i shred on the banjo, so...

mostly abandoned. check the pinned post.

[fiddlesjulie]

well hello there!

mostly, this blog is about jatp, but you’ll also see any fandoms i’m in that aren’t in the 911verse, because i have a separate blog for that, as well as any non-fandom posts i want to have on my blog that i reblog from the people i follow not for 911 (save for a few exceptions).

some basic info about me:

name: lejan

age: 19

pronouns: they/he

if you want more, you’ll probably find it in the tags of reblogs. i tend to overshare there.

my other links:

911verse blog

ao3

my multifandom masterlist

[reallyreallyreallytrying]

“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[doubleca5t]

An actual World Heritage Post

[dykecosette]

how does this post not have a million notes but anyone online can quote it

[definitelynotlazav]

one week until ten years of Spiders Georg

[yd12k]

[batmansymbol]

OKAY TUMBLR. IT'S TIME TO SETTLE THIS ONCE AND FOR ALL.

Reblog this if you pronounce “.gif” as “GIF.”

NOT JIF,

GIF.

And here is the link for the opposite.

WE SHALL SEE WHICH ONE PREVAILS.

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

wiggly static pride wallpapers

lesbian | gay

bi | trans

rainbow | pan

ace | aro

nonbinary | queer

please reblog if you save any! <3

[ornamental-commie-faggot]

[wr0temyway0ut]

Alright yeah I’ll make a hyper specific poll why not

Can play over 60 instruments

Double jointed in my toe

Former accidental TikTok influencer

Written 400,000 words of fanfiction

Bad knee at too young an age to have a bad knee

Over 30 cousins

Cat person but allergic to cats

Captain of a sport I hated in high school

More than one of the above (specify in tags/comments)

None of the above

Voting ended onApr 21, 2023

[aahsokaatano]

yeah I'll jump on the hyperspecific poll bandwagon sure

I have seen a manatee mother and calf in the wild

I've visited a continental divide

I've eaten tacos in the last 24 hours

I have flown in a two-person plane

I've been thrown out of a moving vehicle (not jumped. thrown.)

I have a facial scar, and like, it's not even a cool one

I've swam with wild sharks

A doctor has told me "oh that's weird!" after I described my symptoms

I have at least one definitely-haunted doll/statue in my possession

None of the above

Voting ended onApr 20, 2023

[uncahier]

Another oddly specific poll! Which applies to you?

Been to a foreign country but never left the airport

Your own dog won a prize in a competition

Can name the hex code for your favorite color

Related to a well-known murderer

Can read alto clef

Zero food allergies

Can name all 50 US states in alphabetical order

Are double-jointed

More than one of the above

None of the above

Voting ended onApr 20, 2023

Tell us which in the tags if you want!

[returnofahsoka]

hey quick question, how many languages do you speak on a strictly basic level? not the ones you're fluent in, i'm asking how many languages you speak enough to be able to just barely survive a trip to the grocery store?

1

2

3

4

5

6 or more

i only speak one language fluently

i speak multiple languages fluently but have no base knowledge of other ones

Voting ended onFeb 28, 2023

feel free to elaborate in the tags, i'm really curious! also please reblog for larger sample size

[birdofmay]

Poll because I'm curious:

How many first cousins do you have? (put your answer and your "roots"/background in the comments if you want)

0

1

2

3

4

5

6

7

8

more than 8

Voting ended onFeb 24, 2023

I ask for the "roots" because of this idea that in some "cultures" families are very big, and in other "cultures" they tend to be small, and I want to know to what degree this applies to cousins 😄

[doccywhomst]

ok i just wanna check something.... reblog if you've never watched/opened tumblr live

[inkstaindusk]

Just told my dad about how in high school they would tell us to run the mile without teaching us how beforehand and he was appalled

[inkstaindusk]

Now I'm kinda curious and also have polls so

fellow usamericans choose something in high school that you didn't realize was fucked up until you were an adult

7:30am class

0 period

30-minute lunch (bonus points if it took 15min just to buy lunch)

cafeteria "food"

$100 ap exams that don't even count towards your grade

the sign out system to go to the bathroom

whatever the fuck was going on in the hallways

the stress induced pains

The FitnessGram Pacer test is a multistage aerobic capacity test that progressiv

other (elaborate in the notes)

Voting ended onFeb 15, 2023

[emperornero]

not all have emojis but

STRONGEST WET BEAST. BATTLE

fish🐟🐠🐡

octopus🐙

squid

axolotl

jellyfish

shart🦈

sea slug🐚🐌

other mysterious beast.... [tags?]

Voting ended onFeb 9, 2023

[emperornero]

I DIDMT MEAN TO PUT. SHART . I CANT EDIT IT NOW FUUCK

[funnytwittertweets]

[tomwambsmilk]

Put in the tags what your weird and obscure childhood faves are

[3-enbies-in-a-trenchcoat]

Can everyone please go watch Dead End: Paranormal Park? It’s a comedy/horror cartoon on Netflix that has some of the best representation I’ve ever seen in any piece of media.

Netflix didn’t do shit to advertise it but it’s amazing!

One of the main characters is a Pakistani-American autistic bi girl with anxiety whose special interest actively contributes to the plot. The other is a fat, Jewish, gay trans man with blue hair, pronouns, and a pug voiced by Beetlejuice.

Not only that, but they’re also allowed to say the words! Barney says he’s trans, Norma says she’s bi, and Logs says he’s gay!

Also, several episodes acknowledge the ways in which those things affect these characters : Barney deals with transphobia(without anyone ever misgendering/dead-naming him on-screen. Also, he deals with a type of quiet (??) transphobia that is almost never acknowledged in tv shows and I could talk about just that for so long), an episode of season 2 is mostly dedicated to coming out, episode 3 of season 1 has a scarily accurate representation of Norma’s anxiety, etc.

Also, despite the fact that Barney is trans and fat, no one ever gives him that look for having feelings for someone who’s cis, fitter, taller and more ‘typically attractive’ than him. It’s made clear early-on that his feelings are reciprocated, and no one gives him shit(however, he does briefly talk about being body-shamed when at the gym).

Honorable mentions :

-“I’m sorry you’re straight.”

-Gord

-Amazing worldbuilding

-No punching bag character (I mean that as, like, degrading jokes. Because physically there absolutely is)

-Courtney

-Time travel but done right

-There’s a main character who dies twice

-It has actually funny moments, which is great for a comedy

-It has actually scary moments, which is great for horror

-The way Logs talks about coming out(I know it’s already in the post but that scene was so fucking great)

-MUSICAL EPISODE (the music is AWESOME)

-Barney asks Norma for permission to hug her because he knows she doesn’t like being touched

-‘theydies and gentlethems’

[yellowmonday-deactivated2022120]

Gay Dads Kissing, 1983

[stillwaterseas]

The photographer is J. Ross Baughman who shot this as part of a special for LIFE magazine, but this was ultimately excluded from the published article. The two men in the photograph, Robert and Michael, are still alive and together today! More about this historic photo shoot here in Smithsonian Magazine (and an uncropped version of the photo).

[aeide-thea]

Worth mentioning, I think, that specifically what the OP chose to crop out above was the daughter who had Down syndrome:

[farragoofwires]

many lgbtq people ARE disabled i don't know what the rationale for cropping the image was but i find it hard to imagine one i wouldn't take issue with we owe this family more respect than to be literally erasing a member of it like just. god. imagine being one of these men and seeing this photo getting passed around with yr beloved child literally cut out of it she passed away at 33 from pneumonia and now this memory of her‚ too‚ is being erased frankly the more i think about it the more steamed i get. what a fucking obscene thing to do. respect people's lives as they were and as they presented them to be recorded. don't cut bits of them off to make them fit. everyone who reblogged the above version of the post ought to have to go back and add this little girl back in‚ imo. but of course that's not going to happen. ableism wins out and the world keeps turning.

also like. the article stillwaterseas linked is a bit obliquely written‚ but there's a bit in it that says 'between them they had four children‚ one of whom‚ a daughter with down syndrome‚ lived with them full time' which sounds suspiciously like 'the children's mothers wanted partial custody of the other children but not of the disabled one' and i just think like. how do you look at this deep act of love and care and marginalized solidarity (solidarity is sort of a weird word in this context but ykwim) where the gay dads were the ones willing to care for the disabled daughter full-time and say 'my vision of gayness has no room for this' i just. i gotta stop but genuinely i find this so fucking upsetting. stop making us less beautifully tenderly human than we are!!

tags by aeide-thea

[fred-erick-frankenstein]

[ID 1: a black and white, cropped photo of two men, kissing. One of them holds on to the frames of a window and leans out of the window to kiss the other. The other has a little child on his back, that's holding on to his arms, smiling.

ID 2: the same photo but now you can see the rest of it, including the white, wide frame. You can see now that in front of the man who's leaning out of the window stands another small child with glasses, who's looking up at her father. /end ID].

[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

With the holidays coming up this is everyone’s reminder to

Ask little kids if they’d like a hug first

If they say no, verbally affirm the reasonable shit you just heard. “You said you wouldn’t like a hug. We won’t hug.”

You don’t even have to redirect with a high five, even though that’s fine. Touching isn’t for everyone.

Do not say upsetting things like “where is my hug?” Clown, you don’t own hugs.

It is fine to model consent by placing boundaries on touch. “Let’s wash your hands before we cuddle.” “I’m leaving this couch if you continue to yeet your foot into my pregnant belly.” “that was fun but I’m going to take a break now.”

Touchy children are not inherently sweeter. Love languages exist at any age.

Some kids like touch but not eye contact. A hug from behind is a good one or “let’s close our eyes and squeeze really tight. Ready?”

I’m dead f*ing serious there are people who want your physical affection so badly but need you to modify your approach. Just like there are people who want to get into buildings but need ramps.

Don’t comment if a kid shows affection to another adult but not you. They’re weird like that but you don’t have to make it weirder.

[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

IN ADDITION:

Odds are their are other kids watching how you interact and taking queues. They don’t mean to be turds but egocentric stages of development make it hard to take perspective and be considerate. Hearing an adult say “Susie, it seems like you’d like to look around for awhile first. That’s ok. Maybe we can play later,” or “Phew it was pretty noisy and crowded in the car. Want some alone time?” can make a big difference.

Case in point, an autistic kid lived a couple doors down from me. One day he was over to play and got upset. My mom offered him the empty bathtub to sit in and stim, which he wanted to do. Did I think this was weird? Yep. I was a child. Did I get over my damn self? Yep. Because the adult in the room was clearly fine with the other child’s needs. She did the dishes. I guess I colored. The world kept turning.

[ckret2]

More How To Manage ADHD

“I never remember to take out the trash until my trash can is full, at which point the trash bag is really heavy and the stuff at the bottom has been rotting a while, and it’s awful!”

Small brain: “Try to train yourself to take out the trash on certain days at certain times.”

Large brain: “Buy a tiny trash can. Now you HAVE to empty it.”

[adhd-community]

That’s genius!

I just put it in front of my door when it’s full so I am physically unable to leave unless I pick it up.

[feamir]

The best advice I’ve ever received about managing my depression/anxiety/adhd is that disability exists in the context of the environment. Accommodations are not about changing yourself to work in your environment — it’s about changing your environment to better work for you.

So yeah, get a tiny trash can and put it by your door. Store your towels in your bathroom so you can immediately change them when they smell funny. Hang a basket by your door for your gloves and earbuds. Leave a box of cliff bars by your door so you never leave without breakfast. Change your environment and change your life!

[adhd-community]

“Change your environment and change your life”

[fandomsandfeminism]

I learned a long time ago that if I have to remember to pack a fork *every day* for lunch, I end up at work with no fork about 30% of the time.

But if I take an entire 50 count box of forks and put the entire thing in my lunch box? I *always have a fork.*

And I have extra forks for coworkers who forgot to pack a fork, and then I seem SUPER responsible. Lol.

[alarajrogers]

Back in 2011 I attended an event called BMoreFail which was a business seminar on business failure, taught by guest speakers who had all failed at something, and I had a revelation.

If your system would work fine if people Just Would, but it does not work because people Don’t, and you feel very strongly that it works but people are not using it right and if only they Just Would everything would be fine… your system is a failure. Because if people were capable of Just Doing, they would be doing. The fact that people Don’t is an indication that they, in fact, cannot Just Would.

I was thinking of this in terms of workflow systems in business, but it’s just as meaningful in the systems you create for yourself that would work if you Just Would. Because if you Could, then you already Would. The fact that you Don’t even though it would work if you Just Would means that you in fact Can’t and you need to redesign the system.

That doesn’t always make it easier to figure out a system that will work, but it does tell you something about how to deal with the repeated failure of the system. Change it. The system is always what’s broken, not the people in it. Systems exist to serve people; if they cannot serve people because people can’t use them, they are wrong and must be changed.

[roach-works]

if your Correct System sucks to use the Right Way, it isn’t correct and that isn’t the right way. redesign it.