Sina ("Zee-nuh") (she/they/it/any EXCEPT for he/him) • My name is Frisian and I am too • I was diagnosed with severe autism as a child, but I don't have ID. Yes, that's possible 😄 • I am non-verbal "from birth": I never learned to speak, but sometimes I randomly say single words. I also struggle with receptive language and don't understand complex language/walls of text. • I try to be nice to everyone, so in case I criticise you, that's not meant in a mean way! You can always tell me if I upset you, I'll take that seriously
Unless I make it clear that I don't like something and that a post is negative, you can always assume that my posts are neutral to positive. I mean what I say unless stated otherwise. I'll make it clear when I'm sarcastic or joking. Tone tags like /nf (no force), etc. confuse me because usually it wouldn't even have occurred to me that someone could have felt forced by it. I take things literally and mean things literally. If I don't, I'll make that clear ☝🏼
FAQ:
Frequently Asked Questions (medical and personal)
I don't understand AAC users, please help
Autism levels, support needs, severity, and terminology:
What's the difference between nonverbal and nonspeaking?
"Master-master post" about autism and terminology
Archive:
Words for when you suddenly can't speak anymore (based on suggestions; list is closed now)
What is receptive language disorder?
Why people still talk about "severity" in autism (double link)
Nonverbal/nonspeaking masterpost
Communication with autistics who are nonverbal "from birth"
Functional communication doesn't mean that you are able to self advocate
Support Needs and Support Levels masterpost
What trying to reclaim the R slur when you don't have ID implies (the reblog)
The disability stall discourse
I use "severe" as a self-descriptor because that's what I was diagnosed with and therefore that's what people always refer to me as. I use it to indicate that my symptoms are different from most autistics on Tumblr and that I probably can't relate to most "extremely relatable autism posts" on here. I would never(!) force a label on someone, it's solely for myself.
You'll find my tag system and other things under the cut:
1. If I ever use too complex language for you, please tell me!
Writing TL;DRs and finding simpler ways to express myself is actually good for my language comprehension skills, so we’d both benefit! I think in pictures, not in words. Writing is like a jigsaw puzzle of things I once read, so if my language is complex it’s because the text jigsaw puzzle was. Reformulating things and finding new words for the pictures in my head could improve the ability to express myself :)
2. I don't expect anyone to "read between the lines" and extract "hidden meanings" here! I make it clear when I'm sarcastic or joking, and I will explicitly tell you when I want you to know that I'm angry or annoyed! ☝🏼In case I forget that, it's never your fault if you didn't get it, it's mine because I promised to make it clear but didn't.
3. I turn notifications off for bigger posts - if you want me to see a comment, tag me! (Edit: I was told that you don't see tags from muted posts either... So if you want me to see a comment, DM me!)
4. Radfems kindly don't follow - your beliefs contradict the beliefs of most of my followers in a way that I think at some point you'll simply start attacking each other and I wouldn't want that. Especially for those who are higher support needs. I think you'll understand that. I mean most of your beliefs contradict most of MY beliefs as well, but I simply don't engage in that, I have radfem content blocked.
5. Transableds, you shouldn't have the fact that you're transabled (for example transautistic) in your profile when following me, because I block people posting about that.
6. Don’t take it personally if I don’t follow back, it doesn’t mean that I don’t like you! There are so many people I’d like to follow back, but if I did my dash would be full of posts I’m not interested in...... Maybe that’s an autism thing too. Sometimes I follow “regulars” back after a while because I got used to them. And then the first thing I do is spending hours (hyperbole) blocking tags or words so that I don’t have to see 100 video game posts... 😄
7. I don’t soft block people - but sometimes I want to block a bot and mix up usernames... So if it should ever happen that you used to follow my blog, but suddenly realise you don’t anymore: That was an accident, feel free to re-follow! Kicking you off my follower list wasn’t me setting boundaries, it was me being absolutely confused! 😂
8. Tag system:
#anecdotes - positive posts about my family
#anon ask or #ask - block if you don't want to see my asks
#birdofmusic - block if you don't like random talks about bands and tastes in music
#faq - exactly what it says: frequently asked questions. Better read it before you send an ask
#me trying to be informative - more or less informative posts about autism or other disabilities
#naughty post - sometimes I'll tell dirty jokes or something. Nothing explicit of course. In case you struggle with topics like that, block this tag
#not autism - block if you're only here for the autism stuff
#rambling - whenever I just want to write down a thought or situation and it's not really important
#Sina being a hippie again - whenever I ramble about peace and love and happiness 🤷🏻
#sina's special interest - block if you don't like music theory and instruments like the piano
I just read this post about straight girls constantly asking lesbian friends or acquaintances who in their friend group they think is the hottest and then acting offended when they're told "You're not my type", etc.
Let me tell you, my brother (very gay, very flamboyant, you can tell from miles away) started this "Who would I go to pride with?" experiment, where, whenever he gets friendly with a straight guy, at some point he either drops a "When I first met you I thought you were really cute" or alternatively says he considers a friend of said straight guy cute..... and closely studies their reaction.
Mind you, he does that when he knows he's safe, so it's more like a social experiment without negative consequences..... Well, MOSTLY without negative consequences, I'll tell you about that one instance later.
Reactions are neutral to positive, sometimes confused as to what the person in question is supposed to do with that information, but they're usually never negative.
And sometimes there are reactions that immediately mark said guy as a possible token straight friend in a queer group. Which makes that person an "I would go to pride with him" guy.
Whenever this happens, I get a really excited message and a description about how this guy somehow matches the "queer vibes" in a group - mostly it's being able to get queer jokes and making really good queer jokes themselves. Sometimes it's a certain music taste or things like that.
The so far best reaction he described to me was a guy going "You bet, I remember you telling me about your husband when we first met, I knew I was your type from day one" (they look similar), when said guy actually wasn't my brother's type at all........ until he realised that they in fact look similar and now my brother can't unsee it 😂 So that was one instance where it backfired 😂
But apart from that, this "Who would I go to pride with?" experiment has been really entertaining to me personally 😄
there are some internet friends where eventually you start calling them by their real name and then there’s times where its like nah son your name is crispy forever
intersex culture is being so damn tired of the tag spam with the inevitable pride month posts that have nothing to do with intersexuality (and often actively exclude intersexuality despite adding the tag). we're already barely considered as it is, it just makes it feel like intersex is one more bingo square to fill out rather than something that refers to real people who are already constantly ignored and pushed out of queer spaces.
(and also that one fucking person who said that intersex people shouldn't count as queer because "it's not a sexuality or gender"?????)
anon how does it feel to be the realest motherfucker out there
perisex people if youre going to include us in your tag spam, please make an effort to include us as human beings too. we belong at pride, we belong in queer spaces. please make an effort to make us feel welcome and not a shadow. ive spent so long in the closet about being intersex and this year i am making it the focal point of my pride celebration. i dont want to be met with crickets, and im sure no one else in the community does as well. make the "i" in lgbtqia+ feel more welcome if you want to spread good this pride month. anon is right a lot of it feels incredibly perfomative and i hope we can fix that
You know what, no, I won't leave this in the tags.
Posts like these are about sensitivity. But if you make a post about sensitivity, please include us as well. Work on YOUR sensitivity too. Don't throw us under the bus.
It will never not be funny to me when people ask me if I want to try to get a driving license, now that I only have seizures when triggered instead of “out of the blue”.
Do you know what my triggers are?
High contrasts, flashing light, etc.
Do you know where flashing lights are extremely common?
On cars, roadwork and traffic signs, generally everywhere while driving in a car … especially at night.
Do you know what’s a mandatory test before getting a driving license in my country?
Driving at night.
Yeah … not possible 😂
“Do you want to try to pass a test that will trigger you epilepsy now that you only have seizures when triggered?”
"Erm but state laws and-" I need you to understand that people who live in countries you can't even place on the map already know what you're about to say. Involuntarily.
"Your understanding of queer history is so Western-centric, learn about gender in other cultures from this book written by a Western scholar who submitted their own personal Eat, Pray, Love and/or diaspora blues as a thesis"
