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Stephanie~INFJ~22~Clark University 2018. Political Organizer. Aspiring writer. I tend not to know what is going on with me but I can recommend you an awesome book.

[peachhoneii]

A snake damned humanity.

And a snake gave humanity it’s best shot at redemption.

[redheadagenda]

Okay, and??

[yayatriangleofsadness]

Shrinking (s1, 2023)

[yharnamsnewslug]

As much as I love that JK Rowling is being shredded for her transphobia, I'm begging y'all as a trans man to acknowledge that the fucking Hogwarts Legacy game is fucking antisemitism personified.

Jewish people are very often erased from this shit already, ACKNOWLEDGE that the entire game's premise is about it. Jesus fuck.

[kirkwallhellmouth]

This. The reason people should be boycotting the game is because of the game’s actually vile premise, not just because JKR is a transphobic asshole. She’s also an antisemitic, racist asshole.

When the game’s premise first came to light—before JKR’s infamous anti-trans diatribe that specifically targeted transmascs and especially autistic transmascs—a lot of people rightly decried it because of its blatant antisemitism and the fact that it’s premise encouraged genocidal actions against the Jewish-stereotyped goblins.

And then, somehow, for some people, JKR’s transphobia erased the fact that we already KNEW that the game was bad because of the inherent antisemitism of its narrative.

There’s more reasons to hate JKR and not buy things she’s responsible for than just her transphobia. She’s not just a TERF; she’s a racist, antisemitic TERF.

Don’t forget that, folks.

[onesettleronebullet-deactivated]

"JKRs infamous anti-trans diatribe that specifically targeted transmascs" HELLO??? IN WHAT WORLD

[yharnamsnewslug]

????? She posted an entire TERF manifesto and focused on autistic trans men as these poor little disabled girls who were being fooled by the TransgenderedTM.

[micro-usb-deactivated20230625]

[spaghettioverdose-deactivated20]

As a trans woman I can confirm that they indeed found an ancient forest inside a 630ft deep sinkhole in China

[gayweeddaddy69]

cis people can reblog this but keep it on subject, please

[senshibignaturals]

Happy pride month everyone always remember that the sinkhole has an ecosystem large enough to house not only insects but likely several species of small birds or mammals

[aimeegbbs]

NEW YEAR, NEW GIFS CHALLENGE ✱ day 16: favourite minor character

[tvandfilm]

THE SEX LIVES OF COLLEGE GIRLS | 1x02 - Naked Party

[birdnormal]

here is my one bit of wisdom as a 32 year old with no interest in being a "fandom elder" or "community mom" or whatever -

if someone a little older in your friend group takes care of things and has good advice to offer and whatever, and you all sometimes joke abt them being the mom friend, that's fine and normal

if someone self declares themselves as the mom friend, and begins to act like that is a role with actual authority, Fucking Run

[booigi-boi]

Just because it isn’t spooky season doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a free, high quality web series about the Legend of Sleepy Hollow 🎃

Can’t recommend it enough

[jessebloom]

i do have to hand it to him

[not-mary-sue]

I love that Diedrich's songs aren't just a narrative thing for the audience. He's just following Ichabod around, singing about his misfortune, and everyone has just accepted it.

[jaynaneeya]

Well, it's been six years, and Christopher Higgins is still 14. Looks like Edgar may have been right.

[itsclydebitches]

Super random Ted Lasso thought of the day, but I’m really surprised by the number of times I’ve seen some version of, “Ted is a bad coach because he’s naively optimistic and always non-confrontational. I mean, he won’t even confront Nate about revealing his panic attacks” in just, like, the month I’ve been in the fandom. Beyond the fact that I don’t think Ted is nearly as much of a pushover as the fandom tends to portray him as — he has a specific reason for wanting Roy to speak up instead of doing it himself, he publicly calls Jamie out on his “injury” in the locker room, he candidly expresses his discomfort with hiring a therapist but puts that aside when he’s outvoted, but he sticks to his guns about keeping Roy on the pitch for at least part of the game (resulting in the “tortoise” overtaking the “hare”), his frustration with Nate and Beard being “negative nellies” is validated when, as soon as he gets a bit of support from Rebecca, that hopeful perspective helps him hit on the trick play idea that nearly ties them the game, etc. —  but even beyond all that, Ted is canonically trying to protect Trent here:

Trent: I was fired when they found out I revealed an anonymous source.

Ted: Oh snap. I didn’t say anything, I promise.

This exchange reveals that a) Ted had no idea Trent wanted out of his job and that b) he’d always planned to keep the tip quiet so as not to jeopardize his position. As far as Ted is concerned, Trent took a risk in texting him, but that information never needs to go beyond giving him the chance to come to terms with the article before it’s sprung on him. AKA, have any potential panic attacks in the privacy of his home that night, rather than while walking to work where, as we see, everyone has a newspaper and is talking about him, accosting him, or snapping pictures. Yes, those who Ted shared the secret with are the most likely candidates for the source (hence why Beard would be oh so happy to headbutt Nate) and yes, Ted could have potentially used that as an excuse for confronting him… but it’s still a risk. If Ted waltzes up to Nate and goes, “Hey, how could you tell Trent Crimm about my panic attacks?” Nate is less likely to think that Ted figured that out and far more likely to go, “That asshole reporter didn’t keep his promise of maintaining my anonymity.” Nate, who has just displayed a tendency for undercutting people who he perceives as having wronged him, goes to The Independent and gets Trent fired. That’s a distinct possibility Ted wants to avoid. Hence, “Oh snap. I didn’t say anything, I promise.”

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[kalinara]

I really do pity Nate, I realize.  He’s so desperately unhappy and he has no idea how to fix it.

He’s so reliant on external validation for his happiness: his father, Ted, the team, twitter.  Those are all things that can temporarily make him happy.  But they’re impossible to maintain!

Nate’s dad is a dick, and there’s no magic solution to that.  Nate can get him all of the nice tables at a restaurant in the world and that’s not going to change that.

Ted is warm, supportive and full of unconditional love, but he can’t be Nate’s emotional crutch.  No one person can.  Ted is, to quote Beard, “just a man”, and he has his own flaws and issues that have kept him from being the support that Nate needs.

The team is great!  But there’s a bit of a poison pill there.  The team wasn’t ALWAYS great.  Once upon a time, they were terrible.  They made Nate miserable on a daily basis (and it’s still a little heartbreaking to see Nate in For the Children BEG them to pick on him extra tomorrow, rather than ruin his new suit).  The team are nice now, but how does he know it’s not some kind of long-game joke?  How can he be sure they won’t turn on him again?

Public validation, i.e. twitter, is fleeting.  And that’s why Nate is suddenly fixated on the idea of credit.  He sees perks that the players get: like the free coffee machines or the idea that Roy Kent would never have trouble getting the best table at a restaurant.  He likes the idea of recognition and groupies (who wouldn’t?).

It makes sense then that he fixates on the idea of being head coach.  The head coach has the name recognition.  All eyes are on him.  His triumphs are broadcast for the world to see.  No more saving good ideas for the right, most dramatic moments!  He could just use them!  (And well, there may be a little bit of revenge here too.  Ted failed at being the emotional support that Nate needed and Nate on some level resents him for that.)

Thing is, though, Nate would be terrible in Ted’s job.  Ted’s job title isn’t just coach.  It’s “Team Manager”.  This requires managing and motivating people: both the players and his underlings.  Admittedly, the team manager probably should have more knowledge of the game itself than Ted has, but he outsources that part.  Nate’s not going to be able to outsource his people skills.

And honestly, can you imagine poor Nate having to deal with Ted’s public reception?  It’s improved a lot, admittedly, but the man still gets called “wanker” on the street.   Imagine Nate trying to deal with the days when #FireLasso was trending on twitter.   Or having his name graffitied onto a stadium seat with the “O” turned into a hanged man.  (That’s a cute little visual gag in the opening theme song that hits a bit harder now, doesn’t it?)

Okay, Nate doesn’t have an “o” in his name.  But still.  Nate flinched at one negative twitter comment.  How would he deal with the pub guys?  Or even Mae’s stare of disapproval?

Poor Nate isn’t going to be any happier if he gets what he wants.  And the self-hatred, already expressed every time he spits in the mirror, is just going to get worse and worse.

Nate’s not a monster.  He’s just a desperately unhappy man who doesn’t understand that the only way to find the comfort and validation that he seeks is to look within him, not outside of him.  

It’s really a shame that Nate never sat down with Dr. Sharon.  It might have helped prevent all of this.

[hacash]

Every single second of that confrontation from Nate didn’t feel like a power-hungry bastard or an insecure bully, it felt like a hurt, angry kid screaming at their dad because they have no idea how else to express themselves. Insulting Ted while simultaneously dashing tears from his eyes and saying about how abandoned he felt. Everything at the core of the conflict not coming down to Nate’s desire for power, or for recognition, but because Ted made him feel loved and then (in Nate’s view) took that love away. How does that level of writing and acting not rip your heart out and stomp on it while simultaneously having us thank the writers for the privilege?

[kalinara]

As sympathetic as I am to Nate, there’s one idea that I immediately and categorically reject, which is that Ted is in any way at fault for Nate’s downward spiral or what Nate did to him.

I understand where Nate is coming from, in a sense.  Initially, he had a lot of Ted’s warm and nurturing attention.  Eventually, he didn’t have as much attention anymore and he felt abandoned.

Now of course, Ted had a lot of things occupying him in season two.  Particularly his own mental health.  But even if he hadn’t, Ted never “abandoned” Nate.  Nate grew up.

Or at least, he was supposed to.

When Higgins talked to Keeley, he had that great line about “a good mentor hopes you will move on, a great mentor knows you will.”

And that’s true for Nate and Ted as well.  As far as Ted knew, Nate HAD moved on.  He became a coach rather than a kit man.  He’s one of the folks in charge now.  He’d grown.  And even if Nate is a little more heavy handed than Ted is, (we saw Ted gently intervene to give Will the afternoon off, and his nonplussed reaction to “we could show him his paycheck”), that doesn’t mean that Nate is having a hard time.  People are different.  And well, as Make Rebecca Great Again showed us, sometimes Ted wants/needs Nate to be the hardass that Ted can’t be.

We talk about Ted’s “microaggressions” against Nate, and I think the show did a good job of showing how and why they got to Nate.  But it’s important to remember that Ted doesn’t know what we know.

Ted’s laughter at Nate volunteering to be the “big dog” wasn’t meant maliciously.  Ted would have laughed the same way if Nate had suggested Ted himself be the “big dog”.  From Ted’s perspective, of course, there’s nothing wrong with not being a big dog.  This is a guy who is very happy to be a panda among lions.  He doesn’t know that Nate wants desperately to be a lion.  And he looks like he feels terrible when he realizes.

The other microaggressions are simply normal things that people do.  Sometimes thoughtlessly.  Ted didn’t hug Beard when Jamie made that kick in the Signal either, because Roy was the one who made the call.  (Nate probably WOULD have gotten a hug after park the bus, if Ted wasn’t in really bad shape.)  And well, we KNOW where Nate’s picture is.

Ted never told anyone what he was going through.  If he did, maybe they’d understand.  But Nate never told anyone what HE was going through either.  Keeley knew about the restaurant, but only as an isolated incident.  Beard knew about the Colin situation, but again, only as an isolated incident.  There was no reason for anyone to know how deeply Nate was spiralling.

Nate’s fall does not represent ANY kind of failure on Ted’s part, whether personally or philosophically.  It happened because people are people, and they have their own issues and pain that unfortunately sometimes intersect in really awful ways.

I know we’re all kind of doomsaying Nate’s time as head coach of West Ham, but maybe it will be an opportunity for growth instead.  Maybe without the constant reminder of having been weak, bullied and dismissed, he’ll actually shine. Maybe without that history, he can be the mentor and guide to his new players in the way he couldn’t at Richmond.

Either way, it’s still not Ted’s fault, damnit.

[cinematicnomad]

TED LASSO ▸ nate’s character arc ↳ inspired by nick mohammed’s tweet +bonus: