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no talk with me im angy

Lesbians still making posts about how bad it is for bi women to use butch/femme: We know! We heard u! We’re trying to make our own terms and have them used widespread but we need to get the WORD out for them to be commonplace and that’s hard when literally nobody but bis reblog posts talking about bisexuals lol! It’s not like we all follow each other. At this point the only people trying to take ur terms from you are lesphobes or young bi girls who straight up don’t realize they aren’t generic wlw terms because they haven’t learned the history bc literally no one is out here trying to include and teach bisexual kids shit about their gay lineage, everyone’s too busy trying to push it under the rug.

bi equivalent of femme: doe bi equivalent of butch: stag

There are more for nb bis and such you can look into but there’s the basics! Look I’ve even designed flags you can find if you scroll through this tag! (i didnt come up with the terms)

a-daedras-best-friend

thefoxesraven

So was no one going to tell me- as a bisexual- that we had our own terms that are like Butch and Femme. Or was I supposed to find that out though this post??

I seriously don’t know enough about my own sexuality.

lazywritergirl

Wait…what?!

peaceofyourheart

PSA for all the Bi. Y’all people out here spreading education.

shatterpath

PSA for my bi sisters and brothers.

methodicalerror

Since OP’s links don’t work:

Image One:

Doe: Feminine bi girl

Stag: Masculine bi girl

Tomcat: Androgynous bi girl

Image Two:

Mage: Feminine bi boy

Knight: Masculine bi boy

Druid: Androgynous bi boy

Image Three:

Dove: Feminine nb bi

Crow: Masculine nb bi

Pigeon: Androgynous nb bi

smaug-the-wizard

dont mean to impose but does anyone know the terms for pan people? i know a pan girl who uses butch and i feel i should correct her but idk if we have one??

vaspider

You should absolutely NOT correct any wlw for using butch and femme.

Butch and femme are NOT lesbian-only terms, they are not even WOMEN-only terms.

https://vaspider.tumblr.com/post/185533845186/ok-so-i-like-boys-and-i-might-be-a-trans-dude-but

https://vaspider.tumblr.com/post/171936201311/hey-not-to-be-rude-but-i-noticed-it-said-that

https://vaspider.tumblr.com/post/173899382096/hey-im-a-bi-person-who-has-mostly-left-the

The idea that butch and femme are ‘only for lesbians’ is more TERF nonsense trying to drive further wedges between lesbians and bi/pan/ply/omnisexual people, not to mention the LONG history of the terms being used in the ball community by gay men and trans women, ESPECIALLY QTPOC.

gabbug

I have to agree with @vaspider. Historically, butch and femme have been used by any wlw/nonbinary/queer women. It isn’t lesbophobic to use them, and you shouldn’t let the fact that the replacement terms are cute distract you from the current radical issues within the LGBTQ+ and especially wlw communities.

The terms above are rarely ever seen, and it’s a growing issue that LGBTQ+ teens come to tumblr and are dissuaded from using their own identities and coerced into thinking similarly to TERFs.

Tumblr has a culture of extreme sensitivity and shame hosting thousands of teens and adults that come here to explore themsleves freely and find communities unavailable to them in person, and many people are subsequently shamed out of spaces before they have the information and skills to combat radicals and and actual phobes. Not everyone can spot the difference yet between cries of “I’m here and I need visibility, respect, and support,” and the reverse, the shouts of “Pay attention, I’m more important, value me!” Language used to protect the LGBTQ+ community is turned on its head and shaped into TERF and radical propaganda that resonates with young teens because it sounds right, it sounds politically correct, and nobody wants to step on any toes.

The very first opening claim from OP screams just that: I hear you and I want to accommodate your needs. Some needs shouldn’t be met. They aren’t needs, they’re rallies for segregation within the queer/LGBT community and we need to stop propagating them.

This post isn’t cute. You can use any of the terms above that you like, and you absolutely can use butch and/or femme.

Lesbian? Butch and femme.

Bi? Butch and femme.

Trans? Butch and femme.

Nonbinary? Pan? Demi? Aroace? Butch and femme, butch and femme, butch and femme, butch and femme.

Use them, it’s okay, they’re yours too.