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banner by @whalewithay! some writing & poems @caffeine-spoons

[victusinveritas]

[black-crested-jaybird]

I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.

[37q]

[antisocial-transfag]

tags by nothorses

[half-caff-spoons]

these tips might work if a person will do as told. maybe that is partially because those people don't have ADHD. i can follow a regimen/alarm for quite a long time. then one day:

the alarm goes off, i honor it, do morning stuff, never retun to "after alarm" stuff. use the day for whatever, realize very late that I'm very late. or realize the next day that i lost a day to a brain that does what it wants.

I don't set the alarm because i my mind/body is full (stress, a project, loved ones, achy, the flu). i don't think of the alarm/regimen again.

for employment outside the home I set multiple alarms. they fail because at the first one I get ready but have started cleaning or reading, etc.. i don't hear the other alarms due to the noise or the fact I don't think of a phone as an appendage. no, physical alarms also fail. i mean look at how the other alarms fail.

but! I'm aware of exactly what happens? well yes, why assume my memory is what's the issue? the issue is focus. society expects people to change their focus on demand. particularly to train it for workplace demands. notice how i used the word demand. some brains aren't wired to bow to demands. those brains are wired to autonomy.

maybe i didn't connect every point like a presentation. why do people consider this as "rambling"? from my point of view it's a two way street where intersections are the point. to me, superhighways (where eveyone is "individual" yet careening along the same path), is odd as hell. it's a fight to find and merge and keep up with the stream. my brain does a fuck-that.

a lot of the everyday terms about workplaces are just jargon to me. others use them interchangeably with private life. again my brain rejects anything that encroachs on my sense of self.

i dunno. isn't it natural to avoid high stress situations? evidently my brain is wired to keep me sane and comfortable vs addicted to unfulfilled activities.

in conclusion; my brain doesn't recognize the "rewards" of spending the majority of my time on the planet in/alluding to/striving for/focused on a sterile landscape.

[ashyminivet]

india is not a democracy anymore.

everyone needs to hear about the situation in india right now. the youth of this nation are going through hell and back to protect the foundations that our country was built on in the first place, while the adults who are supposed to actually be in charge try to silence our voices.

NEET, which is an exam taken by millions of students per year and is the ONLY gateway for medical admissions across the country, had its papers leaked. so many took their lives because this exam meant everything for their future. and NTA, the agency who conducts this exam, was not held accountable.

there was national backlash. cockroach janta party (initially a satirical political party formed by abhijeet dipke in retaliation to the remarks of the chief justice of india calling the youth "cockroaches" and "parasites of society") started protests at jantar mantar, demanding the resignation of the union education minister, dharmendra pradhan. the movement also asked for ten million inr (~100,000 usd) in compensation for the families of students who died by suicide and wanted NTA be held accountable.

sonam wangchuk, a climate activist and education reformer, also went on a hunger strike at jantar mantar to protest against this corruption in india's higher education system. his fast began on june 28, demanding the resignation of the union education minister. his fast lasted for 20 days until delhi police FORCIBLY removed him and admitted him to safdarjung hospital on july 18.

because of this, cockroach janta party announced "chalo sansad," a march to the parliament beginning on june 20th, 9:00 am ist. but the police seems to be responding with water cannons, mobile jammers, and baton charge. all of this, because of a peaceful protest led by people no older than 30.

and yet there has been absolutely no indian media coverage about a movement that spans the entirety of this nation. so, please, if you see this, keep talking about us. we will not let those old bastards stoop any lower than they've already had. we will not let them ruin our country any further. we will not be silenced

[your-mom-friend]

Please look it up. Students have been beaten bloody. They’re using electrified batons. They’re using batons with nails hammered in. They’re dragging people off and locking them up for no reason. People are being beaten, assaulted, and even molested by the police.

The government is doing everything it can except for actually having an honest dialogue with the protestors.

It’s important to note that despite all the police brutality, despite how the government has had extra forces airlifted to Delhi to help quash the protest, this has deterred no one.

Not only is the protest in Delhi going strong, the government closed down every metro station in Central Delhi in an effort to stop them and it still hasn’t.

There’s protests in most major cities in India in solidarity. Palakkad, Chennai, Mumbai, Hyderabad, Bangalore, Kochi, and probably more besides. There has been a protest in the UK as well in solidarity.

People who aren’t at the protest are donating so much food that the organisers have had to ask them to stop doing so because there’s more than enough. In lieu of that people are donating money for medicine, lawyers, cleanup, and umbrellas.

Most crucially, hopes aren’t broken. Spirits aren’t broken. People with bruises and broken bones are still showing up. People are showing up cosplaying as freedom fighters and super heroes and a dinosaur. People are doxxing goons who show up trying to incite violence. People are making reels. People in Mumbai literally opened a moving police detainment van to allow arrested students to escape.

*all links lead to Instagram posts or reels showing the same. Almost every major Indian news network has been bought and either ignores the protests or depicts them unfairly. All honest news comes from people on the ground and smaller independent news outlets.

[harpyhormones]

again. bodily autonomy, fundamental bodily autonomy HAS to have room for people doing things with their own bodies that you do not and will not approve of. if it doesnt, it is not bodily autonomy

[artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet]

i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

[departmentq]

This is the world capitalists want to return to.

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[depsidase]

[yesterdaysprint]

The Wageworker, Lincoln, Nebraska, September 13, 1907

[cuppydogshane]

all the rights that come with marriage you should be able to have without marriage btw. you should be able to designate a person who can visit you in the hospital regardless of your relationship to that person.

[shinraalpha]

i do think lobbying for data centres over climate goals should be considered a crime against humanity btw

[byjove]

I just saw someone say “You need to read a book intended for adults.” instead of “Read a different book.” to a Harry Potter fan. Big fan of that.

[byjove]

The reaction to this post is making me realize I need to start saying this immediately.

[byjove]

They are books written for children. Children are the intended audience. Not that you cannot enjoy children’s books as an adult but that you should not be reading children’s books exclusively.

[sunnyfuneral]

Children's books are not stupid but they are intended for an audience with

very limited experience,

very limited access to resources

and the unique legal and social positions that is found in childhood

You should be able to read children's books and recognise that they are not for you. they are answering questions that you should know the answers to. They are describing social and political situations that children are new to and have little to no social responsibility to react to

You an adult, when you engage in adult literature should already know and be able to process social nuances developed with age you also have a different social responsibility when you engage with this type of literature, you have a different political and legal framework to engage with this literature.

If you find yourself only reading kids books ask yourself, what about your own adulthood Has left you so sheltered that literature intended for people that have only been alive for ten years is the only thing that you can engage with.

[turquoisedata]

How very depressing that Neil Gaiman had trended not even a tiny bit for demonstrating what a fucking horrific person he is.

As a reminder, he's suing Caroline Wallner, one of his accusers, for breaking her NDA. Not for libel. He's saying she shouldn't have told anyone about it, not that she lied.

Neil Gaiman Seeks $500,000 From Accuser Caroline Wallner

The author says Wallner broke her NDA by sharing her story with the media, including with New York Magazine.

He doesn't need the money. He's risking the Streisand effect. He is punishing Caroline, he's trying to intimidate other victims who have signed NDAs to scare them into continued silence.

He is no friend to women, to the LGBTQIA+ community, to anyone quite frankly unless he thinks they are of value to him.

Share the story. Put it on Facebook and bluesky and whatever else you're on. Make it clear what a horrifying person he is. Tell your friends. He's paying Edendale a fortune to try and cover this up. Make this hard for him. Make it cost him money.

[r18-g]

honestly one of the strangest and worst takes i have heard in a long time.

[self-loving-vampire]

I wish people actually looked up what grooming actually is, because it's not "when you read something horny before your 18th birthday".

Grooming involves someone deliberately trying to gain a minor's trust and open them up for sexual abuse. The intent is important here, because a lot of the actions that can constitute grooming are superficially completely benign.

For example, being kind, listening to a child when they talk about their problems or giving them gifts can be grooming if the person doing it intends to abuse the child, but otherwise it is just being a decent person.

You can't be "groomed" by an inanimate object like a book because books do not have minds. They can't abuse you. They can't even want to abuse you.

[rockergiirl]

i hate how pervasive the r-word has become again

its like the 2000s to early 2010s again where talking to anyone theres a good chance they'll casually say a slur without any thought

[rockergiirl]

and whats even more annoying now is people who'll try to weasel out of being called out on it

'oh its fine because i'm legally mentally disabled so i can say it' NOT HOW RECLAMATION WORKS

[rockergiirl]

AND SAME WITH DEGENERATE

STOP TALKING LIKE A FUCKING NAZI

[rockergiirl]

i hate how pervasive the r-word has become again

its like the 2000s to early 2010s again where talking to anyone theres a good chance they'll casually say a slur without any thought

[rockergiirl]

and whats even more annoying now is people who'll try to weasel out of being called out on it

'oh its fine because i'm legally mentally disabled so i can say it' NOT HOW RECLAMATION WORKS

[rockergiirl]

AND SAME WITH DEGENERATE

STOP TALKING LIKE A FUCKING NAZI

[creatingblackcharacters]

"...we live in a culture that circulates relentless messages of white superiority. These messages exist simultaneously with relentless messages of Black inferiority. But antiblackness goes deeper than the negative stereotypes all of us absorbed; antiblackness is foundational to our very identities as white people.

Whiteness has always been predicated on Blackness... Creating a separate and inferior Black race simultaneously created the "superior" white race; one concept could not exist without the other. In this sense, whites need Black people; Blackness is essential to the creation of white identity."

Chapter 6, White Fragility- Robin diAngelo

[creatingblackcharacters]

This point was also spoken on quite poignantly by Toni Morrison. The idea of, if I take away your Whiteness, and everything that comes with... What are you without your Whiteness? What can you do, once I take that belief and ability to practice that you are better than me away from you? I believe that is a deeply held fear and insecurity, that calling out white privilege strikes at.

[neechees]

I notice White users on tumblr are also MUCH less likely to reblog posts they'd otherwise agree with, but the post is a racialized person expressing anger about racism from white tumblr users. They're more likely to reblog the post if the post is less specific about who is doing the racism or if the language seems to "coddle" them more or express sympathy to them

[garaged0g]

maybe i am swinging a bat at a hornet's nest here but i also genuinely want to learn and be better so im willing to risk the pushback if it means i can improve.

every now and then i scroll across a post from a racialize person that essentially amounts to "white people i hate you. i hate all of you. die in a ditch."

i am not making up a strawman here to beat down. because a) i have come across posts that say this practically word for word and, more importantly, b) i agree with the sentiment. it is a very, very understandable anger. to quote malcom x,

“When all of my ancestors are snake-bitten, and I’m snake-bitten, and I warn my children to avoid snakes, what does that snake sound like accusing me of hate-teaching?”

anger at your oppressors, even anger at those who may have not oppressed you directly but inadvertently wield privilege to aid those who do, is justified and righteous.

but at the same time, a post that's only an expression of that anger sometimes feels a little too personal to broadcast. it feels as though i wasn't really meant to see it. and i don't want to just reblog a stranger's expression of distress for all of (majority white) tumblr to see because that might endanger their online presence or worse.

and there's also the issue of tone deafness. for someone to go "man i hate white people" only for a white guy to come in and say the online equivalent of "yeah same lmao" without having anything to add just feels. really disingenuous? like i'm not in a position to truly empathize as i'm not racialized, so i'd rather be able to give advice. but i can't really do that either as, again, i'm not racialized and any advice i give should be sourced from those who are. there's nothing i can really say that would add to the conversation so i'd rather not say anything at all.

(this obv doesn't apply when it's appended with "white people can rb" or something along those lines because then that implies the poster wants their post to be seen by white people en masse, vent or otherwise.)

at one point i did rb one of these vent posts thinking it would help but i got dm'ed with the advisement that it's common courtesy not to and i took it down. i've been iffy about reblogging those kinds of posts since. but meanwhile when a post says "i fucking hate you. here's what you can do about it." that carries the implication that it's more than just a raw expression of anger. there's an invitation and advisement for action. that i will rb because it carries a clear purpose outside the outlet of emotions. it doesn't feel like i've just stumbled upon someone's personal journal, but more like they want to be seen and heard. if it doesn't really have an overarching goal in mind other than venting than i don't fully get why i should reblog it. it sounds antithetical to a lot of what i've learned so far. i wouldn't reblog my friend going through it. so why should i reblog a stranger doing the same?

(i'm probably just misunderstanding the point of the post now that im rereading this. i wish i could definitively prove to you this is being asked in good faith and i'm not trying to sealion a debate or fish for reassurance or whatever, but all i have to offer in that respect is my word. i swear on my honor i'm just asking for clarification here so i can better understand.)

[neechees]

Starting off by saying a beloved mutual helped to overall explain the thesis of my post pretty well to the reblogger here so all is well, I'm just reblogging this here because said post by mutual would make it extra long lol. I'm just reiterating here as a supplementary.

This post is also on the same wavelength on what I was saying. I'll also reiterate the specific examples I gave in the notes and replies. There's a lot of (White, especially) users on tumblr who are reluctant to reblog posts that directly call out racism in general, but are even more reluctant when the post is directly mentioning racism BY White tumblr users (as in, racist actions by White users & the post is made by nonwhite users) or specific examples of it. More specifically like my post says, I'm talking about essentially tone policing. If someone is visibly, vocally angry about the racism they're talking about on the post, White tumblr users will avoid it. But if the wording says something to the effect of like "I know White people aren't trying to be racist when they do x" etc, then the post will be more popular. In my example in the notes, I was talking about racism within cottagecore many times, and I've noticed that even though I have multiple posts that boil down to the same thesis, the ones where my wording is (rightfully, justifiably) angrier are more ignored and have less notes than ones where I'm not. And like my mutual said as well, posts about White tumblr user's racism that are less direct in their wording will be more popular because White people will think "well this can't possibly be about me!". It's the same kind of idea.

Neutral toned posts will tend to be perceived within the "angry" category and usually will be ignored even if again, the wording and tone is neutral. And finally, posts that are expressing the same idea as posts by nonwhite people but are said by OTHER White people will be given much much more attention regardless of how they are worded. In my example within the replies, I talk about something that happened maybe a few months to a year ago where a White Ukrainian user was essentially making posts talking about racism towards Native Americans that would ALWAYS get VERY popular, more popular than other posts that said the same thing created by Native Americans. So White tumblr users were more happy to reblog the post talking about Native American racism if the post was made by a White person who is unaffected by it.

[creatingblackcharacters]

I saw someone co-opting your post to say something really misinformed at best in the notes and getting like 7 likes, so I just want to take this opportunity to say: The Malvinas Islands are Argentinian. We can discuss the racism in Argentina without falling for colonialist propaganda from fucking England of all places. And if you call them the "Falklands" or think the Argentinians are the one who are the colonizers somehow in this situation, please please PLEASE go and do better research, because there's a lot of bullshit going around.

Sorry, I know this isn't what this blog is about, and I know you are already in hot water for speaking about Argentina at all without being a Latine and it is not my intention to cause even more drama (And if there's any of you who have a problem with this, SEND ME ALL YOUR STUPID ASKS TO ME, NOT TO THIS BLOG)... but seriously, this is a topic that pisses me off. Can our colonizers please leave Latinoamerica alone already, por favor y gracias.

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