Dieu est grand mais le village il est tout petit

Eli, she/her, 20s, french/english/italian. Welcome to my multi-fandom personal hell, fellas. Y'all are welcome to stay and chat

[dionysiaproductions]

[madgirlautumn]

This is so obviously correct I can’t even think what the other answer would be.

[gcantread]

more p&p:

"I have been so fortunate as to be distinguished by the patronage of the Right Honourable Lady Catherine fucking de Bourgh"

mansfield park:

"I was quiet, but I was not fucking blind"

sense and sensibility:

"I will be fucking calm"

"Elinor went to her room, where she was free to think and be fucking wretched"

persuasion:

"And who the fuck is Admiral Croft?"

"Can we fucking retrench?"

"I am not fond of the idea of my fucking shrubberies being always approachable"

northanger abbey:

"The person, be it gentleman or lady, who has not pleasure in a good novel, must be stupid as fuck"

lady susan:

"My dear Alicia, of what a mistake were you guilty in marrying a man of his age! Just old enough to be formal, ungovernable, and to have the gout; too old to be agreeable, too young to fucking die"

emma:

"Badly fucking done, Emma!"

and I propose that instead of one single "fuck," every time Emma mentions the character her name is changed to "Jane fucking Fairfax"

[valtsv]

time to make a post on tumblr. surely no one will interpret it to be as offensive and bad intentioned as possible.

[valtsv]

by talos this cant be happening

[ispyspookymansion]

i may not be financially stable or professionally successful or socially well liked or attractive or funny or hopeful about my future but i can make a 3 note post like nobody’s business #hustle

[writingdose]

one of the best feelings tbh

[clemgrounder]

And re-read the same sentence because yeah it was THAT good. And I felt like I wasn't 1000% committed when I read it the first time.

[ostolero]

“I think white gay people feel cheated because they were born, in principle, into a society in which they were supposed to be safe. The anomaly of their sexuality puts them in danger, unexpectedly. Their reaction seems to me in direct proportion to the sense of feeling cheated of the advantages which accrue to white people in a white society. There’s an element, it has always seemed to me, of bewilderment and complaint. Now that may sound very harsh, but the gay world as such is no more prepared to accept black people than anywhere else in society. It’s a very hermetically sealed world with very unattractive features, including racism.”

— James Baldwin, from a 1984 interview given with Richard Goldstein, in the Village Voice

[scarecrowsaliva]

because so many people missed the point of this on the original posts notes,

James Baldwin (a gay human rights activist and author of the 50s and 60s) was pointing out that communities that are minorities are still part of the larger population and are still going to fall into oppressive beliefs within their communities and as a white queer person it is extremely important to make sure your acceptance includes BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of color), do not make excuses to deny anyone the right to live as they are when you cry about your own discrimination.

community and solidarity is the only right answer.

[the-haiku-bot]

community and

solidarity is the

only right answer.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[wiisagi-maiingan]

Alright this is going to be a very controversial thing to say but.

I really and truly believe that the "treat yourself" culture and people living well above their means and going into a ton of debt just to have fun and live lives of luxury with no regard for the future is a form of passive suicidal ideation. I am only now dragging myself out of a hole of suicidal ideation after being in it since my very early teens and the idea that what you do now doesn't matter because you don't have a future is like. Classic passive suicidal ideation. You aren't actively planning to hurt yourself, you don't actively want to die, but subconsciously or not, you are envisioning a future where you do not exist.

"It doesn't matter if I max out a dozen credit cards because I don't have a future anyway." Okay, why? Why don't you have a future? Where are you in this mystery future where none of your actions now can touch you? I am not trying to be mean, but I need people to really think about this and realize that they are setting up a future for themselves where they are not present and there's only one way that can happen.

Talk to a therapist. Get help. Build a support system. Reach out to your friends and loved ones living like this and express your concern. If they aren't willing to listen, fine. Lots of people living with passive suicidal ideation don't want to listen or acknowledge they have a problem. But maybe they will listen. At least you've tried either way.

[wiisagi-maiingan]

It's so scary and horrifying to see this become so common among younger generations and so much of it is because our economy is in the fucking trash. People see how difficult it is to buy a house, get a job they can survive off, get a job that makes going to college worth it, start a family, pay off loans and debts, buy groceries, etc and it's filling them with a horrific and deep existential dread. It's so easy to overspend and get into debt when you can't see a future where saving will ever be worth it, where you will ever face any consequences for spending recklessly now.

And again, that is a form of suicidal ideation. A future where you face no consequences and where you can't benefit from savings is a future where you are dead. Full stop. End of statement. Get help.

[phaeton-flier]

Bear religion probably fucking rocks. You're a fucking bear, you're the deadliest thing on earth, once a year an endless supply of salmon just flings itself up the river to gorge on and then you nap for 3 months.

[hashtagloveloses]

this kid’s post and his replies to people’s questions are so pure I’m sobbing

[digidiskette]

What’s better— the thread is filled with people giving some good advice on how to respect a woman’s boundaries and how to ask what she would be okay with, publicly. Lots of trans girls thanking him for being so patient and thoughtful with his words, and lots of people cautioning him that his purpose as a boyfriend would be to keep her safe, even from his own friends and family if need be. A+ shit right here.

[stop-stalin-and-suck-my-dick]

This is so FUCKING cute help me

[gardeninthevoid]

hey, trans girls who are into guys? THIS is what you deserve. don’t you ever believe that you have to bend over backwards for men to like you, that you have to accept being disrespected and mistreated, that you’re something to hide or be ashamed of. you’re beautiful, you’re a fucking princess, and you deserve someone who sees that and loves you deeply and unconditionally, who will choose you over the world and fight the world for you. THIS is the kind of guy.

[shadowgremlin]

My wife’s idea of decompressing after the busy holiday was to rearrange every piece of furniture in our home is this an ADHD thing or just a her thing

I’m not complaining the way she’s done it is much better than it was it’s just like how is this your idea of a relaxing weekend

[kaity--did]

Listen I don't get to decide when the drunk elf that is my executive actually does the functioning but when he does we have a SMALL WINDOW OF TIME before he finds the schnapps again and we're done

[honeysbunchesofoats]

[kaity--did]

yes this exactly

[luminouspica]

So to me, there are spoons (general energy cost) and carnival tickets (specific energy cost).

Spoons can be used pretty much anywhere.

Carnival tickets are only good for the carnival, and it’s only in town for a limited amount of time.

So like, if I get “kitchen cleaning” carnival tickets, I can’t use that to clean my bedroom, that’s not where the carnival is.

[lingonberry24]

phrase added to permanent vocabulary

[mousegirlheart]

found this nefarious cube in my home. going to incinerate it out of an abundance of caution.

[oxamourxo]

[wizardsisananimal]

the procrastinator’s mind will invent distractions you’ve never conceived of in order to avoid tasks even a dog could do.

[partywithponies]

It's honestly crazy how a laptop is such an advanced and incredible machine, and yet one of the crucial components to making it work is just an ordinary big ol' fan, and if it stops getting fanned hard enough it'll throw a fit. Egyptian pharaoh type mechanism.

[herewithinthevoid]

every so often something nice happens on the other hellsite 𖹭

[anxietyproblem]

[zero-two-ten]

this site has one setting

[jenroses]

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.  And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons. 

[kittydorkling]

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

[bogleech]

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

[can-i-make-image-descriptions]

[Image IDs: Image #1: Tweet from Seneca (@/ CryptoSeneca) on 15/01/2019 reading: Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow care.

Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity.

Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad.

You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself.

Image #2: Tumblr tag reading: #hm. time to constantly think about getting fucked by a pack of werewolves. /End IDs]

[verba-amoris]

[disseram-que-sou-doido]