Johanna 💜

she/her it/its// trans lesbian // 30s // polyam // communist // antizionist Jew

[kayla-denker]

"Nooooo, bro! You cant take away my emotional support misgendering of trans women! 'Dude' is totally gender neutral, dude! I promise, my guy! C'mon, man, just lemme call every single trans woman 'dude!' I promise it's gender neutral and not a very obvious way for me to misgender them with thinly veiled plausible deniability, brother!"

[kayla-denker]

No, it doesn't "depend on the person."

"Dude" is fucking masculine. This is very easily demonstrated.

Go ask a straight guy about all the "dudes" he's fucked. Ask him who the "dude" is that he's dating.

People claim "dude" is gender neutral because in most everyone's mind men are the default human beings.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

[legalityoftheraccoons]

i dont think you read what I said

[buckysrightarm1]

hi hello as somebody in said friend group, we have stated multiple times that many of us use “dude” “girl” and “babe” gender neutrally! And if someone of uncomfy with that, we change it :)

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

[legalityoftheraccoons]

i dont think they read what I said

[kayla-denker]

Hey, buckysrightarm1, your friend sucks shit. You should get a better friend.

You notice that malicious "they" that he switched to calling me there? He knows my pronouns are she/her. They're at the top of my blog and he correctly used them in a previous reblog.

He is the exact kind of person I'm complaining about in all my posts about this subject. I don't care that your little friend group is fine with him calling you all 'dude.' I care about all the trans women out there that he's misgendering by default. And his enrire shitty response to this whole thing proves to me he is the exact kind of person that makes so many of us have to just keep our mouths shut and quietly endure being constantly misgendered by him. Because the moment we ask him to stop he'll roll his eyes and say "ugh, I meant it gender neutrally!" And then just keep doing it "on accident." And thats the best case scenario.

[buckysrightarm1]

Ok now you’re just looking for fights lmao

[perpetual-oratorio]

This was you two being transmisogynists convinced you can't do wrong

Lmao he's never misgendered anyone on purpose and apologizes when he does it by accident, on a post where he misgendered op and didn't apologize

[kayla-denker]

"Nooooo, bro! You cant take away my emotional support misgendering of trans women! 'Dude' is totally gender neutral, dude! I promise, my guy! C'mon, man, just lemme call every single trans woman 'dude!' I promise it's gender neutral and not a very obvious way for me to misgender them with thinly veiled plausible deniability, brother!"

[kayla-denker]

No, it doesn't "depend on the person."

"Dude" is fucking masculine. This is very easily demonstrated.

Go ask a straight guy about all the "dudes" he's fucked. Ask him who the "dude" is that he's dating.

People claim "dude" is gender neutral because in most everyone's mind men are the default human beings.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

[legalityoftheraccoons]

i dont think you read what I said

[buckysrightarm1]

hi hello as somebody in said friend group, we have stated multiple times that many of us use “dude” “girl” and “babe” gender neutrally! And if someone of uncomfy with that, we change it :)

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

[legalityoftheraccoons]

i dont think they read what I said

[kayla-denker]

And I think you're just a transmisogynist.

[kayla-denker]

"I call everyone 'dude' unless they ask me not to." How about you just stop misgendering women by default and forcing us to place ourselves in a very vulnerable position of having to ask you to stop?

Like, are you fucking so oblivious to the massive social stigma we are under in regards to asking people not to misgender us? How are you not aware of the extremely common caricature of the angry tranny yelling "Did you just assume my gender?!?!" It's a whole ass meme!

Do you not see horde of people who get angry at us specifically for asking them to not call us 'dude?' And you have the gall put the onus on us to ask you to stop calling us that in real fucking flesh-and-blood life where we could be physically assaulted, lose lose our jobs, or any number of a myriad of very serious negative consequences on our lives?!

"All my trans women friends are fine with it!"

I'm very confident in saying that I don't think they are at all. I'm sure that they either just keep quiet and silently endure you constantly misgendering them, or outright lie to you and say it's fine when it's not, because they don't want to take the risk of you ruining their lives. I know this, because I have to make that decision literally every single day of my life over the exact same thing.

Stop regarding men as the default, and stop misgendering women as the default. What the actual fuck is wrong with you? That's a rhetorical question. I know that the answer is (trans)misogyny.

[kayla-denker]

"Nooooo, bro! You cant take away my emotional support misgendering of trans women! 'Dude' is totally gender neutral, dude! I promise, my guy! C'mon, man, just lemme call every single trans woman 'dude!' I promise it's gender neutral and not a very obvious way for me to misgender them with thinly veiled plausible deniability, brother!"

[kayla-denker]

No, it doesn't "depend on the person."

"Dude" is fucking masculine. This is very easily demonstrated.

Go ask a straight guy about all the "dudes" he's fucked. Ask him who the "dude" is that he's dating.

People claim "dude" is gender neutral because in most everyone's mind men are the default human beings.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

[legalityoftheraccoons]

i dont think you read what I said

[perpetual-oratorio]

If you think you can use the term dude gender neutrally, I don't think you read what she said

[closet-keys]

Nader is a young adult. He just turned 18 this year. He's had to sacrifice all of his dreams and comforts due to the escalating genocidal occupation of Gaza by the zionist project. His house was destroyed, his education was taken from him, and he has become the sole provider for his family of 8 through fundraising on tumblr. I want you to think about that weight. To be made responsible for the survival of your whole family as a teenager, and for this to depend on getting and maintaining the attention of people in the global north every day for years.

[closet-keys]

Israel has systematically worked to disable the population, and to destroy all means for disabled people to survive. Nader's father has experienced his health conditions become increasingly severe. He has stents in the main arteries of his heart due to blocked arteries. He was diagnosed with bladder cancer and needs surgery to remove a tumor. However, medical evacuation from Gaza is extremely expensive. Coordination costs can be over $12,000 per person, and Nader's father cannot make this journey alone.

[closet-keys]

Earlier today, Nader's father had to be brought to the Intensive Care Unit at their nearest hospital. He is now on life support. The systematic destruction of Gaza's healthcare system has left 94% of hospitals destroyed, and none of the remaining 36 are able to operate at full capacity. There are medicine and medical supply shortages. In this state, healthcare bills for this care are even more expensive. Please help Nader (@naderalanqar2007) to raise funds to save his father's life, and to support his family through this traumatic situation.

[alanqar-nader]

My father is suffering, and our lives are very difficult. I'm a borderline player, and about two weeks ago, my main blog was deleted, which has made our financial situation extremely difficult. For some time now, I've been trying to recover my blogs and create new ones, but Tumblr keeps deleting them or blocking messages from them. Please donate now. We haven't received any donations for about 14 days. We need a lot of money to pay my father's medical bills. I beg you, please donate.

[hotvampireadjacent]

Nader urgently needs help right now because his blogs keep getting deleted. Please follow his blog and donate to him and his father. Contribute whatever you can. If each of my followers donated $10, we would raise a great amount to help Nader and his family.

[hotvampireadjacent]

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[maidslime]

Saw a post making fun of vegans and yeah a lot of vegans suck but I remember when I was vegetarian for like ten years the ways meat eaters treated me were just as annoying, if not worse, than the average vegan. Like it'd be daily bullshit. Sometimes it'd be a coworker doing the "I'll eat an extra burger for you!" sometimes it'd be the work place telling you they accommodated you at the work party cuz they got Mac n cheese, acting like the bacon in its not a big deal and you only get to have lunch cuz the religious ladies knew what was going to happen and they shared with you. Sometimes people straight up try to force you to eat meat. Like I'm not joking when I say being vegetarian was bringing me near daily harassment, especially in the work place, but people just do not respect you no matter the excuse. The ladies who did it for religious purposes had people treat them like shit (racism etc) and then me being like "meat makes me sick" would be mocked. Like. Idk. I dislike self righteous vegans but the average American meat eater™ tangibly was so much worse.

[folly-of-alexandria]

Something that bugs the hell out of me is how so many people who are not transfem actively view transfemininity as mutually exclusive with having non-binary or complex gender identity.

"You're transfem, I thought you said you were non-binary?"

"You're transfem, I thought you were genderfluid?"

"Why are you letting people call you she/her, I thought you said you prefer any pronouns?"

Like at no point does being transfem preclude any of those things, but so many TME queers treat it like they are actively incompatible.

But when you're a transfem non-binary person, if you assert your non-binary aspects, suddenly they'll treat your transfemininity as something they can ignore, but if you do assert your femininity they'll label you a "binary trans woman" that's incapable of understanding complex gender identities or theory.

When I and other non-binary transfems tell people that "any" pronouns are acceptable, I tend to see a lot of people immediately default to either exclusively He/Him or They/Them. Hell I've even had people say to a friend of mine who called me "She/Her" and they would say "Actually they prefer 'He/Him'" which wasn't fucking true. But so many people default to treating us with masculine signifiers and with out even thinking about it exclude feminine ones.

A lot of my NB transfem friends with "any pronouns" mention to me that they notice that only other transfems will bother to ever use She/Her with them, and it kind of bothers them how many other people don't seem to consider doing it at all.

I dunno, I'm ranting. Point is, toss out the idea in your head that "transfem" is a binary identity that has no connection to being NB or genderfluid.

[pizzaback]

if as a transmasc you want to be tall, then say you want to be tall. if you want to be feminine then be feminine. if you want to be thin say you want to be thin. if you want to be alt then be alt. if you want to have a penis say you want to have a penis. just say which physical traits you want to have (preferably on your own post) and stop saying you want to “have the gender” of whichever trans woman’s selfies you’re commenting on. her gender is female and you would explode if you had to deal with even a fraction of the things she’s dealing with

[pizzaback]

i’m sure i’ve said it before but i really think that when transmascs say they “want the gender” of whichever woman they’re looking at what they really mean is that they want to be a feminine person with a penis, which is both achievable and should be achieved, but projecting this desire onto trans women is pretty disgusting actually, considering those aren’t what qualifies her gender, she might not even enjoy having whichever traits you’re pining after, and you will not have and do not want her gender anyway

[cutecipher]

it really is annoying as hell how someone will talk about how poor people can't avoid ethically dubious products because of how being poor works and then someone with a two story house in the suburbs will take that to mean they can order harry potter books through a drone delivery from amazon and if you criticize that you're a bigot

[soap-is-an-artist]

parallel to this

[gandalf-the-bean]

oh my god the person in that post is acting like it's random soldiers' faults that trump decided to bomb them abd declare war without congressional authorization

[perpetual-oratorio]

Awwwww poor little beans had no choice but to sign up to be imperialist murderers. If not for trump, signing on to go murder people for the sake of us imperialism would be a completely fine choice

[frostops]

not to shen egg discourse but the anger at egg jokes towards internet celebrities is always projection. people are using this post from his patreon as proof the jokes are evil,

shen doesnt say it harms him in anyway, but people are still using this as proof its wrong. "afaik" means he is not even discounting the possibility of his understanding of himself changing.

and i do genuinely hope the therapist he is seeing is one who is actually willing to help trans patients and this isnt some exploratory therapy shit. You dont go to therapy for gender stuff if you arent questioning gender stuff, but plenty of therapists will keep you questioning as long as possible because they do not want you to come to the answer that you want to transition. thats bad even if shen is cis.

[frostops]

id rather a thousand cis men be subject to egg jokes than a single trans woman be subject to exploratory therapy.

[bluedevil]

[noelle-ism]

i stopped giving a shit about "legit" purchases of digital products after i spent $80 on the entire Dark Horse collection of Trigun/Trigun Maximum ebook mangas, learning that I only got access to reading them through a proprietary website ereader function, couldn't download them, and couldn't get a refund, and then literally only a year later, getting an e-mail stating that Dark Horse was shutting down that part of their company and I wouldn't even be able to read them anymore. Fuck that

[noelle-ism]

Pirate shit. Don't feel bad for it. It's not "your fault" that artists, independent or otherwise, can't make a living. You downloading an album or ebook for free isn't the cause of the problem. The cause is capitalism, plain and simple, and pirating is a lucky loophole that companies are still trying to stomp out.

[made-in-manetheren]

When it comes to ebooks, that is just not true. Publishers do not look at how many times your book was pirated as part of gauging its success--it's not like streaming giants. Every single pirated book hurts authors and makes it more difficult for them to get published again. Author Maggie Stiefvater has a great post on here detailing how much piracy hurt her books, her income, and her ability to keep writing.

Pirating books can end authors' careers. Especially new or smaller authors.

Book piracy is NOT a victimless crime. It IS hurting authors.

It IS "your fault" just like stealing from someone's small business run out of their garage makes it "your fault" when the business/person struggles to recover financially from your theft.

Particularly given that you have free alternatives in libraries. Which DO actually contribute to the author's income, as well as to the library's funding justification.

Textbooks are a different matter. I'm chiefly talking about fiction here because it's my area of expertise. Point is.

Pirating novels and graphic novels is not like pirating visual media from media giants. You are not denying money to a faceless corporation. You are stealing from people who can't afford to lose income.

[noelle-ism]

I'm literally stealing something out of my neighbor's house whenever I download a PDF

[tamamita]

Man who was a Blackwater Mercenary, 3 times Iraq veteran, who served as a guard at Abu Ghraib, one time Afghanistan veteran, who said he loved it, and got a Nazi tattoo to celebrate it, and was accused a couple months ago of sexual assault and abuse - which the Yankee left were cool with and defended - is also a rapist

[tamamita]

I sincerely believe you should go to hell

[anonymousmorris]

Graham Platner ran on an anti-zionist, universal public healthcare, no foreign interventions, pro labor union, etc.

Susan Collin is running on a pro Israel platform, voted for the original Iraq war, voted for the anti boycott act (the one against bds), and voted for additional ice funding as well as the big beautiful bill.

[tamamita]

Ahh yes, the unrepentant vet that happily took 5 tours in Iraq, including 1 as a Blackwater mercenary, and lobbing mortars in population-dense environment, desecrating bodies, among other patently monstrous acts and directly serving to expand the interest of the US and the Settler state, is definitely an Anti-Zionist, who is against US imperialism and interventionism. Trust the war criminal rapist with the SS totenkopf tattoo on this one.

[thewinter22]

People really need to learn that a lesser evil is a lesser evil. Like yes it's still evil and we should fight for a world where our options arent two evils, but for now we need to pull the trolley lever

[perpetual-oratorio]

How's that strategy been working for you over the last 30 years?

[leviathan-supersystem]

The Navy’s presence in the Caribbean has not reduced despite the Iran war.

But the long deployments take a toll on the crews and Marines, who had planned for a normal rotation and are now months past their initial scheduled return home.

“You don’t sign up for an easy time, you know any deployment is going to be uncertain,” said Joe Plenzler, a retired Marine Corps officer. “But extending deployments like this, when it feels really open-ended, that starts to bleed into retention. How much more likely am I able to convince my family to do another enlistment and stick with it?”

incredible that the best liberals can do at criticizing Trump's illegal and unprovoked aggression towards Cuba is "but what if laying in wait to slaughter Cuban citizens with impunity mildly inconveniences our death squads???"

[jibunbosh]

refers to my alter as a tulpa for post clout the same way trans girls gotta call themselves femboys for sex work

[jibunbosh]

really bad post

[jibunbosh]

sorry

[jibunbosh]

genuine answer: No, like, emphatically, resoundingly, I cannot stress this enough, no

[closet-keys]

I have been very worried about my friend Ahmed (@ahmed-motaz). He has gone so long without access to clean water, nutritious food, medicine, and adequate shelter, and it is taking an extreme toll on his body. The depths of his hunger are physically painful, and his anemia leaves him dizzy. He recently fainted and his family found him unconscious. He desperately needs funds for medicine and food. Please help him.

[ahmed-motaz]

My friends, I feel like I'm living my last days because hunger and anemia have ravaged my health. Every day that passes without medicine and food causes me even more pain. Please stand by me so I can buy medicine and food. Please stand by me and don't leave me so I can survive this anemia and hunger.

[sporesgalaxy]

Please continue to help Ahmed and his family so they can survive, every bit counts

[savee-baby]

STOP SCROLLING, MY BABY QAIS’S WOUND OPENED AGAIN BEFORE MY EYES.

I started using torn, worn-out clothes instead of medical bandages for my baby Qais, and his wound became infected and opened again because I cannot afford proper supplies anymore.

[savee-baby]

Tonight, I could not properly clean Qais’s wound because medical supplies are too expensive, so I stood there terrified, watching the infection and bleeding grow worse before my eyes.

[savee-baby]

I beg you as a broken mother in Gaza who cannot protect her child from pain, hunger, and death. Please, don’t leave my baby Qais alone in this nightmare—donate now and help me save his life.

Please donate now Gofundme

[savee-baby]

OH MY GOD, I felt my heart break as I saw my baby Qais unable to move or respond, lying there in pain, and I could not help him. Please donate now and save him