For one night, being someone else

33 and emo since 2008 | iel in French / they in English

[lemontongues]

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

[dduane]

A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.

[liliacfaerie]

your life should not be a museum

[rroru]

When did being so passionate about someone become a turn off??? Like baby, imma text you randomly and gush to you about how much I love you. I will watch things that I know you love, make you things, talk about you all the time like CMON. And like we don’t even have to be together for you to get that from me, I love my friends so hard. I will do all of those same things for you just because I love you so much, why is that a bad thing????

[333desire333]

I have no excuse for this

[foronenight]

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[foronenight]

suis me dans le cen d'une étoile. Toi aussi Jese J'ai parcans tout l'Univers Tor aussi Mille fais j'ai perdus men Caps, mille fais j'ai Double Je éloigné de kan. J'ai oublie ton coys, j'ai offece ton me suis J'ai perdur tous mes souvenirs. Toi aussi.

[gottagobackintime]

Fyra år till 2010

[foronenight]

Love them so much

[foronenight]

I sincerely hope this bot era will end soon because I have been off Tumblr for like three days and now I have a lot of them to report and it's very overwhelming

[-ryan]

[reubydoomsday]

Nobody’s immune to breast cancer.

Best. Ever. Get that on your blogs. NOW.

[zenm0de-deactivated20180127]

putting this on my blog for reasons.

[mutantsandaliens-deactivated201]

Reblogging for similar reasons.

[moralstormtrooper-blog]

[This is fucking awesome.]

[bossuspain-deactivated20120124-]

OOC: Very good idea!!

[notdaredevil2-blog]

still my fav

[prismatic-bell]

OKAY LISTEN UP BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING SUPER IMPORTANT ABOUT THIS CAMPAIGN AND MOST OF YOU PROBABLY DON’T KNOW

It’s the inclusion of Storm. (Storm? Pretty sure that’s Storm.) And in a way where, yes, representation saves lives.

See, here’s a weird medical fact: black women are more likely to get breast cancer and nobody knows why. It’s a medical mystery. Now, I want you to do a fun exercise: tell me the last time you saw a breast cancer awareness campaign that included black women. Go on, I’ll wait. Speaking as someone active with the cause whose aunt is even more active with the cause, here’s my answer: In eight years of working for awareness across four states, I have never seen a single black woman in any breast cancer campaign. Ever.

Black women are also more likely to die of breast cancer because they’re less likely to catch it early. That’s not genetics, that’s math. The sooner you begin treatment, the better your prognosis. Black women are less likely to know how to do self-exams and because of the socioeconomic divide, less likely to see an OB/GYN annually. And they’re ignored by awareness campaigns.

Tell your black friends. And spread this like wildfire. Because they are more at risk than you are.

[wanderinginksplot]

It’s important, people! If you catch a problem early, it’s so much easier to fight!

[iattachtooeasilytocartoons]

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Voting ended onJan 21, 2023

[calicofae]

social media has really warped our perception of creativity and hobbies. Stop doing things to post them. Just write. Just journal. Just sketch. Just read. Just annotate. Just sing. Just crochet. Just do the thing you’re going to do with the assumption no one will ever see or know you did it. Stop performing. Just enjoy it.

[foronenight]

[foronenight]

How to turn a shitty situation into something funny

So. I have this friend at work with whom I have a pretty ambiguous relationship. Let's call him Adam. I have known Adam for nearly one year now and I still don't know what we are to each other, and by that I mean: are we even friends?

Like, I might have had a huge crush on him but that's not even the problem here. I am not stuck in a "are we friends or more?" type of relationship, I am stuck in a "does he love me or does he don't care if I die tomorrow" type of relationship. This is absolutely wild.

Adam hardly ever answers my texts when he is not at the office (he works in remote from another city and he is at the office like once a month or less). And yet I don't write too often as I'm always assuming I am annoying. I have thought that maybe he's just not a "text message guy" but when he is at the office I can see him on the phone or answering messages a lot. Which in itself is totally okay.

In the meantime, when Adam is at the office, he likes to give me some little gifts regularly, like a lighter "because you smoke", half of his dessert "because it is very good and you will like it". He also sent me a nice poetic postal card and brought me a souvenir when he went to see his family last summer. When he is in town, he usually asks me for a drink, and usually he doesn't invite our others coworkers.

And finally, when we are at the office, we usually spend most of our breaks together to the point our coworkers assume we function as a duo. They always come to me when they want to know something about Adam. Truth is, I am never capable of answering their questions because I don't know anything about Adam. We mostly talk about video games and music and he doesn't speak about him a lot and if I ask him something he tends to answer shortly and switch subject.

Today, after spending time (again) thinking about all this weird situation I am in, with this guy who is very attentionate to me when he's in town and who completely ghosts me when he's not, I had an idea. Since our coworkers like to ask me a lot of things I don't know about Adam, why don't just start to make up the answers? I am not talking about saying mean of harmful things but just wrong facts which are just enough weird or unexpected to be funny yet completely possible.

"Does Adam celebrate Christmas?

- I don't think so because he's a pastafarian."

"What kind of sport does Adam practice?

- Curling."

"What is Adam's favourite drink?

- Goat milk."

"Does Adam have siblings?

- Yes, he has a brother named Adam."

(I know the last one feels too much but it's actually the only one I didn't make up)

[gottagobackintime]

🎵 Och i dina ögon förlorar jag mig. Visa mig vägen och jag följer dig. Ge mig en ledtråd för jag vill ha dig.🎵 

Fyra år till 2010

[femmeharlequin-deactivated20240]

Sometimes I think abt Billie Joe Armstrong and I get so emotional. Does he know how many kids he gave the courage to come out as bisexual. How many people saw him and realized they were like him. Realized there were people like us and he told us what that was and it was Bisexual loud and proud and fuck you if you’ve got a problem with that

[femmeharlequin-deactivated20240]

[ID: a series of six images of Billie Joe Armstrong on stage wrapped in or holding the bisexual and rainbow flags on stage at multiple concerts. End ID]

These images changed me

[femmeharlequin-deactivated20240]

They released a song about dressing in drag and fucking men while dressed in drag in 1997. King For A Day is, was, and always will be an extremely radical song, a revolutionary song, I cannot stress this enough especially to people born in the mid 2000’s how incredibly DANGEROUS it was for this very popular punk band to release a song like this back then. Well into the mid 2010’s it was still incredibly rare for anyone to be out and proud somewhere it wasn’t safe. School, work, queer people hid. But in 1997, Green Day released a song about dressing in drag and fucking men.

Like, American Idiot contains the line “Maybe I’m the faggot, America”. People got ANGRY about it. Back then in 2004 when it was released it was because Green Day was “encouraging kids to be gay”. Now when people get angry it’s because they’re ignoring the history and the raw power behind that line, maybe I AM a faggot, fuck you, I like fucking dudes and I don’t care what you have to say about it. Yet I still see people trying to cancel a band made up of THREE BISEXUAL MEN for saying the word faggot.

I strongly suggest people read more about Green Day’s history in the queer community. Billie Joe Armstrong is the reason I even know what bisexuality IS. And that it’s what I am. They had bands like Pansy Division opening for them in the 90’s, they fucking FOUGHT people in the audience for being homophobic. Billie Joe can and will kick your ass while Mike Dirnt and Tré Cool act as his personal hype men and add sound effects with the bass and drums. It fucks.

It’s 2:30 in the morning idk where I was going with this my heart is full of love everyone say Thank you Billie Thank you Mike Thank you Tré. Blows a kiss for every other bisexual. Including myself. Goodnight

[femmeharlequin-deactivated20240]

I was high as hell and extremely tired but I was right

[legsdemandias]

This hack will save your teeth: there are no “right” and “wrong” times to brush your teeth.

[legsdemandias]

It gets in your head that you brush after eating when you wake up and when you go to sleep. Yeah that’s all well and good, but those are times that don’t have a lot of motivation and control…So just…brush your teeth at a different time. 

You go to the bathroom in the middle of the day and are like “I should brush my teeth” DO IT!!!! Don’t listen to the other half of that sentence that says “shit but it’s not the right time” 

I don’t care if you’re about to eat, or get coffee, or whatever. 

If you are there and you want to…do it. 

[legsdemandias]

Honestly this hack will solve most of problems. Just stop assigning meaningless “right” and “wrong” to tasks and start saying “I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want and society and its expectations don’t really matter to me”. 

If there’s no barrier in the first place you don’t have to get over it. 

[worldwithoutmiracles]

huge ADHD hack. if you can get over the “all or nothing”, moralizing, judging aspect of every action you “should” take, you’ll discover you can get more done than you expect.

I’m a big fan of the 2 PM shower. spend a whole morning feeling lazy and guilty, then just decide to start the day over again, even if it is lunchtime.

you can always begin again. any hour, any moment can be the beginning. you can choose that. the clock doesn’t run you, you run the clock

[monstersandmaw]

you can always begin again. any hour, any moment can be the beginning. you can choose that

[antimasculist]

extremely extremely tiring to be around people who just vehemently hate themselves. nobody benefits from you acting like this. cruelty to the self is still cruelty. if i was at an art gallery admiring a piece by van gogh or in a library reading a beautiful poem and you walked up to me and went Ewww thats so bad... you think its good? youre wrong its really bad :/ you would be a certified piece of fucking shit it is not different just bc its your creation instead of someone else's. if a stranger walked up to me and started ranting about how they thought my friend was annoying and ugly i would punch them in the gut. it is not different just because you are saying this about yourself. nobody wants to hear it

[antimasculist]

fucking say something true and beautiful for once im sick of it. you know

[antimasculist]

paraphrasing my tags from another reblog chain here but this does not come from a place of ignorance. i am intimately familiar with self hatred and the mindset that leads people to talk like this and the REASON i stopped acting like a jackass and spouting this shit 24/7 is because i realized that it was not just about me. it was hurting other people. and i made the concious decision to stop doing that and to begin the proccess of training myself out of those thought patterns and out of saying that stuff. im not telling you to Just Stop but i am saying you CAN. you are not a slave to your mental illness you have agency over your life and your behaviors - your mental illness may make it more difficult to do certain things but that doesnt mean you dont have a responsibility to TRY if it's hurting other people.

[redvelvetrevolver]

One of the things that drives me away from a relationship most is if I give the other. person a compliment and they reject it. 

“You’re so handsome.” “No I’m not.” 

I see it and feel it the exact same way as if I said “What a beautiful sunset” and someone said “No it’s not, it’s ugly.” I was in a place of joy and you just injected something very unpleasant and life-denying into that space and that hurts.

I am here appreciating the world. You, as a human being, are part of that world. You’re a natural phenomenon and people have a right to find you beautiful and good and worthy. That is an expression of THEIR joy and enjoyment of the world. They are not incorrect. 

They are expressing their aliveness and ability to perceive, they are right in the heart of what makes it worthwhile and joyful to be alive, and you should not come to that special place within someone you love and tell them it’s wrong to feel the way they feel.

I totally get that it may sound fake and ridiculous to you when someone compliments you, and it’s ok to acknowledge that. “I know you mean it when you say it, but my brain won’t let me believe it right now. But thank you. I will keep trying.” 

But ultimately, the goal is to get to a place where you can just say “thank you.”