phoenix

we're in this together

[girl-that-writes]

It's my sincere request to not be sent asks that have go fund me links on this blog. I genuinely dislike having to say this at all, but I have to. I know I have a sort of mini platform that I should use. And I do. I already have a second blog with a much bigger audience and on there, I post the links to all the go fund mes that are sent to me and I also continuously talk about many issues on there. I just want to keep this blog very separate from that one for personal reasons.

[girl-that-writes]

So, as obvious, I've been M.I.A.

Why?

I don't know

Or maybe I do know

I don't really expect anyone to even come across this post

But wow

The person that I was

I look up to her

Because I'm going through all of my posts right now

And I wonder

How was I able to say the things that I did in the worst time of my life?

And why can't I anymore?

[gaarrus]

the trick for enjoying a new video game is avoiding the internet’s opinion on it 

[ichorsick]

[lilacandladybugs]

"what if im a bad person" yeah? well what if you arent? what if you're trying your best and you're growing and you're kind? what then?

[ruinedchildhood]

This guy found a lost phone and then was actively looking for the owner until he found him

[suggestionsofkindness]

You are far more easy to love than you think. 🌸

[iloveyou-itllpass]

unpopular opinion maybe but waking up to rain on a quiet weekend is quite literally the most magical thing in the world

[shez-a-dove-deactivated20161204]

i hope im a positive influence on somebody’s life

[borderlinereminders]

It is okay and normal to be mad at people you love sometimes. It's normal for them to be mad at you sometimes. What I think really matters, is how people treat each other when they're mad.

My partner was mad at me yesterday. I was supposed to book his ferry last week but I forgot and when I went to yesterday, the reservations were sold out. (He has really busy work days and that's why I was booking it - before anyone says he could have just booked it himself. I have a lot more spare time than he does and had agreed to do it when he asked.)

He was genuinely mad at me. He expressed feeling frustrated, but he never once yelled at me. He never once insulted me. He never once threw a past mistake in my face because he was upset.

He told me that he still loved me when he was mad at me, but he took some time to calm down. And then he came back and told me that he loved me again. I gave him a sincere apology. And we came up with an alternate solution, and we moved on.

I made plans for how I can not get so distracted in the future - because I did mess up, and part of apologizing in my opinion is aiming to do better next time.

But the point is that while he was mad at me, he never treated me poorly. He was never cruel or mean. He understood mistakes happened, but he still needed a minute to sort through his feelings. And that was okay. He was allowed that. I was genuinely upset, and I felt terrible. But he was allowed the space to be mad, and I was comforted by knowing he still loved me even if I had messed up. I used my own coping methods to deal with my feelings.

It's okay to be mad, even angry. It's okay to need space. It's just important to be mindful of how we handle our feelings, and we need to know that we don't deserve someone to be mean to us, even if they're angry.

[weltenwellen]

Leila Chatti, from “Tea”

[roseaffirmations-deactivated202]

if you have fallen into a bad place and you’re trying to recover. i am so proud of you.

[lycanthology]

i think one of the most important things you learn about making connections with others is that a significant portion of the time people just do not know theyre doing what theyre doing

[lycanthology]

sometimes someone is acting selfish because they just didnt think you had any interest in what theyre hogging. sometimes you dont get invited to the movies because your friend could have sworn that you said no. sometimes you think someone is mad at you because theyre bad at hiding how little sleep they got. we are all like little worlds that briefly crash into one another from time to time and we just arent physically capable of seeing the whole picture at once in those moments. and learning that really changed everything!

[headspace-hotel]

so true one time someone thought i was very angry but i just needed to pee really bad

[sandersstudies]

Going to see children and adolescents dance badly, play ball badly, sing badly, play recorder badly because they are young: YES! YOU ARE LEARNING! INCREDIBLE!

[sandersstudies]

People are so rude about going to watch the children in their lives do stuff shittily. “Ugh toddler dance recital,” “ugh tee-ball weekend again,” “ugh nativity play.”

That guy learned what skipping is this year and now he’s playing the piano the worst I’ve ever seen but the best he’s ever done! AREN’T YOU CAPTIVATED BY THEIR ABILITY TO DO A LITTLE BIT WHEN PREVIOUSLY THEY COULD DO NOTHING? Be filled with wonder and joy!

[thesadghostclub]

LISTEN HERE! Having a ‘good day’ in a sea of bad ones does not make you a faker. Your brain might be telling you you’ve been weak up until now, because you don’t feel SOOOOO bad today, but that just ain’t true! It’s ok to enjoy the good days if they happen, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Some days are better than others, that’s just a fact.

Love from the sad ghost club

[saurons-pr-department]

2024 is the year we stop “consuming” and go back to “reading/watching/listening to/playing” things

[midnightsoliloquy]

[boycritter]

sorry for sounding too excited about my interests lol i forgot sincerity must give way to irony lest i appear as though i can find joy and positivity in a world you view through the lens of pure cynicism. my bad man i’ll make sure to mask my genuine happiness with a sardonic one-liner next time haha.

[wetheurban]

You’re not "too needy." Wanting love, a reasonable amount of attention, or support doesn’t make you too much. It just means you’re human. The right people will understand and meet you where you are.