Red-eyed, teeth bared

Sideblog. Not a radfem but I share many radfem beliefs. Black. Adult female, used to ID as trans. Interacts from genderless-woman

[horsebacteria]

[g1rluninterruptedd]

“woman doesn’t have a set definition” is a very privileged take. you are able to happily sit in a position where you get to act like woman has such a vague definition and you act like this should be accepted worldwide. but ask a woman in a third world country what it means to be a woman and what makes them a woman, and it’ll be pretty fucking obvious. women are oppressed because of their sex and have been for centuries. i’m not letting some males with hurt feelings overrule that because they can’t piss in the woman’s bathroom.

[gingerswagfreckles]

Where's that post that's like "people on tumblr see anorexia as a stupid thing girls do for fun instead of a deadly disease" ?

[gingerswagfreckles]

Like I wonder if maybe these women have something else in common besides being rich? Maybe something like being in the public eye 24/7 and having 1000000000000 people a day comment on their bodies in public forums where everyone including them can see and hear it??

[gingerswagfreckles]

Sorry I'm not done. We are really at the "women developing anorexia is actually Another Way To Oppress You" level of backlash to feminism and "every single thing on earth is about Marxism" type discourse on the internet now? Really? Women are developing anorexia, a deadly disease that fucks up your organs forever and slashes decades off your life, to Show Off How Capitalist They Are and oppress you? And this is a take coming from "innerchildabortionclinic." Something something the reason abortion is the only serious feminist issue the left still likes to talk about has everything to do with being perceived as "edgy" and absolutely NOTHING to do with women's rights or bodily autonomy or seeing women as human beings, as is I think made VERY evident by this "hot take" by "innerchildabortionclinic" that women develop anorexia on purpose to show off how rich they are and oppress you. God all fucking mighty crawl back into Hot Topic and leave sick women the hell alone!!!

[xcounterforcex]

Maybe I’m looking at this too superficially, but... isn't this a classic case of someone who hasn't "touched grass" in a long time? It’s surprising, sure, but when you’re cut off from reality, the only women you can observe and in whom you can CLEARLY see the signs of anorexia are celebrities, so you... start thinking it is some type of rich shit???

I might shock some people (should I throw in a joke about americans?), but anorexia existed even before Ozempic. Yes, it most often plagued models, singers, and actresses, but, okay, even from that point... have you ever considered that not every woman involved in the modeling industry is a high-paid celebrity? During my early teenage years, modeling agencies for children, mostly for girls, were everywhere, and many parents living close to the poverty line tried to steer their daughters in that direction. And no, I’m not using a euphemism for prostitution here. The logic was: what else could your daughter become, a great scientist, an athlete, or a politician? Naaaahhh put her in dance or ballet or singing, and let’s add modeling, why not. They will have higher chances to find a rich husband. Sexual harassment? Well, that’s just a basic fact of life; it’s everywhere, whats next? [just think back to the 2000s].

And besides that, many women of my age [who had / have anorexia] I know weren't even directly involved in this; they simply fell into the same trap of social expectations. And, importantly, anorexia can often morph into other forms of disorders, such as bulimia. That supposedly "fat" girl everyone bashes for "promoting obesity" might well be the very same person as the "most beautiful [emaciated] girl in the school photo." The thing is that you cant observe random strangers' lives as closely as when it is about popular women.

So in the end... I don't know. Is it really something mind-blowing? That women (and not just the super-rich) have problems? To me, this post looks just like someone trying to talk about "black privileges" using P. Diddy as an example. Like, what the fuck? What are you even talking about?

[noblackwomannocry]

at some point you're going to have to realise that going "only the in group can talk about the fucked up shit we're doing" is very transparently "group trying to hide evidence of abuse from public scrutiny" of you. it's very FLDS of you. very Mormon. very Scientologist. it's also the sort of thing that gets you people that very much hate you and people like you as the only ones who get public attention for speaking out against you, because when you silence people approaching things with compassion, the only people you're left with are the ones that want to watch you burn.

every time you see someone saying not to talk about an issue your group is facing because "what if people that hate us see it" it is a sign that you should be louder. being committed solely to optics at the cost of victims of abuse is something that happens in quite literally every group and movement because victims (whom are majority women and therefore seen as disposable) are not seen as important and addressing abusers' wrongdoings is seen as a great risk to The Cause. and you wouldn't want The Cause to fail and the people who hate you to win, would you? (for a recently exposed and relevant example of this, see Cesar Chavez)

personally my commitment to protecting those like me involves not hiding behind "the wrong person is doing the looking!!!" as a defense against things, which means that when bad actors try to accuse me and communities I am in of ignoring issues and silencing victims, I have a history and evidence and solid counterpoints.. but that's just me. thankfully my lack of the terrible guilt from sin means that I can post whatever I want without worry 😆👍

[imwiremother]

the post that goes "tumblr loves to subvert something thats already subverted and just end up with the thing again" is sadly what is being done on here among progressives about rape culture

[woodlandftm]

—————

—————

Yeah so there’s this thing called misogyny, it’s when you hate, or as “Lily” here described, “have little fondness for” female people as a class. Mask is off. It was never about FTMs being trans men, therefore their “oppressors”, that’s just a convenient narrative they use to justify their misogyny towards trans men. They hate all female people from the start.

Also he did groom a detrans girl. So of course he says shit like this.

[thorin-is-a-cuddler]

We celebrate David Bowie, Freddie Mercury and Prince for their gender-nonconforming amazingness as we should, but let us not forget

Annie Lennox

Grace Jones

Sinead O‘Connor

Dolores O‘Riordan

Patti Smith

Tracy Chapman

Please add if you like, i do not own the photos

[musicrunsthroughmysoul]

Big Mama Thornton (photo credit unknown)

Joan Jett (photo credited to Brad Elterman)

Pauline Black (photo credited to Ebet Roberts)

Meshell Ndegeocello (photo credited to Raymond Boyd)

Tanita Tikaram (photo credited to Bernard Weil)

[iwanttolisten-deactivated202607]

It's very funny that transfeminism is, in essence, a poor MTF mimicking of radical feminism that takes from its points directly, except for when it gets to a principle that requires any kind of sacrifice from MTFs.

It has no stance on typical slurs for women, except "trans women get to say all the slurs and trans men shouldn't say bitch because fuck those dudes".

It can't criticize the oversexualization of women in media because MTFs are into that, and often it was their "egg-crack moment" or whatever.

It can't be anti-porn, because MTFs like porn (which is crazy because a lot of them are in prostitution, and those are the MTFs who get murdered all the time??? The MTFs who like porn are literally shooting other MTFs in the foot here).

It can't criticize femininity as an oppressive construct to keep women in a permanent state of subordination, and pretends masculinity is that oppressive construct instead.

The very most they do is pressure each other into being feminine and they do transfem separatism but like not really because they need to keep AFABs around to claim they're oppressing them

[woodlandftm]

The reaction to the transmascvoicesproject is a case study in that you cannot play by the game of so called transfeminists, when it comes to having your trauma and assault acknowledged.

I’ll abbreviate the blog to TMVP, which was created specifically to address the sexual violence “TME” people experience from “TMA” people, and it’s really no coincidence that when people speak of “TME” people, they’re speaking of transmascs. The blog exists within the TMA/TME framework, yet the existence of the blog clashes with the ideology the blogger claims to support.

For those unfamiliar, TME means “transmisogyny exempt”, supposedly means “everyone that isn’t a trans woman”, although really the only people it’s ever used for are female people. And TMA is “transmisogyny affected”, so all TIMs.

The blogger describes themself as a TME trans neutral, so a nonbinary identified female person. For anyone reading this, I advise caution and distance since their age is not confirmed, they could be an adult, they could be underage, but regardless they are in an immensely vulnerable state. I’ve blocked them for their sake so they do not have to see this.

They’ve recognized that the TIMs of the trans community often get away with sexual assault and that transmasc survivors are silenced, this is something they’ve had a personal experience with, and there’s a clash between this experience and trying to maintain transgender unity and solidarity, since pointing this out, even when using TRA language. It is still drawing attention to sex based dynamics, which goes against “transfeminism”, as sex based oppression is not real in their theory, not only that, but it is outright dangerous. It does not matter how strongly TMVP hates “TERFs”. As expected, people in their inbox try to bait them into agreeing with radical feminism, and they react harshly and strongly. Unfortunately for them, “TERF” isn’t actually a real category, so they don’t need to be a radical feminist or believe in sex based oppression to be considered one.

Yes, even if they believe that trans women are systemically oppressed, and trans men have privilege, and TMA/TME is real and they abide by that framework strictly. They’re a female person who ventured a bit too close to voicing what looks like sex based oppression. Even if they claim they aren’t and their argument is that transmascs aren’t listened to because trans women are so marginalized, nobody believes transmascs, which is not acknowledging sex based oppression, and still appeals to “transfeminist” theory, any further speculation upon this ruins the whole illusion. It is dangerous to TRA rhetoric.

Mousidy is particularly cruel about this

There is a lot more. They’ve been sent gore. Their pinned post has nearly a hundred hate comments. Their entire blog is just filled of brimming seething hatred directed at them. They have practically no allies outside of a small handful of people, as other transmascs tear them down hard, and the TIMs do what they do best in this situation, death threats, suicide baits, guilt trips, manipulation. They see no allies from radical feminism and reject radfems firmly.

This is what happens when you acknowledge male violence to any extent within the trans community. You simply can’t. While this individual may hold firm in their trans rights advocacy and to stay far away from radical feminism or gender critical theory, what can’t be ignored is how unstable this position is. It is what leads trans men to peaking, what shatters our illusions, what are we supposed to do about the issues with male violence if we are not allowed to name it? Not allowed to see it? Not allowed to find and share support for it? What other choice are trans men left with even? There isn’t any, you have to submit to the ideology completely or you are gone. You would be better dead. You are a TERF. You are killing trans women and girls and you must repent or die.

This is also how the trans community isolates female members. Two things work against us here. Anti feminist indoctrination, where radical feminists, are considered a branch of fascism. And also the fact that it is true radical feminism is not particularly for transmascs, TMVP was denied access to a crisis shelter, and most likely blame radfems for this. While radical feminism is not the fascist evil it’s portrayed as, the fact is transmascs are still overlooked, seen as a part of the opposing trans community, rather than fellow female people to be liberated. Tensions between the two groups only deepen as transmascs have and will harass radfems, bi and straight ones appropriating esbian culture, spitting on and insulting the solidarity radfems sometimes offer.

The constant conflict and general lack of desire to have female solidarity, having been told trans solidarity is of the upmost importance, transmascs remain relegated to the wider trans community. We are told “TERFs” want to genocide us all, or genocide only trans women and we’re privileged men who need to understand that. TMVP is being thoroughly punished, slandered, dragged across all of transfem tumblr by mousidy and his followers, and is given hardly any support from other female trans people.

As female people we are to put the interest of males first and foremost, in this case, that is trans “women”. They might be so merciful to us that we can talk about having been raped once before, even more if they allow someone to admit it was a trans woman who did it. From there you’re expected to clarify that you don’t believe it’s all trans women, and you’re expected to be grateful they listened to you at all. What is not allowed, and will never be allowed, is pointing out the rate of violence, sexual violence, that trans “women” commit against themselves and “TME” people. What’s also not allowed is bringing up how many “TME” victims are silenced.

You can talk about your assault, just don’t say it’s a pattern, or a problem, or any indication of a large scale issue, any indication you’d like to see improvement on the problem, don’t ask for actions to be taken to address this rape culture, and especially do not point to who is doing it. Only ever talk about your assault as it was done by someone who happened to be transfem.

When a female trans person observes another one breaking these rules, they will step in and correct them. “Hey what happened to you was bad but speaking about it like this is very transmisogynistic.” The male’s ideology and peace of mind must be protected, even if it means policing the way someone talks about their sexual assault. Being “transmisogynistic” is a greater sin than committing an act of sexual violence. Deny any of this you face expulsion and hatred from the wider community of which you depend upon.

Female trans people are trapped, cut off from women who would advocate for them, unable to make any progress against their oppression within the community, unable to name and point to the oppressor, keeping themselves and each other in check, taught to care more about TIMs than ourselves and each other.

The end result is what you see above. Isolated, publicly humiliated, and disowned.

While I wish nothing more than for them to find acceptance and community, I advise heavily against trying to talk to TMVP. Do not bother them. If you are to send any sort of support, do not enforce radfeminism on them, do not scold them for being ignorant about it, do not mention it, and be anonymous.

[myke-litoris]

Wow. At this point the behavior is not surprising but still horrifying. Someone on here once said that TIMs treat their female counterparts the way a domestic abuser treats "his" woman and its all I can think about anytime I witness the dynamic between them because its a pattern that reveals itself over and over... when you think about it the tif/'transmasc' spaces are like the final frontier for these men because its the only female exclusive category that's ostensibly permitted by their ideology. Now that they've wormed their way in everywhere else, their obsession pivots to those spaces. That's how you get the recent boom in the "TMA/TME" crap and TIMs larping as "radfems" (ofc they have to create a completely new ideology because they are as anti feminist as they come)

[victusinveritas]

This was probably my favorite thing I read yesterday thanks to the serendipity of what my friends share.

It is infuriating in so many ways, showing the misogyny in medicine, but it's also written in a delightful, funny way. Plus, it was truly educational, which I love. And I've studied these things pretty deeply.

Renee Stonebraker

Jul 02, 2026

"Adult women should not still be debating on what orgasms do or do not exist in the year 2026. In a time where science is trying to create artificial wombs, the fact that the bodies of over half the population are still considered medical mysteries has continued to disappoint me.

Unfortunately, I have to start with a horrific fact I stumbled upon.

If You’ve Had an Episiotomy, I Regret to Inform You

They’ve been cutting blind. I hate to go in dry, but there is no other way to break this news. The first complete 3D map of the nerves inside the clitoral glans, which, yes, extends down and around to where they like to slice women open during childbirth, was not completed until March of 2026. As in, about four months ago at the time of this publication. Yeah.

In March 2026, a team of researchers at Amsterdam University Medical Center published the first complete 3D map of the nerves inside the clitoral glans.[1] They used a synchrotron, a machine that generates X-rays ten trillion times stronger than a conventional CT scanner, to image donated female pelvises at a resolution of 0.001 millimeters.[2] The map corrected multiple errors in existing medical literature. It revealed that the main sensory nerve of the clitoris doesn’t taper as it reaches the glans as previously believed. Instead it branches like a tree throughout the glans and extends further into the clitoral hood than anyone had documented.[3] It confirmed that the clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve fibers, with a nerve density up to 15 times greater than the penis.[4]

That last figure had previously been estimated using data from a cow. From 1976.[4]

The lead researcher, neuroscientist Ju Young Lee, said she was drawn to the project by a specific clinical horror: there was no comprehensive nerve map to perform an episiotomy.[5] Episiotomy is a surgical incision of the vaginal opening and perineum made during childbirth to widen the passage. It is one of the most common surgical procedures performed on women worldwide. Episiotomy rates range from roughly 10% of vaginal births in Sweden to 100% in Taiwan. For first-time mothers globally, rates range from 63% in South Africa to 100% in Guatemala.[6] Worldwide there are approximately 100 million vaginal deliveries per year.[7]

Lee’s words, about what her research revealed: “Women suffer from long-term side effects due to nerve damage.”[5]

The nerve network that makes this possible runs through the pudendal nerve, which divides into three branches serving the entire perineal region: clitoral, perineal, and inferior rectal.[8] An episiotomy cuts into perineal tissue served by branches of the same nerve trunk that runs to the clitoris. A 2021 anatomical study that performed 61 incisions on 47 female cadavers found that mediolateral episiotomy incisions posed direct risk of injury to ipsilateral nerve, muscle, erectile, and gland tissues.[9] Surgeons performing this procedure were doing so without a complete map of the nerve architecture in the tissue they were cutting.

In contrast, the penis nerve network was mapped in 1982.[10] Four decades of a head start, even though the technology capable of mapping the clitoris at this resolution existed years before 2026. The donated pelvises came from standard anatomical donation programs. As the research team stated plainly: what changed wasn’t technological capacity. What changed was priority.[11]

Chronic Bean Neglect

I bet you weren’t expecting a brief history on the magic jelly bean, but here we are. You can examine your life choices when you finish this article and decide to drink a glass of wine while in a dissociative state.

In 1559, an Italian anatomist named Realdo Colombo announced he had discovered the vibration addict. He called it the seat of women’s delight, the love or sweetness of Venus, and he meant it as praise. Within two years his own successor at Padua, Gabriele Falloppio, the man the fallopian tubes are named after, was publicly disputing the claim, insisting he’d written it up first and just sat on it for a decade. Falloppio’s own student later formally accused Colombo of plagiarism. Three men, one organ, a fifteen year priority fight over who got to put his name on it.

Here is the part where I have to acknowledge the insanity: Three men fighting over who “discovered” a completely visible piece of anatomy that most women locate in their preteens? Imagine if any amount of women were demanding recognition for “discovering” a ballsack. Be so for real.

Anyways, Colombo’s teacher was Andreas Vesalius, the most influential anatomist in Europe, the man whose textbooks shaped medicine for the next two centuries. Vesalius’s response to his own former student’s discovery was to deny the organ existed in healthy women at all. He called it “this new and useless part” and classified it as a pathological abnormality, something that showed up only in hermaphrodites, not in normal female anatomy.[70] This is my official petition to add “the Ben Shapiro of 1500s Italy” to his Wikipedia page.

So: discovered, disputed, plagiarized, and declared a birth defect, in that order, all within about fifteen years, in the 1500s. This set the medical community’s treatment of the devil’s doorbell on a track that prevails even today.

Here is what we knew about the schamzüengelchen (enjoy your google) before 2026: not much, and some of what we thought we knew was wrong. Helen O’Connell, an Australian urologist, published the first thorough anatomical study of the magic button in 1998, revealing that prior anatomical atlases had either omitted it entirely or depicted a fraction of its actual structure.[12] O’Connell has described what followed as the little man in the canoe being “deleted intellectually by the medical and scientific community, presumably aligning attitude to a societal ignorance.”[13]

A 2018 study in the journal Sexual Medicine found that physical examination of the love skittle is neither commonly practiced nor routinely taught in gynecology training programs.[14] This is a gynecology training program. The specialty that exists specifically to treat female reproductive anatomy doesn’t teach the gatekeeper of good.

There are, as of 2026, 20 times more scientific papers on the penile glans than on the clitoral glans. As a reminder the hooded lady exists in over half the world’s population...."

More here.

[kkoffin]

people who post about their incest, rape and pedophilic fantasies publicly can fucking die and i really don’t care. even if we ignore the fact that public posts are not “thoughts”, “thought crimes” are about exploring ideology, science and theory, not talking about how you wanna rape ur little sister.

ur not profound for posting ur mother x daughter porn on tumblr and you aren’t making ideological breakthroughs, ur posting it bc it makes you hard and you wanted to spread the joy of getting hard at the thought of children being abused. and yeah personally i think if ur encouraging people being aroused at the idea of child abuse u can fucking die.

get off to something normaler that doesn’t involve torturing an unconsenting party. i believe in you. “the feminists are trying to tell us what we can and can’t jerk off to!!” first of all, i’m primarily only saying don’t spread it around publically, especially where children are present, like a mental STD. second of all, yeah i guess i don’t think you should jerk it to physical and psychological torment of children, guess that makes me Big Brother or something. idgaf.

[kkoffin]

ur correct but also i wanted to add on, posting about it on an app with children is “acting on it”. it’s grooming them, normalising child/adult relationships and often making children pity pedophilic adults, not to mention exposing children to sexual content to begin with

also, even if the one posting goes his whole life without offending against a child, sharing around (fictional) CSAM shockingly, does encourage people to act on their fetishes. Many are only waiting for an opportunity, and regardless of them saying they don’t “plan” to act on it, that certainly doesn’t mean they would let an opportunity slip by. they absolutely pose a threat to women and children regardless.

saying “it doesn’t matter unless they act on it” is as stupid as proposing that nazis and the manosphere are completely harmless because it’s only podcasts teaching men how to rape, they aren’t actually raping women (except for when they are)

[apportioned-abortion]

The whole "there's no such thing as thought crimes" thing can be valuable for people that really struggle with shame and anxiety for having "bad thoughts". Like, having a stray thought about killing someone that's horrible isn't actually hurting anybody, and someone shouldn't be stuck in a loop of "I'm an evil person" for imagining like, Trump dying, or being glad that their abusive parents are dead or something. There's no tangible harm to anybody by a thought that's in your head, you aren't going to cause that thing to happen just by thinking about it, which some people do believe.

If someone had a random thought about rape or pedophilia, I don't think they're inherently an evil person, but crossing the boundaries into masturbating to it (which rewards those thoughts) or intentionally fantasizing about it becomes harmful. Not at the level of committing it, but it normalizes it. The next step further in harm is sharing it with others. It's one thing to factually say "I have thought about rape before and that's a bad thing" and another to normalize it or go into explicit detail. That is now an action and that is exposing people to those thoughts. It's not harmless in any way.

Another instance of abusers coopting phrases to help victims and using it to further normalize abuse.

[zombiifem]

HEAVY on the normalization of it. while pedophiles self report being less likely to offend when “sexually satisfied” (ew), normalization or permissiveness of adult/child relations leads to HIGHER likelihood of offending.

(https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19419899.2026.2619511#abstract)

and those two topics aren’t unconnected— thinking it’s normal or okay to “satisfy” those urges and rewarding yourself for having those thoughts DOES lead to the normalization of it in your mind. spreading that permissive attitude online through posting and blogging leads others to think those relationships are attractive, which in turn continues the cycle of fetishization -> gratification/rewarding -> normalization.

[zombiifem]

screenshots in the article proving my point, as well as an explanation.

while yes, sexual satisfaction leads to *self reported* lesser willingness to offend, permissive attitudes towards adult/child relations leads to higher willingness. there is a positive and statistically significant link between child related FSM use and permissive attitudes, but to fully prove that they would need to run a longitudinal study, which has many ethical concerns (basically seeing if you can groom someone from being “anti-contact” to “pro-contact,” which has concerns about what to do if that’s true when the study ends, because now you have a bunch of pedophiles who think it’s okay to assault children).

furthermore, scientists only recommend using child FSM for sexual gratification with a therapist under supervision while the materials are being used, because otherwise there are risks of escalating behavior.

rumination, aka realizing the harms of pedophilia and consumption of child FSM was associated with lower offending risks (and non rumination/permissive attitudes vice versa), so making posts about how normal and fine it is to consume CFSM leads to higher willingness to offend.

@stuckonabandonware you asked for a link to the study, so the link is in the post above and an explanation is here ^_^

[genderisareligion]

American women and girls everywhere say thank you to First Wave Feminists for among suffrage also raising the age of consent from a measley fucking 10 years old in the 1800s

[vibrantstarfire]

“it’s okay for girls to be feminine” as if anyone in the history of humanity has ever told them it’s not, meanwhile butches and tomboys are a critically endangered species. girl, the reason you feel bad about being feminine is because you’re a girl, not because you’re feminine. men as a social class will hate you and everything they associate with women, because they hate women. but rest assured, women are still expected to perform femininity, because women performing femininity caters to men. that is what it is designed for. that is its social purpose to reinforce the gender hierarchy and men as the top social class. femininity is built on women’s ability to endlessly serve men with their labor, particularly menial and undesirable household tasks, emotional labor, and sexual labor. men see femininity as beneath them and worthy of mockery because it’s meant to cater to them. of course they see it as beneath them, they designed it that way. but if women don’t perform femininity the way they want, they mock it, because the whole point of femininity is to cater to men. that includes putting women down to ‘keep them in their place’, even women reinforcing the status quo.

that is why masculine women are far more socially stigmatized. they aren’t catering to the dominant gender class, so men despise masculine women. they’ll mock some feminine women for not catering to their specific ideals and kinks, but masculine women don’t fulfil the assigned social role of footstool nurse nymph cook servant mother punching bag, so men hate them and want an example made of them.

so get a grip. you don’t need positivity posts about how it’s okay to be feminine. not just because it’s constantly reinforced everywhere you look. but also because nearly all aspects of femininity are a psyop meant to condition women to cater to men. you should unlearn that shit. and for the love of god. stop telling girls “it’s okay to be feminine.” they fucking know. they’re told being feminine is the only option. you should be telling girls it’s okay to be masculine. because i promise you, no one else is.

[blackjame]

[crackersandjuice]

i'm actually really fucking tired of people acting like antiblackness is only harmful and serious when done by people in power as if most of the atrocities committed against us haven't been done by your average person

[radiant-spirit-guardians]

remember how for a brief period back in the 2010s the message was that clothes/voice tone/mannerisms don't define you or hint at your sexuality at all and straight men could wear glitter eyeshadow and still be straight men and that it wasn't right to say "you look like a lesbian" to women who didn't wear makeup and preferred practical clothes? or did I hallucinate it all? because now there's this added layer of gender bullshit we have to contend with on top of it. calling others slurs and saying they're zesty & fruity was done by both homophobes and spicy straights who felt the need to reclaim those slurs, but now you just get called an egg if you fail to perform certain gender roles. girl brain boy brain crap. they're as obsessed with gender roles and stereotypes as their parents and grandparents.

"oh my god I didn't know this person was straight they dress/act/speak sooo gay" i'm going to kill you i'm gonna do it "or maybe their egg is about to crack" i swear to fucking god the only thing cracking here will be your skull

[ninepatch]

not to keep posting about this but i don’t think a lot of people realize that forcing women to be in a perpetual state of defensiveness, so much so that it is internalized and wired into our brains from the time we’re born, is actual brain damage and directly mirrors the internal wiring of trauma survivors whose nervous systems are constantly on alert and ready to defend even when they don’t need to be. when you’re living in a state of perpetual defensiveness you become neurotic, hypervigilant, obsessive, anxious, depressed, overreactive, self-conscious, afraid. all of the things that have been historically categorized as feminine traits and behaviors. your true internal needs become masked by this compulsion to always be performing to satisfy externally enforced expectations, and you lose your sense of self and create this situation where what you want/need is directly at odds with what you express (or don’t express) to others. which then is what gives birth to the idea that women never know what they want, women are mysterious and hard to understand, women are always contradicting themselves, women are never clear. it’s like well..yeah because women are repeatedly traumatized both psychologically and physically from the day they’re born and only those who are fortunate enough to encounter sisterhood or wise maternal guidance or individually break free from ideology are able to live authentically. and even then it takes so much work to resist because you still have to operate within a culture that doesn’t have a place for liberated women.