Johanna 💜

she/her it/its// trans lesbian // 30s // polyam // communist // antizionist Jew

[renthony]

It's wild to watch the phrase "tumblr sexyman" morph into "man that tumblr thinks is sexy," because when I first saw the phrase come into use, I always saw it used in reference to the phenomenon of "when presented with a wide array of fictional characters, tumblr will always pick the skinny white man to obsess over, and if the fan-favorite character has no canonical human appearance, the fandom will inevitably create a popular fanon of the character as as a skinny white man."

When I hear "tumblr sexyman," I think of Cecil Night Vale being constantly depicted as a skinny white man instead of literally anything else. I think of the background character white men who get elevated over protagonists that are women, people of color, or otherwise not the white man power fantasy.

"Tumblr sexyman" is, like. An insult. I DON'T want any of my blorbos to win a "tumblr sexyman" poll. "Tumblr sexyman" is the exact opposite of what I want my own OCs to be. If any of my characters ever get called "tumblr sexyman," I will have to immediately re-evaluate myself and the art I'm making.

[renthony]

Things I think of when I hear "tumblr sexyman":

Cecil Night Vale, as previously mentioned.

Oncelercest, because if there aren't two skinny white men to ship, tumblr fandom will start shipping the skinny white man with himself.

Bill Cipher inexplicably being fanon'd as a white twink despite being a fucking triangle.

Everyone fawning over Marvel Loki while shoving every woman and Black person in the MCU aside.

The way nearly every single character in Hazbin Hotel has the same "tall and skinny" body type, along with all the criticisms Black audience members have made about the issues with Alastor's design.

The way tumblr got obsessed with the white man villain in Sinners.

[magicalastronomies]

these people really think they're funny huh

[elbiotipo]

It's like watching Germans make jokes about the Gestapo

[manuciruja]

los gringos mas progres cuando un latino no les cae bien:

[voidpumpkin]

it really is impressive how common the response to transfems going 'people underestimate how traumatic a transfems childhood is, particularly going through puberty' by transmascs is 'shut the fuck up, unlike you we actually had a traumatic childhood with rape, abuse and conversion therapy that you (males) would never understand)' implying that we don't go through that and like we do, the CSA rate for transfems is 58% at least. And while fucking hate bringing up examples of 'transmisogyny effects non transfems' cause it decentres us and acts like non transfems are the real victims, this viewpoint also implies that you don't believe gay boys have a traumatic childhood due to their queerness, that being amab is somehow an exemption for homophobia towards children.

Also don't try to argue that this isn't happening, I'm writing this in response to seeing this exact discourse blow up for the third time in a month

[dodykeahedron]

Trans women do actually have it worse. Cope.

[senhor-do-escuro]

The people who don't have to worry about being raped, forced into marriages or being pregnant have it "worse"?😂😂😂

[harpydykehalo]

Did you just say trans women can't be raped. Kill yourself.

[dodykeahedron]

Hey can we reblog this version. This is your ideology. This is TWERFism. This is transandrophobia belief. They are the same ideology.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

"you shouldn't speculate on a dead person's gender"

no one needs you to protect the inherent assumed cisness of someone who very obviously didn't fit the mold of what cis men are expected to act like, who died far too young and never got the chance to tell us how they identify as, who ended their own life the way so many trans women closeted and otherwise do due to transmisogyny.

instead of getting mad that someone said Kurt Cobain was a trans woman, instead ask yourself why being a trans woman is a fate worse than suicide in your eyes.

[i-am-cybersmith]

That's a really bad idea, OP.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander; do you want people speculating that YOU were not actually the gender you say you are when YOU die?

Respect people's privacy and dignity. Let the dead retain what they chose not to share in life.

Kurt Cobain was a cisgender man, to say otherwise is to violate the pirvacy of someone who has no means of fighting back.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

1) if i died of suicide before i was able to fully come out, and the people who knew me best understood that while i might not have had the language to describe i probably would've been a trans woman if i had lived longer, then i would 100% with them posthumously calling me a trans woman.

2) people speculate on dead people's gender and sexuality all the time. there are people throughout history who, while not using the exact words we use today, would have been the equivalent of gay, lesbian, asexual, transmasc. why is it only offensive when people talk about someone possibly being a trans woman?

3) "no means of fighting back"? being a trans woman isn't an insult or an attack. if anything its a compliment and a mark of pride and honor. what does it say about you that you think someone is lesser for being labeled as a trans woman?

4) i think cybersmith disagreeing with me just proves my point even more

[i-am-cybersmith]

1: if you died of suicide, that would be a choice. I would respect the decision you made to take any private doubts or secrets with you to the grave.

2: some people do. I don't approve of that, this isn’t a double standard; I don't like it when people say that Achilles or Oscar Wilde were attracted to men, I think that is also wrong.

3: that's an opinion the drad person might not share.

4: Ad Hominem!!!

[daughter-of-sapph0]

1: so if i didn't publicly state "i am a transgender woman" anywhere publicly, but i implied as much privately to my friends and expressed wanting to be a woman, you would misgender me even in death?

2: so why is cishet the default in your eyes?

3: then thats part of a larger societal issue of systemic transmisogyny. maybe instead of conforming to it, start to work on your own internal biases.

4: lmaoooooo

[red-mercer]

Why would anyone argue with HPG? He's HPG, he's already lost. Or else it's someone pretending to be the original HPG, which is so sad as to beggar belief

[daughter-of-sapph0]

idk. its funny ig?

plus if other people see this post and get mad that i called Cobain a trans woman (which she is), they have to contend with the fact that they're siding with him.

[notvictorhugo]

Feel like its important to stop at the "I dont like it when people say [fictional character] and [potentially the most famous outspoken historical gay man] were attracted to men"

[autogynophelia]

Whenever you say something, you are really saying two things:

The thing you're saying.

That that thing is worth saying.

That is, speech/writing has a cost to it, in the form of energy and time expended doing it, in the energy and time taken by others to listen to/read it, and the thing you are communicating is implied to be sufficiently valuable to worth that trade-off.

E.g. if you meet a woman and she says, "Hi, I'm Becky, I was born on a Thursday," it would be an odd experience because even if 1 applies, 2 clearly doesn't (unless you are running some kind of day-of-birth study or something ig). There is a hidden meaning of, "you should be aware of the weekday of my birth because it is important," that seems to make no sense.

And yet people will often defend something they have said on the basis of it being strictly true, which is unsatisfactory because it only justifies half of what was communicated by the act of saying it.

If Becky comes along to a queer event and says "Hi, I'm Becky, I'm AFAB," you have to understand that that is not just a neutral statement of fact, it also communicates something like this: "I am aware that if I looked and sounded the same but my sex assignment was different I would be treated differently. I am informing you of my sex assignment right now so that you treat me appropriately hereafter."

And that is just straight-up transmisogyny, both in displaying uncritical acceptance of how prevalent transmisogyny is in queer groups, and in demanding exemption from it. It sounds absurd on the face of it that a cis woman describing herself using entirely true statements can be doing transmisogyny, even in the absence of any transfeminine person or any mention of transfeminity at all. But it's true all the same.

And if you try telling Becky she shouldn't say that, she and most of the other people at the event will tell you "but it's true!", "she can describe herself how she likes!", "don't police how other people talk about themselves!", and so on. And people will look at you like you've lost your mind if you start claiming that Becky is abusing you by introducing herself in a manner that doesn't reference you at all.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

ah yes, the false binary of everyone who is a trans woman, and everyone else who is not a trans woman.

just like the evil oppressive binary of gingers vs non gingers. or left handed people vs everyone else. or people from Baltimore vs people who aren't from Baltimore. or Ryan Gosling vs every single other human being on the planet.

you people lost the plot on why the gender binary is bad. you think that its oppressive because there's just two categories. not that its oppressive because its a symptom of the patriarchy to abuse women, promote misogyny, and punish nonconformaty.

you hate the number two, instead of hating oppositional sexism. you have no understanding of basic gender theory, and are identical to the common transmisogynist.

so of course you loose your fucking minds when you are presented with a short hand that means "people primarily affected by transmisogyny, which includes trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, intersex people, genderqueer people, both who have and haven't fully come out yet. VS. cis men. trans men. cis women. nonbinary people. intersex people. genderqueer people. closeted and otherwise. of all orientations. and literally every other person who wasn't identified in the first category"

[dodykeahedron]

People who hate TMA/TME, ask yourselves this:

Do you hate the disabled/non-disabled dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the queer/cishet dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the neurotypical/neurodivergent dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the white/non-white dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the intersex/perisex dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

[save-maryam]

Sometimes, time seems to move in a vicious cycle, repeating itself in a painfully astonishing manner, as if mocking humanity's ability to learn from its mistakes. Two images are separated by 79 years, yet they appear as though no time has passed, as if the gap between them is merely a few fleeting moments.

[save-maryam]

The first image: A Palestinian elder holding the keys to his home, from which he was forcibly displaced after the Nakba of 1948. An image filled with pain, with tears that dried on faces, and hearts that collapsed under the weight of loss. Yet, hope for return still filled those hearts.

💳 Please donate - ✅️ Vetted # 15

[save-maryam]

The second image: A recent photo that tells the same story, but this time, the protagonist is my young sister, Maryam, holding the keys to our home from which we were displaced and demolished after the Nakba of 2023.

There is no difference between the two stories, except that this time, the story is even harsher and more painful.

[save-maryam]

Please help Maryam.. help us and donate 🙏

[pomscorner]

please share and donate!!!

[immaculate-008]

Vetted fundraiser! Please donate or at least share!!

[save-maryam]

If you see this, PLEASE donate to Maryam and our family of seven before it's too late.... please

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

[oediex]

Last donation was three days ago! Please help!

[transfemininomenon]

literally my favorite kind of posts are ones that are like "i never see positivity posts for [group of people that society is built around catering toward]"

[transfemininomenon]

[hydroceles]

Masculine men are the only group right now where support is going down (institutions and public support) and have laws protecting them ignored or built against in the overton window, and this in every race. Every other diaspora has had growth overall in the last 50 years.

There is definitive, bipartisan empirical evidence showing that men have experienced a massive retreat in key societal institutions over the last 50 years. This trend cuts across racial lines, though it hits lower-income and working-class men hardest.

The Higher Education Crisis: In 1970, men made up approximately 59% of U.S. college students. Today, that has completely inverted—women make up roughly 59.5% of college students, while male enrollment has dropped to around 40.5% (National Center for Education Statistics). This is a global trend across nearly all OECD nations.

Labor Force Dropouts: Prime-age male labor force participation has been on a steady, secular decline for decades. Sociological and economic analyses, such as those by Brookings Institution economist Alan Krueger, highlight that millions of prime-age men have completely exited the workforce due to shifting economic structures, physical health crises, and shifting social ties.

Shifting Public Sentiments: Sociological surveys (such as the British Social Attitudes survey and data from the National Centre for Social Research) indicate that younger generations are steadily moving away from traditional masculine norms (TMN) toward more egalitarian or fluid views of gender. Adherence to strict traditional masculinity is increasingly viewed critically in mainstream cultural institutions.

The shift in the Overton window (the spectrum of ideas tolerated in public discourse) has absolutely resulted in intense scrutiny of "toxic masculinity" and patriarchal structures. This has caused a sharp decline in cultural and institutional prestige for traditional male archetypes.

For more on this read Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It by Richard V. Reeves

[transfemininomenon]

[ohwhatagloomyshow]

do you remember why you followed prev

yes :)

no :)

Remaining time: 4 days 22 hours

[calamity-corner]

"biologically female transexual" wait ....you're an afab trans woman?

nope, cause those don't exist! think about what words mean and try again

[calamity-corner]

this shit is so fucking funny help

[tamamoland-of-destinys-demise]

the post was about how people will exclude trans women even from discussion about the widespread systemic exclusion of trans women while pretending to do otherwise by including trans men in that discussion and see no issues with this even when the trans men they are including transparently and openly do not care about or are hostile towards trans women and despite the fact that trans men are mentioned the post is NOT ACTUALLY FUCKING ABOUT TRANS MEN

[probablyasocialecologist]

“There were two “Reigns of Terror,” if we would but remember it and consider it; the one wrought murder in hot passion, the other in heartless cold blood; the one lasted mere months, the other had lasted a thousand years; the one inflicted death upon ten thousand persons, the other upon a hundred millions; but our shudders are all for the “horrors” of the minor Terror, the momentary Terror, so to speak; whereas, what is the horror of swift death by the axe, compared with lifelong death from hunger, cold, insult, cruelty, and heart-break? What is swift death by lightning compared with death by slow fire at the stake? A city cemetery could contain the coffins filled by that brief Terror which we have all been so diligently taught to shiver at and mourn over; but all France could hardly contain the coffins filled by that older and real Terror—that unspeakably bitter and awful Terror which none of us has been taught to see in its vastness or pity as it deserves.”

— Mark Twain, A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

it's more than a little irritating when tumblrites get all precious about 4chan. the only reason you think this place is better is because of the people you follow. please keep in mind that tumblr has a thriving TERF community, staff only banned the #reichblr tag this year after a trans woman made a fuss about it (they ban her at minimum once a month), kiwifarms uses the place as a hunting ground, etc etc.

tumblr is a suburb and it shows

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

it's very obvious to me that it comes from a desire to go, "oh, I'm nothing like a 4channer, all the horrible bad stuff happens somewhere else and has nothing to do with me". and then you scroll past posts talking about anti-Black racism because they made you feel uncomfortable.

[digitaldiscipline]

tumblr wasn't created as a right-wing psyop slash grooming habitat for the worst people in the world.

hope that helps.

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

hello I was on the internet when 4chan was created, it was made by a bunch of upper-middle-class teenagers as an anime fan forum. I will put this into words you can understand: 4chan is and was just as much a part of "fandom" as tumblr, livejournal, wattpadd, any of it.

it's very obvious to me that it comes from a desire to go, "oh, I'm nothing like a 4channer, all the horrible bad stuff happens somewhere else and has nothing to do with me".

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

the guy who owns this website wrote an apologist article about Scott Adams when he died.

Distributor, newspapers drop 'Dilbert' comic strip after creator's racist rant

The comic's creator, Scott Adams, said a recent opinion poll changed his mind about "helping Black Americans."

there are reasons I'm here and not twitter but like. come the fuck on

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

#does it matter why 4chan was created though #like what it became is/was horrible and spawned shit like kiwifarms #and was instrumental in the rise of gamergate and the internet alt-right movement #tumblr is shit but it's had comparatively little cultural impact

prev I have been called a groomer, a pedophile, a rapist, and many more things on this very website in the last six months alone. I've seen so many wonderful, kind, sweethearted trans women get subjected to an endless two-minutes-hate. kiwifarms uses this place as a hunting ground, do you imagine that's because nobody there has a tumblr account?

I reported this in early June, I have heard nothing back. you can go see for yourself that this person is still posting without issue.

you are the strawman here.

[freepaleatine955]

They lied to you when they said the genocide had stopped.

With the push of a button, the occupation wipes out entire residential squares, displacing thousands of families into the unknown on harsh displacement journeys that lack the most basic necessities of life. They want to destroy the present and the future, and make Gaza unlivable in full view of the silent world. Do not close your eyes to the horror of what we are experiencing, and do not tire of writing about us.

[freepaleatine955]

The bottom line is that everyone who has the ability to act or influence and then chooses silence bears a share of the responsibility as long as the genocide continues. Every spectator of hunger is a partner in its bitterness until bread reaches the mouths of the hungry, a partner in thirst until the throats of children are quenched, a partner in displacement until people return to their homes, a partner in pain until wounds are healed, and a partner in nights of terror until the dawn of safety comes... In times of massacres, neutrality does not grant innocence. Silence does not provide salvation; Because remaining silent about the crime prolongs its life and gives it space to continue.

[freepaleatine955]

My family still needs you, and every donation makes a difference in securing their lives. Donate here for us.

[ot3]

i decided to let my spamtenna hate post out of disabled reblogs jail because of that one ask the other day, and it took less than 24 hours for someone to try the "well of course they're more popular its because these characters are ADULTS and people want to make PORN!" argument again. which is a terrible counter argument for fandom misogyny for about a million reasons. but the thing that really gets me about it is like

people are of the opinion, will argue on behalf of the opinion, that it's just a completely reasonable and straightforward fact of life that people will want to produce and see pornography about these two characters in such high quantities that it outpaces 7 years worth of of shipping fanworks for the main cast.

like it's an argument coming from a world where These Two are just so innately erotic and alluring that it just isn't possible to suggest in good faith alternate explanations for why these characters got So Disproportionately Popular. mhm. uhuh. yep yep.

[milf--adjacent]

"TMA/TME is bioessentalism!" Shouts the man who willingly misgenders himself to gain access to womens' spaces for his own benefit

[milf--adjacent]

People will tell me I'm making shit up like this kind of thing isn't happening in plain view all the time.

Trans Goalkeeper Isaac Ranson Makes History by Joining Minnesota Women’s Soccer Team

Isaac Ranson, a standout goalkeeper at Cal State Fullerton, becomes the club’s first out trans player.

[lovelyl0tte]

this article is so comically fucked lmao

what are we celebrating here

[calamity-corner]

"laws are largely targeting transgender women and girls. anyway, here's a trans man actively proving the point that he's not the target!"