Glorified Book Club

• she/her • 30's • queer • Finnish • a huge fandom mess • I've been here so long... • currently Käärijä, Joker Out, Heated Rivalry, OFMD, Project Hail Mary, sometimes random period drama obsessions • I make lots of typos in the tags so just deal with it •

[stalgivc]

[autumngracy]

Saw this twitter post and instantly started looking for pictures of Stratt to use it with

[omppupiiras]

Tikkurila festival was 🔥🔥🔥

[not-muse]

[rj-anderson]

I know this is from Australia but when I first saw the words “Victorian man” all I could think of was this:

[cockyhorror]

To be fair imagine you just arrived in 2018 from Victorian England and discovered Take On Me, what are you supposed to do, not blast it loud enough for your family to hear it all the way back in 1876?

[ellisonwongparty]

the way rr/tierney introduce ilya is so funny to me because when you first see him you're just like jeez this guy is such an asshole why is he like this. and then seconds later it's just like um it's because he has a 1) dead mom 2) who killed herself 3) an abusive dad 4) with alzheimers 5) a brother 6) who verbally abuses him on the phone 7) when ilya refuses to wire him 50 bands all at once 8) all while he spends new years eve all alone in the grossest motel you've ever seen 9) and he's bisexual.

and you're just like. well shit. that will do it i guess.

[escuerzoresucitado]

yes yes, very wise

[lavenderprose]

My absolute gospel truth and I'm sorry this is so sappy but--where I'm living, Ilya fully changes his name to Hollander when they get married, like just fully legally changes it. And despite the fact that he continues to use Rozanov professionally ("Just like J. Lo," Ilya says.) everyone who knows them personally obviously knows what Ilya's legal name is and also assume it's a way to kind of stick it to his shitheel father. To this end, and kind of as a joke at first, people start referring to their two-person unit as The Hollanders ("Okay, the Hollanders are in room 508" etc.) but it becomes steadily less and less a joke when neither Shane or Ilya really seems to think of it as one. Ilya especially seems to genuinely love it. He'll say shit like "Oh yes the Hollanders will be there" when asked if they're coming to a barbecue like they live in a postcard. He LOVES to give his name as Ilya Hollander and he LOVES to book reservations under 'Misters Hollander' and he LOVES to say the words 'Shane and Ilya Hollander' out loud with his mouth. I also think that for their last game together in the league Ilya and Shane wear jerseys that say S. Hollander 24 and I. Hollander 81 and it's like. An end of an era type thing. And they frame the jerseys.

[clytemnestraaa]

hi this drives me crazy

canon is what happens in the text. e.g. merlin tries to poison morgana

a headcanon is a fact that you have personally made up as an elaboration of canon. it is your invention. e.g. i think morgana and gwen had a teenage lesbian situationship before the events of canon. or, i think modern morgana would love evanesence.

an interpretation is how one reads the existing text. it is not an invented fact nor is it a headcanon, it is a reading. e.g. i think merlin tries to poison morgana out of misplaced self-hatred. or, i think that one line was delivered with suppressed malice and shows a nuanced relationship.

fanon is the general fandom’s accepted headcanons and interpretations that elaborate or recontextualize canon. e.g. merlin is a badass waif and morgana is a bitch.

these are all different words with different meanings.

[argumate]

instead of "people pleaser" it might be better to think "disapproval fearer" if that's the emotional stick that's motivating action; important to consider at least three reasons to do something:

it's a good thing to do

I want to do the thing

people will be mad if I don't do the thing

and if 3. is the most weighty reason then that's a potential problem.

[nuancecomprehender]

my life isnt perfect but at least im not doing a mans laundry

[starcut-sand]

the thing about Tangled is that this is a story geared towards little girls (even if it's "fun for the whole family," it's a disney princess movie, it's geared towards little girls), and it says, "here is a girl who is naive and doesn't know anything about the 'Real World' or how to navigate it safely and correctly. now pay close attention: the good guys are the ones who help her grow and explore new things while still respecting her own perspective and feelings, not making her feel stupid. the bad guys are the ones who tell her that she is too weak/immature/naive to do the things she wants to do, because she is fragile and needs protecting." and I watched this when I was nine years old and it resonated deep in a part of me that I couldn't articulate with words yet.

[boomer-mythology-destroyer]

[nyenye0701]

book grace: rocky would you still love me if i were a worm

movie rocky: would grace still love rocky if rocky were a taumoeba

[soliloqueeer]

I love how Boyfriend™️ Shane becomes with Ilya at the cottage. He’s picking him up from the airport. He’s carrying in his suitcase. He’s making hamburgers on the grill. He’s lighting campfires and holding Ilya in his lap and scaring off loons. Shane Hollander might be surprised when Ilya pulls out the boyfriend word at dinner with his parents but this man has been training his whole life to be a Boyfriend™️

I have this headcanon where Shane is the more butch one between the two. I imagine his dad taught him how to be handy around the house, how to do some minor construction/repairs, how to start a campfire, and he enjoys the outdoors, and maybe did scouts when he was a boy. And in contrast, Ilya grew up as a slick, city boy in Moscow and hated the wilderness and hires people to fix things and is like afraid of spiders.

Btw, in this headcanon Ilya just *loves* when Shane goes Boyfriend™️ mode (and later Husband™️ mode). Ilya loves watching that man mow the grass and repair the deck. He loves being taken care of by Shane, and especially loves it when he does it in front of people. Neither are emasculated by the other in the ways they embody their own masculinity within the relationship. It just balances them out and turns each other on.

[karrrriyuh]

📷: crops from paidatonriehuja IG stories

[gabiwlove]

[runawayballista]

for reasons of fibromyalgia/EDS/[redacted] i am working with at least a certain degree of cognitive impairment most of the time, and as an adult i cant take ADHD medication for bipolar reasons. which means i have to do a whole lot of exec function management on my own and a lot of the strategies* ive developed over time revolve around reducing cognitive load by frontloading tasks as much as possible i.e. preparing as much of the Task as i can in low brain mode so that when i feel like i'm ready to actually do the task, i have reduced the amount of brain effort required to get started

*caveat that im not an expert in anything but myself so maybe im using these terms differently than experts would. brain too tired to do that much googling rn but dont take anything im saying here as any kind of Professional Advice

for instance my job involves a lot of sending the same 6 kinds of emails over and over, so i've got my templates in a text expander (if you do similar kind of work and don't use one: get thee a text expander). when i've got some of these emails to send, even if i'm feeling too foggy to prepare a whole Communication i can at least fill out the parts of the template that are easiest (copying and pasting data from elsewhere, attaching files already prepared, etc) and come back to it later when i feel like i can complete the task. i do a Lot of this both in work and my day to day life and it really makes the difference between an unconquerable big task and a thing i managed to get done. even for non-form emails, i'll sometimes frontload a message i'm writing by simply jotting down the bullet points of what i need to cover, and when i come back to it later, it is SO much easier to draft a final email from an outline than try and disgorge it whole from my foggy brain

and the nice thing about this approach is sometimes in my frontloading i will develop the momentum to actually finish the email i'm writing. i rarely make this the goal, but it actually winds up happening pretty often, so it feels like a delightful surprise i can pat myself on the back for. you werent even trying to do the whole thing but you did!

another brain-saving strategy: scheduling emails 10 mins in advance. i rarely trust myself to get everything right the first time so i like to schedule an email, then look at it in my outbox before it sends bc it looks like a sent email and is easier to proof for things like "are these the correct attachments" and "did i forget to fill out part of this template" and "did i CC the correct email addresses". i catch errors more frequently than not and its pretty much my default practice now. this practice originated when i worked in-office in a place where ppl could and would simply go to your office to talk in person if they felt like it so any time i wanted to reply to a non-urgent email right away but didnt want them to know i was presently at my desk, i'd schedule it for like 30-60 mins out. sometimes to times after i was planning to leave the office. but its also massively useful in catching errors!

i saw someone comment once that ppl with ADHD sometimes make the best administrative staff bc exec function management skills and administrative management skills overlap pretty heavily. in my case i actually think doing admin work is how i got better at managing my exec function problems because i can usually just apply the exact same strategies to my personal life. nothing is no-fail but im doing pretty good for a guy with this many brain problems