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[het-brunette]

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[sheabutterbitch]

To whomever needs to hear it; there’s nothing wrong with wanting to define a relationship. Emotional manipulators may convince you that you are too reliant on “labels” when this topic arises. “Labels” serve a purpose, they represent a set of clear boundaries, expectations, and appropriate behaviors.

My love requires transparency, consistency, and commitment; never let anyone convince you that this is too much to ask for. If that person cannot or will not meet your needs, you owe it to yourself, and them, to leave.

[hellallamerican]

once again my trick of threatening to report a company to the Federal Trade Commission for violating federal commerce law has worked and i have been removed from a marketing spam mailing list 👍

[het-brunette]

#fun fact if you unsubscribe and continue to receive mail after a weeks time or if the unsubscribe option doesnt work#the company is violating federal trade law and you can report them to the ftc#this is very useful leverage in forcing the company's hand to remove you from mailing lists

[andhumanslovedstories]

One of the stranger things about training brand new nurses is explaining how to min max small talk. It feels very weird to coach people on how to chat.

[andhumanslovedstories]

if I make and post an insanely detailed powerpoint on the twenty different equations I run mentally during casual conversation to make it flow better, everyone has to say that it's sexy and cool and not weird at all

[andhumanslovedstories]

remember, everyone promised to be cool! also disclaimer disclaimer disclaimer assume I said all the things you'd say to be like "i know human interaction is complicated, i know some of what i listed here would be very annoying to some people," and all that

[penandinkprincess]

parenting commitment level 3000

[penandinkprincess]

apparently a requirement for working at poison control is a talent for stand-up comedy

[starsarefairylightsfornerds]

[aqueerkettleofish]

When I was training to be a paramedic, we had one student ask the instructor what to do in the event of a marijuana overdose. The instructor said "Tell him to take two twinkies and call you in the morning."

[prismatic-bell]

Okay, there's a good reason for this though!

If the Please Do Not Eat That Professional thinks it's inconsequential enough to be funny, then the concerned caller knows it's no big deal. When I was a kid my mom called poison control because I ate not one but several crayons, and their advice was to make sure I didn't stray too far from a toilet for a few hours because suppositories are made of wax, too.

Also several years ago I ate half a sandwich while wondering why the hell it tasted so funny only to realize the Goo Gone I'd been cleaning with was leaking, and did so onto my sandwich. Poison Control now has an online form where you can put in what you ingested/how much/when/etc. and someone basically triages those out, so the kid who just drank a bunch of drain cleaner isn't in line behind the kid who ate a crayon. I got a call like twenty minutes later from a nurse who told me I was fine.

Oh! And if you want to know what the tool looks like, it now gives a "this is not a real case" option to let you test it out, so I became a hypothetical worried patient who accidentally took 1000mg of ibuprofen (max dose should be 800) instead of 1000mg of acetaminophen (which has a max dose of 1000) and ran the entire thing. It took me less than two minutes from this:

To this:

Below this screenshot I was advised to drink some water and that if symptoms developed in the next four hours, I should only be concerned in certain cases (e.g. nausea is normal, heart palpitations are a problem).

So what if it's a serious problem? Suddenly, hypothetical Nina was cleaning xir bathroom sink and got hit with some Drano splashback with xir eyes and mouth open! Here's what the tool suggested. As soon as I selected that I'd gotten Drano in my eyes, this popped up:

So I hypothetically went to rinse my eyes, came back, and indicated it'd also gotten into my mouth and onto my skin. Here was the result:

And finally, hypothetical!Nina made an extremely bad decision, then decided this wasn't how xe wanted things to end after all. So I selected the option that says I'd attempted self-harm, and this popped up. (I didn't get it in the screenshot, but there's a drawing of a sad snail at the top of the screen. I think it's supposed to remind you someone is there, this just isn't the best route to reach them.)

The tool covers literally thousands of substances, and it's fast to use. It'll ask your age, assigned sex at birth, what you were exposed to, how (ate/drank it, breathed it in, got it in your eyes, etc.), how much you were exposed to, how long ago, whether you notice any symptoms, and what zip code you're in. That's it, and it's right here if you need it, and as they told me when I said I felt dumb over my Goo Gone-ified sandwich, they'd rather I check and be fine than not check because I "felt silly" and end up dead.

[magicratfingers]

i want a perfectly clean house i hate cleaning i love stuff i dont wanna hire anyone woe is me

[magicratfingers]

i need a model. i need to redesign the house to just be easy to clean

[magicratfingers]

step one uh reduce things that need to be cleaned? im gonna switch up the floorplan to be easy to vacuum and get rid of as many surfaces as possible. and im getting bookshelves with glass doors. fuck dusting.

my thinking is like if i wanna :

tidy daily - i could use less stuff, keep storage near where i use it

clean weekly (wipe everything, vac, scrub bathroom) i could get rid of furniture and surfaces

deep clean monthly - have good tools & shit thats easy to throw in wash or whatever

the answer is always minimalism and workflow, isnt it. now how do u make a floorplan

[sonnetsandsinging]

I have gotten so much mileage out of "zero-state" definitions. (Zero-state: a space can be used for its purpose without having to first clean/move stuff.) Works well for living solo, works super well when negotiating with housemates.

For example, a zero-state kitchen (for us) looks like:

- all dishes loaded into dishwasher/washed/put away out of drying rack if dry (nothing stacked in the sink or on the counter)

- all food put away appropriately

- counters wiped down (no sticky spots or crumbs)

- all trash in trash (trash emptied if full, bag replaced)

- floor swept

- kettle refilled if empty

I also keep duplicate cleaning supplies all over the place because I'm way more likely to wipe down the hall bath consistently if I can just reach under that sink, instead of having to go down to the laundry room, select the correct cleaning supplies, bring them back to the hall bath, clean it, and then return the supplies to the laundry room.

[het-brunette]

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[het-brunette]

Babies are bleeding to death as parents reject a vitamin shot given at birth | CNN

Vitamin K shots, which help the blood to clot, are one of three key interventions for newborns, along with an antibiotic eye ointment and th

[gnar-slabdash]

Hey can you all do me a favor? If you’re getting tumblr ads on “reversing” dementia/alzheimers or anything like that, could you take a second to report them as malicious? Idk if it’ll actually stop them but it’s worth a shot. They link to fake news pages — I mean fake as in literally they say CBS News at the top with the logo and everything but the url is NOT cbs and the other cbs links on the page go nowhere — tauting completely fictional cures, and I just a) need to not see that personally, but more importantly b) need to not risk other people getting scammed with false information and false hope.

[gnar-slabdash]

Thank you everybody who’s boosted this. I just wanted to add a source about it and mention that any ads mentioning “brain plaque” or suggesting they can tell you if you have signs of dementia, those are all the same thing. I guess the end result that you get to after a long string of AI videos with fake celebrity endorsements, is to get you to buy a nutritional supplement. All that to sell a fucking bullshit supplement.

Bill Gates isn't backing 'Brain Honey,' other alleged Alzheimer's remedies. They're scams

Gates is a supporter of Alzheimer’s research, but scammers are using his name and likeness to promote fraudulent “cures” for the disease.

[beautifulscreaminglady]

yeah um if you're getting fitted for a bra and the person doing the fitting just grabs your boobs especially UNDER THE CLOTHES that is NOT normal procedure and in fact SEXUAL ASSAULT

[het-brunette]

#sizing is measured OVER your clothes and their fingers should never touch you just the measuring tape#your bra fitter should never actually see your bare breasts either#if they do any of these things report them to management because their ass needs to get fired

[robotslenderman]

I’m sorry my lovelies but the reason you hate yourself is because you treat you like shit. If you came up to me and then told me I was a fuck up who could never do anything right I'd fucking hate you too.

[robotslenderman]

if you didn't let me go to bed until after midnight because you'd rather watch Netflix than let me rest, and then got mad at me for not being productive the next day I'd be PISSED

[robotslenderman]

You keep calling me a fatass but you tell other overweight people they’re beautiful? Why do you keep shitting on MY weight, then?

Oh? It’s different if it’s me? Wow fuck you too

[robotslenderman]

Love is a verb! Self love isn’t a warm fuzzy feeling, it is compassion and action in support of yourself!

And yes, this includes having compassion for the bully in your head. Unfortunately that part is also you and deserves as much of your understanding as the rest of you.

[robotslenderman]

via @corazondebeskar

This is the real reason why you need to be kind to the bully in your brain too, because that motherfucker is really good at doing a switcheroo when you're not paying attention.

[maelwife]

Check out this website I found while I was researching where to buy a giant toothbrush

GreatBigStuff is a brand name and registered trademark associated with and describes a unique line of products that are oversized replicas o

[maelwife]

These are my favorite products

[beautifulscreaminglady]

I love Pinterest

[thatdisasterauthor]

Drone incursions are becoming more and more of an issue when it comes to wildfires, so last year I designed these graphics, but I never got around to sharing them anywhere.

If you send your drone up during a wildfire, even if you don't feel like you are that close, all planes and helicopters in the area may have to be grounded which can have a massive and detrimental effect on first responders' ability to manage that fire.

If you send your drone up and a plane or helicopter hits it, no matter how small your drone is, it could crash that aircraft injuring or killing those on board and potentially people on the ground as well. Even if the aircraft stays up, it will have damage that could ground it for an indeterminate and potentially extensive amount of time, meaning one less resource is available for that fire and other fires.

Just don't do it.

These graphics are free to use and distribute for any non-profit uses! You can check out my Payhip store to download (for free, or pay what you want) a package of files that include vertical versions of each design, print sizes, and social media sizes.

If you want to check out the other disaster and disaster education resources I have available, visit my website.

[thatdisasterauthor]

This is such a different style than I usually work in, but I had so much fun with it, and I love how it came out.

[the-irish-mayhem]

Thank you for this! I am a wildland firefighter and can confirm it's a fucking pain in the ass when an unknown drone is sighted on a fire. All aircraft working the fire have to be grounded, and they have to STAY grounded until law enforcement finds the drone operator. It can take firefighters away from our tasks as well as we try to track the drone's flight path.

I've seen this happen before, and like I said, it's a pain in the ass for EVERYONE. We communicate via radio on fires, and any time a channel has to be taken up by some bullshit like "there's a civilian drone flying" is time when other information can't be communicated over that channel. Larger incidents usually have open channels for just about everything, but still, it's radio traffic that doesn't need to be taking up airtime.

Most wildfires and prescribed burns have established Temporary Flight Restrictions (TFRs). If you plan on flying a personal drone somewhere, please check that there isn't a TFR in place. The FAA has this information freely available, and I believe there are several apps where the information is updated as well.

There's literally no excuse for not doing your due diligence as a drone pilot. There's also no excuse for being an asshole and trying to get pictures or video footage of wildfires when you don't have the clearance to be in the air.

[thatdisasterauthor]

Yep! I work in wildland fire dispatch and it is a fucking pain in the ass to deal with.

[traumasurvivors]

It’s normal for trauma survivors to get triggered during sexual activity, and it doesn’t mean you’ve “failed.” Having a plan can help you feel safer and more in control. Here are some ideas:

Have a clear “stop” plan

Pick a safe word like “red” or “pause.” Sometimes we can’t say ‘no’ whether it’s due to trauma or whatever else. It doesn’t feel safe. While we often see safe words talked about for more intense scenes, I think they can be beneficial for anyone.

Decide on a non-verbal signal (hand squeeze, tapping twice, dropping an object).

Also plan to have check ins, including signs your partner should check in (you’ve been a bit quieter, etc). There can be a way to do this in a “sexy” and fun way that doesn’t break the mood. For example, you can ask your partner to check in with you by saying a variety of things like “does this feel good?” or “talk dirty to me.” And a lack of response can be agreed that it’s time to stop, even if you don’t verbally or non verbally use a signal.

Grounding techniques

Try 5-4-3-2-1 grounding: 5 things you see, 4 feel, 3 hear, 2 smell, 1 taste.

Hold something cold or textured like a water bottle or pillow.

Keep a weighted blanket or comfort object nearby.

Partner support

Plan in advance what your partner can do as a default if you can’t communicate. Tell them the sort of things that reassure they can try like, “You’re safe. We can stop.”

Decide if you want comfort touch (cuddles, hand-holding) or space when triggered. Tell them in advance. It’s okay if your mind changes during. You can communicate that. But it’s good to have a default for if you can’t speak.

If it helps, your partner can guide you through breathing or grounding. Have them be familiar with the 5-4-3-2-1 method so they can walk you through it or be familiar with a breathing exercise that helps center you.

If you aren’t okay with physical touch when triggered, make sure your partner knows so they give you space. If you are okay with it, make sure they know what sort of contact. (I personally love him brushing my hair.) If it’s a sometimes thing, tell them to assume you don’t want contact and have them ask and agree on a verbal and non verbal way of saying ‘yes please give me the agreed physical contact’

Post-trigger care

Take a break or stop completely. Both are okay.

Switch to non-sexual comfort like cuddling, watching a show, or wrapping up in a blanket.

Have a self-care kit with snacks, a journal, or calming music.

Give yourself permission

It’s okay to stop.

It’s okay to try again later or not at all.

Your healing and boundaries are valid.

I wrote a post on having sex after trauma. There’s a shorter version here. But if you’re up to it, I really recommend the longer version.

[lifeofpjern]

DIY - Heart Envelope

Cut out a heart and turn it upside down. Fold the bottom mid halfway. Fold the sides to the midsection or farther. Fold the top to make the envelope.

[theprofessional-amateur]

I just got a very legit sounding call from a bank saying "hey, a transaction on your account was flagged for possible fraud, please contact us"

It is in fact a scam.

Why it sounds/looks legit:

The number showed as a Bank of America number.

The voicemail (I didn't answer) says they don't give account or transaction information over the phone without account holder verification procedures. This is true for banks and financial institutions.

Banks will flag transaction that look like fraud/are suspicious and contact the account holder to verify and approve/deny the transaction.

They ask me to call them about the transaction. They leave a 1-800 customer service number that looks legit. I looked up the customer service numbers for Bank of America, this is not a listed number.

As someone that worked in banks, if you ever, EVER, receive a call, text, or email like this here is what you should do:

Do not give them any information. If it is actually your bank, they have it all.

Do not confirm any information. Absolutely nothing.

On the phone, tell them you are hanging up and will call them back. Your bank will have 0 problem with this. The rep from the bank will likely put a temporary note in your account records saying what is happening so the next rep to answer the phone knows what is going on and/or which department you need to talk to.

Stay calm. Scammers will often make you feel this is urgent! Don't hang up, we need to do this really fast! This is a security thing! We can't wait! This fake Bank of America number has already called me again saying this is urgent. This is FALSE. Yes, your bank would like to resolve this as quickly and painlessly as possible but they can also put holds and freezes on the account so nothing else can happen until the activity is confirmed by you. Your bank can deny the transaction. They have options that are not "give us all your info right now!"

Call them back at a trusted number! Do not call the number that they just called you from or whatever number they tell you to call. Your bank and credit cards almost always has the customer service number(s) printed on the back. Or go to your internet banking, the number will also be available there. I looked up the Bank of America numbers, the one they gave me on the call is not a listed verifiable BoA number.

Do not text or email them back. I don't have those communications approved on my accounts so I know it is fake if I get one, but if you do use those, sign in to your bank account and start a new chat/text through a known official platform.

When you call or otherwise contact your bank/credit card they will need to verify it is actually you. This is why it is so important to call, text, or otherwise contact them through a known and verified source. Websites can be faked, phone numbers can be faked. That is why I recommend calling the number printed on your card or logging into your account/card app. Especially if you already feel anxious. You can also go into your bank if you prefer.

This call looked and sounded very very real and could easily trick someone. In this case it was easy to spot because I don't have a Bank of America account.