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I know it is a privilege to feel things deeply but what the fuck
Garum —- The official condiment of the ancient Roman Empire
In the ancient Roman world a salty, oily condiment made from fermented fish guts took the Roman Empire by storm. Called garum, it became an important commodity all over the empire, providing fats, protein, salts, vitamins, minerals, and most importantly flavor to places in the empire were little could be found. Originally a Greek creation, the Roman obsession with garum would propel the fish sauce to become the most popular condiment in the Roman Empire.
Our modern society is a very wasteful society, we take it for granted that we can just use something and throw it away. However, our ancestors had a completely different attitude. Nothing went to waste and everything was put to use. “Waste not, want not” was not simply a saying, but a mantra that meant life or death, prosperity or disaster for ancient people’s. So if an animal was slaughtered, it was guaranteed that every part was consumed or used in some way.
Garum was a result of this culture. When the fishmongers gutted the daily catch, the guts, scales, and other inedible parts were not merely thrown away, rather they were gathered by the garum maker. The guts were coated with salt, layered in large urns, and left out to heat in the sun for one to three months. During this time the ingredients would liquefy and ferment, forming a thick paste. When ready, a clear amber colored fluid would separate for the thicker material. This clear fluid was pure garum, and was skimmed, bolted, and sold for a hefty price. The skimming of more fluid would lead to cloudier and less pure forms of garum, which were much cheaper. The remaining paste was called “allum”, and was sold as a budget “poor mans garum sauce”. All grades of garum were flavored with different herbs and spices, depending on local tastes.
Because the Roman Empire was centered in the Mediterranean, the Roman economy was also heavily dependent on fishing. Numerous fisheries and ports dotted all along the Mediterranean coast, and where there fisheries, there were garum makers. Usually, however, the garum makers were relegated to the outskirts of a city, as the process of garum making tended to create an enormous stench. Garum itself became one of the most important commodities of the Roman world, being shipped all over Europe, the Middle East, and North Africa. It was issued regularly as rations for Roman soldiers and was even accepted as money. Garum was also valued for its medicinal value; used to treat dog bites, diarrhea, ulcers, dysentery, to remove unwanted hair, and to remove freckles.
Alas the fall of the Roman Empire would lead to the fall of garum, especially as Germanic peoples who turned their noses at fermented fish sauce settled Europe and carved out kingdoms from the former Roman Empire. Today garum still can be found, though only produced by small business who cater to specialty gourmet foods. At around the same time the Romans were making garum, peoples in Southeast Asia were making a remarkably similar fish sauce called nước mắm, which today is still widely popular in Vietnamese, Thai, and Cambodian cuisine.
Pet peeve: anytime people say "my truth."
There is only one truth, the truth, and we just live in it. We can choose to tell the truth, or tell a lie, or shut our eyes and ears and try to live in ignorance, but it doesn't stop reality from being there.
What happened to using phrases like "my perspective" or "my understanding"? That is entirely reasonable and relatable, and communicates your experience without implying some strange subjective absolutism. "My truth" implies that you're lying or you're delusional.
I'm not saying everyone knows all the truth - everyone is wrong sometimes, and there are some facts of life that are entirely mysteries to everyone and cannot be discovered or quantified in our lifetimes, but that doesn't mean it isn't the truth. "I'm wrong about some things and still learning about lots of other things" = accurate. "Maybe you don't believe I can manifest myself into a billionare without working a job but that is my truth" = asinine.
"Truth & reality are subjective" that's a funny way to excuse yourself from this conversation but aight, cheers bruvva. You believe that nothing we could say is objectively true or false and nothing you could say is objectively true or false? 👍👍 Thanks for subjectively increasing the CO² in this room and subjectively adding nothingness to a concrete conversation.
Was driving with my grandmother and in broken English she says “no eyes… no nose… no face. Don’t trust.” To which I looked around wildly in search of this omen of ill portend.
Cybertruck. It was a cybertruck.
i fear that some of you take yourselves far too seriously for adults who log into tumblr every day
“Many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. And it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘What do I care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ Yes, evil often seems to surpass good. But then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. One morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. And so I must still have hope.”
— Vincent Van Gogh
“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”
- Vincent van Gogh
Once you start noticing how the incapacity to handle discomfort affects how people live their lives it's actually pretty shocking how it ruins pretty much every conceivable aspect of existence. Interpersonal relationships, romantic and platonic. Career and education opportunities. Your politics Your willingness to go anywhere. The kind of food you eat. The kind of art you expose yourself to and your ability to read it. It's never just one thing, it touches everything, and once you notice it it's like suddenly being able to see germs or something. Just this horrific catastrophe people look at you askance for screaming about. As I grow older and see what became of my friends and peers who could not learn to handle discomfort, the more I'm like. This is a genuine societal issue
there is something so perfect. so emblematic of the pop culture landscape we live in. that for the next however long, the canonical ending of doctor who is that the doctor turns into billie piper for absolutely no fucking reason
just had a disconcerting thought
how do u pronounce georg of spiders fame
gay-org
george
other
the sewing machine is like if a horse and an inkjet printer had a child
So wrong. Matt needs to read John 11:35. Biblical men are extremely expressive. Stoicism as masculinity is a western idea. Expressing emotions is not a gendered facet of humanity
I usually agree with things I see from Walsh, but this one has me itching to break a cast iron skillet over his head.
Jesus wept. You saying the King of kings, the LORD of Heaven’s Armies, is acting like a woman (derogatory)? He in His humanity is our ideal as a species, He as Christ is YOUR (men’s) ideal as a husband, and you say this behavior He exhibited is beneath the male ideal?
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Come here. There’s a logo on the bottom of this pan, I think you should see it.
The post this stems from is even worse.
Walsh should tell that to the American soldiers who broke down and wept upon hearing the news of the Japanese surrender in 1945 as they were preparing to board the planes for the invasion. They cried because they realized that they were going to be allowed to live the rest of their lives instead of bring torn to shreds by gunfire as they planned.
How dare somebody get emotional after a robbery when they have a moment to take in what happened. He's thinking about how his entire life could have just been taken. His future wife, future kids who he'd never know because they would never exist, all of his future experiences for the next half century were in the hands of a senseless, violent maniac.
And for the people countering about how men need to demonstrate their ability to be protectors, this isn't about that. This isn't to say you should have a breakdown during a stressful event. You can handle your business and do what is necessary and then release some emotion afterwards when the danger has passed.
I'd rather see a man cry from frustration than see the back of his hand because he thinks he needs to deal with his emotions in a more "manly" way.
I'd rather see a man cry than see him shut down, become distant and uncommunicative because he thought me untrustworthy or otherwise incapable of handling the fact that he can feel pain or hurt or fear. May I never marry to a stone for standing upon; it would become a stumbling block, should it ever become unsettled.
One of the biggest impediments to living life among other humans that I've seen and experienced has been taking on oneself the idea that one should not feel or show certain emotions. Rather than making a person stronger, this belief leaves them wholly unprepared for the truth of being human with human emotions, and seems to leave room for bouts of destructive and self-destruction behavior when faced with an emotion beyond the scope or scale to which they have become accustomed.
Yes, that's the other thing. I also felt this tweet was slanderous to me as a woman, since it implies that I don't care for my male friends and family members and can't look on them without disgust if they show any weakness. We don't need to gender-code basic human things like "being there for somebody when they are sad". It's not that a man doesn't have an emotional responsibility of stability or balance but showing emotion and being vulnerable at an appropriate time is part of stability and balance just as being the strong one at the appropriate time is.
My husband and I fell asleep crying in each other's arms the night we lost our first pregnancy. I love him even more for that.
He has shed a tear or two of frustration while holding me because things have been financially rough since his hospital stay and medical bills are stressful.
I have a feeling that come September or October neither of us are going to make it through my time in the delivery room without a couple tears.
Men can cry. If he can't be vulnerable with me, who's left?
speculative fiction writers i am going to give you a really urgent piece of advice: don't say numbers. don't give your readers any numbers. how heavy is the sword? lots. how old is that city? plenty. how big is the fort? massive. how fast is the spaceship? not very, it's secondhand.
the minute you say a number your readers can check your math and you cannot do math better than your most autistic critic. i guarantee. don't let your readers do any math. when did something happen? awhile ago. how many bullets can that gun fire? trick question, it shoots lasers, and it shoots em HARD.
you are lying to people for fun. if you let them do math at you the lie collapses and it's no fun anymore.
YOU GET IT
i think before you marry someone, you should sit down and go through the AITA subreddit with them and see what their take on those situations is
does your potential future spouse think it's reasonable for their mother to be involved in your family planning? or to make comments about your body? do you? how does your future spouse feel about girls and/or boys nights? situations involving exes? cancelling trips last minute? under what circumstances do they think it's reasonable to host somebody in your home and for how long? etc.
and the goal of doing this isn't to agree one-hundred percent on every single thing. it's to understand how you both view obligations, family, friends, finances, conflict, etc. and to make sure that even if you don't have the exact same perspective, you can understand where the other person is coming from without feeling like they're a crazy person. you have to be able to come to reasonable compromises and sometimes that involves one person fully caving, and sometimes it involves the other person fully caving, and sometimes it's both of you giving a little, but you need to understand what things you both are and aren't willing to compromise on because those types of situations are going to come up in a marriage.
also, since this has turned into actual advice: you should talk through why you think what you think, even when you agree, because you might not be agreeing for the same reasons.
Another factor is that some things are more important to one person than another.
If it’s very important to your partner to limit how long houseguests stay / have vegan utensils / that the dog does not get on the couch, but you don’t particularly mind either way, that’s one situation where just going with what one person wants is appropriate. Sure, I’ll keep the dog off the couch, not because I particularly care, but because it bothers my wife. Etc
I have a particular tone of ‘sure honey’ that says ‘that is not the decision I would make, but clearly this matters a lot more to you than me so do what you want and I’ll deal with it.’
These are all really good points. And can definitely be used to suss out whether or not your partner will have your back. Many of the situations, assuming they’re real, prove the partner (usually male) isn’t going to be cutting the apron strings or even consider taking your side in a debate. Or is unwilling to rock the boat, even when it’s appropriate; there’s many stories of just wanting the partner to go along with mistreatment to keep the peace, with keeping the peace being more important than actually doing anything.
And as prev notes, sometimes it really is a matter of “who cares more”
All of these are SO much better at finding out if yall are compatible than sex.
I'd totally be walking through the house twirling this around while I think thoughts.