[1/4] Listen. Since you explicitly asked for this. Here's a big question that's been sitting on my mind... I'll be getting a dog next year (the first dog that will be Truly My Dog) and I'm still inbetween 2 breeds: field line golden retrievers and show line Aussies. What really scares me about Aussies is the possibility that I might fuck up, in which case the dog may grow up to be reactive, neurotic, anxious, a nuisance barker etc.
[2/4] But what's even more scary is that, apparently, these traits can just show up in the breed, so I might get them even if I *don't* fuck up. And I feel like fucking up a golden would be far less catastrophic than fucking up an Aussie... For context, I'm looking to get into some sports (obedience, mainly), but I have no prior experience with that. I've worked at a shelter for years and can handle virtually any dog, but I've never raised one myself. So how do I know whether I can handle it?
[3/4] I guess my question is - were you worried about messing up when you got Indigo? Do you think that going to a good breeder who has (or at least appears and claims to have) stable dogs behind them, would mean that I don't have to worry about messing my puppy up? Should I take the safer path with my first puppy and go for a golden (which, for the record, is a breed I love anyway)? And is the golden even a safer path to begin with?
[4/4] Sorry, that was such a barrage of questions. I've been marinating in first-time-puppy-owner anxiety, can you tell? :-)
hello! i love this question and you have my full support whichever direction you go but also you’re gonna get my life story before my answer:
you asked if i was worried when i got Indigo and the answer is no. i was almost a TEENAGER and i had been interested in dogs for two whole years: i knew everything and no one could stop me. my $300 farm aussie grew up into a reactive nuisance-barker with a fear of loud noises and a bad light-chasing habit. because of that experience, I was riddled with anxiety at age 25 when Dune came into my life.
at this point i had a decade of actual, professional dog experience under my belt. i was about to become a certified professional trainer after spending years completely changing my methods trying to correct the damage i did to Indigo as an over-confident kid with less-than-stellar mentors. i was determined to stack the Next Puppy deck in my favour.
when I first reached out to Dune’s breeder, we set up a meeting at a local dog show. she walked me to her setup, pulled out a two-year-old male from her breeding, stacked him up on the table and told me [i am paraphrasing] “this is the worst temperament i have bred in a long time, he does x thing. his owner is doing a lot of work with him and he is improving enormously. i believe it is because of y and z, i will be avoiding those things going forward.” and then went over him physically from head to toe, telling me what she did and didn’t like about him. she didn’t know it but she had my implicit trust from that exact moment on.
i met a lot of her dogs. i talked to puppy owners who had dogs from her. over and over again i saw stable, confident temperaments doing well in both experienced and less experienced homes. i was still terrified that i’d be the one who broke one of these apparently perfect animals. a week or so before Dune came home I remember asking “would you take him out to _________?? is that too soon??” and his breeder said, “i know what i would do... but he’s about to be your dog. it’s not up to me.”
so here’s what i did, knowing that i was already purchasing a dog from a show line breeder who put a premium on solid temperaments: i sat down and decided what a bad dog would actually look like. i didn’t worry about ‘reactivity’ or ‘neuroses’ as intangible concepts; i found concrete examples of those things that i considered to be untenable. i didn’t want a dog who alert-barked at everything. i didn’t want a dog who snapped at new dogs entering his space or resource-guarded from people or dogs. i didn’t want a dog who couldn’t settle in the house or hyper-fixated on lights/movement. i didn’t want a dog who was neophobic, who couldn’t handle new environments. and i didn’t want a dog who couldn’t be crated or separated from me without having fits of anxiety. SO, because i was confident that i wasn’t getting a dog genetically-predisposed to any of those weaknesses, i was now free to think about what i could actively do to prevent their development.
and? unbelievably to my anxiety brain? that actually worked. i have a two and a half year old who is perfect in so many ways and of whom i and his breeder are really proud.
IN CLOSING: i cannot tell you whether or not a field line golden specifically is a safer option. if i had a specific aussie breeder to compare to show line goldens, i could probably answer with confidence but my breed has such variety in quality of breeders and i do not know many field line goldens personally at all. anxiety and neuroses and reactivity should not just exist in aussies. good breeders believe that and care about reducing the appearance of those behaviours in their lines. you can and should find those breeders if you decide to go with an aussie; doing so will absolutely minimize the risks. and finally: your anxiety is normal and understandable and completely unnecessary. the fact that you are worried about it at all tells me you and your puppy will very likely be FINE no matter what. :)