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actually fucking disgusting that glasses cost any money like if you actually think about it for more than a few seconds it is so unconscionably inhumane. this goes for things like insulin and mobility aids and hearing aids too ofc but fuck man, fucking glasses? the thing you need to fucking see? its genuinely sickening and inhumanly evil that those cost ANYTHING.

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

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Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

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Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

autumngracy

“200 notes”

[SpongeBob Narrator voice] Ten Years Later

partypuppy-nastja

Fun fact: I saw this post today right after a Tumblr ad for spyware-for-parents which should not be any more legal than spyware-for-partners or spyware-for-stalkers or such

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here's my cat for your dash btw. if you even care

one-time-i-dreamt

I care very much

phantomrose96

copperbadge

I cannot get this poem out of my head. It haunts me. Joyously, it haunts me.

peepingnee

This poem format is my favorite thing and this is the first time I’ve ever seen it’s origin story. I love it. Every time.

middle-earth-mythopoeia

THE SACRED TEXTS!

zetabrarian

I forgot the context! It’s beautiful!

memories-of-ancients

Drinking horn with gilded copper mounts, Europe, 15th century

from The Hunt Museum, Limerick

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localxenospores

i was compelled

beastoftheblackhole

I was also compelled

dreamrotlabs

DEMO: TBD

You didn't choose this life. But someone had to.

Your older brother bailed years ago and left you holding everything together. At twenty-one, you're the oldest one left standing. The one who shows up to parent-teacher conferences. The one who forges signatures. The one stretching forty dollars until it screams. Your mom is somewhere with someone new. You're stuck with three half-siblings: a rowdy sixteen-year-old who apparently has a jail wish, a prodigy fourteen-year-old who's already planning her escape, and an innocent eleven-year-old who gets sick easily and trusts too much.

Tangled is a slice-of-life interactive fiction about the mess of loving people who didn't ask to be a family. About class and survival and all the shit that don't make the news. About what you owe the people who were supposed to take care of you and what's left of you once you've given everything away.

Life is shitty. But it's all you know.

Create your MC — choose your gender, look, personality, skills, your job and how you carry the weight of it all

"In A World Full Of Kardasians Be A Gallagher" — navigate survival, pride, and the gap between the life you have and the one everyone else seems to be living

Raise your siblings your way — how you handle them is on you. Tough love or soft hands. Your call. But be ready for the consequences...

Deal with the dads — Four men. Four different problems.

Find something for yourself — a good job, romance, or escape. People will judge you but they do that anyway, so fuck 'em!

Five romance options — a slow burn, a ride-or-die, a safe harbour, an old flame, and someone completely out of your league

when-life-gives-you-lemons-if

okay. I need this like NOW!

demilypyro

vampires are so full of shit. "oh the human race is beneath us, you're just livestock to us" I don't think you know what livestock is. do you feed us? care for us? protect us from predators? no. you just slink around dark alleys and ambush people. that's not what a higher being does. that's a bottom feeder. a parasite. karate punches your head off

draconym

I think it sucks that you have to go to so many different kinds of doctor to take care of yourself. It's the 21st century. I should be able to go to a single office where they scan me with a big xerox machine and tell me what I'm allergic to and why my tummy hurts and if I have any cancer or cavities or if my glasses prescription has changed. And then I should get a sticker.

mellifluouscountess

When I was drunk one night and watching the Jellyfish livestream, I reached out to the Monterey Bay Aquarium with a dumb question about their jellyfish... And they actually emailed me back.

(yes, these are actually my own screenshots, I am in tears laughing)

DO YOUR ANIMAL EXPERTS HAVE TO UNTANGLE THE JELLYFISH

AND THE ANSWER IS FUCKING YES, THE JELLIES GET TANGLED SOMETIMES LMAO

alanaisalive

The other night husband and I were watching a documentary about the yeti where they were doing DNA analysis of samples of supposed yeti fur, and every one of them came back as bears.

Anyway, the next night we watched a thing about some pig man who is supposed to live in Vermont. People said it had claws and a pig nose but walked upright like a man. Now, I happen to know that sideshows used to shave bears and present them as pig men. So every piece of evidence they gave of this monster sounds to me like a bear with mange.

So now the running joke in our house is that everything is bears. Aliens? Bears. Loch Ness monster? Bear. Every cryptozoological mystery is just a very crafty bear.

Bears. They’re everywhere. Be wary. Anyone or anything could be a bear.

iguanamouth

oh shit

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alanaisalive

As the OP of this post, I’m going to threaten that if this gets to one million notes by the 10 year anniversary on 1 June 2026, one year from today, I will get a lower back tattoo of the loch ness bear monster.

docd666

Y'all know what to do Tumblr.

toastgull

Reblog and you’re guaranteed to be successful at whatever you do next!

itscrazycasey

Need me some luck

patrick-stewart

Ewan McGregor as Obi-Wan Kenobi STAR WARS: EPISODE III - REVENGE OF THE SITH (2005)

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OBI-WAN KENOBI | Part V

sannel

To the glistening eastern sea, I give you Queen Lucy the Valiant. To the great western wood, King Edmund the Just. To the radiant southern sun, Queen Susan the Gentle. And to the clear northern sky, I give you King Peter the Magnificent.