[softie-sophie]

Be fat, let the chairs suffer.

[marxism-ex-silium]

There has been over the years a proliferation of MRA rhetoric about family courts as an example of 'anti male biases/ misandry' in society. These arguments are based on nothing other than lies and vibes that are easily absorbed as under the conditions of patriarchy it is hardly difficult to convince people that women are evil privileged bitches who live life on easy mode.

This idea is, in simple terms, absolute nonsense that persists for no reason other than misogyny.

It has been shown time and time again before this UK article + study that family courts are institutionally biased against women despite what most people believe. A woman who alleges abuse against her ex partner is MORE likely to lose her case and access to kids then those who don't. (1) Claims of 'parental alienation' further compound this (2). Especially, as these legal processes are often used by male abusers as a way to maintain access to their ex female partners in order to further harm, abuse, and degrade them (3).

Family courts are not bias against fathers or men, they are not stacked in favour of the mother, and they certainly don't just let women 'take the kids and money and run'. They, like all major institutions formed under the conditions of patriarchy, are deeply misogynistic in their functions, treatments, and outcome.

MRAs lie. Misandry isn't real.

https://scholarship.law.gwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2712&context=faculty_publications

https://womensaid.org.uk/family-courts-remain-an-unsafe-and-traumatic-place-for-women-and-children/

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11305050/

[mousidy]

I think part of the reason TMEs hate TME/TMA so much is that "TMA" is a nigh unstigmatizable term. like good luck turning "person who is a target of transmisogyny" into like, a derogatory term or slur. the terms refer pretty directly to our oppression and I like that about them

[mousidy]

I don't think calling someone "non-transfem" really has that kind of heft, you know? it's essentially a synonym of TME, but the "exempt" in TME refers pretty directly to privilege. and when I criticize some TME nonsense, it's the privilege and its associated behaviors and entitlements that I intend to criticize, not simply the fact a person is not transfem

[iavenjqasdf]

get ready for agoraphobic girl whatever season it is outside

[chimeracauldron]

fucking moo or something

[mousidy]

so how much more do trans women need to show you about what we go through before you stop rolling your eyes when we say we face misogyny

[mousidy]

we face misogynistic patterns of abuse, discrimination, and oppression, intertwined with and amplified by transphobia. and then, beaten down, when we seek community with others who face these things, we are laughed off as the jokes we've always been told we are

[mousidy]

pale imitations of womanhood

when we are raped, it is a pale imitation of real rape

when we are abused by our partners, it is a pale imitation of real domestic abuse

when we are punished for our failures to meet patriarchal standards of womanhood, it's a pale imitation of the same thing happening to cis women

when we grieve our inability to give birth, it is a pale imitation of the grief of cis women who cannot give birth

when we face violence and murder at incredibly high rates, when we are threatened and catcalled and harassed by men in public, our fear is a pale imitation of that of cis women

when we are paid the lowest wages of any gender demographic, it is a pale imitation of the smaller wage gap faced by cis women

our suffering is a pale imitation of real suffering

what jokes we are

[mousidy]

to be vulnerable for a second. it's painful. I want it to be ok but it isn't ok. I hope things start to get better if we keep working to make them better. I want my sisters to be ok

[mousidy]

I want my sisters to be ok

[mousidy]

please

[neonjawbone]

recent commissions! for the pals @ninawolv3rina and @flowersoffrost

[angelbabyspice]

White people loooove to live laugh love let’s all bleed red and be human together when it comes to their access to things being cut off bc they are white. But the second that exclusion benefits them….lol.

[angelbabyspice]

Mind you the denied access is simply PERCEIVED. There is NO space in person or virtually where black people can safely exclude white and non black people A) because we don’t hold the systemic power to do so and B) because you all have a fucking meltdown when we attempt to so.

[pocket-deer-belly]

i feel like being turned on by your own body is so agonizingly normal it's so fucked that that one guy made it a whole diagnosis specifically for trans women. and he's not even dead yet

[madmonksandmaenads]

I wish I could make white people(and not just white Americans) understand how diverse the pre-columbian Americas were. The history, religion, culture, politics was at least as complex as Europe's. There was the full gamut of religions, from monotheists to animists to ancestral religions. There were city building empires, village farmers, nomadic traders, and so many other ways to live. This is all just based on what we know, the fragments left behind and the stories of survivors of an apocalyptic plague. All this before the most extended campaign of genocide in history was waged in an attempt to wipe out those survivors.

Over 500 years spent trying to cut down a whole trunk of human culture.

Do you understand how much poorer our whole species is because of it? Can you imagine where art, religion, and science would be if we still had these vast bodies of knowledge? The stain of the colonial project will never be fully washed clean. We owe more than just the land to those we stole from. We owe them a whole future, a future that could have been brighter for all of us. If only greed and fear weren't allowed to rule this land.

[storyweavingspider]

Dead serious I think a lot of the current state of affairs can be attributed to the fact that for some reason we stopped punching white supremacists as the default. Brief but glorious period of time in US culture where being publicly racist was met with ass beating by more than just Black folks.

[storyweavingspider]

Need whites to start bringing this energy back instead of missing 20 different attempts at one person

[storyweavingspider]

Like I talk about being an Abolitionist a lot and believing in the intrinsic value of life/only seeing death/murder/etc. as an absolute last resort

However, to be clear, I am NOT a pacifist and in the words of Nina Simone, I ain’t bout to be non-violent honey.

They’re killing trans women, particularly Black trans women, as they always have and will keep doing in increasingly horrific ways. No amount of protests will keep us safe. Cops definitely ain’t gonna keep us safe - over in Philly they beat and arrested 15 people at a pride event in the Gayborhood while the “official” city pride event was apparently costing $10 per person minimum.

They’re abducting racialized people off the streets and occupying entire US cities like DC and Memphis with the explicit goal of disappearing as many of us as they can, regardless of “citizenship”, visas, or anything else.

Black people are being actively lynched. Black CHILDREN in particular have been found lynched after being “missing”. I can literally go on Twitter or Facebook for less than a minute and discover a new lynching or murder of a trans woman.

We are especially being taken when we are alone, when others leave us alone, when others do nothing.

We have to be willing to protect ourselves and each other if and when needed. We need to get a lot more comfortable with ACTION not just words, with not turning away when we see something happening before we get caught up in it.

Will the person you saw and turned away from go missing?

Will they be dead next, or worse?

Even if you can’t stop it, can you get their name? Can you record it? Find their families?

It cant just be us fighting always, especially as things get worse. You have to start moving too.

Punch a white supremacist, but don’t let it stop there. Don’t keep turning away just because it’s hard. You have to be willing to act.

[occidentalist]

Every UK and Irish news outlet rn is opting for bullshit euphemisms like “unrest” and pussyfooting around calling what just happened in Belfast what it fucking was; a pogrom. Nazis attempted a pogrom of (primarily black African) migrants.

[storyweavingspider]

I think one of the things that legitimately pisses me off so much about TME people is how often they force me to burn energy on defending white trans women because instead of addressing the legitimate racism from white people in the trans community, they do transmisogyny and claim it’s antiracism while ignoring trans women of color about it regardless.

[recovering-vamp]

[mrsterlingeverything]

Get those fupas out its friday !!

[gums]

i highly recommend for women and girls to be intellectually curious and difficult to shame

[sapphireh3arts]

did you know literally *everyone* is raised racist. like by society at minumum, if not specifically by their parents. if you aren't constantly questioning the prejucides around and inside of YOU, yes even you, then you aren't taking enough action in your daily life to be a traitor to the state of white supremacy.