Caleb

just a guy/ adult

[probuccalfat]

great! now do the same medical study with women

[probuccalfat]

[slipping-into-madness]

[autistichalsin]

Uh- are you aware of the meaning of proship?

Proship has never meant anything except a combination of three ideas:

Ship and let ship (your ships don't harm me and vice-versa) and YKINMK (your kink is not my kink, and that's okay; my kink stories don't harm you and vice-versa)

Harassment over fiction is not acceptable

Censorship of fiction is not acceptable either

Any other definitions are made by antis, not proshippers, and are an attempt at revisionism to justify harassment based on false claims.

[froggibus]

WAIT that’s what that means?? 😭😭

everyone always has a dni for proshippers I thought it was something freaky or fucked up 😭😭

[octopuscato]

Yeah. Antis like to claim that the "pro" means "problematic", but nope. "Pro" (for) is simply the opposite of "anti" (against), and all that "proship" really means is "Let everyone ship what they want, everyone mind their own business".

[nationofcrumb]

A healthy reminder.

[typewriter83]

Louder 📣📣 for those in the back

“Pro” means we’re in favor of shipping; proship literally means we’re in favor of shipping! Can we please get back to this definition.

Anyone who tells you anything different is looking for trouble.

🫶🏻

[tiefighter]

My problematic ship is media literacy/the general public and media literacy tops

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

#original OP is a liar i’m p sure proship has always been about shipping minors with adults and the shippers always pull this rhetoric to#defend it#otherwise it’s just called ‘shipping’ but pedos made up the whole ‘pro ship: we ship *anything* ****including minors and adults! so.#so i’m always wary of self defined ‘proshippers’#their whole thing was predicated on inflammatory internet harassment in retaliation to other shippers being disgusted at their behavior

Incorrect. We had shippers and then people started calling themselves "anti-shippers", and pro-ship and anti-anti arose to mean "not an anti-shipper". That's all it's ever meant. It means not being an anti-shipper. Anti-shippers are trying to redefine it as meaning "problematic shipper" in order to try to gain rhetorical high ground by trying to give the impression that anyone who's not an anti-shipper is specifically writing underage rape porn and selling it to child abusers or something, but that has never been the case.

Some proshippers write about underage ships. Some write about gay ships. Some write the kind of generic romance that you'll find in an average romcom, with one character being the other's boss. Some write ships that not even the most obsessive puritan antis could find a firm moral reason to object to. Some, like me, don't write about sex at all and tend not to write about romantic relationships very much either, but firmly hold the stance that others should be allowed to write those things if they want.

Do you despise underage sex scenes? Does the very concept of them make you throw up in your mouth a little? Me too! I find them fucking disgusting! You know what I do about it?

I... don't read them. I certainly don't participate in hate campaigns to threaten, doxx or suicide bait random authors for writing stuff I don't like. That doesn't achieve anything. That doesn't protect any children. All it is is an excuse to bully someone and tell yourself that it's okay to feel righteous and powerful about it because people Deserve It if they write the fictional story wrong.

[trisscar368]

God I remember watching Voltron and Star Wars kick off into new depths of what being an anti meant.

We had shippers and gen fans and antis. Anti this ship, or anti that ship. And then somewhere things changed - I know it from Voltron but who knows, maybe someone else got there first - but ship wars went from being “your ship sucks” to “your ship involves someone two years younger so the age difference means it’s pedophilia”. “One character said the other is like a brother to him so your ship is incest.” Or my favorite from my old fandom, “that character is possessing someone so your ship is necrophilia AND noncon”.

It always involved rewriting definitions so that there was a reason the anti’s ship was pure and the ship they hated was morally wrong.

I remember years of adult antis showing younger fans what they considered “bad” material so the kids could report it. Adults deliberately showing kids explicit art or fic to encourage kids to search it out and try and get it deleted. I can go grab receipts, it’s not hard because it happened so much.

Anti antis became a part of the ecosystem to push back on harassment campaigns and doxxing and all the other toxic nonsense that came from the ship wars. Proshippers were the group that said “I won’t stand for censorship” and usually tried not to get into the fighting the way anti antis did.

It never stood for problematic.

Unless you count pushing back on thought crime and censorship to be a problem, in which case we have a very different problem to discuss.

[sautethehorrors]

This whole thing seems absurd to me because I remember when th word "problematic" emerged as a less judgemental term to use when discussing people's behaviour. The whole point was to not categorise something as good or bad because that immediately put you in a frame of mind that was resistant to nuance.

[sanguine-squid]

food does not have moral value....... food does not have moral value.......is there anybody out there... hello.can anybody hear me.... you need carbohydrates to live.... can somebody help me.... hello.......

[status-quo-hater]

Honestly I don't think you should need a diagnosis of anything to get HRT. I think you should just be able to go buy it at CVS like it's ibuprofen.

[status-quo-hater]

"Ohhh but what if people misuse it and get sick???" They sell cigarettes at gas stations, those make you sick when you use them properly!

Put warning labels on it. List recommended dosages by body weight & desired effect. Like any other medication.

In a perfect world HRT would be an OTC medication that anybody can obtain.

[byjove]

My grandma’s on and off again boyfriend that she cheated on grandpa with died today.

[byjove]

RIP to Nana’s side piece. Though they never married, Grandpa died in September and she brought his long term competition to Thanksgiving that year.

[byjove]

Grandma and Grandpa had a shotgun wedding when Grandma was 19. Grandpa went off to Vietnam which left her, a severely mentally young mother, alone. Never heard a complaint about her side piece Jeff. He seemed to make her happy and for that I salute him.

[byjove]

I’m an only child so I have to discuss sensitive family drama with my 38,000 followers instead.

[femmmie]

My grandmother broke up w my grandfather through a letter and he just pretended to have never read it. They got married and had three kids.

[lucisthings6]

My grandmother confessed on her death bed that:

Her and Grandpa were in a relationship with their best friends

The four of them have been in a relationship since they were teenagers

They flipped a bottle cap to see which girl the boys would marry

Their children could have either man as their biological father but their biological mother is the mum that raised them

The past two weeks has been chaos since her confession 😂

[polyamorousmood]

[homunculus-argument]

[homunculus-argument]

the absolutely vital bonus panel.

[theweight]

i cld never shave bush not just bc im morally opposed to it but also bc what would i play with when im lying in bed thinking…a bush is the beard of the modern day philosopher

[androdragynous]

"what's the worst thing you can do as an artist" is not "shade with black" or "not use references" or whatever the worst thing you can do as an artist is hate yourself. and that includes the person you used to be

[androdragynous]

"look at how bad my old art is" "this was so cringe" "it's embarrassing to look at this" what are you gaining here? belatedly being your own bully? is it more acceptable to hate a kid if it's the kid you used to be? shut the fuck up. be kind to yourself or don't say anything at all. people are really not laughing with you when you mock yourself and if they are maybe consider hanging out with nicer people. imo.

[androdragynous]

this also goes for having your personal blog tags be like "nobody cares (name)" or "shut up (name)" or whatever. why are you being mean to yourself. its not preventing other people from being mean to you just because you get the first shot in it just means you get shot twice. how is that better. how is any of that better

[zinesbycee]

i love sluts i love perverts i love dykes i love faggots i love aromantics i love freaks i love librarians i love ibuprofen

[girlballs]

gives you a badjob. a weirdjob. doing some unusual shit to your penis.

[gh0st-bf]

*folds it into a balloon animal

[emmelyy]

Shoutout to everyone relearning who they are after a lifetime of believing that losing weight was all they had to offer the world.

[sunnytaimi]

✨🪻FUCK THE BMI SCALE🪻✨

[s1renidae]

tbh my hot take is that a lot of people are obnoxiously weird about feet and its usually not the people that have foot fetishes

[technofeudalism]

if you wiped every ICE agent off the face of the earth, a hundred million people would become safer overnight. if you wiped every furry off the face of the earth, the entire internet would collapse for good in a matter of hours. i know where my allegiances lie.

[fuck-you-showerthoughts]

[kalina-c]

fuck em up gang