Just a girl trying to figure it out

strong case of wanderlust, lover of languages and cultures. Languages I study now: Spanish, Japanese, Korean, possibly chinese and french

[decadentseduction-deactivated20]

If you see this & feel moved to, try taking an hour today off of your schedule to dedicate it to remembering why your singularity as a human being is so beautifully significant. How many self-celebrations you can hold in the comfort of your own confirmation. Dance, sing, wax iambic, cook, journal, craft, anything that brings you to feel like you can burst with self love to remind you that genuine respect & honor for yourself births miracles. In a world that feels more & more unsafe, there’s nothing more important than fun right now…be brave and bold enough to still enjoy yourself in your greatness.

[04k96]

[aligning-and-attracting]

You’re wasting time on TikTok watching videos filled with shit you already know. The content isn’t profound; it’s nothing that hasn’t already been repeated to death and repackaged, and the words of an internet stranger videotaping themselves in their car aren't what will change your life. What the app is doing for you is acting like a crutch; why do or risk anything when you can just enter a few keywords into your phone and all of a sudden you have a beautiful woman affirming your opinions? Social media is the peak of avoidance, but this generation sees it as a friend. The “harsh” or “realistic” advice videos telling you how to “level up” your life all conveniently skirt around telling the viewer to do the one thing that actually would help: getting off their fucking phone, fixing their attention span, reading a real book, and putting themselves out into the world.

You don’t need to be giving these people your money, your time, or your effort. These are not people whom you need to aspire to impress, nor are they your friends; they won't be in your life long-term, they have never been in your shoes, and they don’t matter. When it comes to you specifically, it might seem like they know what they’re talking about, but in reality, their words tend to be vague and their advice generalized so that it can apply to every woman watching it. The TikTok algorithm has been proven to be addictive time and time again; it’s in your best interests to end the cycle and do whatever it takes to either entirely free yourself from the TikTok app or drastically limit the time you spend scrolling. A successful life requires real world action; if you can’t compel yourself to act, a 30-second video meant to fry your brain won’t help you.

[lumierae]

the sky doesn't need you to hold it up... rest sweetie…rest

[selfcarereminder]

you deserve good things. genuinely, with no conditions and no prerequisites

[loveletters2myself]

[theambitiouswoman]

[cheshmenoor]

[theambitiouswoman]

If I had to recommend things for your nighttime routine, they would be 🌌✨

- Dim lights 1-2 hours before bed

- Stop screens or use blue light filters

- Take a warm shower or bath

- Drink herbal tea (chamomile, lemon balm)

- Stretch

- Legs up on the wall for 5-10 minutes

- Journal

- Read a few pages of a book

- Keep room cool and dark

- Take magnesium

- Go to bed at the same time each night

- Avoid heavy meals late at night

- Reflect on 3 good things from the day

[ghostrider-02]

Magnesium glycinate, to be specific. Takes about half an hour to kick in, best sleep I've ever gotten.

[gums]

i highly recommend for women and girls to be intellectually curious and difficult to shame

[nadielle]

How to end your phone addiction (Social media detox protocol)

The dangerous way people lose themselves

The most dangerous mindset I see as a therapist

Why I started reading after years of brainrot

It's not cool so what

Know your worth, even if it gets lonely

30 different reasons to delete social media in 2026

Brainrot is real, and it's worse than you think

Signs you're chronically online

Boring everyday habits that completely transform your life

The dangers of the Internet

Here's what it feels like when your nervous system is dysregulated

How to forgive yourself

Millions are waking up in a world they no longer recognize

Stop Abandoning yourself— start choosing you

You don't want love— you want to be picked so you feel worthy

How to love yourself SO MUCH that nobody's absence bothers you

just exist bro

Every manipulation tactic and how to combat it

you're ugly and you know it.

Let them— just let them

[abrokegirlsguidetolevellingup]

Things that I learned in Behavioral therapy that actually worked

Writing everything down as a way of untangling my thoughts. As a mostly unmedicated ADHD girlie I have like 40000 tabs open at the same time and usually I've learned to just ignore that and attempt to move on but when it gets too much I get my pen and notebook and write all of them down. Everything. And I don't chase a thought down if it stops I go with whatever comes in its not getting graded so idc about comprehension or handwriting whatever peaks my interest gets written.

"thats not true" to debilitating or stunting thoughts. If I do something and its not received well and I think 'ugh that was so stupid' I immediately say out loud 'thats not true'. Because I'm not a stupid person I don't do stupid things sometimes they don't turn out how I wanted oh well. Such is life. If I feel like people at a gathering or meeting or even I'm in don't like me I go 'thats not true' because I'm not them I don't know for sure they don't like me and I'm not exactly the main character of the universe people don't have to flood me to socialize I want friends I go out and socialize. Thats Not True.

"So what" and "Ok, and?". I remember how my therapist would watch me run my mouth for minutes on minutes, summarize what I said, confirm its true and then hit me with an. Okay. And? And I'd just sit there looking at them like wdym and they'd do it all over again. You discovered your Landlord doesn't like you too much. Okay. And? So what now what what does this mean for you what changes what was essential to you that's now missing how will your life change based on this, what's so bad about it, wat makes you think you won't survive it AND what exactly can you do about it? The acceptance of this is a truth. And the progressive inquiry of what that truth means to you. And while it works well for when you're catastrophizing it works equally well when it does actually mean something. If your professor doesn't like you that could very well ruin your grades. So this is a actual problem. Okay we have a problem in our hands. And? What next what can you do about it? If you have an answer yay now you have a solution if the answer is nothing shrug and go the world won't end. Which is another phrase-

"Is this the end of the world"?

You are NOT the main character of the world. This is SO important NO ONE is taking time out of their day to look at you and notice your eyebrows are not shaped not a single person in your class cares that you got the answer wrong your professor has seen thousands of students before you NO they will not remember that ONE TIME you said L instead of R no one on the roads actually care about that one time you fell okay NO ONE cares people have things to do get out of your head you're not that important people have their own lives and things to care about no one is following you around watching your actions and then broadcasting them to the planet NO ONE CARES because this isn't a movie you are NOT the main character you are a regular civilian the same way if I ask you what the 5 people you walked next to today were wearing, smelled like, were saying, looked like- you don't know? EXACTLY. In the grand scheme of things you're NPC.

Fast easy decisions with no thought process thoughts ruin everything thoughts suck thinking is the enemy. Fast easy thinking. Quickfire. In the next 30 min I'll sit down and study. WHICH DOES NOT work for structurally inclined people but I am not I am result inclines idgaf about the HOW just the what. As long as I get to the end point. So simply just- sitting on my desk and working on one thing until I force myself to complete it even if the end product isn't good, I'll polish later or pay someone to. Planning is productive procrastination

"Who said that?"

[thatbitchery]

I LOVE playing dumb my favorite thing to do is play dumb I have NO intentions whatsoever of being the smartest person in the room unless its spaces where being smart get rewarded like school ONLY outside that nope me and my one brain cell are happy over here no part of me want extra risks extra responsibilities the opportunity to piss people off or people with more power and resources than me to steal and benefit off my ideas so NO THANK YOU actually NO I did NOT know you were famous you are? Oh I did NOT know that was a diss so I gave a logical answer to a question I decided was logical instead of rhetoric/sarcastic haha Im AuTiSTiC you know :) I can NOT think of one thing I want LESS than to be smart outside areas that directly reward intelligence no thank YEW bye?

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[theambitiouswoman]

You can change your mind at any time

You can change your whole life whenever you want

Be who you want to be

Do what you want to do

You can lose it all a million times and gain it all back whenever you decide

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise

[stuckinapril]

I love brown so much. I love you cinnamon brown I love you taupe brown I love you chocolate brown I love you pecan brown I love you khaki brown I love you burnt sugar brown I love you sepia brown I love you sienna brown I love you wood brown I love you buttercream brown I love you cotton brown I love you cashmere brown I love you sable brown I love you acorn brown. I love you all shades of brown I love you I love you

[stars-bean]

The Prince and the Showgirl (1957) dir. Laurence Olivier

[2productive]

self-doubt simply doesn't exist within me. no matter how impossible something seems or how hard it will be to achieve I'm always like "okay and?" and then I make it happen. maybe it's bc I have a proven track record of getting what I want but like nothing seems impossible to me. why would I doubt myself? I can have whatever I want, it's that simple. if other people have made it happen, that means it can be done so why would it not be able for me to get it too? no self-doubt. no need for it.