Golden Cord

Life Coach. Fierce advocate for personal growth.

[fucking-relax]

hey remember when you were feeling anxious, frustrated, panicked, whatever that emotion was, and then

you set a timer for 30 minutes and stretched and worked out aerobically? and while the core struggle isn't gone, it didn't feel so scary anymore?

this is your reminder that it helped. you should probably do it again, and give yourself a sticker about it

[fucking-relax]

my routine has changed so my previous strategy hasn't been as effective. However!

tired after showering soon after waking and annoyed at how long it takes when i need to be out? -> move shower to before sleep

there's "extra" time in mornings now where i can move my body before i move along my day

tired after returning home? having all those feelings and perhaps also dehumanized? ->

lay down with eyes closed for 15 minutes. priority is to breathe and rest. then do that stretching and exercise. that fucking rush becoming a person again!!

and whether the relief is consistently replicated or not, we get a sticker or stamp!! physical praise 😤

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[andhumanslovedstories]

I started using Head and Shoulders ten years ago for itchy scalp and dandruff, and then for ten years I have not had itchy scalp and dandruff, so I thought "why do I still buy shampoo to combat itchy scalp and dandruff when I do not have itchy scalp and dandruff," so I stopped buying the shampoo for itchy scalp and dandruff and can you guess I have now? Can you predict what currently afflicts me? It's alright if you can't because apparently I fuckin couldn't either

[andhumanslovedstories]

Cutting something out of your life because you think you don't need it any more only to realize that it was in fact working as intended and preventing a problem that will return should you stop doing this is a good experiment to run periodically with something small like dandruff shampoo, lest you start to think it would be a good idea to do this with like let's say public health and the social safety net and vaccines

[thomrainierskies]

I had a liver transplant when I was 14 and like six months later I was chatting with my surgeon and he said “there’s gonna come a time, probably when you’re a teenager, where you’re gonna think, ‘I feel great, why am I still taking all this medication? I haven’t needed it in years.’ and you’re gonna want to stop taking all this medication. Guess what’s gonna happen then? You’re gonna go into rejection and your liver is gonna start failing, and you’re gonna be dying again, and we’re gonna have to find you another liver. So don’t do that.” And I said “why the fuck would anyone do that?” and he said “people are stupid.”

every once in a while when I get annoyed by a pharmacy or don’t wanna get out of bed to do my drugs I think “ugh, this is dumb, why do I do this?” and that conversation slams into me like a truck and I remember that I am, in fact, stupid

[goldencordcoaching]

Just tacking on that this is also true for your anti-depressants and all other mental health meds.

If things are going well, FOR THE LOVE OF JUMANJI DO NOT CHANGE YOUR MEDS.

[magentasnoodle]

we usually think of mood as a scale from 1-5, but there's actually a negative scale too, where the frown turns back into a smile, but just a little insane !

[goldencordcoaching]

I respectfully submit that the scale should be plotted on a horseshoe, not a line. 5 and -5 are closer to each other than the flat line indicates.

[depsidase]

[389]

Musings from Anna Fusco

[liberalsarecool]

"That’s what makes Zohran Mamdani’s election in New York so unsettling to the old order. New York City is not just another municipality; it’s a sovereign-scale entity. Its population surpasses 38 states. Its metropolitan GDP trails only Texas and California.

It is, by any metric, a small country masquerading as a city.

It governs more lives and more wealth than most nations. If democratic socialism — housing reform, public banking, equitable taxation — functions here, it obliterates the myth that such governance can’t work at scale. The fear isn’t ideological. It’s empirical. Because if Mamdani can keep the lights on, reduce homelessness, and maintain economic growth without catering to Wall Street, then the capitalist gospel collapses under its own dead weight.

What terrifies the establishment isn’t failure. It’s feasibility.

If it works in New York, there’s no reason it can’t work in Nebraska. If it works in Queens, it can work in Kansas City. And once proof exists, belief becomes irrelevant. The ship of democracy, fully refitted, will keep sailing — and no one can claim it isn’t American."

- Jackie Summers

[kosmogrl]

you can begin again and again and again for the rest of your life

[indouscurse]

you have to consciously unlearn racism and continue to watch for it because it will come out without realizing. because so much of society is structured around it. shrugging and going "i dont care" or "i dont know how else to say it" means you are okay with being racist and hurting other people with how much you dont give a shit about them.

[goldencordcoaching]

When I feel too constricted by my life, I remind myself that I am a human being with the power of choice, and I can follow my whims.

The harmless urge to walk the low stone wall like a balance beam? I give in.

The sudden idea to grab my kids and go get ice cream? Yeah, I do that, too.

The creative idea that pops into my head? You will likely find me doing that this afternoon.

I love and crave structure in a lot of my life. I'm not negging structure. But when structure starts to feel oppressive, I always find a little whimsical divergence sets me right again.

[goldencordcoaching]

I love dogs. I don't have a dog right now, but for the majority of my life I've been a dog owner, and I miss having a little furry friend. I get way too enthusiastic about the dogs I meet while walking out in the world. Instagram reels make me wistful. I FUCKING LOVE DOGS.

But I won't get one. Because regardless of how much I love dogs, I am not in a place to be a good dog owner right now. I already have too much taking my time and attention, and I cannot offer a dog the kind of love they deserve. I like to travel, and I don't think a dog deserves to be constantly left behind by their pack. And, frankly, my home isn't currently pet friendly, and I don't see that changing any time soon.

So, the most loving thing I can do for a dog is not bring them into my life, because I am not ready to have them be a part of my life. When that changes, then, perhaps, I will allow myself to consider owning a dog.

This post is not actually about dogs, btw.

[stuckinapril]

Literally cannot believe I was ever scared of getting older like this is awesome. Learning so many new things about myself & reacting to things that used to get under my skin so differently. This is so sexy.

[reasons-to-not-end-it]

REASONS TO NOT END IT:

"The sun. Not because it's pretty but because one day, it's probably going to explode. We won't be here to see it, right? But still, the thing that gives us life will take it away. The light will fade. So right now is the time you have to fucking hold on. Apologies for the swear, but I'm not kidding. I attempted. Twice. The first time I was too scared to continue, I tried to purposefully overdose. I got halfway through what was considered dangerous and started to cry so hard I threw up. More recently, I tried again. Tried to overdose again, because I was scared my parents would find out otherwise. You wanna know what stopped me? The sun. I looked up, when I thought it was going to be my last day on earth and said goodbye to it like I was in a literal movie. I laughed, and I laughed so hard that someone saw me driving past, while I was sitting on the ground and pulled into my driveway, and he got out of the car and asked if I was okay. And I laughed and told him the sun was pretty, while I laid on the ground. He laid down with me. When I got up later and went to head inside, he just left. I've never seen him again, but every day I think back to him and think that he was like the sun. Can't change much. Doesn't really have a single say in what I do. Yet he made me smile, made me pause and think of the world as beautiful again. I wrote a journal entry for the first time that day since I stopped after getting bullied for it. I wrote that I wanted to meet him in the future, again and thank him. Because him stopping made me realize that maybe one day I could be the sun in somebody's life like he was. I'm still waiting for that day. But now I look at the sky and think that I survived because a person in this world stopped for five minutes to just breathe with me, and that it'll be okay."

-anonymous

#978

[thepeacefulgarden]

[stuckinapril]

I’m not the woman I was a few years ago or even a year ago but I still like to hold her hand and remind her she did her best with what she knew

[corrya]

I think about this like once a day

[vaspider]

I have heard a variant on it that I really like: "You cannot hate yourself into someone you can love."

[fishpondfish]

it is impossible to watch a movie. every night i think i want to watch a movie. no movie gets watched. because it's not possible

[mousidy]

and yet they keep making movies with the hopes that one day humanity will discover a way to watch them. it's so inspiring

[goldencordcoaching]

Had a breakthrough chat with my daughter yesterday. Some of her online communities have really been concerning me, and while my parenting philosophy is never to lay down mandates about what my kids can and can't engage with (I tend to go more of a "this concerns me, and here's why, and I'd like you to think about this before you keep going") I have, on occasion, gotten perilously tempted to whip out a hard line because this particular community was reading a lot like a hate group to me.

But I've persisted in trying to point out what I see that concerns me in the stuff she reblogs, and why I think it's negative content that is aimed at promoting hate rather than creating inclusion and safety, and yesterday she really got what I was saying. She realized she hadn't considered the impact of what she was sharing, vs the intent, and that having your own personal pain does not give you free license to be hateful to others who remind you of your pain.

And when we were done, SHE told ME that she thought that had been a really productive and helpful conversation. And holy shit am I relieved and happy about that.