Liking girls so I can be a tiktoker !!
Tbh I feel as whenever I scroll on social media I come across posts that either bordeline glorify and gentrify it while coming across as ignorant to queerness in general while also coming across posts that are so connivingly hateful and homophobic that it almost brings hate to a new meaning
Being gay has now become a normal thing due to social media, and I love it ! People now have access to likeminded creators while also having a better safe space
Now what's my problem w it ?
Well... While simultaneously creating a safe space it also creates terrible discourse. Thats right IM TALKING ABT THE SEXUALIZATION OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY 🗣️🗣️🗣️
Firstly, BL has always been problematic. Often created by straight women to appease to straight women, it usually poses heteronomative gender roles onto two men, the uke often being more effeminate and submissive and ugh the seme..... Anyways, its spice is it's inherently taboo love of two boys being together, yet it's somehow gentrified into 'oh daddy alpha' seme and 'itty bitty y/n' uke
And over pandemic bl has become mainstream. Dont get me wrong I'm all up for gay rep but not all press is good press. It creates a misguided image on mlm relationships, making them seem as simple as 'we're both boys' and then then the pretty shorter boy bounces on the ceo like chicken jockey
DONT GET ME STARTED ON HOW THEYRE ALWAYS DOING IT RAW, HAVE WE FORGOTTEN ABT AIDS ????
BL not only sexualizes gay men for the straight eye but paints harmful stereotypes for them as well.
This is also a common problem in wlw spaces as well, but its been fetishized and both extremes.
For one you have girls who say 'it must be so easy to date a girl !', or that when they have a lesbian or wlw friend they go 'do u think I'm hot ?', and then thered the straight men fetishizing wlw relationships or remarking that they just havent met the right guy
Queer women as a whole has been sexualized FOR DECADES, and a lot of lesbian films also tend to cater the male eye while trying to appear progressive. But those also tend to stereotype wlw relationships as tomboy and femme, yet again a victim of people pushing their heternomative standards on queer people 🤑🤑
Both of these is just eensy tiny bitty part of the iceberg, and these are complex issues that can't be discussed on one tumblr post
I havent even talked about the infantilazation of trans men and harassment of trans women
But I dont have personal experience nor enough knowledge so I will not attempt to touch it
Now, the root of all my problems, tik tok.
Though the upsides certainly outweigh the downs, it still doesnt erase the sheer stupidity I see on that god forsaken app.
Things like straight sexual, (???) Lesbian aesthetic, asking creators online (WHOM ARE REAL PEOPLE) if theh top or bottom, etc etc
Because while simultaneously normalizing it, the priveleged now want a taste of our tasty poor people gay lobster
Clearly there's no clear solution to this, but if we talk about it, surely someone would be able to offer a remedy soon enough
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