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[nothorses]

the trans male experience is being afraid that if you wash your hands in a public men's restroom you will be clocked

[actual-mothman]

one time I went in the men's room at a bar, got clocked and told I needed to leave so later I walked up to that dude at a table with some chick and announced to her that He Doesn't Wash His Hands After Handling His Dick and walked away

[nothorses]

you are quite literally braver than any U.S. marine

[funnytwittertweets]

[zimjaeyun-deactivated20220116]

fuck it’s august??? what’s next? 2022???? can’t do this anymore

[ruinedchildhood]

[mediumlargedarkpizza]

[hottwunk420]

[blairwitchh]

the build a bear Axolotl is perfect actually

it said :)

[phantomrose96]

hi i've been off of tumblr for less than 24 hours what's happening???

log back out bestie its not worth it

[distraughtlesbian]

ok i’ve washed my hair and put on a big t shirt there is no mental illness in this body

[rosiegbaby]

so true beastie *we are laying in a field of dandelions and i am petting your massive snout* *you are 30 feet long and i love you*

[spectrometrie]

[selavy]

the energy these have is like nothing I have ever seen

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

I know they probably mean ‘pull over first’, but they’re sure as hell not saying that.

[pobblebonks]

nsw has ‘stop. revive. survive.’  but vic has ‘powernap now’. My dad, of course, decided to pretend to sleep every time we passed a sign in vic…

[pobblebonks]

4got my fave

[carnivalseb]

new ‘live laugh love’ motto just dropped

[beboycowbop]

why are we here? just to suffer? every 5 minutes i have to clean my glasses

[anxietyproblem]

[mariacallous]

[hawkeyedflame]

i love listening to my fiancée drawing

“no stop” “oh no i didn’t mean to do that” “wRONG LAYER” “wait go back” “what line is that?!” “cAN YOU– [irritated noises]” “oh you…bastard” “what..layer is that on??”

she’s so cute djksfh

[hst3000]

A gift for your fiancee

[hawkeyedflame]

oh my god dkfjdhgksdjk

[aflo]

*opens the oven after preheating to 400*

[trickstertime]

This is Margaret when she opens that email

[brothersskeleton]

[ranawaytotelltheworld]

[elodieunderglass]

oh. ohhhhhhhhh. oh nooooooooooooooo

[dr-dendritic-trees]

[A mom and baby otter are floating together. The baby otter is sleeping on his mom’s tummy so he’s still all dry and fluffy.  She keeps giving him little otter kisses.]

[chronophobica]

me, copy pasting the same joke on tumblr, 3 discord servers, 2 dms, and a group chat: I am doing amazing. I am doing fantastic. I am going to get a good grade in funny, which is both normal to want and possible to achieve,

[chronophobica]

shaking and crying

[defectivegembrain]

don’t know what parent of an autistic child needs to hear this but as long as they’re not harming anyone your kid’s stimming is not a “problem behaviour”

[bowditch]

in our house we have a few categories of stimming behavior.

1. the no category. this is for things that are unsafe. hurting self (head banging, scratching), hurting others, chewing on choking hazards. i know this is excluded in OP’s post, but i’m putting it on my list because if you parent an autistic child and deal with this, you have to be aware that a key to off-limits stimming is redirection. stimming satisfies an important physical and neurological need for the autistic brain, and that behavior is sensory-seeking. if you must say no, please also offer options or help redirecting to appropriate outlets for pressure, motion, rhythm, chewing, etc.

2. the shared space category. listen, i get that a lot of people are assholes about things that aren’t hurting them. that’s not what this category is for. but we have a household with multiple autistic individuals and a work from home situation. “shared space” is the code phrase we use for “please take this stimming to a different location.” sometimes, aural stims like repetitive noises or physical stims like pacing can be legitimately distracting to other people in a room (or car!). in the case of other autistic people, it might even feel painful or mentally consuming. this category is no-judgment “please move to another location to continue stimming this way.” it’s not bad, it’s not wrong, you aren’t being shamed– just do your best to respect others and their needs or comfort, and leave the communal area or lower your volume.

3. the you do you category. it doesn’t matter that nobody else is doing this to feel comfortable or happy– you aren’t hurting anyone else, you aren’t being disruptive in a space other people are using together. go for it.

and in every single category, anger has no place in redirecting a stim. not even the no category. stimming isn’t malicious, there’s no actual moral requirement to be “less weird” or “like everyone else.” even reminders like “you aren’t the only person in this room and that’s very loud” don’t need anger. stims aren’t done at anyone. they’re just the body expressing a kind of neurological hunger, and whether the answer is “enjoy that!” or “this isn’t safe for you to eat (ie, do)” fury doesn’t help.

[anais-ninja-bitch]

oh shit this is a REALLY helpful way to conceptualize stimming and competing needs.

[kipplekipple]

I love this so much.