Aydan

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[non-binary-culture-is]

Afab genderfluid culture is owning everything from Binder to push-up bra cause breast dysphoria is confusing

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Feminine Nonbinary Identities! A Guide

I’ll be listing some labels for some nonbinary and feminine nonbinary gender identities, and hopefully I can help some of y’all with questioning! This list is very long so putting it under a cut btw

Keep reading

[yourlocalchimera]

Being genderfluid is such a wild ride sometimes, like on Tuesday I'll be like "Hey being a lady isn't so bad, I can live like this" and then on Wednesday I'll be screaming about wanting to be on testosterone

[hotterthanhotbread]

Scary Reality

I'm not going to be accepted by a large portion of the Trans community. Let me explain. I was doing my usual scroll on Tik Tok, trying to disconnect from my crappy overwhelming reality, when I came across a detransitioner video. I was intrigued because I had know a friend to detransition 5/6 years after coming out to us at the age of 12/13. I went in to their comment section and I realized just how unwelcomed I truly am. I am genderfluid, meaning that sometimes I do identify with the gender I was assigned at birth. That means some days I'm cis, however that isn't constant nor is it truly often. Many days I feel like I lack a gender or I'm a mix of male and female, with a sprinkle in of opposite gender at birth. My gender changes and I never truly know when I'll be cis, but it is possible. Well the detransitioner was referring to how they speak on trans topics (their experiences) because they lived as a trans person for about 10 years and had Gender Dysmorphia (GD). WE all know that to be trans you don't have to have GD, but so many people just kept saying they were a confused Cis, and had always been Cis. So many said that Gender isn't fluid and that they were attention seeking. That people or either cis or trans. I just feel like, I'm not allowed to talk about trans issues, but at the same time be discriminated like a trans person and a cis person. I get hatred from both sides and it's just hard because one side will say that I can't change my gender and the other side will say that I was just confused. I'm not confused. I know that I am Gender Fluid....but with the way there are so many people saying that it's not real...I feel like maybe it would be best to hide away from everyone, that way no one could hate me, although the pain would remain indefinitely.

[bones-to-rust]

My Motivation

Being 5'10, 187.5, and genderfluid makes it hard to find relatable thinspo so here are my reasons I need to lose this weight:

🔸️to lessen my dysphoria

🔸️to feel weightless

🔸️to finally be somewhat okay with myself

🔸️to look more androgynous

🔸️to be able to confidently order clothes online

🔸️to drop down from a size 12 to at least a size 8

🔸️to experience larges finally feeling big on my body

🔸️to look amazing in skinny jeans and a hoody

🔸️to get away with dark circles because my face is angular

🔸️to be able to wear more chokers

🔸️to be able to confidently be in any kind of swimsuit whether its a bikini or a binder and trunks

🔸️to pull off any kind of outfit

🔸️to finally look as tall as i am

🔸️to feel what its like to be suddenly picked up

🔸️to be picked up

🔸️to not have to worry about crushing people

🔸️to get away with being clumsy

🔸️to look artsy rather than trashy when i get tattoos

🔸️to be able to get away with being covered in paint

🔸️to look soft and delicate for once in my fucking life

🔸️to no longer look like a “linebacker with boobs”

🔸️to finally have some kind of control over my life

🔸️to be more approachable

🔸️to have more money to go towards my hobbies

🔸️to maybe get enough attention to get help…

[sadpanda1551]

Oh lord… here we go

So I got inspired by someone to do this

If you are looking for a stressy, messy, depressy nonbinary significant other who is fat and will love you and spoil you the best they can… but radiates major bottom energy Hit UP MY INBOX LOVELIES!!! <3

(everyone is eligible, Im pan) 

[hotterthanhotbread]

TW Relpase

I tried so hard to heal my relationship with food, and myself, and although everything in my life is going decent, I just can't be happy. Well, happy about myself. I'm happy when I see my son smile and laugh, I'm happy when I see my girlfriend become her true authentic self. But when I look in the mirror I hate myself more and more. I don't know what I look like and it's getting harder faking the niceness in my voice. SO much gender and body dysmorphia and...I'm tired. I'm just so tired and every day I have thoughts of various forms of self-harm and I'm getting closer to just losing it. It's hard, but I know that I have to keep going. Other people depend on me. Until then...I'll have to find someone to depend on.

[studentlifeproblems]

[hotterthanhotbread]

Help please

I don't typically ask for help, but I'm at a point right now where I could really use every and anybody's help. My significant other and I, along with our son, are in an extremely toxic house. The owners of the house have made it clear we are not welcomed as we are. For clarification, the owners are my significant others parents. My significant other is a transgender MtF and I am Genderfluid. The family is extremely transphobic, and has gone as far as telling my significant other is an abomination to their family and needs to hide who they are. They receive text from their family members saying they are ugly, disgusting, and need to seek professional psychiatric help. However, simultaneously they have allowed their, now 14 year old queer baiting teen, originally 12-13 when things had gone south, to not only buy the Lovense sex toys, but to use them with her boyfriend in another state and anyone else in the world. Also, they have blamed me for my significant other wanting to move out of the house, and blamed my significant other for the reason their little sister is "depressed" and "self harming" because they weren't the father figure she needed in her life. We have been told to leave/kicked out several times, but then manipulated back. We were told we were ungrateful and useless to the household when we discussed our lack of comfort for their minor doing child pornography in the room besides us. It has come to the point where they have said we are keeping their grandchild away from them for selfish reasons.

I recently started a new job. I'm an independent sales rep for the American kitchen cutlery brand, Cutco. I get paid to just show the products so you don't have to buy anything. Again, I GET PAID TO SHOW, NO PURCHASE OBLIGATED. I'm not asking for money, I'm asking if you are comfortable enough to message me and privately send me your information so I can book appointments and start earning money to get my family to safety. The only requirement is that you reside in the US.

I know this is very awkward, but this would help me out so much. I just want to be able to work and get out of this toxic situation, and I hope you can help. Even if you simply share this. Thank you so much of you made it this far, it really means a lot to me and my family.

[anxietyproblem]

[sassiart8]

~Stonecold

Thanks to @my-hero-incorrect-quotes in tumbrl that inspired me for this comic (ofc this is my pov!)☺️⭐️

[anxietyproblem]

[replicated-archive]

tumblr is social media for people who don't exist

[coffee1-1cat]

🌟Low Calorie Meals🌟

(an enormous masterpost of ed food)

Breakfast:

Oatmeal n Berries - 200 calories

-Measure 1/3 cup dry oats (100), cook on medium heat in 1 cup water until it begins to boil. Turn off heat.

-Measure 1 cup frozen blueberries (80), dump into hot oatmeal ~unless you like room temperature better, but I prefer frozen because they create a better flavor release in the hot oatmeal~

-Cut up four strawberries (20), toss into oatmeal or arrange it pretty on the top :)

Fruit Parfait - 230 (using Dannon and oatmeal) 265 (using plain greek and granola)

-Measure 3/4 fat-free, plain greek yogurt (90, depends on brand) OR use Dannon Light n Fit greek yogurt, any flavor (80)

-Pour in about 3 tbsp almond milk (5), mix together until smooth ~adds volume for less calories~

-Measure 1/4 cup granola (100) OR 1/4 cup oatmeal (75), dump it in there

-Measure 3/4 cup frozen bloobs (60), dump em in there

-10 raspberries (10)

Higher calorie but SO filling and satisfying!

Fruit Salad Bowl - 185 calories

-1 banana (100), cut up in a bowl

-1/2 apple (40), cut up in a bowl

-4 strawberries (20), cut up in a bowl

-15 raspberries (15) in the bowl

-1/3 cup almond milk (10)

Filling and SO delicious

French Toast 1 - 185 calories (Walden Farms syrup) 200 calories (Log Cabin syrup)

-3 slices Healthy Life light bread (105), toast for about a minute to start

-2 egg whites (35), in a bowl

-3 tbsp almond milk (5), splash in the egg white bowl

-Add cinnamon, sweetener, and salt and black pepper (SO good, trust me), whip together

-Dip the bread in the egg white mixture on either side and place on a skillet/pancake skillet for about 4-5 minutes on each side. Toast again if you like it more crunchy!

-Add Walden Farms 0 Cal pancake syrup OR sugar-free Log Cabin syrup, 1/4 cup (15)

-8 strawberries (40) OR 1/2 cup blueberries (40) OR half an apple (40)

French Toast 2 - 195 calories (Walden Farms syrup) 210 (Log Cabin syrup)

-Make the french toast as directed above (145)

-2 Tbsp peanut butter powder (50) mixed with zero cal syrup or sweetener and water

-Spread on french toast evenly, top with zero cal syrup OR sugar free (15)

You can add any topping you like for more calories, it’s up to you!

PB Toast - 170 calories

-2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70)

-2 tbsp peanut butter powder (50) mixed up with a sweetener packet + some water OR zero cal syrup

-1/2 banana, sliced (50) and placed on toast

Add any zero calorie syrup you like! Walden Farms has caramel syrup, chocolate, pancake, strawberry, blueberry, etc

Egg Open Toast - 186 calories

-2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70), toasted

-2 egg whites (35), cooked and scrambled, add salt + pepper to taste

-1/4 medium avocado (75), spread over toasted bread

-Divide egg scramble onto the two bread slices

-2 cherry tomatoes, sliced into small pieces (6), sprinkled on both toast slices

-Add Frank’s Red Hot Sauce (0) + any seasoning you like!

Egg white Sandwich - 184 calories

-2 Slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70), toasted

-1 slice kroger fat free american cheese (30), place on hot toasted bread

-2 egg whites, cooked thoroughly (35), salt + pepper + seasonings, place on top of cheese

-Two tomato slices (~9), place on top of eggs

-2 slices thin-cut turkey breast (40), place on top of tomato slices, sandwich with last bread slice

(optional) Mustard/Frank’s Red Hot Sauce to taste

Banana Nice Cream - 200-210 calories

-1 1/2 frozen bananas (150) throw in a blender

-Few drops of maple extract + vanilla extract

-1/3 cup almond milk (10)

Blend until creamy

-1/2 cup blueberries on top (40) OR 8 strawberries (40) OR 1/2 apple (40) OR my personal favorite, 2 tbsp PB powder drizzled on top (50)

Lunch:

(Lunch is typically something very small for me. It’s never been really a “full” meal. In our family, dinner is always bigger than lunch)

Garden Salad - 135 calories

-3 cups Spring Mix Greens (20) in a bowl

-3 white mushrooms (10), sliced, cooked or uncooked based on your preference!

-Five cherry tomatoes (15), sliced

-1/4 white onion, medium (10), diced

-Any Walden Farm 0 Cal salad dressing (thousand island, italian, ranch, bacon ranch, honey dijon, etc) OR your own favorite fat-free dressing (add calories)

Mix in a large bowl, and voila!

-medium apple on the side (80)

Tuna Salad Toast - 130 calories

-1/2 can Chunk Light Tuna in Water (35)

-1 1/2 celery stalks, chopped (15)

-1/4 medium white onion (10), diced

-Mix those ingredients together in a bowl, add any seasoning + zero cal dressing you like

-Toast 2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70)

Spread tuna salad on toast. Frank’s Red Hot Sauce is good to dip, or just eat it plain!

Grilled Cheese - 100 calories

-2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70)

-1 slice Kroger fat free american cheese (30)

-Spray a pan with 0 cal oil spray and sandwich the bread and cheese, placing it on the pan over medium heat for about two minutes. Flip, and repeat.

Enjoy!!

Caesar Salad - 100 calories

-3 cups shredded romaine lettuce (25) in a large bowl

-1 serving canned Great Value Chunk Chicken (60), drained. Heat up on a pan over medium heat, then throw in bowl of lettuce

-5 Cherry tomatoes (15) sliced, throw in the bowl

-Toss with any 0 calorie Walden Farm’s dressing. (use your own dressing, for you own added calories!)

Cheese, Meat, Veggie Quesadilla - 140 calories

-1 OLE XTreme Wellness wrap (50), cut in half

-1/4 medium white onion, diced (10)

-3 white mushrooms (10) sliced

-1 slice Kroger fat free american cheese (30)

-2 slices turkey breast (40)

-Made just like the grilled cheese, sandwich all the ingredients and cook for 2-3 minutes on each side!

Veggie Omelette + Fruit - 207

-3 egg whites (50) in a nonstick pan over medium heat

-1/4 medium bell pepper (17) thrown in pan

-1/4 medium white onion (10) thrown in pan

-1 slice Kroger fat free american cheese (30)

-1 slice deli turkey breast (20)

Cook until egg is thoroughly white, then turn off heat and break up the cheese slice to distribute it evenly across the egg. Put a lid over the pan and let the cheese melt.

-1 Cutie Mandarin orange (40)

-1/2 cup frozen blueberries (40)

Place the fruit on a plate and put the egg with the melty cheese on it, breaking up the piece of meat and distributing it evenly over the egg. Season and enjoy!!

Dinner:

Chicken n Cheese Set - 265 calories

-1 can Light Chicken and Cheese Enchilada Progresso soup, heated (180)

-1 slice Healthy Life low calorie bread (35)

-1 slice a Kroger fat free american cheese (30)

-1 slice deli chicken breast (20)

-Cook the grilled chicken n cheese to your liking, heat soup to your liking. Eat together!

Veggie Rotini + Stirfry -220 calories

-1 can Light Veggie Rotini Progresso Soup (130), heated

-1/2 medium white onion (20) chopped, thrown into pan over medium heat

-1/2 bell pepper (35) sliced, thrown into pan

-6 white mushrooms (20) sliced, thrown into pan

- 1 1/2 celery stalks (15) chopped, thrown into pan

Cook stirfry until onion is translucent or bell pepper is tender. Season how you like, and eat with the soup!

Any Progresso Light Soup! (Calories vary, 130-240 per CAN)

Chicken Melts - 200 calories

-2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70)

-1 serving Great Value Chunk Chicken breast (60) strained and throw in a bowl

-1 1/2 stalks celery (15) chopped, thrown in the bowl

-1/4 medium white onion (10) chopped, thrown in the bowl

Mix up the contents of the bowl, and place the bread on an oven pan. Preheat the oven to 375 F, and spread the chicken, celery, and onion mixture over both slices of bread.

-1/4 cup Kraft Natural Shredded fat free mozzarella (45)

Sprinkle the cheese evenly over the bread slices. Place in the oven for 15 minutes, or to your liking. Take it out, and enjoy!

Loaded Chicken Salad Sandwich - 250 calories

-2 slices Healthy Life low calorie bread (70), toasted

-1 serving Great Value Chunk Chicken breast (60) strained and thrown in a bowl

-1 1/2 stalks celery (15) chopped and thrown in bowl

-7 walnut halves (90) chopped and thrown in bowl

-2 tbsp fat free plain greek yogurt (15) thrown in bowl

-2 tbsp creamy bacon ranch Walden Farm’s 0 cal dressing, thrown in bowl

Mix the contents of the bowl together. Once the bread comes out of the toast, plop the chicken salad on the bread and voila! Enjoy!

Veggie Bake - 240 calories

~line a bordered oven safe pan with parchment paper and preheat the oven to 375 F~

-1 medium white onion (40) chopped, thrown in pan

-1 medium bell pepper (70) chopped, thrown in pan

-9 white mushrooms (30) chopped, thrown in pan

-1/2 skinned small sweet potato (45) chopped, thrown in pan

-1 cup chopped broccoli (30) thrown in pan

-1 medium carrot (25) chopped, thrown in pan

Bake all chopped veggies in the oven for 20 minutes, then move them around in the pan and switch for another 15 minutes, or until the sweet potato is pierce-able. This makes a HUGE serving, and it is SO delicious with the right seasonings.

~you don’t even have to eat all of it! You can eat half and save the other half for tomorrow~

Cauliflower Rice - 155 Calories

-2 cups riced cauliflower (50), throw in a pan over medium heat

-1/2 bell pepper (35) chopped, thrown in pan

-1/4 medium white onion (10)

-1 Light Life Veggie Dog vegan hot dog (60) cut up, thrown in pan

Cook until bell pepper is tender. Season as you like!

Cauliflower “fried” Rice - 155 calories

-2 cups riced cauliflower (50) in a pan over medium heat

-1 egg (70) cracked in the pan with the cauliflower rice

-1/2 medium bell pepper (35) chopped thrown in the pan

Stir around in pan until egg is thoroughly cooked. Season how you like and enjoy!

Desserts:

Coke/Root beer Float - 130 calories

-2 servings Breyer’s Delights Vanilla Bean ice cream (130) scoop into a bowl

-1 can (or less depending on how much you like) Coke Zero OR Diet Root Beer poured over ice cream

Banana Split - 185 calories

-1/2 banana cut down the middle (50)

-1 serving Breyer’s Delights Creamy Chocolate ice cream (70)

-1 serving Breyer’s Delights Vanilla Bean ice cream (65)

Scoop both servings between the sliced banana in a bowl/plate. Drizzle with Walden Farm’s chocolate syrup and caramel syrup. Enjoy!

~you can use sugar free Hershey’s syrups for added calories!~

Any Halo Top or Breyer’s Delights or Protein ice cream you can find at the store is a GODSEND for us!

Pecan Pie - 255 calories per slice

Preheat your oven to 350 F

-Pillsbury frozen pie crust (100 cals per 1/8) Line a pie tin with this

For the filling:

-1/2 cup granulated sugar (386)

-1/2 any zero calorie sugar

-1/2 tsp salt

-1 cup Walden Farms 0 cal pancake syrup OR Log Cabin sugar free syrup (60)

-1/3 cup I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter (lite) melted (185)

-1 tsp vanilla extract

-4 egg whites (~70)

-40 pecan halves (392) chopped

Mix all of the ingredients together in a bowl and pour in the pie crust. Use an additional 20 Pecan Halves (196) to decorate the top!

Cook for 30 minutes covered with tinfoil, and then an addition 20 minutes uncovered. When it’s done, let it cool COMPLETELY. I CANNOT STRESS THAT ENOUGH. Then, slice into 8 pieces. Enjoy!

~it is a high calorie dessert either way, but my mom and i LOVE pecan pie, so I always make this for myself and her every once and a while ;)~

Chocolate Muffins - 90 calories per muffin

Preheat oven to 425 F

Ingredients:

-3/4 cup apple sauce (75)

-1/2 cup granulated sugar (386)

-1/4 cup Walden Farms 0 cal chocolate syrup

-2 egg whites (35)

-3/4 cup fat free plain greek yogurt (90)

-2 tsp vanilla extract

-1 Cup white flour (400)

-1/2 cup unsweetened Hershey’s Dark cocoa powder (80)

-1/2 tsp salt

-1 tsp baking soda

-1 tsp baking powder

Whip the wet ingredients together until well mixed. In a separate bowl, mix the flour and cocoa powder, salt, baking soda + baking powder together. Combine and stir until well mixed.

Pour into twelve baking cups (sprayed with nonstick oil, NOT liners) and bake for 5 minutes at 425, then while still in the oven, reduce the temperature to 375 and bake for an additional 13 minutes. DO NOT OPEN THE OVEN DOOR WHILE THEY BAKE. Take them out after the last 13 minutes, and insert a toothpick inside. If it comes out clean, it’s done! If not, bake for another 2-3 minutes. Wait until cooled, and enjoy with some Walden Farm’s chocolate sauce or some bananas or some ice cream!

Snacky Foods:

Sugar Free Jell-O (5-10 calories depending on brand)

Apples n PB - 130 calories

-1 apple, cut up (80)

-2 tbsp PB powder, with water + sweetener (50)

Strawberries n Chocolate Sauce - 50 calories

-10 strawberries, sliced (50)

-0 cal Walden Farms Chocolate Sauce

Cheesy Rice Cakes - 65 calories

-1 simply salted rice cake (35)

-1 slice Kroger fat free american cheese (30)

Heat up a skillet over the stove for about five minutes with medium heat on. Then, turn off the heat and place the rice cake with the cheese on top inside and put the lid over it. Leave it there until the cheese gets melty. SO GOOD.

Any fruit. Seriously, fruit is the best snack.

I hope you guys enjoyed this masterpost! If I find anything new, I’ll add to it later. Feel free to add your own faves!

[tearoseangel]

My brain when anyone looks at me:

[whitepeopletwitter]

[turing-tested]

hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak

[covid-69]

socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it

climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house

crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell 

the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall

do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer

[thegoodlion]

Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me. If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door. When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN. Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.

If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.

KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW. Hope this helped.

[silenthill]

I might have some useful info to add.

-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.

-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.

-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.

-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.

-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.

-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.

-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.

-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.

-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.

-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!

-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.

-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.

-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.

-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.

-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.

-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.

-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.

-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.

-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.

-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.

-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.

-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.

-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.

-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.

-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.

-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.

-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.

-remember that you’re not totally alone. There’s people out there for you. Wanting to make everything better. You don’t deserve what’s happening, it isn’t normal, and you will eventually find help. But staying safe is important, and you are important.

[live-like-ghibli]

It upsets me that people might need to know these but I know it could really help someone by reblogging

[minty-marshmallow7]

ALWAYS REBLOG

[thnksfrthmania]

Things that have helped me over the years:

•Keeping a $10 bill on the inside of my phone case for emergencies. My mother will search my wallet and bags but has not taken my phone case off when she takes my phone as of yet.

•stashing loose change I find in the soil of my potted plant. Very quiet hiding place for coins. All bills are quickly confiscated but coins I have managed to hold onto this way

•changing food stash locations constantly. A good stash I’ve found is buried in my mice seed mix. Small packages or granola bars can fit in there pretty easily and the wrappers are flushable (I know it’s bad to flush them but my trash is routinely searched)

• always deleting online traces in case of phone/computer search. This includes search history, forbidden apps, messages, pictures, notes, games, etc. I don’t know how many times I have deleted the tumblr app during the day only to re download it late at night to use it. My phone and computer are constantly confiscated and gone through with a fine tooth comb. I delete anything I might possibly get in trouble for after I use it and re download it when I need it again. Don’t delete all your browsing history though, they will notice if it’s suspiciously empty. Fill it with safe and approved stuff and remove anything you might get punished for.

•learning what each and every door in the house sounds like so I know who is where at all times without having to leave the room

•learning where those ‘sweet spots’ are in the house where you can notice anyone coming before they can see you or what you are doing

•always having a pre-approved cover. I use books and preaching videos as covers. I can hide a phone in a book or quickly switch apps to the one playing the video if surprised or discovered.

• always being aware of ‘the trail’. If I tell a friend something who tells their sibling who tells my sibling who tells my mom I get punished so basically tell no one and it won’t come back to bite you. This includes talking about tv shows/movies that are forbidden, forbidden foods/drinks, activities, apps, games, friends, political views, etc. Express an opinion and it’s bound to reach someone you don’t want it to.

•never take from your abuser’s personal stash of food or money. The family pantry is fair game to carefully pilfer from and so is loose change but never take from their personal purse/wallet, fridge, pantry, or stash. They WILL find out.

•beware of traps and manipulation . My mother will leave money and food unattended and wait for it to disappear. She will also act like she wants to do a good thing and help you out but in the end you will pay for it a hundred times over. Avoid this if at all possible.

• NEVER develop a false sense of security. I have made the mistake of not deleting an app (Pinterest) because there had been a few weeks between phone searches and I felt a little safer. I got caught and severely punished. ALWAYS COVER YOUR TRACKS. Don’t get too confident in your methods, eventually they will find something. Make sure it’s something minor.

[nonbinary-hawke-deactivated2021]

I just want to point out that when deleting apps, make sure to check that the app store you use doesn’t record what was recently installed. I know that the Google Play Store does this and allows you to delete things from your history, but I don’t know anything about Apple.

[holyshotpost]

Apple does, in the purchased section of an account, so don’t have a false sense of security for apple apps and always try to use websites with no cookies.

Apps for screeensharing to TVs (such as Samsungcast) also have search tools so if you clear your history you can also use that and make sure to clear it. Just don’t play a video or it might end up showing on the TV screen.

[postmortem-depression]

I feel so sad that so many of you guys go through this all the time. Rebooting to spread the word.

Stay safe my lovelies

[alpine-insurrection]

So, so unfortunately important. Reblogging because I would’ve loved to have had seen this growing up - I figured most of it out on my own, of course, but through an amount of trial, error, and traumatic consequences no child should ever have to go through.

[rozanov1221]

-if your bedroom door was anything like mine, there is a large enough gap from the floor to the bottom of the door that anytime I got out of bed or walked around the room, the door would jangle. Try putting a small but heavy object flush against the door.

-bring a large cup to pee in when it is not safe for you to leave your room or space. be sure to sneak it down a drain as soon as possible.

-other foods to stash away include trail mix, breakfast bars, fruits and veggies. a couple slices of bread and cheese aren’t as easily missed either.

-i have had luck taping paper money to the underside of our rug.

-be aware that you will likely carry the weight of this time with you for a long while. most of my nightmares still take place in my childhood home, where i haven’t lived in over five years.

-but above all else, this time won’t last forever. you will make it out. i’ve got faith in you.

[five-chaotic-beans]

Hey @mrsmamarhodey idk if you’ve seen this but it’s good advice? I hate that anyone would have to go through this but I feel it may help Honey? ~ Foxy

Bee I will protect you with everything. ~ A

[mrsmamarhodey]

For all of my kids in unsafe home situations. I love you, be safe.

[rwagzwriting]

Also, for those of you in situations where you are not believed: as tempting as it is do NOT try and prove it with your phone. Especially if they search it. Please, please don’t do that. Find another way if you absolutely must prove the mistreatment.

-Avoid plastic and paper. They russle a lot, especially when you’re trying to be quiet. As stated above pillowcases are a godsend.

-If you can access the kitchen during the day (and not get caught doing this) move things you might need, granola on the shelf you can only just barely reach? Pull one bar out and slip it to the lowest shelf in the whole kitchen. Put it somewhere no one will check.

-The bottom of a trash can is NOT a good hiding spot. Tempting I know. I’ve hidden a secret stash under a trash bag. Played it off a few times as being a good kid and taking out the trash. But you would have to be the one to always take it out if you did this. Always. You can’t rely on ‘probablies’.

-Self aid. Go to your school nurse and ask for Band-Aids. School computer lab have alcohol pads so you can clean off the mouse? Take some. They will hurt and burn but a clean wound is so much better than an infected one.

-For those of you with allergies to the Staples (peanut butter, bread, cheese, the like) Beans are your new best friend. They suck but hey, they work.

-AVOID SWEETS. This sucks I know. But sweets leave more behind than a chocolate colored tongue, including a sweetened breath (I got busted so badly once even after scrubbing my tongue.)

And finally,

-Find people you can talk to. My messages are always open, @mrsmamarhodey is here for people as well, and many other blogs will listen. Even if there is nothing else we can do. We will listen. We will believe you. We will be there for you in what ways we can. Please, be safe. Stay alive.

[song-of-fairies]

I can’t believe that there are actually kids who are forced to live like this. It makes me so upset. I am now very concerned about the people on this site. Please, all of you, stay safe.

[momokiiicos]

there are things in the list that i personally also have to do, some i don’t have to, and tips i could definitely take for the unknown future. anyways, reblogging this in hopes that it could offer a chance for some of you to stay at least a bit safer. remember, we’re all fighting this together

[obligatory-name-change]

oh, god.

[phantomhive-blue-deactivated201]

I know it’s the log-off protest but just before I left the app I saw this.

[chemicaaaaaal]

This was a pretty helpful post, but i do hope none of my followers need this.. 

[pyriteplates]

can i adopt you guys???? nobody should have to go through this, and it breaks my heart :/

just know that it WILL get better. maybe not now, maybe not for years to come but this will not last forever. ily ♥

[louanaisana]

I always kept a plastic container with a lid to catch blood or any other fluid when it wasn’t safe to go to the bathroom to properly wash up. I hid it in an old backpack in the closet and cleaned it whenever the coast was clear

Most obvious hiding places are in the closet, under the bed, in the bottom of drawers and under rugs.

You can tape small items such as a metro card, prepaid phone, plastic bag of money, birth control or other medications, etc under a desk or even better: open the top drawer of your dresser and tape the item to the bottom of the dresser top. Make sure you can open and close it securely without jarring the item free.

You can also hide bills in an old DVD case if you are 100% SURE no one will open it.

If you can get your hands on some good concealer, use it to hide scars and bruises. Abusers will try to isolate you even more if you are a walking display of evidence. Don’t give them any excuse to not let you go to school.

On this same note, avoid making drastic changes to your appearance (dramatic change to hair cut/dye, tattoos or piercings or wearing any makeup/accessory/clothing that might be deemed “different” for you) Your abuser may perceive this as you acting out or seeking attention, and they do not want you to receive any kind of attention as it may give you an outlet to expose what is happening at home.

Don’t write things in codes that are obviously codes. Your abuser will not like this if they find it and you will be punished or forced to reveal the code but most likely both. If you can, make a code that would look like something else if found by someone. For example: If hiding say, your email password so you won’t forget, make a list of things beginning with each letter of the password. Draw pictures of your passwords. (Ex. Draw 4 red dogs, your password is RedDog4.)

Evernote is a great way to hide a digital diary/notebook/photos/contacts that you can delete from your device quickly before a phone search. If you fear you wont have time to delete before a search there is an option to hide your private notebooks so that you can only find them by searching their name and load up some class notes so if your abuser asks about the app you can say it’s for school.

This is a bit expensive but if you can manage it use an external hardrive for anything on your computer your abuser wouldn’t approve of, from photos and videos to games to creative and programming software, etc.

I had a friend whose dad didn’t let her talk to boys at all period so if she ever had a group project and the boys would try to text her she assigned them all feminine names in her contact list (Ex Louis became Louise etc) so she could still save their number.

[ownerofidaho]

Thank you so much for this.

[anatrash17]

This doesn’t really match my blog theme but it doesn’t matter. I have some things to add:

To walk completely silently, even barefoot, start on the outside of your foot and roll off your big toe. This takes practice though. Your bare feet will also be quieter if you have calluses on them, so you want to walk barefoot as much as possible.

One thing I did was getting well acquainted with the woods. If I needed to avoid people and couldn’t hide in my room, (the door doesn’t have a lock and the consequences would be SO BAD if I blocked it with something), I grab my bag, and try to avoid them + walk silently as I walked outside and hid deep in the woods where they couldn’t find me.

Never bring your phone (or any electronics) if you choose to escape to a friend’s house/the woods/etc. You don’t know what apps they hid on there, which could track your location.

When in the woods, I would bury my trash so if a family member decides to explore the woods one day/was actively trying to find where I kept hiding, they wouldn’t find traces.

About that bag I mentioned. I risked getting caught for this. I have it in my closet with the other bags so it wasn’t suspicious, but if I got the feeling they were suspicious about me, I hid all the stuff in the bag in different places temporarily. In the bag I keep a bottle of 90% isopropyl alcohol (disinfectant) that my aunt gave me as a joke, a small sewing kit (needle, string, scissors) that I stole the components of from my mom’s room, a knife that I also stole from my mom, and some granola bars.

You can hide things in boxes that appear to be sealed on your shelves. Choose a side, use the corner of your nail, or a small knife if you have one, to slit 3 edges of the plasic on the box on your chosen side. Carefully side the box open so as to not tear the plastic. If there is space, hide your item(s) in the space. If not, take some of the contents out and hide them elsewhere* until you can dispose of them where they won’t find them. Arrange the flap of plastic so it lines up properly (if box is cardboard or similar you can lick the edge of the plastic and place it down, it will stick moderately well and the fact it isn’t in tact will be less noticeable) and put box on shelf so that the cut side is against the back. (I have many time in the past taken a “sealed” box of playing cards and take the right amount of cards out so that after putting whatever I want in, it would weigh the same as a normal box of playing cards. This way if they pulled things off the self, unless they examined the playing card box carefully, it was unlikely that they would notice)

*if you have a coat/jacket with a liner, you can put holes in your pockets and stitch the liner to the jacket at the bottom so things you put in there will be at the bottom and it will seem like your pockets are empty. Don’t put anything bulky or potentially loud in, or your trick will be exposed immediately. Works great for papers though, and it’s one of the only ways to transport plastic wrappers without being loud. Not coins though.

Learn how to remove the screen from your window

Any social media or other restricted thing or anything they could use to stalk me if they found out I had it I use web for, my accounts are under different fake names with different email address I created with different fake names just for them, and my passwords are all long, secure, and MEMORIZED. And I delete my search history of any of those particular things.

I know how to give myself stitches. This has come in handy.

Leather = low grade armor. Wear it whenever you can. Then you can take a punch without it being quite so bad.

There’s a gate at the bottom of the stairs at my house that not only creaks, but the latch is LOUD. I climbed over the railing near the bottom instead, and then walked down the outsides of the last couple of steps.

How to climb over a railing silently: put hands on railing, swing one leg over so you’re sitting as if on a horse, and then carefully slide your already over leg down so it is touching the outside of the step and at the same time you swing your other leg over and carefully place that foot down.

If you close a door while holding the handle turned, like how you would if you were opening it, and use your other hand to guide it so it doesn’t hit the door frame, instead lining it up exactly where the latch needs to go, and then slowly rotate the handle back, it is near silent.

A fluffy sock jammed in the bottom handle-side corner of the door can keep the door from making noise as you walk around your room at night.

Hide things inside your pillows. Not just your pillow cases, but the pillows themselves. A lot of them have zippers where you can access the fluff, and you can hide things in the fluff. Stuffed animals sometimes have this too.

Semi-sheer, loose layers will be a lot less hellish and a lot less suspicious in warm weather but can still hide most older cuts/scars that are starting to become less garishly red.

If you close your eyes for 30 seconds before trying to navigate the dark your eyes will adjust and you will be able to see much better.

To anyone who needs any of the advice above or in similar posts: Good luck, stay safe, and remember that one day this will be over and you will be safe. I know it’s tough but keep going. If you ever need to talk, I’m here.

[cokezerotokes]

I absolutely wept when I read this. I remember being a kid and living at home, having to do most of these things to keep myself safe and alive. I’m so sorry that their are so many of you who are going through this. If this is something you’re going through and you just want someone to talk to about it all my inbox is always open. From one survivor to another.

[dracogotgame]

I am so, so sorry.

[ipaniceverywherenotjustthedisco]

i know ive reblogged this countless times, but this has some really important additions, please stay safe guys <3

[togshitpost]

I know this is not ToG related, but, if this can help …

[genderfluid-and-confuzled]

learn to sew,if you can do it well you can open up stuffed animals and fill them with whatever as long as it’s small and not likley to be notice

if you never turn a fan on you can tape ska stuff to the top of it, idk if it will hold if the fan turns on

if you have a trusted friend have them store stuff in their locker/get a lock and put it on an unused locker that way even if they know your locker they can’t get to your stuff

[shapeofinfinity]

for those who need it

[cheese-greater-official]

I would hope no one needs to use this but I know there are people that do this for you guys

[justabsbutler-deactivated202105]

We got you

Seriously

We’re here for you

Everyone is

[slider-79-but-im-not-real]

For everyone who needs this

[slothful-rabbit]

Stay safe please

[strawberry-lemonade]

i don’t remember seeing this on the list but during the day i go up and down the stairs and through the house to memorize all the creaky spots so i can avoid them at night

[4ngstyc00kie-deactivated2021101]

stay safe guys <3

[the-angry-ship-deactivated20220]

@its-my-mental-breakdown

[its-my-mental-breakdown]

Thank you darling, I plan on using these tips for my.own hell hole of a house

[ash-hamiltrash]

This is horrible that people have to deal with and also I have a small tip: if your house has a radiator/heater (like mine), time how long it goes on and then when it turns on, RUN and get what you need. I love you all and stay safe!

[lilbabypansexual-deactivated202]

Sorry for the long ass post but as a child who deals with this, I’ve got a few things to add. -KEEP SOMETHING MINOR THAT YOU’RE NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE. This may seem counterintuitive, but that way if your parents say you’re acting suspicious, you can turn their attention away from something bigger. Additionally, if they catch you nd you have to lie, DON’T go for the classic “I don’t know anything” or “I didn’t do that.” Take the situation and make it a little bit bad but not too much. Example: I had kept scissors in my room for sewing, which I wasn’t supposed to have. So what I did was I said that I had gotten a ponytail holder stuck in my hair and had to cut it out, but that I was scared they would get mad so I hid them. -As for money, I took a pad out of the wrapper and threw it out, and then used the wrapper to hold money and taped it shut. I kept that in my bag, as if it were a pad for emergencies, and they never suspected. -If you’re sneaking into the kitchen, fill up a glass with water and stand there for a few minutes drinking it until you’re sure no one is coming to check on you. That way if they do catch you, you can say you were getting a drink of water.

[becausewedefinetheworld]

Sjdvkhfufk this was super helpful thank you to everyone who added to this

[eptck]

if u have a vent on ur wall near the ceiling, u can clean the dust away n store things there

always have an escape route mapped out

always have an escape bag, just in case. mine has an extra phone charger, my wallet, a sewing kit, a re-usable water bottle, extra underwear, toilet paper, headphones, a grocery bag, and a small blanket

if u can, try to get a pair of boots that are good for navigating wooded areas

study foraging. u never know how useful info about toxic and non-toxic plants can be

stay safe out there, babes. hope none of u ever have to use these tips

[oyaapeach]

It hurts to know so many of us have had to use info like this just to survive. I’m by o means a popular blog, but I hope anybody who see’s this will either gain some merit from it or repost it for others to see. It sucks living like this, and it follows you well into your life, but sometimes that’s the reality.

Stay safe everyone. You can do this. 

[stardewvalleyquotesbutitswrong]

I don’t know WHO needs this right now, but I’m going to reblog this anyway.

Idc that it’s not SdV related.

[ghostieliving]

Hate that this is stuff that people need to know, but it’s important that the people who need this information have it.

[tiny-crecher]

Idk if this will work for other people but sometimes I’m able to wrap a blanket around myself and hide stuff under it if my parents are in the way. I use it a lot to sneak food and water upstairs and I can just pass it off as being cold. I’m an absolute freeze baby so they’re not suspicious. Just be sure to make the blanket a semi-common thing, not just when you’re sneaking stuff around. 

Oh and you can put things like crackers, pretzels, and cereal in clean socks (or just a small bag if you have one) if you can’t take the whole container. Just make sure to switch the socks around every now and then because crumbs are a bitch. 

You can also hide food in bras if you wear them. Mostly granola bars for me. If it sticks out then try wearing baggy clothing over it. 

[shdghjdhdkjghjkndsvhj-deactivat]

please stay safe, everyone

[kipplekipple]

Keep a towel in your room. When you’re inside, push it against the crack under the door. That way they can’t see anything under it.

Also, I had a mortice lock on my door. If you stick a plaster or some opaque tape over it, it stops them looking through and it also stops them smashing into the door until your key falls out, if you have a key. This happened to me once and he also had a key so obviously I had to stop it from happening again. Just leave the key in the lock and put the plaster so it covers the rest of the hole:

Keep batteries in your room and a torch. I grew up in a house with a separate breaker for my room, and it’s a lot less harrowing when they shut off the power to your room if you can have some light.

If you can, get one of those phone chargers with a handle, it takes a lot of cranking but it can mean being able to call someone for help when you really need it.

There are often little gaps in upholstery if you have any upholstered furniture, where you can hide stuff. Also, flat things can go under your mattress if nobody else is likely to flip your mattress. There is a little space between cushions sometimes. Find the little hiding places that are already part of your furniture.

Baby wipes can be helpful if your access to the bathroom is hampered. Also, if you can’t brush your teeth, get a damp washcloth or even just use your finger to scrub them as best you can. It’s better than nothing, and it can help you feel a little better.

[delicateyflowers]

sorry for the longest post in existence but it’s so incredibly useful pls reblog !! u never know who might need it

[dietcokenricecakes]

Never keep a written log of anything.

Always move your hiding places.

Always have detailed explanations for anything and everything you do.

[hotterthanhotbread]

Everything has mostly been said for me but another tip if you can manage

If your ceiling fans are above your bed like mine were and the blades aren't extremely sloped, taping paper money to the top can be a life saver for emergencies.