welcome to the losers club, asshole.

the real main account is hairringtonsteve. even though it's a sideblog. go follow that one.

[alchemistdoctor]

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.

[uwillneverknowwho]

Not only should teachers be paid more, they should have paid work hours dedicated to lesson planning and paperwork. Drops mic and walks away

[thememedaddy]

[mortalityplays]

btw you will miss this in 5 or 10 years. memory will smooth these circumstances down like a river stone, and you will find yourself longing for a shade of light or a moment of this particular innocence. you don't know about what happens next, and one day that will be the most alluring thing of all. don't leave it all for nostalgia. have a nice night now, whatever night it happens to be.

[partypuppy-nastja]

10 years ago I was in woeful circumstances, broke and in debt, depressed and hiding from the world, drinking too much, with only my duty to 4-year-old son keeping me alive.

5 years ago I was in poor circumstances, broke as fuck, had just had a stressful Christmas and new year because none of my efforts for my then-partner had been good enough, my health was not good, and whisky was my medicine.

Today I watched the sun rise over my peaceful, conflict-free home; I have a stable income and a little money in the bank. My workload can be a bit high sometimes, but I manage it. I don't drink anymore. I just spent a stress-free Christmas and new year with my 14-year-old son, who when asked if he wanted something in particular for Christmas, said "Christmas is for spending time together". My physical health is excellent, and my mental health is definitely the best it's ever been in my life. I am optimistic for the future.

All this to say... If you're struggling now, you might not miss this in 5 or 10 years. Things might be a lot better.

[mortalityplays]

5 years ago I was dirt broke and closeted and destroying my body working full-time in hospitality. 10 years ago I was unemployed and catatonically depressed, living out of a storage closet at my mum's place because I'd expected to leave home after graduating & my insane abusive stepmother didn't want me at my dad's. my sibling was homeless rather than live with either parent. the only thing that eventually stopped me drinking was the critical dose of psych medication I was put on to keep me from walking into traffic.

guess what, there are still times and places and feelings from those years that I miss so bad it hurts, that I mourn like someone died, because I was dead inside and out and couldn't focus on the things that kept me going. my sweet cat who used to wedge himself between my knee and my busted laptop and purr while I was job hunting. he passed away last year. the late night walks I used to take with my sibling just for a reason to be out of the house, when we would talk about art and tag up the walls on the half-constructed tram line at 3am. they have long covid now and can't walk more than a few minutes without getting exhausted, and we live in different cities, and we'll never be that angry together again. sometimes we're both online at the same time in the small hours of the morning and get on a phonecall together, and I know this is another temporary version of our relationship that I'll miss when circumstances change.

I'm sorry you don't have good memories of the bad times in your life, and I am really, truly, genuinely happy that you're in a better place now, but I resent the assumption that this post was written by and for someone who has never suffered. 10 years ago, at my absolute lowest, nothing made me want to blow my brains out more than the condecending You 👏 Are 👏 Valid 👏 tumblr culture of the time that told me everything would be okay and it gets better and I don't know who needs to hear this but you're lovable just as you are. Obviously a lot of people did need to hear that. Fine! But what I needed to hear was what I'm writing to myself from 2025: that the tiny moments of peace you find in the warzone matter, and you don't have to wait for life to get better to appreciate them. pet your cat and memorise the smell of his fur. take a walk, tag a wall. write your name on memory lane.

please can I talk to the people like me without being talked over, without eliding my words into 'the nightmare is 100% intolerable but it eventually ends if you wait it out, just trust me on this one' or 'buck up idiot, do some breathing exercises and be thankful'. believe it or not I have also lived a life, and I know what I'm saying because I said it on purpose.

[i-enjoy-too-many-things]

Ellie talking about super infected that throw spores at people and joel and tess laughing

[raptorific]

Not to make a Christmas Post but Santa did everything right re: the Rudolph situation and every time I see some edgelord slander talking about “the lesson of Rudolph is that your differences will be punished until the powers that be find them useful” I just assume that person is a little thick and misunderstood a song written to be so simple babies can understand it

[raptorific]

One of the most basic things they teach you in Teacher School is that if you know a kid is being bullied, bringing all the other kids together and scolding them for being mean and excluding That Kid is a great way to escalate it from “they don’t let this kid play with them” to “they are beating up this kid.” If you actually want to address the problem, the other kids can’t know they’re being told what to do. A good way to address it is to create a situation where the bullied kid gets to be the big cool hero in a way that benefits everybody, then put the bullied kid in that situation and let them save the day. Santa, in “Rudolph,” is essentially doing the same thing that any teacher does when they have a class jeopardy game with a pizza party riding on it, and give the last question to the weird kid who’s bullied for being super into anime, and that question happens to be about that kid’s favorite anime, and they get it right, and now EVERYBODY gets pizza, thanks to Anime Kid! Creating a situation, among a community of christmas-loving deer, where christmas can only happen because of the thing that’s special about Rudolph, was literally LITERALLY him intervening on Rudolph’s bullying. Do you think Santa, an immortal time-bending elf-saint who is sanctioned by god to monitor the children of the world and deliver them toys, is unable to navigate a foggy night? You really think his offering Rudolph, an untested rookie, the glamor post was an act of last resort? Do any of you know ANYTHING about Pedagogy or Classroom Management? These are deer. BABIES understand this song.

[dashedwithromance]

just. losing my damn mind at the way andor shows acts of rebellion. culture is rebellion, language is rebellion, living is rebellion. and of course, like nemik writes, rebellion is collective. individual acts all across the galaxy add up and up and up until the spark catches and the flame bursts. we see it in the townspeople of ferrix — their mourning, their traditions are used as bait for cassian, an attempt to bring stop his acts of rebellion, but it doesn’t work. of course it doesn’t work. they move the funeral forwards, they use the bell tower to signal, they use their strengths to embody rebellion. and it’s just like nemik says — the empire is unnatural, it has to work and work and work to keep people downtrodden and consumed by the imperial machine. so naturally, like we see from cassian and maarva and brasso and the countless citizens of ferrix who are waking up, the empire can’t understand, syril and dedra (both of whom are shown to work and live in highly individualistic, cutthroat environments) can’t understand. that’s how the rebellion wins. together

[crownquill]

I made a what the fandom thinks of you generator

edit: please remember

1. i have to read all the tags

2. ITS RANDOMLY GENERATED I AM SORRY IF YOU DONT LIKE YOUR RESULT BUT DO NOT FUCKING HARASS ME ABOUT IT

thank you

[podencos]

Hey baby have u considered committing to friendship the same way you’re endeared to the idea of romantic love

[spacedewey]

I guess this is how I’m processing what we’re all going through right now. I had the stray thought, “What is Spider-Man doing during all this?” and this happened. On the one hand, it’s kinda sloppy and inconsistent, but on the other hand, I had the idea Sunday night and I’m posting this Wednesday night. 5 color pages in 4 nights is pretty good work. Anyway. Hope everyone’s safe out there.

[elidyce]

This is brilliant and I love it. 

[deadcrushing]

thor ragnarok fight scene but holding out for a hero is playing

[violentcrumbles]

I am unhappy with how perfectly this works.

[disease-danger-darkness-silence]

I refuse to believe that this wasn’t the backup song for in case Zep refused to let them use Immigrant Song.

[officialheroesofolympus]

Spiderman 2, except the opening credits song is replaced by Tom playing the Marvel theme on the kazoo

[homerically]

[theocseason4]

I literally cry watching this video because its so fucking funny

[50shadesofyodaddysdick]

When someone tells you that ed sheeran can’t sing. Show them this

[sylvia-tilly]

Truth time. 

We love your husband. He’s a great cop. We will do anything to protect him. And you have incredibly attractive hands.

And you! What are you doing, lying to your wife? Unless you want to end up moving into my ex-wife’s new boyfriend’s basement with me, you better man up. Don’t you ever keep anything from this beautiful woman again.

Seriously, you are beautiful. If he ever lies to you again, you can call me.

[samaelschain]

The release of Wonder Woman has brought a whole new meaning to Amazon wish list

[slytherinnpride]

[frogmp3]

if you’re older than 14/15, every time you think of millie bobby brown or finn wolfhard i want you to also think of me standing in between you and them, wielding a sword

[glitterspray]

Steve Harrington wrote this