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Stuff about sleep I learned from my therapist

You will get the best sleep if you go to bed at a consistent time and wake up at a consistent time

If you’re having trouble waking up try opening curtains so that it’s brighter in the morning

To make things easier in the morning pick out your clothes the night before

Nobody actually knows why we dream lmao

Teenagers are legit supposed to have like 8-9 hours of sleep because we are being violently YEETED through development

Too much sleep can make you tired, usually more than 10-11 hours

Melatonin supplements are best if you have trouble sleeping because it doesn’t cause withdrawal or symptoms of dependence, unlike other sleep medications.

If you are autistic or have adhd like me you probably have a big important sleeping ritual.

Btw if you’re adhd and have trouble getting to sleep you can try a ritual like turning off all the lights in your mind palace.

Autistics sleep better with weighted blankets because it releases the same happy chemicals that hugging does except without the uncomfy touching

Naps should only be about twenty minutes

Any longer and you start going to levels 3+ of sleep and it can mess with your internal schedule

That being said just a 20 min nap can really JAZZ YOU UP

thank you please sleep responsibly

-shark

[myadhdlife]

Amazing post just wanna add tho.

WEIGHTED BLANKETS ARE ALSO A LIFESAVER WHEN YOU HAVE ADHD!!!!

[zeldaspeaks]

cleaning with ADHD is a nightmare. it’s an endless cycle of finding a half-finished chore and stopping the one you were already working on, then remembering that something else needs to be done and getting started on that, then finding half-finished chore and

[jumpingjacktrash]

i have the solution! i call it ‘junebugging’.

have you ever seen a junebug get to grips with a window screen? it’s remarkably persistent, but not very focused. all that matters is location.

how to junebug: choose the location you feel you can probably get some shit done on today. be specific. not ‘the bathroom’ but ‘the bathroom sink’. you are not choosing a range, you are choosing a center; you will move around, but your location is where you’ll keep coming back to. mentally stick a pin in it. consider yourself tethered to that spot by a long mental bungee cord.

go to your location. look at stuff. move stuff around. do a thing. get distracted. remember you’re junebugging the bathroom sink and go back there. look at it some more. do a different thing. get distracted. get a sandwich. remember you’re junebugging and go back to the bathroom sink.

nt’s will go crazy watching you, and if they demand to know When You Will Be Done you will probably have to roll them in a carpet and stuff them up the chimney. you’re done when you feel done, or you’re too bored to live, or it’s bedtime, or any number of other markers, you get to pick. but the thing is, by returning repeatedly to that one spot, you harness the ‘hyperactivity’ part instead of wasting all that energy battling with the ‘attention deficit’ part.

not only will the bathroom sink almost certainly be clean, and probably the mirror and soap dish too, you might’ve swapped in a fresh toothbrush, a new soap, you might’ve unclogged the drain – you will probably also have cleaned or fixed up several things in the near vicinity, or in the path between the sink and where you get the fresh toothbrush, or maybe you did your grocery shopping cuz you were out of soap, or maybe you couldn’t find a clean hand towel and ended up doing laundry.

this is good. you got shit done! it wasn’t necessarily Cleaned The Bathroom in the way nt’s think of it, but screw ‘em. things are better than they were.

plus you worked off enough energy to be able to sleep. which is not small potatoes when living the ADHD life. :D

[spoonie-living]

Don’t let the adorable name fool you—this is some Seriously Good Advice. May be useful for brain fog and depression, too!

[music-of-learning]

Self check-in list during study sessions

This is by far one of the best, unusual advice I've seen and I wanted to elaborate on that. (Check post by @undasrego). Since I often lose a track of time this list helps me concentrate on my daily wellbeing.

When was the last time I ate something? What did I eat? Am I hungry now?

This may sounds funny - how could you not know you're hungry? I just don't, since I remember, and I'm sure that many people while being engaged in work also tend to forget about eating. So remember, eat at least 4 meals everyday:

• make sure to eat a proper breakfast - that's the most important meal, it gives you strength for the start of the day!

• second breakfast - usually a fruit or yogurt or sandwich with veggies. Make sure to eat a lot of fruits and vegetables!

• lunch - very important, can't skip!!! If you don't feel like cooking, order something. And if you're cooking, you can listen to some podcast or audiobooks to fill the time (or music if you need to relax)

• snack - something sweet, what gets me energised

• dinner - don't go to sleep hungry. I tend to forget about that part the most, but I decided that it's better to eat a small sandwich around midnight than go to sleep without eating anything for the last 6 hours. (But I'm skinny, so do what is the best for your health).

When was the last time I drank water?

To avoid asking this question just keep your water bottle at your study space. Make yourself a tea or coffee. Get a glass of juice. Stay hydrated! If you forget about drinking water, there are apps that send you reminder (I used Water Drink Reninder, it's really easy and user-friendly).

When was the last time I used a toilet?

My advice - if you don't remember, just go. And if you really don't feel a need to pee, maybe you drink too less water?

Does my legs hurt? Does my back hurt? My head?

Take a break for stretching. Go for a walk. Open a window to get some fresh air. Go around a house - even small trip from your room to a kitchen to make some tea is enough. If you spend too much time in front of computer screen make sure to take breaks once every... I don't know, often. Exercise your eyes' muscles and eye accommodation - focus on far and near objects etc.

Am I stressed?

Take a quick break. Close your eyes. Breathe. In... and out... count. Go to your happy place. And think - you can do this!!! You really can, I believe in you and you should believe in yourself. World doesn't end. If you have a possibility, go get a hug from your family or friends. They also support you and believe in you!

Am I sad?

Working all day long for weeks isn't good for your mental health. Find a hobby that interests you, makes you happy or just let you relax a bit. Talk with friends or family. Do something spontaneously, something you really wanted to do for a long time. Eat something sweet or just something you enjoy. Watch funny videos on YouTube - but set a timer not to lose a track of time! Or you can message some blogs here and talk to random people about your life. Studyblr community is very supportive, we got your back!

This is what I use and this works for me. If you feel like adding on something, message me, comment, let people know what is the best for you!

I hope this helps you survive online classes! Stay safe!

[catharsis-in-a-bottle]

Tips for ✨not dying✨ during online school

[brought to you by: a high schooler who hasn’t died yet✨]

To avoid headaches - If you’re staring at a screen for hours at a time, a good way to avoid headaches is turning on night mode / night light. On a computer, you can go to your system settings, go into the ‘display’ section, and turn on night mode, which filters out blue light and can help your head ✨not die✨

Water - Keep a water bottle near you, drink glasses periodically, whatever you gotta do. H2O is also essential for avoiding headaches and for feeling generally okay, whatever your definition of ‘generally okay’ may be. Water helps you ✨not die✨

To save your muscles - any time you have a break, stand up (if you can). Just at least stand up. Stretch, even. As long as you take a small break from being in the same spot all day, your muscles will ✨not die✨

Organize the way you like - whether you prefer a clear space or a cozy little clutter of stuff, make sure you have the materials you need readily accessible and that you know where they are. (Also, knick knacks. Got a fidget you like? Keep it nearby!) Organization isn’t necessarily having everything shoved in a closet - it’s just knowing where things are. Feeling good in your own space is a good way to ✨not die✨

Clothes - do what makes you feel comfortable but also productive. If you feel good in sweatpants, then go for it, but if you need your fancy clothes to feel like a Busy Businessperson, then wear your fancy clothes. As long as you feel like you can work. (Unless you’re like me and you have to wear a uniform. Yay Catholic school. At least you only have to put on the top half?) Be comfy and you will ✨not die✨

Please add to this + share/reblog!!

Save our small child / adult / human / alien brains :( :(

[burningbee]

This past week has been a wild ride for me. I’ve gotten a lot of messages about medication and asking for help with diagnosis. 

I can’t help with your diagnosis, I’m not in the medical field at all. I will say that not every doctor understands ADHD, and that’s a huge problem. Unfortunately the way a medical degree is obtained doesn’t always create the best doctors, but rather the doctors that had the most endurance to get through school. If your therapist, psychologist, GP or any medical professional doesn’t take you seriously, that is on them. You shouldn’t have to work so hard to prove you need help. You deserve help because you are a human being.

 As for medication, what I take (Vyvanse) might not work for you. I feel like I got very lucky with my meds, they happened to be the first that I tried and they happened to work. Some people go years trying to sort out something that works. Or can’t take meds at all because of other health risks. Whether I can keep taking them for the rest of my life, I don’t know. I have a family history of heart disease. The pills didn’t change my life because I could get more done in a day. The pills changed my life because it was validation. It was confirmation that I wasn’t making this up. I don’t feel the need to be as “productive” as a neurotypical person. I think the idea of productivity is a harmful thing in general.

 Overall, I can’t tell you how touched I am that so many people have identified with my comic. The warmth and support from the comments has been overwhelming. Thank you so much!

[productive-tips]

Follow @productive-tips for more tips and content like this posted daily! Handpicked and curated with love :)

[hilarioushumorfromouterspace]

[windwardstar]

My best/favorite teacher would literally take off the points for a question that the majority of the class got wrong from the total on the test and then hold a lesson on the topic because she realized if 90% of her students didn’t know the answer then she hadn’t done a good job teaching it.

[randaness]

I hate it when teachers take pride in having a large percentage of students get bad grades in their classes. It just means that students aren’t learning from you

[yayfeminism]

Very informative thread -source

[geekremix]

Oh no I’ve been duped. Shit…

[jenroses]

Yep.

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

When your living space is a mess, don’t ever look around and think you should have managed better. Don’t look at the chaos as all the things you should have done. Look around and think, “Look how exhausted I’ve been. I have been saving my energy to save myself and that is right.” And then ask yourself what is one thing you could do that would make you feel more at home in your space–one thing you can manage right now. If that’s fluffing up your pillows, if that’s putting the cups back in the kitchen, if that’s writing a list of fruit you haven’t had in a while and going out to buy it, if it’s picking up your laundry from the floor and putting it on the chair, if it’s wiping the dust off your crystals–that’s enough. Do what would help you now. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to be a mess. It’s enough to do what would help and leave the rest.

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

When your living space is a mess, don’t ever look around and think you should have managed better. Don’t look at the chaos as all the things you should have done. Look around and think, “Look how exhausted I’ve been. I have been saving my energy to save myself and that is right.” And then ask yourself what is one thing you could do that would make you feel more at home in your space–one thing you can manage right now. If that’s fluffing up your pillows, if that’s putting the cups back in the kitchen, if that’s writing a list of fruit you haven’t had in a while and going out to buy it, if it’s picking up your laundry from the floor and putting it on the chair, if it’s wiping the dust off your crystals–that’s enough. Do what would help you now. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to be a mess. It’s enough to do what would help and leave the rest.

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

There’s this ableist idea that the default is for people to have zero disabilities and mental illnesses. That’s why there’s a concept of there being “too many diagnoses” - because people totally assume there’s like, a Perfectly Normal Human to begin with and that that idealized body has zero brain issues or disabilities.

And that’s so wrong. That’s just as wrong as assuming non-intersex, cishet middle-class white guys are the Perfectly Normal Human of which everyone else is an imperfect copy.

We’re not made from a mould. We have endless variations and they aren’t divergence from some Perfectly Normal Copy, they’re literally the way life functions. There is no perfect copy. There are only variations, some of which have the privilege of being normalized.

But privileged people see themselves as the default, and “too many differences” can seem “made up” to them, because they’re not used to relating to people who are different. Unfortunately we mentally ill/disabled people absorb this idea too and it’s really hard to unlearn it when we’re stuck in a society that’s constantly reinforcing it.

We have to be gentle with ourselves and with each other and work on normalizing variations like mental illnesses, disabilities, etc., so the focus can be on meeting the needs of people who have them instead of just surviving ableism.

[closet-keys]

This post is going to be triggering to suicidal folks, so I’m mainly directing it at people who are not and have never been suicidal. This is a post about how to not say the wrong thing when talking to suicidal people.

Afficher davantage

[ahrima-deactivated20240728]

executive dysfunction be like *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels ba

[o-v-e-r-w-h-e-l-m-e-d]

I recently learnt that executive dysfunction can be broken down into two main categories: anxiety that your attempt won't be satisfactory, or confusion about where to start or how to break it down into steps. As much as we feel bad about it, it's extremely important to remember that it is NOT laziness and we in fact shouldn't feel bad.

[ahrima-deactivated20240728]

hey reblog this instead

[chrysocomae]

Some individuals with AD/HD, especially without hyperactivity, have an activation problem as described by Thomas Brown, Ph.D. in his article AD/HD without Hyperactivity (1993). Rather than a deficit of attention, this means that individuals can’t deploy attention, direct it, or put it in the right place at the right time. He explains that adults who do not have hyperactivity often have severe difficulty activating enough to start a task and sustaining the energy to complete it. This is especially true for low-interest activities. Often it means that they can’t think of what to do so they might not be able to act at all, or, as Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo say in You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!, they might experience a “paralysis of will” (pg. 65). “The clothes from my trip—a month ago—are just still lying in a heap in the suitcase.” “I spend a lot of time in bed watching TV but my mind isn’t watching TV. I’m thinking about what I should be doing, but I don’t have the energy to do it.”

- Sari Solden, Women With Attention-Deficit Disorder

[intangible-rice]

When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal

[lingering-spirit]

this actually happened to me during my math final and i didn’t think anything of it and when i was later admitted to the hospital my math prof was asking me ‘you didn’t have to take the final! why didn’t you tell me it hurt?!?!’ and i told him i’ve had cramps worse.

he gave me 100

[kadenonio]

This is actually an extremely common occurrence simply because in sex ed they don’t teach you how to tell the difference between menstrual cramps and other more serious pains. The way to tell the difference between cramps and appendicitis is that while menstrual cramps are generalized toward the middle of the stomach below the belly button, pain from a swollen or burst appendix will start in the middle of the stomach and relocate to only the lower right side, even lower than menstrual cramps, and is a very localized pain. It also comes on extremely suddenly and will worsen over time or when you make a sudden movement, like a cough or a sneeze.

Basically, if you’re feeling any sort of pain, even if it’s menstrual cramps, don’t hesitate to tell the school nurse or a parent, or if you’re out of school and home even make a doctor’s appointment. Chances are if your cramps are that bad there’s something they can do to improve that as well.

[vandigo-deactivated20180131]

I am boosting the shit out of that reply, because I am twenty-fucking-five years old and did not know how to tell the two pains apart

[teacupdream]

Adding another diagnostic tool! This is something we use in the ER called the rebound test. Basically, appendicitis and cramps react differently to certain things. If you’re still not sure if you have cramps or appendicitis, take two fingers and press them into your abdomen where the pain is (try repeating this on the lower right quadrant of the abdomen just to be sure.)

When you press in firmly, it will probably hurt. Here’s the test: LET GO. Does it get better or get worse? Appendicitis will immediately hurt worse when you let go. Cramps will not. Go to the ER if the rebound test makes it worse!

[rainbowrowell]

THE REBOUND TEST IS REALLY IMPORTANT.

My husband got sent home from the ER with a rupturing appendix. When he came back and was rushed into surgery, the surgeon was super angry – “Why didn’t anyone do the rebound test?!”

[deinde-prandium]

All great info, but there is another lesson to be learned here: if you’re in major pain, it’s probably important - so don’t let anyone tell you it’s not. There is a documented pattern of women who go to the ER with complaints of pain being dismissed as overreacting…when in reality women have an incredibly high tolerance for pain, to the point that some don’t even realize exactly how serious their condition is. These stories only serve to illustrate this point.

[allthyvexations]

Reblog to literally save a life.

[tvylxrrr]

Every time I see this..

[loved-the-stars-too-fondly-deac]

Someone I knew who was a trained EMT says he heard during training “Men, whatever pain level a woman says she’s at, add two to imagine how bad it hurts you. If she says six it would feel like an eight to men.”

Cramps do a number on our concept of pain.

[official-infinitea]

Another thing to remember; cramps typically aren’t debilitating or cause immobility after the ages of 19 - 20. They still hurt, but not so bad that you can’t move. If you’re past the age of 19 and suddenly get excruciating pain that immobilizes you, immediately go to a clinic or hospital or something, anything, because that’s a sign of a serious problem that can sometimes be fatal.

[clefairymoon]

excuse me wait cramps are *actually* worse when you’re a teen? we’re out here making fun of teenage girls and other teens who go through menstrual cycles, and there’s evidence that they get BETTER over TIME???? (also you’re telling me that the fact mine did not get better after 20 is atypical??? and that suddenly not suffering as much post-30 is normal????) (WHY DON’T THEY TELL US THIS????)

[mabel-loves-aces]

Hey y’all, just a reminder: it’s sex favorable, sex neutral, and sex repulsed.

Sex positive and sex negative refer to something else entirely and it completely changes what you say.

[mabel-loves-aces]

Sex favorable: “I would like to have sex”

Sex neutral: ranges from “I am indifferent to potentially having sex” to “sex? Involving me? Oh no thank you.”

Sex repulsed: “the very concept of sex is a trigger for me. I cannot consume media or participate in conversations involving it.”

Sex positive: “people should be free to have sex whenever and with whomever they like free of shame.”

Sex negative: “having sex makes you a shameful and dirty person. No one should have sex outside of a traditional hetersexual marriage.”

[idiona]

Do you ever just smell an old perfume, or hear an old song, or pass an old hangout spot and kinda break inside for a couple minutes.