lightning), metal structures (Faraday cage effect that blocks electromagnetic fields), or strong winds (for dispersing gases). They can also poison their food or water supply.
3ď¸âŁ Lies They Tell Themselves
More often than not, the ultimate weapon of an ordinary person against a magic-user will be their mind and the length they are willing to go to for victory. An ordinary person can plan a surprise attack while the magic-user is asleep or isolated from their friends, or they can trick them into using a large amount of magic in one go, exhausting them.
If magic users need a spellbook to use their magic, let your characters steal it, destroy it, or tamper with it. They can also ruin their reputation or get them banished from their country or town, which doesnât do any physical damage, but it does destroy the morale of a person.
And if everything else fails, there is always the option of paying another magic-user to fight instead.
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If there is one thing you want to take out of this post, remember that the key to winning a fight with a magic-user is not playing by the rules. Your characters donât need to be overly strong, but they have to be willing to trick, manipulate, and use everything in their power not to face the magic user face-to-face.
And remember to always let the story grow towards the direction that feels right for the story. If you feel like the non-magic user has to go through an ethical dilemma, lean into it. It will make your story even more meaningful.
Day 8: The Second Rant (100%)
Until the end of chapter 62
The Second Jase-Rant
Yesterday, I ranted about how much Jase is an idiot; now I will rant about how much I agree with him.
First of all, Jase is harboring criminals, but that doesnât mean a queen from a different country has the right to send soldiers to snoop around in his country and kidnap people under his protection. Yes, they are criminals, but the queen is just blatantly disregarding that authority until she recognizes their kingdom, or country, or whatever itâs called.
Second of all, Jaseâs country (which, now that I think about it, I canât remember its name) allegedly doesnât have borders. Now, that is completely untrue because Jase himself describes what his land has and doesnât have, and acknowledges that he doesnât control everything âas far as the eye could see,â but they DO have borders and a very long history to back it up. Itâs just that no one else respects them or listens to their history, and no one bothers to draw them on a map. That is not his nor his peopleâs fault.
I really wonder why everyone doesnât like them. Has it always been this way? Is it because they are involved in illegal activities? But even their involvement in illegal stuff isnât that bad, and mostly happens without their knowledge.
Even if the Ballengers didnât agree to the treaty between the other kingdoms, that doesnât mean their land and its borders shouldnât be respected. The treaty should be more of a precaution in case a criminal is on the loose, there is a threat of war, or a humanitarian crisis.
I know the criminals Jase is harboring are evil (and werenât just framed), and they deserve to be punished, and I know Jase is wrong in protecting them, but I donât think he even knows they are criminals! And if he did know, itâs doubtful he knows the extent of it. As any reasonable ruler should do, the Queen of Vendan should have just talked with Jase. At least send a letter and ask to negotiate with them, because the alternative (sending soldiers to lie to a royal family) is crazy.
That doesnât change my opinion about Jase from yesterday, but he has every right to start a war (when he returns home) after Kazi dragged him halfway across the world to Vendan, tied up, and a knife to his throat.
After (almost) finishing the story
Is the queen really⌠nice? She just wanted to see them kiss? Thatâs it? Seriously?
Since the minute she was mentioned, I thought she was going to be the evil character who manipulated Kazi (because Iâve seen it like a million times before), but itâs actually kind of refreshing to see the queen being genuinely nice.
I still have 6 pages left, so Iâm not sure if there is anything important, but⌠seriously? This whole book could have been a conversation?
I have mixed feelings about the conversation between the Queen and Jase. It kind of makes the queen seem dumb. Thatâs just my opinion, but, for a queen, she listened to Jase talk about his family history and believed him and gave him everything he wanted, just like that, including their position as âthe first kingdom.â It feels like a slap in the face that I wasted all of this time on this drama just so it can end within the span of a single conversation.
Also, Jase and his family are still criminals. I donât know how the Queen could change her opinion about them so abruptly. I donât understand this whole plot point.
Romance (yes, a second time)
Honestly, it wasnât that bad in the beginning. With time, though, their relationship started being weird because they are way too emotional for a soldier and a king (Patrei). I think I can look past that, but what I donât understand is why Kazi decided to go out with Jase in the end? She still thinks he hid Zane from her, and she did say things will never go back to normal between them. Now they are trying to convince me that Kazi just decided to forgive him for hiding the person who kidnapped her mother and caused immense childhood trauma?
I think the ending, especially the romance part of it, feels a little rushed.
About the Book Title
I still donât have a clean-cut idea of why the book is called âDance of Thievesâ. I have just one idea so far that I think fits the most. Considering the ending of the book, I think âDance of Thievesâ is supposed to signify how much Kazi and Jase âdancedâ around their problems, thinking they were avoiding them, but they were just making them worse. If they had just communicated, this story would have ended in at most five chapters.
On the other hand, I donât understand the âthievesâ part, which is present in both books. I know Kazi used to be (and still kind of is) a thief, but I donât think Jase is. He isnât that stealthy with his crimes, but if you really squint, it might apply to him, too.
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Day 7: First Rant (86%)
Until the end of chapter 51
The Jase-Rant
Jase is so annoying. At least right now. I donât know if he stops being an absolute idiot.
First of all, he tries to confront Kazi about something that clearly bothers her psychologically and acts like itâs his right somehow to dig up her feelings when she doesnât want to tell him and (not gently) encourages her to tell him her deepest darkest moments. Thatâs so disgusting in my opinion, and it tells how insensitive Jase is, even though I thought he was supposed to be a âgentleâ and âfamilyâ person. He even frames it as a âprison Kazi built for herselfâ. He is so insensitive itâs unbelievable. It was so difficult getting through that chapter and then right after that having to read an entire chapter from his POV, trying to explain himself and justify his actions.
Second, when Kazi finally tells him what happens to her mom, it is clearly a terrible memory for her, highlighted by her hesitation in the beginning. Jase asks whether she was sure about it, and maybe she was mistaken (with no evidence to support his suspicion!) Itâs terrible enough that he provoked her into telling him all of this, and now heâs doubting her after she told him every detail she saw?
This chapter was probably the most terrible chapter I have read in all of fiction.
Another thing I hated was Kaziâs response to all of this. A person with trauma doesnât talk about their trauma in as much detail as she did. She told Jase (before he asked for the details) every single thing that happened and what she saw. It seemed like the author was trying to make it seem like an emotional reveal, but I couldnât feel it.
Either that or I was too angry at Jase.
I think this entire scene could have been written a lot better with more emphasis on Kaziâs emotions (throat closing up, hot tears streaming down her face, etc.) rather than what seemed to me like an info-dump. A trauma victim typically will have a lot of difficulty talking about their trauma, so if they are cornered into it, as Jase does here, Kazi shouldnât have talked in so much detail, especially to someone whom she just discovered lied to her and whom she regrets trusting. Why would she trust him with such sensitive information?
Honestly, this so-called âlove storyâ was terrible from the beginning. They were forced together and fell in love too early, and continued to be in love and completely driven by their emotions, which makes no sense considering Kazi is supposed to be a soldier. Itâs a fact I often forget because of how little its relevance to her personality. And Jase is the Patrei (that makes him a king of sorts), so isnât he and Kazi supposed to be more in control of their emotions? Just reading this chapter with the trauma info-dump and Jaseâs blatant disregard for Kaziâs emotional well-being made it clear to me how little I actually cared for any of them.
Side note: In my opinion, torture is the least necessary and most vile detail you can give a love interest. I donât care how âcoolâ and âprotectiveâ it makes him seem; itâs just disgusting.
The End of the Day
I hate monologues in books. They are unrealistic, and they make for a lousy reading experience, yet I keep reading them a lot today.
Aside from the âtrauma-info-dumbâ chapter and Jaseâs POV chapter right after that, I liked the last two chapters I read today. They were exciting, and Iâm actually a little excited to start the next chapter tomorrow.
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Day 6: Three Points (73%)
Until the end of chapter 41
Writing Style
There are a lot of odd phrases in the story, and it sort of trips me up. Iâm not sure if itâs actually normal, and Iâm thinking too much about it (since English isnât my first language), or if the odd phrases are supposed to indicate the different mother-tongues of Kazi and Jase.
Despite that, I enjoyed Kaziâs riddles.
The world is described in just the necessary amount of detail without overloading us with information, while also painting a picture and simultaneously leaving the rest to the readerâs imagination. Itâs just the dialogue that bothers me sometimes.
Magic (again)
I talked before about how weird it is that Kazi can see dead people, but I have something new to add: the convenience of it all. Whenever the plot kind of trails off, the dead appear and warn Kazi, only for her to ignore their warnings. It feels weird that she keeps ignoring them, even though she mentioned before that they are important in keeping her alive.
The âMisunderstood Villainâ Trope
Finally, we have been promised at the beginning of the book that this will be a romance between a reformed thief searching for outlaws and the head of an outlaw family. So far, Jase doesnât seem like the outlaw leader we were promised he was. He is just a misunderstood villain who is trying his best to protect the land that his ancestors lived on for thousands of years. Jase does have problems, and he does have a few troubling connections to criminals, but overall, he falls into the trope of âmisunderstood villain.â Iâm not really a fan of that.
And this ties to my earlier point about how useless Jaseâs POV chapters are. I think it would have made the plot more interesting if we spent the entire story discovering everything from Kaziâs perspective, and the illusion of Jaze being an outlaw would have lasted a little longer.
Also, anger problems are apparently attractive in a man, as long as itâs not directed at the girl.
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Day 5: Losing Interest (61%)
Until the end of chapter 34
Iâm starting to lose interest at an alarming rate. I donât think this story is right for me. I literally donât care about any of this. The romance seems so forced and fake. I hate that Wren, SynovĂŠ, and Kazi were reduced to romance-obsessed girls instead of the soldiers we were promised they were. We have barely even seen them fight at this point, even though there are a lot of mentions of how strong they are.
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Day 4: Magic (54%)
Until the middle of chapter 30
During the first few chapters of this book, I thought it was going to have a few elements of fantasy, like magical powers. I thought that was the case after Kazi told us that she can see âDeathâ, and that somehow isnât an important plot point? I think I would be very concerned if I could see the actual embodiment of âDeathâ when no one else could. I donât know if Kazi has special powers or if itâs just a hallucination somehow? At this point in the story, I canât tell.
On the other hand, there are also two different âfantasyâ aspects of the story: SynovĂŠâs dreams and the seer Jase meets in the first chapter he appears in. Can the seer and SynovĂŠ see the future? Is it magic or just a convenient plot device? Will this âmagicâ be discussed later or in the second book?
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Day 3: Writing Style (45%)
Until the end of chapter 25
Writing and POV
I have a feeling Jaseâs POV chapters are useless. Most of the story happens from Kaziâs POV anyway, and the story would have made more of an impact seeing everything from her perspective and getting introduced to the events as she finds them out. I also found a lot of instances where I thought like there was more âtellingâ than âshowingâ. I wasnât a fan of that, but I appreciated the experimentation with the different storytelling style.
Romance (again)
The romance is also forced, and the notion that she âisnât like other girlsâ was annoying. On the other hand, it makes sense for them to catch feelings for each other, considering they spent days chained together with no one else in sight. What doesnât make sense is their feelings sticking after returning home.
And I canât get over the fact that Kazi (after we have already established that she is smart, strong, and a soldier) believed Jase when he told her there was a Vendan settlement nearby when they were chained. But I guess it didnât really matter whether she believed him or not because it was the closest settlement to them.
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Day 2: Romance (30%)
Until the end of chapter 19
I donât like romance.
Maybe it is because of how repetitive the scenes and lines are. This section of the story reaffirmed that belief. Itâs almost always the same plot with only a handful of differences. I have to say that them being chained together was a nice twist, but them falling in love with one another just because of proximity and that they see each other every day, I donât think I like that.
Iâm starting to think I should stop reading romance altogether.
I also noticed that instead of characters telling us of each otherâs reactions, we have two POVs, one for the actual scene and the other for the second characterâs thoughts about said scenes.
One of the things I like is the writing style. It sometimes feels like reading a poem.
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Day 1: The Beginning (14%)
Until the end of chapter 9
I always have a hard time gathering facts when I first start reading a new book. I might go back and reread the first few chapters, but even without them, I donât feel lost. The maps in the front and back of the book really help. After the first few chapters, the story became increasingly more enjoyable, especially Kazi and Jaseâs interactions. Although I donât understand how Kazi didnât see the Patrei ring on Jaseâs finger.
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things I wonât let ai take away from human writers
em dash
ânot x, not y, but zâ
short sentence stacking as a stylistic choice
none of these belong to ai. these are all what human writers have been writing since day one, way before ai was invented. ai was trained to mimic how human writers write â so em dash, not x not y but z and short sentence stacking would never have been used by ai at all if ai hadnât learned and mimicked them from human writers.
no, you are not âfighting against aiâ by accusing every work that has em dash, not x not y but z or short sentence stacking in it as ai-generated, you are helping ai harm the writing community by engaging in witch hunt and scaring human writers away from creating/sharing their works for fear of being wrongly accused of using ai.
speculations, accusations and ai witch hunt harm the writing community as much as ai does, if not more.
This post is a little different from the usual essay-style ones. This time, I'm sharing my unfiltered, daily thoughts on Dance of Thieves, separated over 8 days as I was reading the book. Keep in mind that this is all just my opinion, so don't take my comments too seriously, and if you have anything you would like to share, feel free to do so. SPOILER WARNING: These are notes I wrote as I read the book, so if you intend on reading Dance of Thieves in the future, check out a different blog post.
3 Steps to Finding Your Character's Voice (With Examples)
We have all faced the same two problems:
đ Two characters are having a conversation, but sound the same
đ Or all the characters sound like the author talking, not them
I have started writing a new book recently. It's told from the perspective of two characters: twins who lived very different lives, each with their own take on the world. The first sister is detached from the outside world, completely goal-oriented, and describes only the details that matter to her goals. The second sister is impulsive, emotional, and describes her surroundings from a perspective of fear.
It can be overwhelming to give characters their own voices (without relying on the context or the topic of conversation). But luckily, there are a few things we can do about it.
Tricks I Used For My Two Protagonists
1ď¸âŁ Ask Them Character-Revealing Questions
You already know what your characterâs greatest fear and what their goal is, but to really nail their voices, you have to ask ordinary questions that will reveal even more about them, like:
âď¸ Whatâs your favorite dish and why? (Example: The first sister would say she doesn't have one, but she likes sweets, although she would eat anything. The second will prefer something simple and efficient because she wants to always be ready.)
âď¸ Whatâs your favorite gift? (Example: The first sister wouldnât admit this, but her favorite gift was a necklace someone gave her a long time ago that she threw out before she got attached. The second sister doesnât have a physical gift to hold onto, but she values a memory of her birthday with her friends â a rare moment of peace for her.)
âď¸ Whatâs something you will never admit out loud? (Example: The first sister would never admit that she cares â especially not in front of the second sister â and the second sister wouldnât admit that she feels safe with someone she wholeheartedly hates like the first sister.)
While standard questions like their goals or their greatest fear can produce some form of connection with the character, enough to help you understand their voice, I personally didnât find that enough. You can use these questions if you want, and also make up your own based on your characters.
2ď¸âŁ Give Them a Petty Problem
Your charactersâ reactions and emotions, like grief, betrayal, and love, are often generic because of how frequently we see them, but petty problems make a character a lot more human.
Try writing (or just imagining) a monologue from your characterâs perspective about something small, but irritating, like a slow Wi-fi, a fly buzzing around, someone complaining, a light flickering, stupid jokes, etc.
Example: The first sister has a lot of patience when it comes to her goal, but not so much that she would tolerate being in nature, especially not with insects. The second sister has a lot of things she finds annoying, but she especially hates it when people act familiar with her when they donât know her.
3ď¸âŁ Lies They Tell Themselves
This kind of ties with the first point on the list, but I felt like this one is important enough to get its own section.
Even if we don't like to admit it, everyone lies to themselves, and the lies we keep repeating as if they were true make up a part of who we are. That also works for characters.
Example: The first sister keeps telling herself that she only has one goal, and in pursuit of that goal, everything and everyone can be and will be exploited, and once they become useless, they will be discarded without hesitation. In other words, nothing and no one matters except that one goal. The second sister, on the other hand, keeps telling herself that everything has the capacity to be dangerous, and so she has to always be on guard. As the story progresses, both of their lies begin to crack as they spend more time together, and without knowing it, the first sister starts to care about the second, and the second sister starts to feel safe around the first.
Finally, to test if the voice is working, try removing character names in a dialogue and see if you can still tell whoâs speaking. If you can't without referring to the context and topic of conversation, try again. Lean into the chaos, listen, and allow your character's voice to take root there. Don't try to force it, but you can "figure it out as you go" if you are certain you will find out more about your characters that way.
Whichever way you choose, good luck!
How to make a character lovable right away?
This is from the post How to Craft a Lovable Late-Appearing Love Interest: A Character Analysis of Tracy McConnell from HIMYM
â Introduce them doing that they love
â Give them an interesting backstory
â Donât make them perfect. Give them flaws and quirks
â Give them a unique, eye-catching character voice
â Make them the protagonist in their story
â Give them goals that donât involve the protagonist
â Give them friends and family
â Give them humor
â Give them a great character arc
Quick Academia writing tips!!
âË⥠The professor-student dynamic is mostly emails that don't get answered. fiction is obsessed with the brilliant eccentric professor who changes your life archetype and look i get it, it's a great archetype, but the day-to-day reality is more like: you emailed them two weeks ago, no response, you email again with "just following up!" and feel humiliated doing it, they finally respond with three words, and you have one five-minute conversation with them the whole semester.
big research universities especially, your professor may have 300 students across multiple courses. they do not know your name unless you have been aggressively attending office hours for months. the formative mentorship relationship exists but it requires so much more effort from the student than fiction implies, and a lot of students never get there because they don't know they're supposed to initiate it.
âË⥠the social sorting happens fast and it's kind of brutal and nobody names it. within the first few weeks of first year there's this silent sorting process happening, who's in what friend group, who got absorbed into which scene, who's eating alone. and it calcifies weirdly fast. it's not like high school where it's explicit and mean, it's just gravity. people drift toward whatever social mass is nearest to them and then they stop looking around.
the person you randomly sat next to on the first day of orientation might be your best friend for four years not because of any deep compatibility but because of proximity and timing. the flip side is that people who don't get pulled into a group early can spend months feeling invisible in a place full of people and nobody even notices because everyone is absorbed in their own new social world.
âË⥠Money is constantly in the room and nobody talks about it directly. the class divide on a university campus is one of the most awkward things to navigate and fiction almost never touches it. some students are there on loans they won't finish paying off until they're forty. some students have a family card and never think about it.
They're in the same seminar, same dorm floor, same friend group even, and they have completely different relationships to every expense, every spring break plan, every casual "let's just grab dinner." The student on a tight budget learns to perform a casualness around money that is genuinely exhausting. they make excuses, they plan, they sometimes just say yes to things they can't afford because the social cost of always saying no is too high.
âË⥠i will fight anyone who writes a library scene as quiet and contemplative during finals season. the library during exam period is a warzone. people camping out with sleeping bags and cold brew and the dead eyes of someone who hasn't slept in two days. passive-aggressive notes on chairs. the hum of a thousand laptop fans.
someone crying quietly in the corner. someone asleep on top of their notes. the regular library during a normal week is fine, sure, but the specific energy of a university library when everyone has deadlines is one of the most distinctive sensory experiences of student life and it is almost never rendered accurately because writers keep defaulting to the cozy fantasy version where you can think clearly surrounded by beautiful old books.
âË⥠changing your major is a full identity crisis every time. in fiction someone switches majors and it's treated as a liberating choice, one triumphant scene of deciding to follow your passion. in reality it is weeks of internal anguish, telling your parents in a phone call you dread, recalculating everything you've already done and whether it counts toward anything, feeling like you're behind now, trying to figure out if you even have a passion or if that's just something people say.
The major carries so much weight in student identity (what are you studying is one of the first things anyone asks you) and changing it means renegotiating who you are to everyone including yourself. it is a big deal. it deserves more than a single scene of brave decision-making.
âË⥠going home for the holidays hits different and not always in a good way. the first time you go home after a few months at university you've changed more than you know and your family hasn't, and that gap is disorienting for everyone. you've had conversations and experiences and late-night revelations that have quietly shifted who you are and you can't explain them, and the people who knew you before don't see it yet, and some of them won't like it when they do.
There's also the reversal of independence; you had your own space and your own schedule and now you're back in your childhood bedroom with a curfew that isn't said out loud but is definitely felt. the holidays after first year are often genuinely strange and a little sad and fiction almost never captures this specific feeling of being between two worlds and not quite fitting either.