Red flags in relationships I feel donât get enough light
1) When they follow a lot of porn stars personal instas & other social media sites and they say that they âmean absolutely nothing to them. Theyâre just hotâ but then when you say it kinda bothers you and they immediately get overly defensive of them & donât even try to listen to you.
2) When they at any point blatantly say âthis specific person/ex is more attractive than youâ when they know youâre insecure about your looks
3) They belittle your medical ailments. Like if youâre back hurts or youâve got the flu and they say âGet over it.â or âItâs not that bad.â
4) When you say âIâm upset because of a, b, and/or câ and they feel the need to say âOh yeah well my day was tougher than yours because I did (necessary thing for survival)â
5) When you say âIâm upset because of a, b, and/or câ and they just shrug it off or say âsorryâ then immediately go back to what they were doing (unless the thing theyâre doing is important/vital)
6) Constantly belittle/berate your interests. Like if youâre favorite song comes on the radio and you get noticeably excited, and they still say things like âThis song is shitâ or âUghhhh. I HATE this songâ or they pressure you to change it solely because they donât like it. (This doesnât include when someone says they just donât like the thing politely/calmly or they ask nicely once if the thing can be changed)
7) They constantly control what youâre doing. I mean like they 100% dictate what you two are doing, constantly. Itâs an even bigger red flag if itâs only things they would like to do, like they didnât even consider how youâd feel in the activity.
8) Say shit like âThen donât promise things youâre not gonna doâ, when you know you didnât promise or anything. Theyâre trying to guilt you to do whatever it is you arenât comfortable doing.
9) They say âyou abandoned me when I needed you mostâ, when in reality you went in the other room while they slept because you had to go do something. Or something else small.
10) They constantly talk about a specific ex to you then get mad when you ask them to try and stop because it makes you uncomfortable/uneasy. And they lie about being blocked by them or about having past communication with them.
