Masks & Shadows

Visions, Thoughts and Feelings from the soul of an adult adoptee who survived an abusive past

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Expressing the Mystery of the Self through Photography

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#adoption #truth #identity #authenticity

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"One of the things people need to recognize is that there is no biological mirroring for the adopted child. They don’t see physical and personality traits reflected in the biological relatives around them. (These are inherent genetic traits; they’re not things you just pick up from living around people.) People who are born into biological families and stay in them take biological mirroring for granted. But this isn’t present in an adoptive family. So the adoptee is always trying to figure out how to be in that family and the family is trying to figure out how to be around that child." Nancy Verrier

Artwork by Kara Louise Judd titled "as I stood by myself"

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Adoptees smile but they must also grieve over the loss of true family which so often goes ignored.

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El Juglar by Remedios Varo, 1956. Oil on canvas.

Salomon Grimberg has an interesting interpretation:

The image of the Juggler that Varo has conjured here is unique, trump, cabalistic, personal. […] Varo is addressing the masses, and possible, the skeptics, represented by the shadows we can see outside the picture, facing the show.

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It is not too difficult to imagine Varo’s state of mind as she painted The Juggler. As we often experience in her paintings, the event seems to be seen through the eyes of a melancholic. Sunlight is perpetually absent; it is probably dusk on the streets of this medieval town, all the characters are pale.1

Salomon Grimberg. “Remedios Varo and The Juggler: Harmony, Balance, and Unity,” in Remedios Varo Catalogue Raisonné (Mexico: Walter Gruen, 1994,) 27-30. ↩

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Many people I know live in denial and won't accept this reality/truth; these two people were in love and they made me. I was born to them, but was given up for adoption at infancy.

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More quotes

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Adult children of narcissistic parents are profoundly affected by their mothers and fathers with NPD. ACONs have specific issues and concerns pertaining to the narcissistic abuse they have experienced.

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