dormir es vivir

[memewhore]

[dankxsinatra]

I’m so used to boomers ruining social media platforms but these fine gentlemen singlehandedly made tiktok worth it.

[silver-flame-alchemist]

I love everything about this. They all Get It. They’re doing this comedy thing RIGHT.

[shinhati]

KAM is the exact same thing as making guillotine jokes but when working people do it they're based and when women do it we're fascist

[rf-times]

Let’s talk about everybody’s favourite socialisation scapegoat: mothers. People often confuse the idea that mothers do most of the childcare with ‘mothers do most of the socialisation’, which isn’t true, at least not in the way most people think it is.

Many mothers consciously reinforce patriarchal ideals, but this is not the only way that we learn patriarchy. We observe and internalise our mother’s place in the world, how men treat her, what work she has to take on and what she doesn’t, we learn what to expect from our mothers vs our fathers and match up what we know of them to society and vice versa. Pretty much all of us will realise our mother doesn’t hold the most power and we will also be conditioned to expect more from her ourselves (the classic example is the father hurts the child and the child is angrier with the mother for not protecting them)

So even if a mother is a passionate feminist or even just a non-feminist who firmly believes in men respecting women, this doesn’t necessarily socialise her children to respect women. Her children will recognise her lack of power instead. This is why it is not true that if mothers just did a better job in our society patriarchy would be over, the very role that mothers occupy in patriarchy mean a lot of the socialisation is done already by the structure.

[ms-hells-bells]

this is very clear through a study i read that found that male abusers aren’t more likely to become abusers if they’re abused in the home by their mothers, but they are more likely to become abusers if they witness their MOTHER being abused. so, many male abusers learn their ways from how the men in their lives treat the women they’re closest to, not through having the woman they’re closest to abuse them.

men are also more likely to hold sexist beliefs if they have sisters, showing that witnessing the treatment of girls and women and how they as boys and men benefit, is the core responsibility for how they turn out into horrible adults. they see what they benefit from and think it’s what’s natural and normal and use it.

[simonroe]

i miss when ‘women are not oppressed as a class’ was a sentiment exclusive to mra freaks

[burndownpornhub]

“It is not sex the prostitute is made to sell; it is degradation. And the buyer, the john, is not buying sexuality, but power, power over another human being, the dizzy ambition of being lord of another’s will for a stated period of time.”

—Kate Millet. The Prostitution Papers. (1970).

[alexanderpushkin-deactivated202]

i don't care about disabled men wanting to have sex. i don't care about the "plight" of incels. i genuinely don't. these supposed issues would not exist if men did not feel entitled to women's bodies

[greenwire]

they talk about “access to sex” like it was “access to the internet” or “access to food.” most people (men and women) don’t see sex with a woman as an activity shared between two people but as a resource, something a man extracts from women. That’s why women who have “too much” sex are viewed like a plot of land that’s been strip-mined. men seriously don’t see women as people.

[academiaa-a]

-ON BEAUTY AND WOMEN

credits:

in the dream house- carmen maria machado // unknown // anne carson // brand new city- mistki // @heavensghost on tumblr // macbeth act 1 scene 5- william shakespeare // white oleander- janet fitch // a woman’s beauty- susan sontag // pinterest

[naramdil]

posting bc ik a lot of yall need to hear this

[sabelmouse]

This fake yarn is supposedly better for sheep.

Aimed at people who don’t know where wool comes from, it’s 100% plastic. Yes, plastic.

So any garment you wash will release microfibres into the sea. It’ll never decompose.

You’re supposed to believe that sheep shearing is violent and cruel. There are imbeciles out there that work in an unprofessional manner while shearing, but that’s not the case overall.

Sheep don’t suffer from having their fleece removed.

Left on, the fleece can become a home for fly eggs and the subsequent maggots which can eat the sheep. Chemical treatments are available to prevent that happening. It’s much better for the sheep, the land and the farmer to avoid chemical use.

Don’t be fooled. Wool is a sustainable material, one we should make more and better use of.

[scrimblobimblobadimbo-deactivat]

Any garment you wash will release microfibres into the sea. It’ll never decompose.

This is very important.

[passiveaggressivegummybear]

@darkvioletcloud

[inqilabi]

It’s a typical male, and male supporter, thing to question the definitions of very obvious self-evident concepts. Any attempts to redefine is always with the intent of serving their own selves. Most of the conversation I’ve had with women, I have rarely ever had to define what rape is, what pornography is or what a woman is, or what the typical common experience of womanhood is.

Men on the other hand, will ask about the grey areas and hypotheticals. What exactly is porn. Would it be okay if that dynamic flipped? What is rape. What if this happens. Or if this changes. Ever seen a woman ask those? No. Because men don’t do it in good faith. They do it to accommodate themselves into these definitions so that it benefits them.

[redheddebeauty]

This is literally why I quit speech & debate in high school - I couldn’t deal with male competitors changing the definitions of words to things they didn’t mean and then winning the debate in the eyes of the male judges due to that. It was so incredibly disheartening. And now it feels like that idea of just redefining words to fit the narrative men want to spin is everywhere. How do you argue against someone who refuses to acknowledge reality?

[cheesyradfem]

“Men have asked over the centuries a question that, in their hands, ironically becomes abstract: “What is reality?” They have written complicated volumes on this question. The woman who was a battered wife and has escaped knows the answer: reality is when something is happening to you and you know it and can say it and when you say it other people understand what you mean and believe you. That is reality, and the battered wife, imprisoned alone in a nightmare that is happening to her, has lost it and cannot find it anywhere.” -Andrea Dworkin, “A Battered Wife Survives”

[pinkgreenbreeze]

thinking about the variety of female bodies represented in wlw relationships. women love fat women, butch women, tall women, hairy women, etc.

even though there are more heterosexual relationships, the women in those relationships are typically so homogeneous in looks and behaviour while women in relationships with other women seem so varied.

its interesting because even when men get into relationships with women who don't fit societal standards, they try to change them "you need to loose weight", "you should shave", "you would look so beautiful if you grew your hair out", "your ass would look so good if you did squats", "you should put on makeup for special occasions"

I've also noted how if a man gets in a relationship with a gnc girl, she gradually turns more traditionally feminine and that's applauded as a good thing.

I realise that many men are not attracted to women as human beings... they are more attracted to women as objects they can acquire, modify and possess.

any one have thoughts on this?

[flowerlygirls]

you put it so well - and funnily enough i never see the same thing in men when theyre in het relationships. Women in relationships are mostly homogeneous as you said, whereas men can be fat, skinny, tall, have a long ass beard, be bodybuilders, take part in eating contests etc. etc. and still will only be in relationships with women that conform to beauty standards at least like 80% of the time

like now that you have said it, i cannot think of a single het relationship where i have seen the woman being unshaven, not wearing makeup most of the time, not being slim/skinny/fit, not having their nails or other cosmetic procedures done, having very short hair, not wearing feminine clothing and so forth. Even if she is not crossing everything on that list, shes mostly expected to make up for those in other ways. Woman with short hair? wears lots of makeup. Unshaved? long hair and wears feminine clothing. Is fat/chubby? feminine clothing to accentuate or hide certain features. Once you notice the pattern, every relationship dynamic like that starts weirding you out so much.

[anti-porn-unicorn]

[disillusionedmonster]

Does anyone else sometimes get survivors guilt but with women who are still alive? I was so lucky to be born in my country and be safe in comparison to the women in Afghanistan. I desperately want to help but donation is the only thing I can really do. I just sometimes feel guilty for being able to live my life so freely when compared to the women and girls out in the world who are suffering. The women and girls who are sex slaves for men, who are not allowed to be educated, who are forbidden from working, who have been harmed by male family members, those who are trapped and cannot escape. I am just so lucky and sometimes I feel bad for it.

[femalecharacterthatyouhate-deac]

girlhood: you fucking suck at everything even when you can literally do it

boyhood: you can literally do anything even when you fucking suck

[dameednaeverage]

“team of people and there’s one girl” is literally the worst trope and I’m Tired of it

[tumblunni]

its so weird because its always like “we need one of each personality trope” and then “this one’s personality is girl”

[a-womb-of-ones-own]

Crazy how misandry “causes incels” who go on to rape and kill women and commit domestic terrorism when thousands of years of misogyny have not resulted in women slaughtering men en masse 🤔

[womented]

[sapphos-catpanions]

if we can take one observed fact of prostitution and apply it to surrogacy, it’s that demand for the use of women’s bodies is so high that their consent stops mattering. it’s nice to have women willing to be surrogates.. but female bodies, willing or not, will be supplied to meet the demand.

i’m sorry, but if even one woman was ever trafficked and forced into surrogacy, that would be enough to justify illegalizing the entire industry. because what’s the reward here? a gay couple or an infertile couple can have a baby that is genetically related to them? that’s more important than a woman’s right to her bodily integrity?

and even if you aren’t chaining these women in a basement, if you are paying them, are they even consenting? or are they just gritting their teeth and bearing it, because they are poor and out of options? these women need help, not a syringe of your gross spunk.

[gcdk]

But men might be sad! And we can't have that.