Yarnmom

Professional Procraftinator I'm not good at tagging but I'm trying to get better.

[mclennonyaoi]

love people saying ryan gosling in phm isn’t a “tumblr sexy man” because he totally is. functionally he is pretty much the same as the 11th doctor. he’s quirky funny conventionally attractive and nonthreatening and also extremely popular on tumblr . what else do you need

[mclennonyaoi]

this idea that tumblr sexy man aren’t just like attractive skinny white dudes who are also a little quirky/from “unconventional” media/have funny designs is crazy like no they are and they have been . even the nonhuman tumblr sexy men have been mostly drawn and shipped as attractive skinny white dudes like why is ryan gosling such an outlier here

[mclennonyaoi]

like cmon . tom hiddleston but not the ry gos character that they’ve been torturing the prostate of since may and has been trending #1 nearly daily. be serious ! what criteria does he not fit here

[gossamermouse]

a) i seem to have missed a lot of sexymen wtf is that list, but also

b) he is not nearly as chaotic as these others. He is really lacking that cause he's just so human. Clever and funny and smart and a little smartass, yes, but I cannot see my inner tumblrgirl hold up her spoon, proclaim her love of penguins and d00m, and then say she likes Ryland Grace, there is just too much maturity happening there and not enough r4nd0m. thanks. (i just finished PHM, its fairly fresh for me. I also don't think he's got quite enough antagonistic vibes to fit)

i dont even like tumblr sexymen, this is just a weird assertion.

There just isn't enough potential disapproval and rebellion going on here. like, a tumblr sexyman has got to get me eyes of judgment for being on his arm or something. that said i really dont think the doctor whos fit on those lists overall but he becomes wantable because he's been off-limits in his canon and is detested for warcrimes against uhhhh time or something i cant remember the specifics.

oooh i got it.

they mess with your sense of self-preservation. look at them all. they're all either jerks or dangerous or worse. Grace just happened to be scared in a situation that makes sense to be scared in. He's far too heroic to activate my "this will make my mother cry" attraction switch.

i am concerned for tumblr now that ive gotten this far in dissecting this. and myself.

now, him as Ken? more potential to fit here.

[blignick]

[bethanydelleman]

Maybe it's naive of me, but whenever I see portraits like this, with just a father and daughter, it restores my faith in humanity a little. Because people seem to love this idea that fathers never loved their daughters in the past and only saw them as bargaining chips for marriage or whatever, but look at the guy in the first portrait on the left, he loves that little girl! And the dad trying to do his work while his daughter bothers him with an Old Timey Barbie. The man teaching his daughter geography, his expression is so soft! The way the man in the last portrait holds the little girl's hand! And none of these are incidental, these aren't photographs, someone (probably the father) paid good money and sat down for hours so that they could have a painting of themselves and their daughter. Probably because they loved their daughter.

From left to right: 1795 Michał Jerzy Mniszech with his daughter Elżbieta - Marcello Bacciarelli; Christopher Anstey and his daughter Mary Ann by William Hoare 1776; A Musician and His Daughter by Thomas de Keyser 1629; The Geography Lesson (Portrait of Monsieur G. and His Daughter), 1812; Jean-baptiste Isabey And His Daughter; Portrait of a Young Girl and Older Man by William Harrison Scarborough

(this is probably somewhat related to my other favourite genre of painting, Husband With Multiple Kids Making Come Hither Eyes At His Wife)

[janeeyreofmanderley]

oh I love those! People being people is one of my favourite kinds of paintings and an important reminder that people in past times were not all that different. There were dads who loved their daughters fiercely. There were fathers who happily looked after their babies too. The German reformer Philip Melanchton for example had a cradle in his office. His wife was busy organising a household for 20 people- she was out and about, he mostly worked in his office, it made sense for him to look after their babies too babies while she dropped by at snack time.

in fact often if it was kind of safe dads had the babies in their workshops for just that reason as we can see in these paintings:

The left is “the busy father” by Theodore Weber, the right one is “At the china repairer’s “ by Wenzel Tornoe. All dads who are actively involved in childcare and a painter who thought it was a cute topic rather than anything ridiculous.

[obi-troll-kenobi]

I raise you:

First Lesson by Akseli Gallen-Kallela (1865 - 1931)

Un Coup De Main (The Helping Hand) by Émile Renouf (1845 – 1894)

Italian Winegrower And His Daughter by Francesco Baratta (1590-1666)

[darkfrozenabyss]

First Steps, Millet and Van Gogh

[alphacrone]

as a child i assumed that martha’s vineyard was a fancy private vineyard owned by martha stewart and the reason rich people vacationed there was because they were friends with martha

[victusinveritas]

[frasohei]

[gossamermouse]

I have the body of the sweater I am designing done, and I am nearly done the sleeves. Tomorrow I will join them together and start decreases for the shoulders and neck. I am really proud of myself for doing this from scratch. Leveling up or something, lol, since each new part and technique has to be looked up or developed by me to get this pattern to work its becoming quite the project.

[junewild]

Donate to Support Kay’s Journey to Pain-Free Eating, organized by kay hall

Hey! My name is Kay. I’m an artist and theatre professional in Portland. I haven’t … kay hall needs your support for Support Kay’s Journey t

Hey! I hate to be making this post, but I don’t have a lot of other options. My name is Kay. I’m an artist and theatre professional in Portland. I haven’t had consistent dental insurance since I was 18 and I desperately need some dental work. I need a root canal, two new crowns, replacements for two crowns that were poorly done when I was younger, and several fillings. I try to take good care of my teeth, but a combination of bad genetics, bad dentists, and bad insurance have resulted in a lot of problems. Although I’m employed at a theatre full-time, they only offer insurance to employees who meet a certain threshold, and the state insurance I can afford will only cover a small amount of the work I need done.

Most of these cavities are years old, and have been slowly getting worse to the point where I can no longer ignore them. It’s starting to cause significant disruption to my life. I’m in pain from day to day, I’m filling holes with dental wax to minimize irritation, I can only chew out of one corner of my mouth, I’m starting to lose weight because it’s too hard to eat, the dentist I consulted said it’s just a matter of time before he has to start pulling teeth instead of repairing them. I’m even starting to feel embarrassed about smiling.

My new dentist is great and has already offered me the biggest discounts they have available. But after insurance I’m still looking at $7800 out of pocket. I work at a nonprofit and my husband is underemployed—there’s no way we can come up with a fraction of that over the next year, let alone all of it. My parents live on a fixed income and can’t help me out. They require payment upfront, so I can’t just get them done and pay them back over time. I’m running out of options and I’d like to be able to eat again. Anything you can contribute will make a huge difference in my daily quality of life, not to mention my peace of mind. Thanks for reading. ♥️

[aidashakur]

[cuteapoot]

I feel like a lot of therapy fails for people with C-PTSD and other disorders like it because changing how you think and changing how your body experiences reality are not always the same thing! Focusing on embodying new experiences to counter my old trauma instead of just convincing myself not to listen to the part of me that was traumatized healed me so much more than any talk therapy ever could.

[gossamermouse]

working on finalizing a design that i will release as a MKAL, for funsies. going to ask a few close friends to pattern test before i consider releasing it.

trying not to get obsessive about the document layout and over-engineering it...

considering a tech editor, but not sure what im really doing with this first one tbh. is this a one time thing? am i making a habit of designing? i don't know. which is probably fine too.

[yorgen-sh]

The Chinese shoe manufacturer decided to demonstrate the indestructibility of their shoes

[gossamermouse]

As fun as this is to watch, the glitching out of the can is making me question it a lot.

[saint-ambrosef]

Incorrect ❌: "No parent can successfully manage their own kid's education in a teaching role unless they have a formal degree in childhood education."

Correct ✔️: "While many parents are not personally equipped to handle teaching their own child in a home schooling environment for a variety of reason (time, academic ability, disposition, learning disabilities, etc), -- and thus it is important that there are good state-funded education options for all families -- there are many parents who can adeptly teach their own children without a specialized education degree."

[saint-ambrosef]

#there's so much really good curriculum both standardized and elsewise that's available for free or for very affordable prices too#like. the vast majority of homeschooling families are NOT entirely or even MOSTLY coming up with and writing their own curriculum#my mom is HIGHLY academic but she still bought basically all of our curriculum growing up. the only thing we built our own#was math because 1) she's math inclined and 2) I am very Not and wasn't getting it with the curriculum we were using in high school#anyway

No but this is so true. Most other homeschoolers I've met "in the wild" (e.g. not within my own community) were taught using a structured curriculum pre-designed by education experts. Families that rawdog it by inventing their own individual curriculum are kinda rare in the space, although there are those who do it well.

Co-ops are also becoming increasingly common, and many of these established curriculums offer online tutoring/classes a-la-carte for subjects a parent may feel is out of their depth. My mom was a STEM girlie so she found me someone else to help me with my writing skills when I got to high school. My husband excelled at math and so his mom had him enroll in dual-credit community college classes. It's also not uncommon for parents to enroll their kid in conventional public/private school once they are high-school age.

[saint-ambrosef]

I'm also begging y'all to understand that not everyone who home schools is a religious zealot trying to hide their kids from secular society so they can indoctrinate them. Like there's actually a lot of very normal regular people who home school and their kids have a very normal education experience.

[picsthatmakeyougohmm]

hmmm

[toast-potent]

i don’t need to say it

[bingomann]

don’t say anything. just reblog this if you’re thinking of exactly that thing when you see this picture

[thelionessandmedusa]

@distance-does-not-matter

[blondie-in-the-zone-deactivated]

[psychotrope777]

fuck it really has like almost the exact cadence

[uncle-beanbag-mojave]

DESERT IGUANA!

[garmbreak1]

generally I like the culture of this place but it's a little frustrating that the median user's understanding of economics is "why do I have to pay to take the bus, the driver's going that way anyway"

[cynical-mysanthrope]

Ok but why isn't public transportation free, it absolutely could be.

[garmbreak1]

A revenue based model is preferred because it allows you to easily figure out which routes are most used and you don't have to raise taxes to fund it.

[argumate]

generally helpful to charge for services and give people money, although that isn't optimal for everything.

[buttstothemoon]

It's always so crazy when people forget that we're allowed to ask workers about things.

[garmbreak1]

what do you mean?

[buttstothemoon]

The fucking drivers know which routes are busiest, loser.

[garmbreak1]

Calm down, champ.

[shieldfoss]

I see the median user has found your post

[manda-kat]

Did everyone forget that gas and bus repair cost money? And drivers need to be paid? There is no world where the bus could be free without the money coming from somewhere else. The driver won't just 'be going that way anyway' because they need to eat. They won't 'be going that way anyway' if they have no gas or the bus won't start.

[gossamermouse]

What if they're talking about that bus from nightvale, where you have to wait in the rain (in the rain)?

[rederiswrites]

Just watched Adam Conover (of Adam Ruins Everything) make such a solid point that I think we should spread far and wide. Yes, having AI write your emails is lazy, sure, but people love being lazy. We need to really emphasize that sending AI emails (or using AI responses on social media, or publishing AI flyers, or or or) is rude.

It's rude. You're making someone take their time to read something you couldn't bother to write. You're telling them they were so unimportant you couldn't be bothered to actually take the time to say something yourself. And frankly, you're lying about it while you're at it.

It's rude.

[behaviornerdwithahat]

So many fiber arts have difficulty levels that are less about your level of skill than your ability to tolerate extreme multi-step processes.

[moethh]

see one of the biggest things i dislike about the idea of a “trad wife” is that it’s not even “traditional” or “how things always used to be”.

this lifestyle only came about after the industrial revolution and was really only used by the middle and upper classes. before that, men and women would work together. women weren’t sitting around all day taking care of the home while their husbands were away—they were together as a family.

additionally one of the biggest benefits of having children was that, when they were old enough, they could help out with the work however they could. the idea that only men did all of the work is absurd.

[margindoodles2407]

why are you booing her she's right

[butterflies-and-bumble-bees]

there's also the fact that traditional housework was like actual work until the industrial revolution made everything easy.

Doing laundry in the 1800s? took you literally all day of boiling water, fetching more water to boil, and handling various (sometimes dangerous) chemicals. And all those clothes you were washing? You made most of them if you weren't rich enough to buy them. Which meant you were fixing every rip and hole until you had a dress or petticoat or pair of pants made of patches like the Ship of Theseus.

Cooking dinner? Took literal hours of watching a fire that could literally burn the house down for most of history.

Everyone also owned animals, if they had space for them. And those animals needed to be fed and watered and have their barn/shed/stable/coop or whatever they were housed in kept clean.

You'd have a garden to keep watered if you had any space at all too.

[theriu]

I read a really interesting point once about how chores became "easier": new, modern conveniences were touted as making womens' lives "easier" and giving them more time.

The problem was that everyone still expected them to be busy. To be available. To be doing things. Which means that "spare time" just got filled up with MORE things to do. And those new things tended to be more individualistic and less social. While washing took longer, women could do it together, or chat with each other over the back garden gate while hanging up the washing, etc.

This isn't just a problem women face, though. We, all of us as a culture (at least here in the US), modernized ourselves into doing more and more, faster and faster, with less and less togetherness and interaction. Is it any wonder research shows we're dealing with a epidemic of lonelines?

[little-theatre-fairy]

That's what I'm saying. Doing laundry takes 2 mins of sorting and 5 of hanging up for me. It took one entire day every week for my grandma.

Why is it that I feel like I have no time? Why do I feel like I'm always busy and behind? What happens to all that time we save?